Failed abortion- now 22 weeks.

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Hello,

I had an abortion at 9 weeks. Turns out that it failed. I’m now 22 weeks, I’ve had a scan& the baby is perfectly healthy& growing fine. I’m just petrified of any birth defects it might have? Are there more chances of disabilities such as autism due to taking the medication?

If it’s the case, in all honestly, I don’t mind. It’s just playing in my mind.

Thank you xx

Please mummies in the house I had a failed abortion and now I have decided to keep the pregnancy but am scared if anything most have happened to the child

What were you curious about hun?

Hi Juliet, if the pills don't work and the pregnancy continues, there is a very good chance of a healthy baby. The way I understand it, the first pills cause the placenta to detach from the uterus, and the second lot causes the fetus to be expelled. So if the pills did not end the pregnancy, usually the mother can continue as normal. If you are dealing with a pregnancy in secret, please do find a safe adult who you can talk to. This would be a terrible secret to have to keep hidden away. You can also go to optionline.org/ for help. Take good care of yourself, dear.

Hi I’m just wondering how everything’s going. I attempted to terminate at 7 weeks with misoprostol only and the pregnancy continued & I want to keep it but terrified something will be wrong with baby

Sam, as I understand it, the first pill makes the placenta detach from the uterine wall, and the second pill makes the uterus expel the contents. So if the first pill failed to end the pregnancy, it should not have harmed the baby, just did not work (which happens roughly 7% of the time). You should be able to carry a healthy baby to term. Wishing you all the best!

Hey, just wanted to post a correction - the first pill (mifepristone) inhibits progesterone, which is necessary to keep the fetus alive. In a small number of cases, it fails and the pregnancy can continue if the second pill (misoprostal) is not administered. I was getting my info mixed up - mifepristone does not have to do with the placenta. Some people have had success with an abortion-reversal pill, which replenishes progesterone, but I don't have statistics on how effective it is, just that it is best taken within 24 hours of having taken the abortion pill. My apologies!

@RAM29 Super late reply but please share how this has turned out for you. I am going through a similar situation right now and am so scared I harmed my baby.

I had a failed medical abortion at 9 weeks. Had some bleeding and clots the days following the medical abortion and figured it had passed. I regretted my decision immediately.. My partner and I definitely want a child and we too quickly decided against it because of financials and me starting a new job. (My dream job). So we thought abortion was the best route and boy were we wrong. Fast forward 3.5 weeks to my follow up appointment and the doctor says baby is growing and very much still alive. She informed me of the risks of continuing the pregnancy and after endless hours of my own research, I can see that the chances of birth defects or anything like that due to the use of medical abortion drugs is very low. Not much higher than a normal pregnancy.

soo, I’ve decided to continue the pregnancy! Most times I am completely stoked and thankful about it, other times I start to worry and my mind goes a million places thinking of the possible defects or harm I could’ve caused the baby. I’m almost 15 weeks now and have my first ultrasound at a free clinic tomorrow that will at least determine a heartbeat and whether or not it is ectopic. I know this won’t determine any defects but I can’t wait to have a little peace of mind about it. One thing I’m scared about is when I finally do see an actual OBGYN , telling them I took the medicines. Will they be able to tell? Should I say something or is it something I can keep to myself? I’m ashamed of my initial decision.

Also does anyone have experience with continuing a pregnancy like this? How did it go for you? Sorry for the rant I have a million things on my mind and no one to talk to who’s experienced anything similar. Just looking for peace of mind in this wonderful community ❤️

Hi just to keep you updated on my situation

Medical termination at 5 weeks. Had the oral tablet theb 48hr later the vaginally pessary.

Didn't work. Never passed anything.

Went back to BPAS who referred me to early pregnancy as they could still see sac.

Anyway... long story short. It failed to develop. Got to 8 weeks and still very slow growth and nothing seen inside so was given medical management to pass the tissues.

