Abortion scan please please help desperate

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I went for a scan yesterday, assuming Id be having my abortion on Wednesday and Thursday of this week.

My lmp dates suggest im just over 7 weeks.

My scan showed I was around 5. They said I need to go back in two weeks time to redo the scan as they need to see a embryo and all they saw was a pregnancy sac (normal for 5 weeks).
I am so upset. Will I be over 9 weeks when I go back? Nurse said no- I will be around 7 weeks.
What date did your scan go by?
I'm really struggling, have no one to talk to and I'm so confused . Please someone help im begging you.

How frustrating. Isn't it so upsetting to have to go back when you work yourself up for it. You must be very early on?

I have my moments ....some days I feel really strong. Others not so much.... I'll get there

No they think it wasn't viable I haven't had sex for atleast 8 weeks :/ I've got to keep an eye out for symptoms of ectopic though because the internal wasn't clear because my ovaries appeared to be covered! (Usually by gas)

If it makes you feel better I was there for 3 hours total and everyone was in and out and seemed fine even those having ops. One young girl fainted but because it was like a sauna.

So if it's not Etopic does that mean your not pregnant? That's confusing x

If not ectopic and you have no sac, then you aren't pregnant. If you haven;t had sex for 8 weeks then you would be at least 10 weeks pregnant, so it would all be very clear by then.

Well that's good mews!(obviously if it's not etopic),

Considering they done bloods and and pregnancy tests showing I'm pregnant I think you could say I'm pregnant :s

I'm not really sure what to say, but if you've miscarried pregnancy tests and blood tests still read as pregnant while your hcg levels drop back down again. Have you had any bleeding?

No no bleeding at all, I've got to go the women's hospital for another internal because they struggled to see my ovaries and Fallopian tubes I've got to go to the centre where I work helping women get pregnant though so I feel horrendous!

You must be so frustrated when they send you away after a scan it's horrible. When do you have to go back. Have they said this happens a lot?

My scan is tomorrow and I've woke up feeling sick thinking about it. Just feel like sleeping all day. Also had a bad dream again. I was 36 weeks pregnant at the scan. I know it's just a dream but It seems so real at the time. I wake up feeling my body is all tense and stiff.

No :( one of the women kept talking to me like I was a little girl - I do look very very young but I'm not! The other nurses were lovely though and kept apologising even though it's not their fault! I'm gonn have to just try and focus on my exams though and ignore this as I have no control over it.

You will be fine :) it'll be over before you know it and you'll hopefully feel like yourself again.

I think sometimes life is testing us. Seeing how strong we are. When I get really down , I see or read about someone who is genuinely Ill and I think I should just get over myself and things could be a lot worse. We will be ok eventually x

Feeling a bit emotional now it's close

You'll be fine good luck and don't forget if you want to change your mind you can

I hope it goes to plan and i stay strong and focused. Want this nightmare to be over. It's made me feel so alone.

How are you holding up .

Best of luck for tomorrow. One step closer to this all being over.

Thank you twentycups. Really appreciate it

Thinking of you OP

Another one thinking of you today. Let us know how it went, if you want to.

Well I went for the scan this morning. It said I was around 8 weeks so they can go ahead with the procedure and I have to go back on Wednesday where they should give me the first tablet. Then should be Thursday for the rest of it.

Don't know how I'm feeling to be honest. I am still anxious and I hope I can handle the pain. I didn't look at the scan this time. I decided not to. I am feeling sad that I'm not in a position to carry this pregnancy through. But I want it to feel right. And it doesn't feel right at all.

Thank you both for checking in on me. It really does mean a lot. I had to go straight to work after the scan so couldn't update before now. I told my boss that I won't be in work on Thursday as I have to go o hospital for the day and she was lovely about it. I asked her to keep the hospital appointment confidential- I didn't even tell her what it was for. And she said of course. I already have Friday off, back on Saturday but I'm guessing I'll be ok to work by then? I've read that even the next day people are ok to work.

I'm really glad you sound calmer and I can almost hear the relief. It is so hard for you to go through this alone. Isn't there anyone who could go with you on Wed? Or call around to you so you aren't alone if you are going home on Wed and back on Thurs? x

Yeah you will definitely be okay by Saturday they told me you can return to normal activities after 24hours.

I'm glad you seem in a better state of mind though. Did they talk you through it? If you can go through a C section and the recovery after it you're more than capable of doing this.

Now there is a plan in place I suppose I am feeling a lot calmer than I was. Like there is a way out now. two weeks ago I just couldn't see them ever doing it, two weeks felt like years away. It went quite quickly. I'm still not getting my hopes up. There's still a few days to go.

Like I said, still quite anxious about the pain and still feeling sad but I know it's the right thing to do. And once it's all over I can carry on with my life.

I have a lift to the hospital on Wednesday and Thursday but the person doesn't know what the appointment is for. So they won't be staying.

I'm trying to focus on the fact that young teens do this on their own, so really I should be able to too. It's still very scary though.

Thanks for replying

No, today was literally just a scan. They pass the details onto the next step then. I called them a few hours after and she said Wednesday will be to talk through the procedure, take bloods and everything. x

Have you had any exams today? Hope they are not too difficult !

Yeah I had an exam today only one more to go then the day after the procedure (hopefully)

I think you'll cope with the pain fine especially if you're staying in the hospital for the duration because you'll be given ibuprofen regularly and I'm sure they'll ensure you're not in too much pain! From what I've read elsewhere pretty much everyone recommends heat pads