Totally's Grads Part Deux - Let's handhold through pregnancy after MC

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So many threads by so many names but this thread is a place to come after TTC after MC..

Deposit your worries in the box by the door and grab a cuppa! :-)

Sorry for the radio silence - had a little bit of a panic on here at RedHead HQ. Woke up with some bleeding on Monday and promptly called the EPU. Went straight in and had internal exam (all fine - phew), urine test (was pregnant - they hadn't been convinced until then) and blood test. Because I hadn't had a period since my ERPC they were suspicious of my dates. I swore I was 7 weeks but they wouldn't believe me. They were convinced my hCG would be around 1500 figure. It came back a whopping 79,000! Went in for a scan this morning. Thankfully all fine. Embryo present and heart beating . At 11.5mm it's bang on for 7+2 which is where I thought I was all along. Beginning to calm down now. Not out the woods, but the bleeding has stopped and all seems well.

TMT and Alba - was gearing up for dildocam - but no sign of it, so fx it's the same for you. Good luck with your scan tomorrow Alba.

Effilump - good luck with your scan today

Gi1da - sorry don't know anything about St Thomas's so can't advise. I think if it were me, I'd like to know otherwise I'd spend the whole time worrying. And how great to go knowing all's well.

SB - I don't think taking precautions is over-reacting. I think you're wise to put yourself first. Just enjoy your day off today

GLB - really hope the spotting has stopped and all's well. I'm glad to hear so many people are juggling pregnancy and house move. We're also moving down to Kent - north coast though.

SarahLou and all the other cold sufferers - hope you're all feeling better this morning.

Hey Gilda - we can't be too far from each other - my work is right by St Thomas'. I believe you can just walk in (they are open all day). However, if not, St George's in Tooting (at Tooting Broadway - you just have to get the northern line down there) definitely does a walk in from 8am - 11am everyday, you can self refer. They actually don't start scanning until 8.30am, but get there at 8am as it's first come first served. You fill out a form to say why you have come for the scan - one of the options to tick is "previous miscarriage". But as a warning - even if you go when you are 12wks it'll still be dildocam!!

I'm not going to get checked out, I have two weeks to my scan (will be 13wks) and I'm just going to wait it out now. I am a little bit burying my head in the sand tbh but I just want to pretend it's normal now (apart from mild cramping freaking me out, I kind of feel pregnant again).

Sam - that sounds a bit pants the way they don't pass anything on. Mine have been really good so far, I'll be gutted to move and have to sign up with someone else!!

xxx

Hello there ladies.

I feel very tentative joining the grads having had 3 mmc in the space of 13 months. I have never got beyond 9/10 weeks with the little one's not wanting to develop beyond 6 weeks.

I got a bfp last week and am 5+3. I was really doing my best to positive this time as for the first time there's been no bleeding. However, I had a scan (unplanned) at St. Marys yesterday and there wasn't much to see via the dildo-cam. I didn't feel overly stressed as I know it's not uncommon not to see anything of significance at this early stage. The nurse thought she could see the beginning of a sac. But... when I went into see Lesley Regan she said she would have hoped to have 'seen more'. I felt totally crushed and distraught because if someone who is held in such high esteem in these matters doesn't have much hope then who am I to? Yesterday, I felt as if it was 'all over' already but today I continue in the world of not knowing and just trying to have faith that something will come good this time.

I was hoping that I would be suffering from unbelievable morning sickness (don't mean to make light of how dreadful some of you feel with ms) just so that I would know something was DIFFERENT this time.

I wish you all the very best.

I hope I get to hang out here a while.

Goodluckbear - we have happily relocated from London Town to North East Kent in the last couple of years and LOVE it. Most of the Thames Gateway is on a flood plain, don't let it stop you make the move!

MsJL - really really hope you are with for a really really long time (hope I'm here for a long time too). Sounds like you have been through a lot.. it's definitely hard if Lesley said she would have preferred to see something but it's still early days.. sending you super positive thoughts. Do you have another scan in say 2 weeks time when there should be more there all going well?

