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Seriously, is it possible to be pregnant and not realise?

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HinnyPet · 05/04/2010 18:49

Am just asking as I have felt shite for 2 months now, an exhausted, my tummy is fluttering (feels just like baby wrggling and kicking) and I have continual mild abdominal ache along with a lot of pressure and a bit of swelling of my ladybits! Boobs not sore though, like previous 2 pregnancies.

However, I have had very normal periods since DH and I managed to actually get the time to jump on each other, that would be back in January!

What could it be?
I haven't done a test, mainly because I am shite scared, I have been lo-carbing for 3 months and lost 2 stone so if I am indeed pregnant I have messed up majorly!

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cookielove · 05/04/2010 18:51

just do a test, and let us know, really there is no other way to find out!!

TulipsInTheRain · 05/04/2010 18:52

if you've been losing alot of weight you and following an unusual diet then it could simply be a mix of your body readjusting and excess wind due to more fruit and veg.

but i'd still do a test for peace of mind.

I was 8/10 weeks before i realised with ds1.... no period since having dd and wasn't expecting to get pregnant so quickly

tethersend · 05/04/2010 18:52

My friend's sister didn't know she was pregnant until she gave birth- had normal periods all the way through, and just thought she had put on a bit of weight; no bump

Sorry, not what you want to hear... do a test. I'm sure baby- if it exists- will be fine

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HinnyPet · 05/04/2010 19:19

Thank you ladies, I am putting doing a test off I think. I an taking DS to nursery and DD pottery painting tomorrow, I could nip into boots? No, they know me too well in there....
I will report back, thank you again.

It's not wind though

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TrillianAstra · 05/04/2010 19:19

Unless you've been replacing carbohydrates with platefuls of liver (and maybe some cocaine) you probably haven't hurt the hypothetical baby. Go take a test. It is possible to be pregnant and not realise.

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HinnyPet · 05/04/2010 19:35

Mmmmm liver .....

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5inthebed · 05/04/2010 19:38

I know of two people who didn't know. One was a girl who gave birth in the school toilets (I kid you not) and the other was someone at work who was on holiday abroad at the time.

Scary! Do a test!

beanlet · 05/04/2010 20:07

Yep - I know someone who went to the hospital with severe stomach cramps and was directed straight to the labour ward -- she had no idea! She was, however, obese and had chaotic hygiene and irregular periods, so it wasn't too hard to understand why she hadn't known.

dizzydixies · 05/04/2010 20:09

other than the lack of periods I have no other symptoms at the minute and I'm 10wks now - do a test!!!!

FabIsGettingThere · 05/04/2010 20:09

Not doing a test because you are scared of it being positive isn't going to change the situation if you are pregnant.

tjtheminx · 05/04/2010 20:16

beanlet... chaotic hygiene ... elaborate please

PixieOnaLeaf · 05/04/2010 20:21

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wonka · 05/04/2010 20:42

Ummm This is what happened to me went to the GP feeling C$*P and catching everything tummy felt heavy like I was due on but P just finished.. turned out I was 3 Mths.. and on the pill... SURPRISE! He' completely perfect so that will reassure you even if the rest of my post makes you feel worse! Sorry!

AvadaKedavra · 05/04/2010 20:43

Could well just be the effects of lowcarbing no?

dizzydixies · 05/04/2010 20:44

oh yes, and was on the pill too

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HinnyPet · 05/04/2010 21:16

It may well be the effects of lowcarbing, yes. Though how it makes your tummy flutter and feel rubbishbi dunno! felt fine last time! and just realised I have had lots of migraines too. Like when I was pg.
Just didn't feel this shite last time I did the diet 5 years ago pre-kids!

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liahgen66 · 05/04/2010 21:18

seriously, just do a test and put our nosy minds , your mind at rest

chaotic hygiene?? Please elaborate.

jurisfictionoperative · 06/04/2010 02:59

correct me if I am wrong, but is it not said that even with second or subsequent pregnancies, movement is not usually felt until aroun 16 weeks?

WorzselMummage · 06/04/2010 04:41

I felt ds at 13/14 weeks. It's quite normal.

Do a test! I love am I aren't I posts

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 06/04/2010 04:47

I'm always intrigued by stories of people who didn't know till they were in labour or close to it. I know it happens; my mother's best friend didn't know till she was 7 months, she was on the pill and getting her periods, it was only when my mother said err, that's not random weight gain, that's a bump, that she gave in.

But what on earth would you think the baby moving was, near the end? It's not just flutters and bumps then, it's a pretty unmistakable feeling of a person kicking you and punching you.

And wouldn't you have some other symptoms? Breasts getting bigger, darker aureolae, linea nigra, needing to wee every 1.43 seconds, insomnia, I mean I had a pretty uneventful pregnancy but it was like nothing else ever.

skihorse · 06/04/2010 07:48

I agree totally with tortoise and I wonder if it's at some psychological level the woman is blocking the feelings & physical sensations.

To put it mildly, I'd have been along to A&E had I not known I was pregnant. My abdomen visibly MOVES.

I am very sceptical about those who claim not to have know until the end and raised it with my midwife who told her cousin had "done it" - she rolled her eyes as she said it.

Hollyoaks · 06/04/2010 07:57

I know of a woman who went into a&e with suspected appendicitis and her dd is about 3 now. However, she was in her late forties and thought she was going through menopause, I think that's understandable. Though doesn't mistake the undeniable movement that goes on in there.

bruffin · 06/04/2010 08:03

My sister didn't know she was pregnant until 5 months because she had PCOS and hardly had any periods. Another friend had periods for 5 months then discovered she was pregnant, but sadly miscarried a few days later.
Locarbing is not exactly a healthy diet so it may well affect your health/stomach.

tethersend · 06/04/2010 08:46

I was as sceptical as you skihorse, until my friend's sister gave birth without knowing she was pregnant... she says she felt no movement at all; the first she felt was stomach cramps which turned out to be contractions. She thought she had food poisoning. She went paintballing the day before she gave birth.

She is extremely down to earth, and if you met her you would know she didn't pull a fast one; even she was sceptical of 'surprise' births until it happened to her...

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 06/04/2010 08:48

She didn't get any skin darkening? Or weight gain? No baby movements at all? Her hair didn't change consistency and her bladder didn't weaken?

As I said above, I do believe that it happens. I just cannot understand it. A completely asymptomatic pregnancy. Cor.

I'd be so sad if that happened to me. Not to mention shocked, obviously. But I'd grieve for the lost experience, I think.