Abortion scan please please help desperate

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I went for a scan yesterday, assuming Id be having my abortion on Wednesday and Thursday of this week.

My lmp dates suggest im just over 7 weeks.

My scan showed I was around 5. They said I need to go back in two weeks time to redo the scan as they need to see a embryo and all they saw was a pregnancy sac (normal for 5 weeks).
I am so upset. Will I be over 9 weeks when I go back? Nurse said no- I will be around 7 weeks.
What date did your scan go by?
I'm really struggling, have no one to talk to and I'm so confused . Please someone help im begging you.

Just an update. I've just passed the foetus and placenta, they have to monitor me for a bit now to check the blood loss andy blood pressure , if all is ok I can go home at 5.

Such a strange day

That must be a relief stronger that you can soon return to your son. Have you asked them about counselling? I think it would be beneficial. It really should be compulsary for all women.

I'm hoping they will mention it, if not I will ask about it. They should give me anti biotics to take home shouldn't they?

I can't wait to get home to him. And get back to normal. It's strange, one part of me is so so happy it's all over, but another part is really sad. I actually cried when she told me I had passed it all, I didn't know that I had so it was a surprise and my heart broke. I guess that's an ok thing to feel?
My husband doesn't know the pregnancy ended today. He knew it was going to, but not when. He's going through a lot at the moment so I haVnt mentioned it. I really needed him today though.

I'm sorry you had to go through this without him.
I hope you feel relief now that this is over. You have been so brave.

So relieved twenty cups. Eating McDonald's (in bed this won't happen again!) with my lovely boy. Already feel like me again.

So glad you're feeling better! You'll definitely be offered counselling.

Thank you advice. Not long for you now either!

They didn't mention counselling... I will DEFO see my gp.

The nurses have been so great though. Our nhs is wonderful. Except for the fact that they couldn't warm my hot water bottle up for me they aren't allowed apparently . I was gutted

I know I really wish I felt like I could tell my parents they're both doctors so I feel like they'd put me at ease but I just can't tell them.

Did you cope okay without the hot water bottle though?

Hopefully you have your hot water bottle now and are managing any pain.
Best of luck to you to advicepls.

Thank you twentycups

. Well I did at first. Didn't take any pain relief for four hours. Was that comforting period pain- you know the kind that makes you want to cuddle up and eat chocolate.

I started bleeding a little (and I mean a little!) after an hour and a half. The fourth hour the pain got a lot worse, and I took the codeine literally just before it was at its peak. Ihad to sit on the toilet and the nurse said its contractions. I felt like if I had contracted before it wouldn't have felt half as bad, and I've read that too. If you've had a labour before the pain doesn't affect you that much. I threw up loads and it seemed to ease the pain after doing so. Then it came back in waves. No blood or clots. I was gutted cod the blood had just stopped while the pain was there! I thought it just had stopped working.

Then I got really dizzy so they told me to lay on the bed and the pain literally just stopped. I felt like I passed out (in a really peaceful way, I felt lightheaded and relaxed) and I fell asleep for about15 mins. Woke up, and had the urge to go to the toilet. And it all came in a gush. No pain at all. They said I passed it all at the same time. That was the easiest part. I think I should have taken pain relief before I did to be honest. They said to ask for it when I got a twinge, and I didn't. I waited until it was a genuine ouchy pain.

I'm shocked at how little I've bled though. Since start to now, I'm on my second pad. The first I changed just because I was coming home, had a tiny bit of spotting blood on it, and the one I'm wearing now is the same. I thought I'd have soaking pads, but it's the tiniest bit. I have normal periods, not heavy at all, and this is much lighter than my periods. It's like the end of a period.

There's blood in the toilet when I go wee, and earlier I had that gush of clots, but it's not anywhere near as gory as I expected

I have my hot water bottle now it would have defo helped with the pain earlier.