I just had a mini panic myself in the bathroom, I'm unfortunately still over-checking my tissue post going to the loo.. I was about to throw it in the loo and spotted a tiny miniscule dot of red which I had nearly not noticed.. now I had just when i went into the cubicle had a slight nosebleed so I'm hoping it was just some left over blood on my finger that gone through the loo roll cos when I wiped again it was definitely clear and nothing in the toilet. Now uber paranoid again. I was just about to order some maternity trousers too as i'm sitting here in work with both buttons open on mine (with jumper down over it don't worry!!) but now I don't want to be presumptious. Just got to wait until the scan on Tuesday. I'm trying to stay not worried but it just seems to be increasing by the hour.

Had a bottle of lucosade orange energy the last few days and now feel guilty cos i've just read there is caffeine in it but yet I'm nearly sure some of you ladies were recommended it by your MW's for queasiness / morning sickness and it really does settle my stomach.

Just hope all of our beans are doing well and sticking well and growing well.

sorry to be a bit of a negative nelly this afternoon. I think i'm going to try and leave work soon, even though it'll be frowned upon (everyone in my work stays late) but got to put the bean first.

HappyGirl1 have a relaxing evening. I know it's easier said than done and the whole knicker/paper checking thing gets exhausting. Don't feel bad about the lucozade either - be kind to yourself. Sending you lots of good vibes for next week (Tuesday?). I have a scan on Tuesday morn - that may not reveal much either but we'll see. x

Blardy Ell. Am in bed already. So tired.

Welcome to MsJL sounds like a truly pants last year. Here's to hoping things are on the turn for you

Happy wishing you a peaceful eve and a good night's sleep.

GLB am working in Cov Garden but often get off the train at Waterloo East to walk over the bridge rather than going to Charing X. Such a gorgeous view.

Thanks for the scan info. Hmm am not enticed by the idea of dildocam again, was hoping to spare my poor foof the indignity. Rang my hosp and got the earliest scan date I could, a few days after my booking in, it's on the Tues before I go on hols on Thurs. Three weeks to go, let's see how I bear up over the coming weeks.... Fanjo-Films may yet win the day!

SamB sorry about fudging your dates earlier. Am pleading iPod miniscule screen syndrome. That explains the errant apostrophe this morning too.

Redders Good to see you back, great news.

Alba good luck on your scan tomorrow.

Big wave to everyone. Night night. x

Gilda good news u got ur scan date booked in and good news its before ur holiday too. I know 3 weeks is a long time tho but hopefully with the bank hol coming up, time will go relatively quickly. Sending u lots of positive vibes!

Im in bed too having fallen asleep before jun apprentice 2night. New record that early. Night night to u all too

Morning all, redheadgal Good news on your scan.
I had my 20 wk and it went well, thank god!
I had a midwife apt the day before, and got a little stressed about it due to my last one, so she phoned the hospital, and made sure I didnt get the same sonographer! Baby doing well, and all as it should be, heart looks ok, which I was worried about given my high downs risk result, so im very happy now, and can hopefully finally start to relax with this pregnancy now.
Oh, and we found out the sex, and its a BOY!

Congrats Effilump - a little boy!! That's such fantastic news

Welcome MsJL, and I hope you stay with us for a long, long time - like, nine months!! It sounds like you've been through so much, I hope this is a sticky bean and am sending all my positive vibes to you, you are very brave.

Gilda - glad you got a scan date before your hols, that is good news!!

Happy - this is the right place to share paranoid thoughts, that all sounds totally natural!! I will now share my embarrassing tale (god, really embarrassed) - I have been knicker checking and wiping so much over the last day that yesterday I saw a tiny, tiny dot of blood on the tissue. Well, it's because I've been wiping so much I finally done myself a mischief!! Am so ashamed of wiping/knicker checking/lunatic behaviour, my work colleagues must think I've got the trots the number of times I'm running back and forth from the loos!!

xxxxxxx

Congratulations Effilump! Take it you're pleased with that So pleased the scan went well and the mw took your concerns seriously.