Very sad situation xx

I want to share my experience don’t know one or two people might benefit from it ,it all happened 2022 around March when I missed my period ,I to over the counter medicine after like five days to prevent any pregnancy after I had an unprotected sex ,after taking the medicine called Ella one after 5 days I continue with my life thinking oh all is well ,and later I noticed I haven’t seen my missed which prompted me to but pregnant test kit ,I did and it was positive ,thought of it for some days ,then I decided to go for abortion ,I booked an appointment and was given one tablet at the appointment to come back I think twos day after ,I went and was admitting to have the remaining procedure carried out ,I was given like 6tablet I.e 4was inserted and two orally ,I bleed for hours and passed like 2clots not to big and was asked to go and come back after 11days for confirmation.I went back and the pregnancy was not successful I was advised to go for surgical abortion which I refused and decided to keep the baby ,because as at the time I was almost 11weeks I decided not to go ahead with termination as my mind was made up and I was advised to for the can I think 12weeks scan which I did and followed up on all scans to be sure my baby is perfectly fine ,and thorough out the pregnancy I always come on this post to read as I was very worried of any defect and all ,reading people experiences here really helped and now my baby is here ,healthy and happy .my advice for anyone that want to keep their baby after failed medical abortion is to follow the midwife’s,consultant’s advice ,go for scans to see the baby s okay and everything will be fine .

I want to give an update myself too, I posted here before and last month I gave birth to my son. He is healthy thank God. I did all the scans and nipt test which results were all good, but deep down inside of me I kept having this fear something might have been wrong due to my actions.. but that’s why I wanted to share it with you who ever is in this situation now like the post above me said, Check with your midwife, gynecologist etc do the scans and follow your heart. I wished I did that the very first time but grateful to be able to hold my child as we speak ❤️❤️❤️

Can I please ask if you had a pregnancy test after the medical abortion? I went through medical abortion 2 months ago and my rapid test is negative but I feel strange in my tummy and I am really scared. I feel like I am insane to think that I could still be pregnant even the tests are negative.

Hello ladies, I’m here bc nearly 6 weeks ago I took misoprostol to terminate a pregnancy. I am now almost 8 weeks. The pills clearly didn’t work. I decide to continue with pregnancy bt so worried about malformations that can occur bc of the medication. So far ultrasound has showed strong heart beat. I’m hoping for a healthy baby bt I’m so worried about the possible malformations.. anyone experiencing the same? 😓

I am a breastfeeding mother, I have not seen my period since I give birth over 8 months now,I had sex again some time I think i am pregnant again and i conducted a pregnant test through PT strip the results is negative,but I'm still worried.pls help me

Just had a perfectly healthy baby three months ago, I had a misoprostol abortion at 6 weeks that failed. Decided to continue after as I found out I was still pregnant 12 weeks along, and her development was completely normal! She is now ahead for her age.

I've got similar issue, had a medical abortion at 16weeks4 days. saw light blood for 30mins and i alerted neighbors and i was taken to the hospital. I was treated abd ultrasound said baby is fine. went for another ultrasound a week after still claims baby is fine but then im scared of malformations. I'm 20weeks pregnant but i have this fear of malformations and i was scared to talk to a doctor. can i still have a normal baby without defects? pls help on anything to do about it.

I completely understand how you feel at least the fear of your baby having malformations or any issues due to the abortion not succeeded.

I have a healthy 5 month old boy that thankfully was born after me too had an unsuccessful (again so extremely thankful) abortion. All ultrasounds, nipt testing, were always negative which gave me some form of relief but it was only after he was born and in my arms that I started to let go of the fear. I was visiting 2 different gynecologists, one of them didn’t know what happened so he could only tell me the development of baby how he saw me those days and everything was fine. After he was just born I was still cautious with everything; every little thing that seemed off I had to go google the symptoms and diagnosis, I really had to tell myself to stop that and enjoy my baby without overthinking.

Right now I can finally say I calmed down a lot. He’s developing normal, his first two teeth are already out, he tries to sit by himself and he rolls over all the time. He is a sweet baby that’s not fussy unless he’s tired and wants my boob and sleep 😂

like the comment above me said, the odds are excellent to have perfectly healthy normal babies after this. I still feel Guilty sometimes about what I (tried to) did but the joy and happiness definitely have the upper hand and it’s like it went exactly how it was suppose to go. He was meant to be here with me.

don’t be scared and trust your doctors and exams, if they say everything is fine trust and believe that! It will be fine whatever you decide to do. Wishing you much light and luck on this incredible journey ❤️

I'm grateful for your concern and response. I hope to get good news after delivery. i will still come back and share my story when i deliver my baby. I am considering keeping the baby. Thank u.

I am on this site because I've heard of a man who was a failed abortion and he was born with no male genitalia he has female genitalia because the disruption of the x y y y chromosomes happened because we're all female to start within the womb