What with you already having contract ed and you having a hot water bottle advice, I think you will sail through it! Plus I was 8+4 today so quite far gone. It was all really straightforward .

One thing is confusing me though. They've not given me any antibiotics. I've read some are given into your bum, but I didn't have that. And I've read that they send you home with some. I wasn't sent home with anything except codeine.
I thought they may have forgotten to give me some, so I called them up an hour after I came home, and she said Nope I didn't need them. Thought that's a bit strange

My only worry is my uterus over contracting again i literally had constant contracts :( but I suppose it won't last as long as my labour did and I half know what to except. This is happening nearly exactly a year after having a baby friggin typical.

That's good that your bleeding is quite light I was told it can last up to 6 weeks but that it's highly unlikely.

They send you home with ABs if you're doing it at home Incase you don't pass everything to prevent any infections.

I was told pain varies. But everyone can expect a LOT of blood. Especially later on. But nope. If I was still wearing my first pad it would still only have the teensiest bit of blood. It only comes out when I wee.

I read that if your not heavily bleeding, then chances are it hasn't worked.
But she said there's no need for me to even take a pregnancy test in three weeks, as she's 100% sure I passed the baby and the placenta in one gush of clots.
So clearly the stuff I've read were not true!

Oh maybe that's what it is then. They were sure id passed it all so decided I didn't need anti biotics.

Even if you do contract badly (I think I did but have nothing to compare it with!), it doesn't last long at all. I remember you said you contracted for ages without pain relief. If you can do that, you easily can do this, I'm positive.

I think a lot of people try and scare people when it comes to abortions so you never know what's true and what's scaremongering it's terrible because people don't go into it lightly!

I'm so happy for you that it's over, the last couple of weeks must have been hell for you!

OP I was on the thread early on and have been thinking about you lots, I am so glad you've got through it and are at that point you wanted to be at when you first posted. Look at how well you have done and how strong you were to get through it, I hope things look up for you now.

I remember you sunshine. It felt like Id never get through it. I've woken a few times through the night in a panic, like I have for the last month that I knew I was pregnant. But this night I relax within seconds as I remember that it's all over. The relief huge. There is sadness too if I'm honest..... But no regrets.

The help and support of had from all of you on here, has been so helpful. It's the one place I could go to talk to someone. I hope if anyone goes through it in future, they can read this and see how I- and soon how advice- have came through the other side.

Took more codeine at one am as I had slight slight period pain, nothing at all bad though. ThoughtI'd better had, as I've learnt my lesson not to wait till last minute till pain gets worse! It sent me right back off to sleep. It's good stuff.

Feeling a little achy today but I could have easily gone to work. Back tomorrow instead though. Bleeding is still light, and basically only there when I go for a wee. It's still there though which im glad of if I'm honest. Didn't mess with my sleep by having to change a soaked pad , like I've read so many times.

I'm so glad it all went better than expected in the end for you and fingers crossed it will for advice too. I hope that over the coming weeks you can start to feel how you did before and put this behind you as much as possible. I hope you and your husband manage to have a conversation about this and that he can be on board and supportive of your decision and that you can both be living together in the not too distant future.

I've just read your thread and I'm so pleased you've come out the other side. Sending lots of love to you and your son

You've put my mind at ease a bit OP!

I've got my exam in an hour and really dull period pains :( I don't know if it's because I'm stressed or if it's because of tomorrow or even possibly miscarrying! Just want it to be Sunday now

Thank you waitrose!

Good luck with your exam advice! Hope your feeling a bit better now. May just be the stress of it all. Don't worry about sunday. It's really not worth the panic. Once my tablets were in, my panic went and for once I just trusted my body. Clever how things work.

Thank you waitrose!

Good luck with your exam advice! Hope your feeling a bit better now. May just be the stress of it all. Don't worry about sunday. It's really not worth the panic. Once my tablets were in, my panic went and for once I just trusted my body. Clever how things work.