Totally's Grads Part Deux - Let's handhold through pregnancy after MC

[LeeWT]

So many threads by so many names but this thread is a place to come after TTC after MC..

Deposit your worries in the box by the door and grab a cuppa! :-)

Hi Goodluckbear - I remember you too! And congrats to you as well! How lovely that we've both moved onto a pregnancy thread.

toomuchteaching - thanks for your welcome!

Glad I'm not the only crazy one! Think it probably is normal. Is it wrong to be a bit disappointed that my three a day doubledecker habit is now at an end....?

Hi and welcome Limelight lovely to have you here. the early days are a bit terrifying really aren't they? hopefully it will get easier for you when it sinks in a bit. Not promising it becomes any less frightening though!

Toomuchteaching I couldn't bring myself to contact the doctors until 8 weeks this time...and then they didn't even want to see me! When I got my notes they were hurriedly stashed to the back of the drawer as if I would jinx them just by looking at that front cover with a due date on it.

I'm only just beginning to relax now.

Meita your holiday sounds fab! So glad you had a lovely time and hope the tum is a little better now. I watched a great programme about coral a few weeks back - how it eats its opponent as it spreads - lovely!

Oh, did I tell anyone, I felt the baby move on Sunday night?
At last!!! Feeling much happier and more positive this week.

Love to all x

Hi Ladies,

Sorry I haven't been on in the last few days. I was just so nervous before Sunday (9 weeks) and I don't know I just felt like all I'd be saying is I'm so worried but now here I am and that's what I'm saying!

So fingers crossed Sunday came and I've finally reached the 9 week mark (after having dates pushed back at 8.5 weeks to 7 +2 and I never thought I'd reach 9 weeks) so I have and that's good but it just feels like total limbo land now until the 12 week scan. I'm trying not to wish it away but it's just so hard. I'm just constantly worried and glad to hear others are still knicker checking too.

Barrenb - best of luck with your scan tomorrow. Got everything crossed for you.

ToomuchTeaching - when we MC'd in late Feb I was just beyond nervous about going to the whole bedroom action again, now needless to say we did given that I'm now on the pregnancy thread (which I'm so happy and thankful about!) but then once I got the positive test I went on another oh I'm so nervous now about any action in case of MC.. so we have had a much much less active few weeks but just take it easy when we do if that makes sense. Fingers crossed all has been okay so far. To be honest I'm just so exhausted in the evenings it's only at the weekends that I can even think about it. This tiredness thing is so funny i was asleep last night by 9.30 - earliest I'd say in about 15 years!

Limelight - big huge welcome to you. This thread is just fantastic and the ladies are all super lovely.

Well I'm freezing cold here and just to leave work to go home and get a cuddle from DH but my boss is still here so got to hang around another while.

Hello to you all and hope you are all doing well

Lovely to see you Happy 9 weeks is bloody brilliant! Totally understand the nervousness, but sending you extra Happy Vibes anyway! We will be adding you to the list before you actually give birth won't we?

Limelight congratulations and welcome!!!

Sarahlou gosh how fab to feel baby moving, you must be delighted. I have NO idea how that might feel, must be very peculiar (in a nice way of course!)

BarrenB looking forward to good news for you tomorrow. Well done on getting your appointments so quickly!

Boodle I'll join you in a sun-dance. Good grief, it's May, Sun pull your finger out and get shining!

