Failed abortion- now 22 weeks.

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Hello,

I had an abortion at 9 weeks. Turns out that it failed. I’m now 22 weeks, I’ve had a scan& the baby is perfectly healthy& growing fine. I’m just petrified of any birth defects it might have? Are there more chances of disabilities such as autism due to taking the medication?

If it’s the case, in all honestly, I don’t mind. It’s just playing in my mind.

Thank you xx

Hi I had a failed termination at 6 weeks again they advised a surgical which I couldn't go through with. This is my miracle baby, possibly a twin as bled so bad. Our son was born in December. He's absolutely perfect and 100% healthy. 0.3% survival apparently. We requested extra scans with the hospital at 12,16,20 25 and 32 weeks and we were put forward for a c section. Which was calm and we were supported from start to finish. Hes our world and he survived for a reason. The biggest mistake of my life but everyone has their reasons xxx

Hi exactly the same experience as you💜 I was told because of my bleeding and clots if could of well possibly been a multiple pregnancy and my surviving son was in a seperate sack and not effected. Hes gorgeous and thriving. Xxx

Hello,
I hope this reaches some lovely ladies out there who can help me with a decision.
I found out I was pregnant at 7 weeks, I had never really been one for kids until each day I grew to love what was growing inside of me. My partner doesn’t feel ready and says he is unprepared for the struggles ahead. I just want to put into perspective as to finding out I was pregnant - My partner battled an aggressive rare form of cancer that he survived but was told he would be infertile until he recently became fertile. I have since had a medical abortion at 9 weeks and that failed! At my follow up blood test follow up appointment I was found to be 10
weeks still pregnant. I had already grieved and felt ashamed that to think I had done what I done. But baby is still alive and healthy. I had an ultrasound sound and baby is “doing everything it needs to do”, well and all. This has thrown my decision making and I feel much pressure from the clinic calling everyday just wanting an answer on my decision as I am running out of time at 12 weeks to have a surgical abortion which they enforce is basically the only other option as most people don’t continue due to possible defects. I have spent my nights and days researching with my partners the positives of having the baby, I found this forum and all is looking up if I decide to keep baby. The only idea holding me back is how my partner feels as mentioned. In my mind, I did try the medical abortion in thinking of him and at this point I can’t seem to make the appointment for a surgical abortion and actually proceed with it, first of all I am growing to love the strong lad that is in there and I feel more ready than my partner does and I would have great support from parents and secondly I feel resistant to do something to my own body I am uncomfortable with. I am 19, I have a great job in a law firm and much clarity to my life (until now!). My partner is 22 and also had a steady position in trades. He says it is not the time but if I were to go through with it he would not want to be the father that doesn’t raise them also and would stay much does not want that for him. I am here for others experiences and a few questions answered. Should I be basing my complete decision around how my partner even after trying a first attempt and still not feeling comfortable with another attempt? Majority of parents say it is not an easy task which is no doubt - but has anybody with support managed quite successfully? Has proceeding really stunted other life goals or is it possible to put yourself first at the same time? What are the methods to your decision making, what should I ignore and what more should I think of? Was baby born healthy? I usually have a gut feeling about situations but for this my only gut feeling is that I can’t seem to make the second appointment, but then I think about my partner, and that I am so sure it will be a little boy (not that I can be too sure). Any help is so much help, thank you 🌷

I had a failed abortion I was 3 weeks when I took the medication (was posted to my house) didn't have any symptoms etc was put on the mini pill started feeling weird went back found out it had failed not wxpecting baby number 4 in 7 weeks time as he's measuring really small I didn't find out I was still pregnant till I was 19+4

Do what’s best for you. Follow your heart. Forget about your partner. Choose yourself.

Hello ladies,
I'm reaching out for some hope and answers on a sensitive subject that I feel horrid for.
In short, I found out i'd fallen pregnant to my partner who was previously infertile due to a rare form of cancer, I hesitantly attempted medical termination at 9 weeks as I had to decide very quickly on my decision. The abortion failed to find out I was still pregnant at 10 weeks with a follow up scan and told baby was 'doing everything it needs to do' healthy and active. I have had a scan at 12 weeks and the specialist raised enough concern as she couldn't determine the feet and right hand how she wanted to. I have always been aware of the possible defects due to the first attempt and after researching, researching and more research and speaking with experienced professionals on this topic I started to feel hopeful in my next decision to keep my strong darling. In many ways this baby is a miracle. I have since been for another scan at 14 weeks in hopes to determine the legs and right hand as baby develops. I have come out of the ultrasound as worried as the first - still concern if not more re possible club feet due to amniotic bands. Looking back I am immensely regretful and quite angry at myself for attempting the medical abortion. I envy the mothers who have been through a similar situation and baby born healthy and normal. Is there anybody out there who can share their experience? I already can't imagine my life without my miracle but i'm so afraid of this being the case. Is there anything or any miracle foods and fruits I can intake to save my baby from the scary bands inside? I have an anatomy scan in two weeks at 16 weeks to determine babies anatomy and give confirmations. Anything at all, I am willing to try anything or do anything it takes to help baby out. Another question of mine is will these bands heal naturally ever incase there were ever a future with another baby?
I truly love baby already and am so proud of its strength.

