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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Seriously, is it possible to be pregnant and not realise?

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HinnyPet · 05/04/2010 18:49

Am just asking as I have felt shite for 2 months now, an exhausted, my tummy is fluttering (feels just like baby wrggling and kicking) and I have continual mild abdominal ache along with a lot of pressure and a bit of swelling of my ladybits! Boobs not sore though, like previous 2 pregnancies.

However, I have had very normal periods since DH and I managed to actually get the time to jump on each other, that would be back in January!

What could it be?
I haven't done a test, mainly because I am shite scared, I have been lo-carbing for 3 months and lost 2 stone so if I am indeed pregnant I have messed up majorly!

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Boobz · 06/04/2010 12:15

My DH told me a similar story to yours slowgraffiti - someone at his work's wife phoned my DH's colleague one day to tell him she had given birth - she didn't know she was pregnant until she was crowning, apparently.

Don't believe it myself. So I'm with Skihorse on this one. Loads of things you can pass off as something else (sickness, tiredness, peeing a lot, leaky boobs even?), yes, but the prods and scrabbling around inside? Nope, sorry, I just don't believe it.

Granny23 · 06/04/2010 12:15

O.K. You are not pregnant - ergo something else is wrong. Hie thee to your GP asap.

tethersend · 06/04/2010 12:18

(I'm slowgraffiti BTW)

Ok, Boobz, that's fine- you not believing it doesn't change the fact that it happened.

DomesticG0ddess · 06/04/2010 12:29

I think a lot of people find out if they want another child when they have a "scare". Hope you feel better soon.

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HinnyPet · 06/04/2010 13:25

I have two, but am still not sure about number 3!
How do you decide when your family is finished expanding?
I do feel a bit sad now though. And still yucky..

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beanlet · 06/04/2010 14:53

She was a recovering druggie and biker moll whom I thought we would be able to help if she lived with us when I was an undergarduate (naive and probably patronising, I know! but I was only 20 and running a household full of wimmin IYKWIM) -- and I regularly had to clean bodily fluids and excreta off the bathroom floor after she had used it; and she smelt terrible.

DomesticG0ddess · 06/04/2010 17:23

HinnyPet I don't know how people decide that - I am pretty sure I only want 2, for lots of reasons, but I would never say never. I thought people just "knew" deep down whether they felt their family was complete?

FabIsGettingThere · 06/04/2010 17:57

I am the opposite. Convinced myself I was pregnant when dh and I hadn't even had sex and he has had the snip since and I still think I am sometimes.

wonka · 06/04/2010 18:14

I'm sorry Hinny, I guess you just decide. But if your family doesn't feel quite finished then you need to be in tip top shape to get pregnant so see your GP about your odd tummy!

midori1999 · 06/04/2010 18:30

There was a story fairly recently in the press/a pregnancy magazine I read where a woman had actually gone to the hospital with symptoms of which she didn't know the cause, they sent her away. Several months later she went back to A&E with stomach pains, to be told she was pregnant, but only about 4 months along. She was sent home and gave birth a few hours later.

I always find these stories hard to believe, but if she had been medically examined as the article said, then it's hard to disagree in that case.

midori1999 · 06/04/2010 18:35

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1256548/New-mothers-surprise-doctors-mistook-pregnancy-Irritable-Bo wel-Syndrome-THREE-HOURS-birth.html

This is the story.

BigBadMummy · 06/04/2010 18:38

Yep, 28 weeks pregnant, was on the pill so still had a period every month.

I collapsed with stomach pains and one of the routine tests the hospital did was a pregancy test.

Which when positive resulted in me having a scan.

9.8lb baby girl was born 8 weeks later and given up for adoption.

I was 19 and knew I would have been a rubbish mummy.

So yes, you can be preganant not know!

I had not put on any weight, had no sickness, no sore breasts etc.

All very different with my next one

MumNWLondon · 07/04/2010 08:31

Article in yesterdays times on this!

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frankly find some of article slightly unbelievable - ie a women who gave birth without realising she was pregnant!

Last month Kimberley Robinson was on the front page of her local paper after having her baby on a trolley in the corridor of a Hull hospital casualty unit. She had had pains in the night and called an ambulance thinking she had appendicitis. She was waiting to be examined, she told me, when ?I felt this lump in my pyjama bottoms. Then it made a noise.