Gi1da - good news you got a scan booked!

MsJL - sounds like you've been through the wringer this year. The ms/queasiness is a good sign. I feel as sick as a dog and keep repeating 'this is good, this is good'. Hope you don't mind my asking - where in north-east Kent are you? DH's new job is in Canterbury but we're hoping to live on the coast.

HappyG - hope you had a good night's sleep.

Alba - good luck today hon!

Am having a shocker of a day. Since yesterday my boobs don't hurt and I don't feel sick and I can't stop crying - I just don't feel pregnant. Was booked to go to the GP today anyway for the first time to start the whole process off, now just counting down the hours til 3.40. I can't keep my mind on anything (not great for the kids at school) and I'm just thinking the worst. Private scan is booked for next Tuesday, I can't bear the thought of waiting that long.

Sorry to moan, but I don't think I can do this again.

Toomuch Try not to worry, a lot of people on this, and the October thread that I am on, report dips in their symptoms in the first 12 weeks and it is nothing at all. I was lucky (or unlucky depending on how you look at it) - I felt sick 24 hours a day from week 6 to 14. I also teach and it was really a really tough time. There is nothing you can do aside from what you have already done which is book an early scan. Worrying isn't going to make any difference, understandable as it is. You are pregnant, the time for dealing with problems is when they happen, not beforehand just in case. I am thinking of you, not long 'til Tuesday, SB

Toomuch I'm sorry you're having a shocker of a day. I hope the appointment goes well and am sending sticky and positive thoughts for you and everyone with scans next week.

I woke up today thinking 'you're not pregnant, you're fooling yourself. It's over and you have to get used to it.' Am not feeling at all strong for myself today.

Redheaded - I am sadly not feeling sick at all. Wished I was. We live 10 minutes away from Canterbury. I am happy to share my local knowledge if you'd like.

TMT, my symptoms seem to have come in waves over the past week or so, I feel ok, wonder if I'm really pregnant, then get knocked flat by them again -- though yesterday and this morning I really started to doubt everything, I think mainly because we're all so worried after our experiences in the past it's kind of normal that we assume the worst when in fact all is fine. Symptoms most definitely fluctuate - and it's incredibly stressful.

Congrats Effilump on your scan, a little boy, lovely news.

GLB happy to hear you're feeling pregnant again

Gi1da good for you for getting the scan date confirmed.

Unbuffy thinking of you, are you home yet, or still sorting things out? Tough time to be going through.

Happy I'm with you on the paranoia recently, it is so hard to relax, but good for you for putting your little bean first and not working too late. I told my boss very early on, so that work needn't be over-stressful whilst I'm so tired, he's been absolutely fantastic, I'm so glad I confided in him.

As for my scan, just back and all good. Measuring 8+3 (I expected 8+3 or 8+4 so very happy with that), wriggling about for us, heartbeat there. EDD 3.1.11, DH is telling me I need to be 2 days early or 8 days late (for the cool birth dates 1.1.11 or 11.1.11) -- I just want to get as far as a 12 week scan and then think about that....
Bean must be a tough little cookie though, on these dates, was conceived the second day of skiing holiday, when I fell badly and think I cracked my rib!!

Next scan in 2 weeks time, really lovely private clinic, they take bloods for nuchal at 10 weeks, and do a quick reassurance scan at the same time, then nuchal scan with blood results already known at 12 weeks. And prices incredible. This scan was only £50 and the nuchal package (bloods and 2 scans) £100! Definitely worth going back there, rather than going for free NHS for nuchal because they were so kind and lovely it's a totally different experience to the loooong NHS waits and cursory rapid scans..... I've made the 10 weeks appointment only, taking it one scan at a time. Feel utterly exhausted now, the nervousness wiped me out.