Here's our Tuesday List
Jacanne - GIRL - 37+6 wks - due 29th April/6 May
Becky78 - baby#1 - ??? - 37+1 wks, due 12th May
Meita - baby#1 - (not telling) - 26 wks, due 17th August
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 21+5 wks - due1 2th sept next scan - 4th May
TFLS - baby#1 - 20+5 wks, due 29 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 20 wks, due 30th Sept - 20 week scan 24th May
Louisesh - baby#1, 19+5 wks, due 1st Oct
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), 17+5 wks, EDD 14th October
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 17+1 wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 17 wks, EDD 20th October, dating scan & nuchal test 13.04.10, 20 week scan 07.06.10
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 16+4 wks, EDD 22nd October
DomesticGOddess - baby#? 16+3 wks, EDD 22nd October, 12week scan on 8th April
emmielou81 - baby#5 (DS 6, DD 3) - 15+5 wks, EDD 28th October
BestLaidPlans - baby#1, 12+6 wks EDD 14th November
Unbuffy - baby#2 (DD 16 months) - 11 wks. EDD 30th November, scan 21st May
Goodluckbear - baby#1, 8+6 wks, EDD 15th December
JodieO - baby#4 (DD 8, DS1 6, DS2 3) - 7+3 wks EDD 25th December next scan 12th May
Gilda - baby#1 - 7+3 wks, due 25th December
sparklyrainbow- Baby#1 6+3 EDD 1st January 2011
AlbeDeTamble - baby#2 (DS 2) - 6+2 wks EDD 2 January
toomuchteaching - baby#1 5+3 wks EDD 8th January

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb
Cheepz - one DS, recent MMC w9, 26th March
Freezing - one DD, recent MC w11, 28th March

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010

Hi everyone!!

I'm just sneaking in to update the list for Wednesday, as today I'm nine weeks on the dot and so I'm passed the point things started going wrong last time - happy days!!

Wednesday:
Jacanne - GIRL - 38 wks - due 29th April/6 May
Becky78 - baby#1 - ??? - 37+2 wks, due 12th May
Meita - baby#1 - (not telling) - 26+1 wks, due 17th August
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 21+6 wks - due1 2th sept next scan - 4th May
TFLS - baby#1 - 20+6 wks, due 29 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 20+1 wks, due 30th Sept - 20 week scan 24th May
Louisesh - baby#1, 19+6 wks, due 1st Oct
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), 17+6 wks, EDD 14th October
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 17+2 wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 17+1 wks, EDD 20th October, dating scan & nuchal test 13.04.10, 20 week scan 07.06.10
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 16+5 wks, EDD 22nd October
DomesticGOddess - baby#? 16+4 wks, EDD 22nd October, 12week scan on 8th April
emmielou81 - baby#5 (DS 6, DD 3) - 15+6 wks, EDD 28th October
BestLaidPlans - baby#1, 13 wks EDD 14th November
Unbuffy - baby#2 (DD 16 months) - 11+1 wks. EDD 30th November, scan 21st May
Goodluckbear - baby#1, 9 wks, EDD 15th December
JodieO - baby#4 (DD 8, DS1 6, DS2 3) - 7+4 wks EDD 25th December next scan 12th May
Gilda - baby#1 - 7+4 wks, due 25th December
sparklyrainbow- Baby#1 6+4 EDD 1st January 2011
AlbeDeTamble - baby#2 (DS 2) - 6+3 wks EDD 2 January
toomuchteaching - baby#1 5+4 wks EDD 8th January

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb
Cheepz - one DS, recent MMC w9, 26th March
Freezing - one DD, recent MC w11, 28th March

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010

Morning all, it's not good news I'm afraid, another mmc. Scan showed a sac measuring 6 weeks 3 days and nothing else. Have opted to leave it and miscarry naturally this time, can't face going in to hospital again. Sorry to be bearer of shitty news. I'm off back to join the others. Loads of luck to you all for the rest of your pregnancies ladies. As you were x

Oh no BB.
That is so unfair, and sad. I wish there was something I could do for you.

Take care of yourself, ok? And get as much RL support as you can. I'll be thinking of you.

Thanks Meita, I'm ok, just concerned now that it's 3 in a row where the hell we go from here.

Oh BarrenB, I'm so sorry. That's so unfair, I know there aren't any platitudes. Just want you to know that I'm thinking of you, so sorry for your loss.

BarrenB am so sorry; I lurked yesterday on here, and popped back in to see any update. We've missed you on the other thread and it'll be lovely to have you back; but I wish you didn't have to.

hi to all - special wave to Alba and Gi1da.

