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Abortion scan please please help desperate

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tryingtobestronger · 09/08/2016 10:07

I went for a scan yesterday, assuming Id be having my abortion on Wednesday and Thursday of this week.

My lmp dates suggest im just over 7 weeks.

My scan showed I was around 5. They said I need to go back in two weeks time to redo the scan as they need to see a embryo and all they saw was a pregnancy sac (normal for 5 weeks).
I am so upset. Will I be over 9 weeks when I go back? Nurse said no- I will be around 7 weeks.
What date did your scan go by?
I'm really struggling, have no one to talk to and I'm so confused . Please someone help im begging you.

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Advicepls7080 · 18/08/2016 09:19

Same! It'll be over soon though

sashh · 18/08/2016 09:32

Only just catching up.

Sorry you are having this bad time, it won't be like labour. I've not had an abortion myself but I have accompanied a friend, she came back to my house and went to bed with a hot water bottle.

She said it was painful, but like a bad period.

Hope you are doing OK.

tryingtobestronger · 18/08/2016 19:53

Thanks sashh
Went to work for a few hours today. Kind of forgotten about it all. Bit achy today also had a rubbish sleep! I think I was tensing up in my nightmare!

I dreamt the nurses put me in an old fashioned mental asylum!

Was so scary

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tryingtobestronger · 18/08/2016 20:49

Feeling exhausted. Hope that means a good sleep tonight

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tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 09:21

Had a better night sleep. Still bD some strange dreams but no nightmares thankfully

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Advicepls7080 · 19/08/2016 09:43

I'm so scared now because my appointment is tomorrow and I felt really poorly and weak yesterday :( think tonight's going to be sleepless

tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 09:48

The end is in sight. You'll be ok. Try and stay positive and strong. This time next week it could be all over. Biscuit

Yesterday I was very achy. And weirdly had a dull pain in my groin and legs. Was very strange but seems to be gone now. I think I had just slept in a strange way .

Try and keep busy today so hopefully you make yourself so tired you get a good night sleep

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tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 09:48

That was a Star not a Biscuit

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tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 19:05

How are you advice?

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Advicepls7080 · 19/08/2016 19:21

Terrible I keep having little breakdowns I'm lucky my little one is staying with his Nan tonight

tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 19:32

I'm actually slightly jealous you only have one more night to wait. Your going with bpas arnt you?

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Advicepls7080 · 19/08/2016 19:34

I wish it was over. Yeah :) the reviews of the care there seem pretty good so I chose there

tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 19:41

Don't panic. But I saw on Twitter that they stopped surgical abortions and under 18 in Marie stopes.

I naturally thought this affected me so I called the helpline.

It's nothing to worry about, and if your with nhs and bpas you have the best care and would affect the procedure in anyway. The lady said there is nothing at all to worry about if your not with Marie stopes.

So if you see it on the news DONT PANIC like I did. It doesn't mean anything to us at all.
In fact they are referring all the women who need surgical or anything to bpas or nhs for the best possible care. So that's comforting for us.

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tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 19:47

Don't want you to see it and panic like I did. And it was needless.

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Advicepls7080 · 19/08/2016 19:51

I seen it on Twitter and went into a melt down automatically assuming loads of people had been dying or having severe side effects!

That is better I didn't think to read the entire article my mind just took over as per usual

tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 19:57

Same as me! Typical isn't it!!i saw it trending and almost fainted. My head went all dizzy Sad saw the helpline and thought im not gonna worry myself, I'll call it.

So I did , and I'm glad. We will be ok.

Also called the hospital again earlier just for a chat. The lovely lady put my mind at ease again. And she said again 'if it was that bad, there is no way we would let people go home and do it without a medical professional on hand. It's fine'

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Advicepls7080 · 19/08/2016 19:59

They must do thousands upon thousands a year I hate the fact that when I'm in a tizz I can't think logical :(

I heard of girls when I was in school having them aged 13/14 how were they so brave?

tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 20:15

It makes you think doesn't it. It's so much for a woman to go through, let alone a young teen.

I was on work yesterday, and when I was dealing with something, I thought 'this is as natural to me, as abortions are to the nurses. It's no big deal'. Calmed me a little. Mind you I have my moments. Is that what your like?

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Advicepls7080 · 19/08/2016 20:21

Yeah, I calm myself thinking it's pretty much a basic procedure now days but then I get myself in a Tiz. I'm hoping I can try and get myself to just zone out tomorrow I've been told I should be there for no more than 3 hours

tryingtobestronger · 19/08/2016 22:03

When I went for my scan, I was on auto pilot. Just wanted to get it done. Hopefully you will feel the same tomorrow.

I ate so much I threw up just now Sad I normally barely eat. One small meal a day. This last week I've eaten like a pig, seem to always be hungry and it's helping when I feel nausea.

But I took it too far it seems.

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Advicepls7080 · 20/08/2016 06:03

Worst nights sleep tossing and turning all night :(

tryingtobestronger · 20/08/2016 08:34

Best of luck for today. You'll do great. Remember , they do this everyday!

I have to go out for the day today, but I'll check in with you later to see how it all went. Flowers

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Advicepls7080 · 20/08/2016 09:34

Thank you, I'll try and update you later on Flowers

hippydippybaloney · 20/08/2016 14:20

Trying you are sounding much calmer than you did at first. How are you feeling?

Advicepls7080 · 20/08/2016 14:20

Sorry can't really update they can't find anything even a gestational sac I have to go back this week

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