Hello to everyone else I've missed, can't really think straight just now, brain cells all washed away with the relief!

Thursday 27th May

Jacanne - GIRL - 40+1 wks - due 29th April/6 May
Becky78 - baby#1 - ??? - 39+3 wks, due 12th May
Meita - baby#1 - (not telling) - 28+2 wks, due 17th August - next MW appointment 26th May
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 24 wks - due1 2th sept
TFLS - baby#1 - 23 wks, due 29 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 22+3 wks, due 30th Sept - 20 week scan 24th May
Louisesh - baby#1, 22 wks, due 1st Oct
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), 20 wks, EDD 14th October
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 19+3 wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 19+1 wks, EDD 20th October, 20 week scan 07.06.10
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 18+6 wks, EDD 22nd October
DomesticGOddess - baby#? 18+5 wks, EDD 22nd October
emmielou81 - baby#5 (DS 6, DD 3) - 18 wks, EDD 28th October
BestLaidPlans - baby#1, 15+1 wks EDD 14th November
Unbuffy - baby#2 (DD 17 months) - 13+5 wks EDD 27th November
Zayja - baby#1 - 11+5 wks, EDD 11th December
Goodluckbear - baby#1, 11+1 wks, EDD 15th December
JodieO - baby#4 (DD 8, DS1 6, DS2 3) - 9+5 wks EDD 25th December
Gilda - baby#1 - 9+5 wks, due 25th December
sparklyrainbow- Baby#1 8+5 weeks EDD 1st January 2011
AlbeDeTamble - baby#2 (DS 2) - 8+3 wks EDD 3 January, next scan 9th June
toomuchteaching - baby#1 7+5 wks EDD 8th January
Redheadgal - baby#1 7+4 EDD 11th January

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb
Cheepz - one DS, recent MMC w9, 26th March
Freezing - one DD, recent MC w11, 28th March
BarrenBrook - third and most recent MMC 12th May

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010

Hey Alba - that's good news!! You must have a sticky little bean there, really pleased for you. Where did you get the scan? Today I feel like I can't wait two weeks!

Toomuch and MsJL - thinking of you guys today, some days are worse than others. I am trying to remind myself that today I am pregnant, I'm not bleeding, so it's so far so good.

I had a massive row with bitch woman from hell in my office today (that is her job title I think). I stayed perfectly calm while she was aggressive and unreasonable about everything. But my blood pressure must have rocketed, I feel like I want to vomit now. Fortunately my boss totally agrees with me and then some, and she is much much more senior to bitch woman from hell so there is going to be a catfight - watch the fur fly!!

xxxx

Yay Alba and Effilump! GLB well done you for staying calm. Alba, my best friend (only person I've told) is very jealous of those potential birth dates- she got married on 08.08.08 deliberately!

Have been absent a lot recently, have had the odd read but have been manically busy because I'm getting married on Saturday! Tough when you spend most evenings after work lying on the sofa feeling sick but we're almost ready now

Glad to hear other people's symptoms come and go, mine have but are definitely coming at the moment which isn't boding well for Saturday. At least we have a nice afternoon slot where everyone is disappearing for a few hours, I shall be going home (very local and informal wedding) to have a nap! Have the Schloer ready so I can pretend I am drinking alcoholic fizz all night and am looking forward to the buffet when I will be able to eat small quantities of food very regularly to ward off the nausea and sickness... almost wish I had morning sickness instead! (Think this bean knows I am not a morning person!)

We're having a private scan on Sunday so we can relax on our honeymoon a bit more...

Hope everyone else is doing ok x

GLB, the waiting is awful isn't it? My scan was at Kent Medical Imaging, they're near Maidstone, may not be so convenient for you if you haven't moved out to Kent yet...

Sparkly wow, what a weekend you have lined up! I hope the morning sickness (mine is worst after midday too ) is kept at bay by the buffet and that you have a wonderful, wonderful day. Here's to a lovely reassuring scan too so you can have a really relaxing honeymoon, all the very best.

