Pregnant and scared

[scaredgirl16]

I found out today I'm pregnant and I'm scared and don't know what to do.

Hi OP

We're so sorry to hear that you're afraid right now. We're giving your thread a bump in the hopes that someone with some friendly support and advice will be along soon.

Hello OP,
Are you scared about being pregnant or scared because you haven't made a decision on what you're going to do yet?
Finding out is a shock whether it's planned or not. Give yourself some time to process the news. Sending you hugs x

What are you scared about? Not being able to cope, someone not being pleased & reacting badly. Or is the pregnancy unwelcome and you’re Worried about how to deal with it?

It’s a big step if it’s your first but most mums, single or otherwise cope brilliantly.

If you don't want to continue the pregnancy then that is normal and fine. Many, many women have terminations.

Its an unplanned pregnancy which i don't think i want to continue. Im scared about how my dad will react, my parents have recently separated and he's got a lot going on. He will be so angry with me.

If you don't want to continue with it then don't. That is fine. Don't let anyone guilt you into having the baby.

How many weeks are you?

It is important not to stall, but to seek help ASAP.

Your parents do not have to give consent or even be told.

This might help you

www.abortionrights.org.uk/pregnant/

Bumping for you too

Im 6 weeks.

Thank you for the link

At only six weeks you have lots of choices. Do act quickly though in case you are further along than you thought.

Here is another link with options

www.nhs.uk/conditions/abortion/

How quickly do I need to act? Im in the middle of my exams but I will try and get a doctors appointment next week.

I think getting a doctor's appointment is a really good first step. With all the pressure of exams as well you must really be finding it hard. Try an make the appointment, then just focus on your exams as best you can until you get to see the doctor.
Explain to the doctor how scared you feel and that you need someone non- judgemental to talk to about it so you can decide what to do.
It may feel like the most awful thing in the world right now, but there will be a time when it doesn't feel so terrible and scary. Hang on in there for now.

You don't have to make any decision on your own. Your doctor should be able to help you get some counseling support to help you work out your feelings and decide what is best. They won't tell you what to do but will help you get things straighter in your own head and answer questions about what will happen if you follow different pathways.

I think you must be finding things so tough right now with exams, your parents separation and this pregnancy. My heart really goes out to you.

OP six weeks is early. If you google BPAS they are open til 11pm today. You could book a consultation with them today. And you can organise counselling with them if you are unsure what to do. You don’t have to tell your parents if you don’t want to.

Things do feel really tough at the moment im trying to concentrate on my exams as best as I can. I just feel so annoyed with myself I want to do the best I can in my exams but feel like I will mess them up with everything going on.

Thanks emma just had a quick look at BPAS but doesn't look like there is a clinic near me.

Do you have another family member or adult friend of the family that would be supportive and help you feel less on your own? A gran or aunty or someone?
Well done for keeping on going as best you can with your exams. It won't be easy but try not to catastrophise and make it all or nothing. What I mean is, although your concentration isn't as good and you may not do as well as you would otherwise, it might still be good enough to pass/ get the grades you need etc. You can only do your best in the circumstances.

How old are you OP?
No need to be frightened. There’s lots of support out there and at 6 weeks, you have both time and options

I'm not sure if they operate in your area OP but try Marie Stopes, it's similar to BPAS and should be NHS funded. They will be kind and talk you through your options. 6 weeks is still very early but you might as well act as quickly as possible to put yourself in the most organized position whatever you choose. Good luck, I'm sure it'll all work out xx

You must do what is right for you, don’t feel pressured by anyone. It is your body and you can choose to do whatever you want.
I was in the same situation 28 years ago. I made my decision and although it was very hard, I made it for the right reasons.
I hope you are okay, thinking of you x.

Google is not showing any abortion clinics in my area.

Im worried if I was to tell another family member or friend that they would tell my Dad that why I thought it would be best to chat to people on here.

Im 16

I think your gp is the best bet. They will keep things confidential and have a duty of care to see that you get the support and information that you need. If you get an appointment this week that still gives you plenty of time to discuss options with a counsellor.
I can imagine just how scary this feels but it won't always feel this bad. You can get support and find your way through it.

Thank you everyone for your advice x

I still feel scared about everything but knowing a bit more about abortions and knowing that I don't have to tell my parents has made me feel a bit better.

Hang on in there. xx

oh OP - my heart is going out to you. you're so young and seem to be dealing with so much.
it's no surprise you're feeling scared, but you absolutely don't have to tell your family and you absolutely can get this sorted out easily. as previous posters have said, the earlier you act the easier it'll be, so make an emergency GP appointment and they'll help you from there.

it'll all be okay - we're all here for you ❤️

A chemical termination may be possible - much easier and less invasive and I don't think it requires a clinic(?).