@Jaykennedy I'm really sorry I didn't want to read and run. Your baby is truly a blessing even though I can't imagine what you must be feeling. Did you have any symptoms after taking both pills like did you bleed and nausea etc disappeared? I think you should stay positive and wait till your scans. It seems like you really want this baby. I've never heard about babies having problems surviving the pills and the stats show it's a really low percentage for them to be affected. Praying for you and baby x

Hello! Thank you very much, I suddenly felt a glimmers of happiness go through me reading your message ☺️ I took the first pill in clinic and then next day lunch time took the 4 dissolvable pills to contract and I was told within 8 hours the process would be complete, nothing happened and I was trying to call and call for medical attention and boy was that more difficult than I thought to find - I kept being referred to emotional support people!! Very minor cramping in first hour and 8 hours on as I was brushing my teeth for bed I felt a plop come out and sat straight on the toilet and the weight of it flushed itself down. The only time I did fill one pad and no more pads had any blood. Family planning just said maybe it came out in one which I didn’t really believe by what I did expect, then still pregnant! I just had some brown stuff by the end of the day for about 3 weeks after that. 10 week scan looked like there was a rupture around the side of sac and so I now figure the band string like things are what is left of that possibly harming my baby now. I read that the pill either did work or it just didn’t work and baby would be healthy and knowing my luck i’m copping a defect after my experience.
So horrible. I am looking forward to my 16 week anatomy scan, time just couldn’t move slower!❤️

Whoops meant to say knowing my luck I am possibly copping a defect (not definitely!) but my gut isn’t giving me much hope and my guy usually leads my intuition! I just hope baby is as strong as it has been throughout 🌸

@Jaykennedy I honestly have tears in my eyes. I couldn't have my baby because I was so sick but I hope to God your baby is healthy. He/she is definitely a fighter. Congratulations.

Oh noo, I could share those tears with you and support each other, I hope we cross paths 🪄 Thank you for your kind words and all the best to you xx

@Jaykennedy please keep us updated with your miracle baby x

Fetal medical centre booked me in earlier due to a cancellation for tomorrow 2:30pm, everyday holds the possibility of a miracle right. Nervous, keep you updated 🌷

@Jaykennedy thank you. I hope it goes well for you much love xx

@Jaykennedy was everything okay?

15 weeks & 1 day today, time is flying..
I went to the fetal medicine scan however still early to see the feet how they wanted to once again so i’m still sitting on the fence how they are until another two weeks as baby is positioned in a sitting up position so the camera couldn’t catch it but there is evidence
of amniotic bands down there and the sack. Other than that they can see all ligaments but are suspicious for right hand fingers, the right is there though. I’m just not ready to throw my hands up without all evidence which will help at two weeks scan. It is a boy💙 I had absolutely no doubts about the gender, he is so strong I think about him all day everyday 💝

Hi,
I am currently going threw an abortion myself but didn’t want to do this an I have had a positive pregnancy test 2 weeks after (this is the one BPAS provide and it says 2 weeks) I am hoping this is my story deep down and I am wondering did any of use who have had failed abortions experienced bleeding and clotting but not many clots and not heavy neither (I was about 8 weeks 2 days would of been about 10 weeks 2 now).

Here is the test BPAS provide you to take 2 weeks after I’m going to do another test tomorrow (just a normal test) and going to phone for a scan to be booked to see what’s going on as I feel some pregnancy symptoms (headaches peeing a lot and increase in appetite) have increased.

@Jaykennedy god bless him he'll be okay. If I had known that this could happen I wouldn't never have had a termination. I can't imagine what you're going through but surely praying. He is a fighter and hopefully everything will be okay.

@23456loz it does look positive. How many days did you bleed? Please let us know how you get on. Now that I know what I know I don't think I'd ever have a termination.

I had quite heavy bleeding and a few clots here an there nothing major an the bleeding only really lasted a day after then it’s just been old brown blood

I hope and pray for you and your strong baby boy. He sure is a fighter and I believe in positive vibes, when I google the amount of stories of moms going trough the same as we are now and the outcomes it gives me hope. And yes I feel
bad every day that I went trough with the termination but am happy and thankful it didn’t work. I have my next ultrasound next week at 17 weeks and then again at 22 weeks at a different doctor. So far everything is going good they say he’s (Also a boy) growing accordingly and no anomalies were found but I just want to keep checking every few weeks that’s why I’m visiting two doctors, it’s for my own peace of mind I guess.

sending you so much light and love
❤️
and for everyone who is going trough this same situation

hi guys,
I have question so I have a picture of 2 of the first pregnancy tests I took, the one provided by BPAS and another home one I took today (waiting to do another as I peed on the screen a little) the test still has a positive line looks a bit like the first ones I done.
The last one on the right is the recent one.

Hey Sasha, oh I am so so happy for you and baby boy, oh wow a baby boy!! I’m over the moon for you he is healthy and growing, he’s a miracle to me and he has one strong, capable, caring mother! I am also making sure appointments are booked for scans and heartbeat checks, got to do what we got to do. Sending so much love back to you 💙

I also continued to have very very light brown stuff each day for a few weeks, my midwife assured me that was my body flushing any old blood from the termination but it wasn’t heavy and it didn’t concern me too much either. Have you been for a follow up scan?