Pregnant and scared

[scaredgirl16]

I found out today I'm pregnant and I'm scared and don't know what to do.

scared that's a good choice OP, unlike the medical you won't bleed heavily for ages and you'll have similar bleeding to a light to normal period for a week after instead. And in addition to that you don't run the risk of seeing any of the pregnancy.

All the very best

I'm glad you've reached a decision that you know is right for you, OP. I have had a surgical abortion at 10 weeks in the past. I was put to sleep and the procedure is over in 15 minutes. I woke up completely unaware of what happened and my bleeding afterwards was just like a period. I am keeping you in my thoughts and hope that your procedure goes just as smoothly. When is yours booked for? Well done for being so brave, I really admire you x

@laidbackllama I'm booked in for Tuesday. How long was your recovery time at the hospital?

Once I had woken up I sat in a small recovery room for about half an hour. Then I was offered a drink and something to eat, they made sure I felt ok which I did and after that I was allowed to go home x

How are you feeling about tomorrow @scaredgirl16? Hope you're doing ok x

Feeling scared and nervous about it all. I just keep telling myself this time tomorrow it will all be over.

Good luck for tomorrow. It’s natural to be scared. If you feel the need to talk about it after and do not have any close friends to share it with you should go back to your doctor and ask for some counselling. 💐

Best wishes for today @scaredgirl16 it's completely normal to feel that way, all that matters is that you're making the right decision for you. We'll be here if you'd like to chat afterwards, thinking of you x

Hi just thought I would let you know everything went ok yesterday. Even though I have no regrets I feel sad and ended up getting upset before and after the procedure.
Today I feel better, spent most of the day in bed watching tv. I feel strange having nothing to worry about now that this is over and I have also finished my exams so its like a huge weight lifted off me.
Im going to see how I feel next week and maybe think about seeing my doctor to arrange some counselling, I guess it would be good to talk to someone about everything that has happened the past few months.

Hi OP, thanks for updating. So glad to hear it went well. My nurse said it's very normal to be emotional before and after. Like you I didn't doubt the decision, but I just wished so badly I didn't have to make it, and the guilt was awful. I sobbed a little swallowing the pill, and was quite up and down for a few days. I'm sure the sad pang will always be there to an extent, but I've never regretted it or wished to reverse it. You can only make the decision you think is best - in the end that one IS the best decision.

I read somewhere that we can actually have a bodily reaction to the hormone 'come-down', similar to baby blues after childbirth, so your emotions are probably all part of that too.

Hope you continue to feel better, I'm sure you will. Does anyone know at home? Well done to you getting this sorted on your own, it was hard enough for me and I was well supported (and not doing exams!) - you should be so proud x

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Everything you said.
@scaredgirl16
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No no-one knows at home.

Its good to hear its normal to feel emotional. Im just taking life day by day at the moment some are good and some are bad, but im hoping that there's going to be more good days now.

@scaredgirl16 9 years later I still think about the termination i had but now having had a baby i 100% know it was the right decision. Really hope one day you can come to the same realisation. Each day does get easier I promise x

I am
Pregnant with number two (first born about to start school) after only a couple of months of no contraception and I’m worried I’ve done the wrong thing. My husband always wanted more kids but I wasn’t sure, but I felt guilty about my first being an only child and not giving it a go for my husband.
Now i’m Pregnant, miserable, hating it already and feel like I’m not sure I want it. I can’t comprehend going back to the baby stage. I’m not really a baby person and by the time this one starts school i’ll be over 40.
It i’m 11 weeks and feel like it’s all too late and I have no choice any more.
And worries I will resent this baby if I have it.
There is no one I feel I can say this too as everyone assumes we are over the moon about it.

Sorry totally posted in the wrong place - am new to this!