Although its possible to explain away the nausea (some women don't have any), the lack periods (some women are very irregular), baby movements (wind/IBS) - surely everyone had some sort of bump?

midori1999 · 07/04/2010 09:04

"surely everyone had some sort of bump? "

I actually remember reading a story year sago about a teen girl who was a ballerina who either hid a pregnancy from her parents or hadn't known about it. There was a photo of her a few weeks before the birth (apparently!) at a ballet competition in leotard and tights, very, very slim girl and not one hint of a bump.

izzybiz · 07/04/2010 09:21

My cousin didn't know she was pregnant, she was on the pill, having a bleed every month, she was taking medicines for her skin aswell.

She had put on a bit of weight but definately not a "bump" she had no sickness, no movements, not a clue!

She was rushed into hospital late one night with suspected appendicitis, where she ended up on a central line unconcious with toxemia, when she woke up she was mummy to a perfect eight and a half pound baby boy!

Apparantly if the babies limbs are towards the back of the mother that can explain the not feeling any movement, no bump ect.

Don't know how it happens but I know it does!

I didn't know I was pregnant with my first till I was 20 weeks!

girlsyearapart · 07/04/2010 09:40

didn't find out I was pg with no 3 until I was 8 wks- even though we were trying. Had a negative test and a period too..

Discovery health had a whole day of programmes this weekend called 'I didn't know I was pregnant' - all women who thought they were dying and got to hospital to be told they were in labour. Including one who had twins!

Every one except one was obese though- the other one thought it was the menopause.

MumNWLondon · 07/04/2010 13:16

I thought that re: obese - then might not notice bump!

I can understand not finding out until 25-28 weeks - I had hardly any nausea, no bump (good stomach muscles) and no obvious movement (anterior placenta) until then. But now I am 38 weeks and have big bump, lots of movement etc!

MrsC2010 · 07/04/2010 15:40

Hmmm, I think I could have got to this stage without knowing. (Apart from the weight gain and alck of periods, but if I didn't have reason to think I was PG then I could pass that off as stress/needing a diet!) i didn't get morning sickness, got tired but that isn't unusual anyway etc etc. Even now I feel fine apart from the odd sore back and kick in the belly.

Rossco · 07/04/2010 16:20

I'm not long of the phone to my Mum. She called to tell me that her best friends daughter (who is 24) gave birth to a boy this morning without knowing she was pregnant.

Mum did say that she saw her bf's daughter at Christmas and thought 'she's pregnant' but didn't mention it when no one else did and put the bump down to weight gain. She now wishes she'd said something.

The couple are both in shock and have nothing for a baby so Mum's BF is running around getting nappies and clothes to keep them going for now.

When I seemed skeptical Mum told me my Gran didn't realise she was pregnant with my DU until she went to the Doc feeling out of sorts. The Doc said something and Gran said "I'm 10 weeks pg?!" and the Doc said "No, you are due in 10 weeks". DU was my Grans' third child!

kellze · 07/04/2010 17:29

I'm not sure about not knowing you are pregnant but I have regularly forgotten that I am pregnant.

MumNWLondon · 07/04/2010 18:00

Rosocco - does the fact that your mum suspected it at christmas (3.5 months ago) even though she doesn't know her well, so when she was only 5.5 months pregnant but the women concerned didn't realise at 9 months seem just a little bit odd?

I only told work at 25 weeks (thats when you legally have to) so around 5.5 months and they hadn't suspected at all.... (and this is DC3) i didn't look pregnant then at all then.... so wouldn't be unusual for it not to be obvious at that point, yet it already was obvious as your mum thought she had a bump then....

MeMudmagnet · 07/04/2010 18:36

I know a woman who had a surprise baby.
She was in her late 40's and had 3 teenage daughters.
She was terrified she had cancer and was undergoing investigations, when a scan revealed a large baby. They wanted to induce her straight away, but she told them she couldn't just go home with a baby!

She broke the news to her daughters, who were disgusted then went back to hospital the next day to be induced.
She had an 8lb+ baby girl.

girlsyearapart · 07/04/2010 19:53

love that story memud

pigleychez · 07/04/2010 20:24

I guess it does happen but it seems very hard to understand - especially sitting here with a large 34 week bump moving around in front of me and baby trying to break out Alien style!

I remember whilst at school, rumours that a girl in my year had given birth in the cinema without knowing she was pregnant. Loads of gossip being an all girls school, but we never saw her at school again so guess it was true!

comtessa · 07/04/2010 20:25

I want to reassure you. I work with refugee women, some of whom have had terrible experiences during pregnancy, the least of which is poor nutrition. All of these ladies have had happy, healthy babies. Remember, whatever it is you're eating, the baby gets first pick of. Please don't worry, just find out for your own peace of mind.

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