February 2011 babies

[suzym1984]

Hi everyone!

Well, I got my BFP on Friday morning and it is only just starting to sink in! According to my dates I am due 2nd Feb and I thought it would be nice to have a Feb babies thread, where we can all share our news/worries/excitement!

Cant wait to hear from you

Best of luck tabby. At 6+2 you've got a good chance of a heartbeat but don't panic if you don't get one either -- it's still early days.

Hi there

Been lurking. Due 31 Jan or 1 Feb. This will be our second sprog - we've got a son who is 20 months tomorrow!

Just trying to resist the urge to have an early scan....and trying not to get too excited in case it doesn't work out. I'm 8weeks 4 days today.

Anyone else going to get checked out at an early private scan and am I mad not to? Desperate to know all is ok...but maybe that is just me being impatient!

Jeez, angels1, don't they have Google? I would tell whoever at the office that you'll ring HR directly. When you speak to them, if they still insist on clarification, ask to see the section of the HR Policy Handbook that specifies this.

Mind you, from what your colleague said about wanting to know if she has to arrange cover, maybe she does know what's up and is just trying to prod you into telling her so she can start looking at maternity cover. All the same, none of her biz until after 12 weeks...

On a separate subject, I feel like I've been on a boat for ages! I just want to go to sleep. And literally minutes after eating a giant lunch, I was in Holland & Barratt buying healthy snacks, when I was overcome with sugar rage and had to buy a GIANT pack of jellybeans - it was all I could do to stop myself eating them at the till! I can't stop eating!

loopeylu - I might do one when I get to 8 weeks or so. Right now I am sitting here quite sane and reasonable thinking I won't bother but I know from experience that I'll rapidly get more twitchy and I can see myself caving around then. I had one with DD as I'd had some spotting -- not enough to bother the EPU with but enough to make me paranoid.

re: my odd telephone message from work where they wanted to know 'exactly' what was wrong with me as to why the doctor had signed me off...I might be able to shed some light. I've just read the school sick policy and it says that a sick note from the doc doesn't mean you get company sick pay - you have to 'satisfy' a manager that you are unfit for work. Very odd, so maybe this was the reason for the phone call (perhaps they should have just said this if this was the case)???? All seems a bit unnecessary.

angels1 - I think some work places just have the strangest systems anyway. Whenever I phone in sick it'll be like the spanish inquisition and 20 questions as to why I'm sick. Like you have to prove you're ill enough to take the days off. Madness! It's none of their business. You should jut be able to say, I'm ill, won't be in for x amount of time and that's it! No reasons expected.

You should have the nouse to think when you're fit or not for work so what's this about 'satisfying' the manager! Madness!

The NHS are just the same!

yes tabbycat, and you'd think a doctor's note would be more of a judge that you can't work compared to a managers view of you from a phone conversation!

I think it's those people that take advantage of sick days and cost the country so much, that cause managers and work places to be soooooo hot on others for taking sick days! (if that makes sense) Hmm, a GP note or a phone chat with yourself...?? Employers are stoopid sometimes!

Yes, it's unfair. The other day I heard someone on their mobile outside the front door (I live next to a pub and their entrance is right next to my front door) and the conversation I could hear was 'sorry mate, I can't come into work tonight. I'm at the hospital. My mum's ill.' before he went back in the pub! I couldn't believe it - I wanted to run out and shout something obscene that would make it obvious he wasn't at a hospital, but I couldn't get up quick enough for dizziness and the words failed me - couldn't believe someone would actually do something so blatently loudly in the street and say their own mother was in hospital. Makes life hard for those of us that do work when we can and make an effort to go into work when we feel under the weather.

Bloody hell that's shocking! The nerve of some people!!! Makes me so angry when people do that! And to then say it's your own mother too! I guess its no wonder when people do that that employers should interigate their employees when they phone in sick. Just our bad luck really!

A couple of years back I got an email from HR stating that someone who worked for me had had more than the expected number of sick days in the past year and could I reply explaining why this was and what my action plan was for preventing it happening again. I emailed back pointing out that he had been off because he had broken his arm in an accident at work but that we'd had the paving replaced so that with any luck he wouldn't do it again next year.

This wasn't someone who'd had months off, either -- it was maybe 8 days in a year? It was crazy...

angels1 this kind of thing really annoys me. Unless the manager is also a Dr, they do not have the expertise to be able to judge if you are unfit for work. That is in fact the point of the sick note.

I would doubt actually if that policy is strictly legit. Some orgs pay only SSP for anything, and some have sick pay, but to pay a different amount based on the say-so (or the mood?) of a non-medical professional is dodgy to say the least.