WOW Sparkly CONGRATULATIONS!

Have a super fantastic day, and here's to a bouncing bean for you on Sunday to send you off on your honeymoon with a spring in your step!

Der, forgot my news as I was so excited for Sparkles!

I caved in and have just booked a private scan for this afternoon. Am working from home today and did consider driving to Kent (am a Kent lass originally), but found a place closer, just past delightful Thamesmead. It's at 3pm.

Holy crap, now I'm terrified!!!

Good luck this afternoon, Gi1da! Everything crossed for you.

Congratulations Sparkly, hope you have a great day and honeymoon!

Yay to all the positive scans! And welcome and congratulations to all newcomers. Please do make yourselves comfortable as we would like you to hang around for a long time

Hoping the best for those who are worrying.

I wonder if there is any news from Jacanne and Becky?

I've been very busy, but will try to catch up properly at the weekend. Right now, I'm gearing up for my already twice delayed anti-D shot. I'm not that adverse to injections, but this one does sound rather scary, as they will make me stay at the surgery for 30 minutes for observation, just in case I develop reactions and go into anaphylactic shock... gulp.

CONGRATULATIONS sparkly!!! Hope you have a wonderful, wonderful day

Gilda - good luck for this afternoon!!

And Meita, good luck for your anti D shot, hope you have a boring 30mins wait and just read magazines and it is all fine xxxx

Bitch woman from hell is "working from home" today (lies) - I had a dream last night where she apologised and it was really nice, I woke up and remember it's not true because she's horrible, haha, she would never apologise!

Hope everyone has a lovely long weekend, and hope it is not too stressful for everyone holding out 'til a scan - I am tempted to head down to Maidstone myself....

xxxxxx

Sparkly - hope you have a most wonderfully sparkly day tomorrow! Fx the scan goes smoothly so you can relax and have a brilliant honeymoon. Where are you headed?

Gi1da - best of luck this afternoon. Can't put a price on piece of mind. Will be thinking of you at 3pm.

Meita - good luck this afternoon too - eeeek!!

MsJL - how are you feeling this morning hon? Sorry I didn't read your post closely enough. Hang in there. I didn't have any symptoms really until at least 6+4 and they've only started with a vengeance these last couple of days.

ToomuchT and GLB - thinking of you both too!

hey G1lda peekaboo imaging in thamesmead is where i had my reassurance scan at 11 wks (the friday before my 12wk scan) - the ladies are really lovely there and the whole experience was so worth the money - good luck.

sparkly - how wonderful - have a fab day. GOod luck for the scan too.

Sparkly congrats and hope you have a really wonderful day tomorrow - what a special day for you and hope the weather is lovely.

G1lda best of luck with your scan today. Really hope it goes well.. let us know!

GLB hope your day is going okay even though the horrible woman in work is around!

Meita hope your anti-d shot goes ok!

Alba great news your scan went well - that's fab that the dates were all on track.

No news with me, trying to be patient girl. Got my 12 week scan on Tuesday at 8.30am. I would just love for it to go okay. DH is being just amazing and ah I just love him so so much I'd love it to work out. Belly is getting bigger for sure but don't feel ill anymore and boobs still huge but not quite as sore so I dunno. I just don't know what to think. I think it's going to feel like a very very long weekend though so going to try and keep busy and do things around the house.

I would just like to point out that although I am coincidentally 'working from home' I am not GLB's colleague, aka Bitch Woman from Hell!

Crikey Meita, good luck!

Toomuch, MrsJL my symptoms have come and gone and come and gone. None have been that extreme, I simply can't eat carrots or courgettes (taste weird) and just recently seem to be suffering from the occasional bout of carsickness (in everyday life, am fine in the car!) My mum said the only symptom she ever had was going off coffee so try not worry if you're not feeling odd.

Thanks for the well wishes all.