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Medical termination, talk me through it please

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Confusion77 · 06/10/2019 03:33

I am due to have a medical termination on the 18th. I'll be just under 9 weeks I think.

I am 100%sure that I need to go through with this, my only concern is the termination itself if that makes sense. I read on another thread that I might recognise the shape of the foetus as it passes? It's that true at this early stage? Also, I'm sorry for asking this, but I have no idea what to expect in terms of pain and blood loss

And timing after the second set of tablets. No one knows I am doing this and I'm keen for that to continue.

I'm really struggling with tiredness and nausea too which is awful in the circumstances.

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Confusion77 · 16/10/2019 22:05

Thank you @SaltK . Feeling so sick again today. It will be a relief when the sickness/tiredness is gone. I'm really struggling.

Stbx - soon to be ex husband.

Thank for your support, it means a lot.

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SaltK · 17/10/2019 08:25

It'l must be awful having to cope with the pregnancy symptoms. You've got through most of it now, just a few more days to go. I started having mild cramps and spotting after the first tablet, so maybe it will take the edge off your symptoms tomorrow?

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Confusion77 · 17/10/2019 14:12

I hope so. I think the first one stops the pregnancy hormone so maybe it will. I'm looking ahead to next week now. I hope I recover ok, it's half term and all my family members are on holiday so just me and the children.

Thanks for your support.

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SaltK · 18/10/2019 09:31

Hi Confusion, thinking of you today. Glad you can finally get the ball rolling, and I really hope this first tablets stops the symptoms!

Ohyesiam · 18/10/2019 09:41

I’m thinking of you today op. Hope you feel relief and that it’s all done soon.
I’m about this weekend and I’ll mark this post to watch it, so post for support and you’ll get replies.

All the best xxx

UterusesBeforeDuderuses · 18/10/2019 09:47

Thoughts are with you today OP, hope it all goes ok and you recover quickly Thanksx

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Confusion77 · 18/10/2019 11:46

Thanks everyone. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your support, it has really helped me through the last few weeks. I'm just getting ready to go to the appointment.

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funinthesun19 · 18/10/2019 12:37

Hi op. I hope everything goes ok today. Thinking of you and sending you lots of support Flowers xx

usernames · 18/10/2019 13:01

Thinking of youThanksThanks

OkayGo · 18/10/2019 13:26

Hope it goes ok op

hannahbandanna · 18/10/2019 13:48

It's been just over 5 years since mine so don't remember specific details but after the clinic my friend drove me home and I think it was about 1.5/2 hours til the pain and bleeding started. I have a low pain thres hold and for me the pain/cramping was horrific I was wailing and didn't know what to do with myself. I remember telling my friend that I would never go through childbirth after that pain (probably being dramatic, I make a scene when I stub my toe). Bled very heavily for a few weeks but I don't remember recognising the foetus as it passed. My manager knew soon as I nervously asked if I could speak to her (asking to take a few days off) and even offered to come to the first appt with me, I was young and afraid to tell my mum even though I know she would of been supportive. It would really help if you could get a friend or someone to be with you. Wishing you all the best and I hope it goes ok for you.

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Confusion77 · 18/10/2019 14:13

I've been to the appointment, had all the bloodtests, scan etc. 8wks 6 days. Signed consent, and need to go back in 2 hours for the treatment. I will get stage 1 given today which I'll take orally, then advised to take stage 2 after 24 hours. So I'm planning on it being tomorrow night after the children go to sleep.

I just can't believe I'm in this position. I'm feeling very very emotional, tearful.

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SaltK · 18/10/2019 14:46

It's an emotional time even when you know you're decision is for the best, you're bound to be feeling overwhelmed and only to be expected that you'll be tearful, you're only human. Flowers

I think a lot of people in this position can't believe they've ended up there, it's not somewhere any of us every wanted to be. This is the hard bit now, but we are hear to listen if you need to offload. You're close to all this being over; keep remembering that you'll be able to move past it soon xx

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Confusion77 · 18/10/2019 15:04

Thanks @SaltK. I'm not wavering, just wish I wasn't in this position. Just had a call to go back early.

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Confusion77 · 18/10/2019 15:27

Well that's stage 1 one. I'm heading home now.

It just seems so ridiculous that it took me years to get pregnant with ds1. And then this time, it took once. Once that I didn't want to happen, and that lasted less than a minute. I took the MAP. I wish I hadn't had to wait so long. They gave me a feedback form which asked how long it was between my initial call and treatment. Less than 7 days? 7 -14, 14 - 21 or more than 21? It was 4.5 weeks.

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Ohyesiam · 18/10/2019 16:01

Yes, the waiting is cruel. Flowers
Sending you strength and support x

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Confusion77 · 18/10/2019 20:35

I've decided to get an early night. I have taken the anti biotics as prescribed, 1000mg in one dose, not looking forward to the effects on my tummy. I'm exhausted. And I'm also quite scared about tomorrow.

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SaltK · 19/10/2019 09:32

Hey confusion how did your night go? How are you feeling today? You'll be okay, it's nearly over now.

It's awful how long you had to wait, really poor, and it Ramos up the anticipation and makes everything much worse, plus you had to put up with pregnancy symptoms all that time as well. I hope they took your feedback on board. Xxx

SaltK · 19/10/2019 09:32

*ramps

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Confusion77 · 19/10/2019 09:51

Hi, it was ok. I slept, a lot. I felt exhausted when I got home yesterday. I'm not really sure how to proceed now. Children go out all day tomorrow, so I could wait til then, but I want it over with so thinking of using the next tablets tonight. I'm just worried about being in a lot of pain with them here, even if they're in bed.

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Confusion77 · 19/10/2019 09:52

I still feel shattered and nauseous. It's hard going with two small children.

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SaltK · 19/10/2019 10:05

It really is, having to tend to their needs all the time, when you feel so terrible, it's really hard. I understand your thinking about pain when they are there, but also about wanting to get things moving and maybe get some time to recover tomorrow. Only you can decide what you think it best, it's so hard because you don't know how it's going to go. See how you feel tonight

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Confusion77 · 19/10/2019 16:37

I've sent you a pm if that's ok @SaltK

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Confusion77 · 19/10/2019 18:34

Started bleeding earlier. Took the second lot orally an hour ago(was told not to use them vaginally if bleeding) and just waiting now. I feel a bit nauseous, like morning sickness still and would normally eat something to take it off but not sure that's a good idea.

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OkayGo · 19/10/2019 18:44

Hope it is bearable op Thanks