D

I had some time off work last year following a knee operation. I told my manager I would be off for about 2 weeks (what the surgeon told me) and let him know the week before going in for the op, my whole team knew and it was on the minutes of the team meeting (manager wrote). Went in to hosp. Saturday and had the op, a week and a half later still on crutches - unable to drive (most of my work involves driving from site to site, called the office to say I might not be back Monday and got a gob full from the HR rep! Then got special delivery letter Saturday saying that they wanted to talk to me about being AWOL and if I didn't contact them by monday COP then they would stop my pay!!! I was devistated, letter said my manager had tried to contact me on several occasions - had not once!!! Phoned HR they said they were worried about me, didn't know where I was etc, I explained I had been in hospital and all at my office were fully aware and had sick note! Not even an apology!

Haven't been on for a couple of days, but just managed to catch up

angels1 that is rubbish about your work. Is there anyone more senior, not HR that is a sympathetic ear you could speak to.

I'm having really bad ms, and it is so hard at work trying to concentrate, you can't function properly. Went out for a romantic night out with the DH last night, and as soon as we got back home was vomiting in the loo. Very romantic!!

Had a day this week when I didn't feel sick, but then worried something might be wrong because I wasn't feeling sick. Then I suddenly realised I've got to stop panicking so much, otherwise I'm going to be worrying for the next 7ish or so months and then for the next 30-40 years about it after it is born.

That's the theory anyway, try and relax and enjoy this, and whatever happens will happen

Hey cler - I'm wondering about the belly-bumpage too, as I'm only 8 weeks in but look like about 20 (I think). I was expecting to not show until about 5 months (I'm tall and heard that the taller / fitter you are, the longer it takes to show ??) - but no such luck!

I was going to wait for as long as possible to tell people, but it doesn't look like I'll have a choice at this rate.

And please no-one mention twins, because the mere idea is freaking me out right now (although I have picked out four names in preparation - two boys' & two girls' )

So if anyone has bright ideas for hiding bellies from nosy work colleagues who check my daily food & alcohol intake and are already getting suspicious, then please let me know!

Tallulah, I'd probably go for tunics and leggings, that should hide it a bit.

I didn't show til about 20 weeks last time. I'm not sure what will happen this time but I've been scoffing doritos and cream cheese and if I carry on at the same rate I'll look really pregnant by this time next week.

Loopeylu - I'm getting an early scan on Saturday, but more because I'm really confused about my dates; my GP suggested I was further along than I thought.

Before that, I'd have been happy to bumble along till 12 weeks, but now I need to know whether to worry or not.

It seems like most people are waiting, but I vote that you should go ahead and get one if you want reassurance - that's what they're for after all, aren't they?

Hey so glad theres a wee feb babies thing, found out yesterday im 7 weeks which means im due the 6th of feb 2 days after my own birthday lol.

Was constantly sick the past fornight but today iv been ravenous and cant seem to feel full!!!

Anyone know of ways to stop a sore chest? Mine is in agony and cant sleep at all due to this!!

Any help will be much appreciated.

Also i have a 6 year old when would anyone suggest telling him??

I am trying not to let my 8yr old dd know as she would be s6 upset if it went wrong. want to tell her after scan but belly so huge at 8 wks it will be hard. luckily have started new job so they probably just think I'm fat can't wait to put them straight. My tummy is hard and I can't pull it in worse at night too. I look about 4 months. My friend was the same but looks normal now for her 22 wks

Well im due to start a new job in 2 weeks and am going to have to try and hide it for as long as possible so they dont sack me.

my tummy is also very hard and kinda round, pretty noticable as im only a size 6, do you think id get away with control pants under my suit? Or would that be harmful to baby?

I found last time that I looked less pregnant when I just bit the bullet and switched to maternity tops. They aren't so tight over your belly so it's not as apparent (in the early stages) that your belly's grown. And fortunately drapey floaty empire line things are still reasonably "in" .

DS is 5 and I'm not telling him until after NT scan/end of first trimester.

i wish i could wear floaty things but dunno how much i will get away with due to new job having business dress, dress code??

I was thinking best not tell til after 12 weeks due to risks etc.

im scared that my work wil find out and sack me as im starting in 2 weeks which takes me to 10 weeks almost.

your work cant sack you for being pregnant, you will prob not get maternity pay from them because you usually have to be there for limited time before.
Im having another early night tonight because im so shattered.

i know how you feel with the tiredness i feel like iv been hit with a truck constantly.