Barrenbrook - so sorry to hear your sad news, hope you get the top notch care you deserve.

Warning self absorbed post follows

I'm a nervous wreck, 8+3 today, and for the last 3 days I've had a naggy, stingy, uncomfortable pain above my symphysis and over to the left hand side. Don't have any urinary symptoms and apart from a bit of constipation nothing out of the ordinary. I'm passed myself with worry as I had the same symptoms before the last miscarriage. Due a scan next monday.
Any advice or ideas?

Barrenbrook I don't believe it you poor poor thing.. that's just absolutely terrible for you. I hope you get lots of comfort and support and that the docs look into this now for you properly so that hopefully you are back here soon again. I'm so so sorry to hear your news.

I had a bit of a weird evening myself yesterday. Went home and went to the loo, for the first time prob in 1.5 days had to go #2 (sorry that sounds so childish - don't know how to put it nicely!). it was uber painful and really sharp and sore and I just knew there was going to be a bit of blood back there as I had that in my late teens when I had IBS. The thing is there was quite a lot and then when I wiped from the front it seemed like there was a bit but I was convinced it was just mixing with the bit from the back. Does that make sense?? I went to the loo about a million times yesterday evening to check and each time the front was 100% clear but the back had blood.. It's stopped now but I'd be pretty sure I'm still constipated and when I go again it'll happen again. From my very limited knowledge I know that constipation is normal but I don't know how worried I should be.. Like I know it's normal but then this morning I had more pains and I haven't had them in a few days I'm trying to tell myself the bean is just moving about hopefully and getting bigger. Oh I don't know. 12 week scan is 2 weeks 6 days away (not that I'm counting!).. Just don't know what to do, still have all the symptoms but then you hear about an MMC and it's like oh no. Oh I dont know. I'm just so worried. DH was amazing but like I just love him so much I would love this to work out for us (as i know we all would onthis thread).

Dunno what to do like I'm thinking I should sit pretty and hopefully things are okay.

BarrenBrook I really am just so sad for you.. I've been writing this post for ages and that's just such sad sad news for you. I was so happy you were over here also cos you were on the MC thread. I really hope you are okay.

barrenB So sorry love that is terrible news. Know exactly how you feel! The only upside is they do start taking things abit more seriously once you have had 3 - I have an appointment with specialist next week, so they will look at possible cause etc. You know where we are when you need us - but so wish you were not coming back! Much love

Malteser sorry just saw your post.. hopefully all is okay.. all i can impart is that I asked my GP about the pains I was getting early on (and this morning) which were the same as what I got when I MC'd and she insisted that pains etc are normal as the bean is moving around and getting bigger hopefully etc.

I say that and I'm worried sick myself so I have to try and believe that also!

Good you have a scan though on Monday that's good

Barrenbrook I'm so, so sorry, as others have said, it's so unfair. I hope you do get some good followup care now and some answers. Gutted for you.

Malteser and Happy sorry about your scary symptoms... Hopefully happy it's just piles, unpleasant, but so common in pregnancy, especially if you've been constipated. Malteser I remember so many scary twinges in my first, successful pregnancy. But it is so hard to assume the best. I'm going with stress reduction as my best tactic and using relaxation tracks which does help overall anxiety levels, not that I'm not having my fair share of wobbles, but have to assume the best and relaxing seems to be the best for the baby.

I've booked a reassurance scan for 2 weeks time, was nerve wracking doing it, the idea of a scan filled me with dread.

It's so uncertain but we've got to believe we'll all get there in the end. Barrenbrook, I have a friend who had 6 miscarriages, most before her first baby, never any explanations, but she now has three lovely children. What you're going through must be just awful, but there is always hope.

Barrenbrook so sorry. Hope you get some answers soon. Take care of yourself. x

barrenbrook thats awful news, I'm so sorry this has happened to you again, very very sad. Are they going to look into it this time? I think it's really sad that this has to happen three times before theres anything you can do.
Take care of yourself and hope you have lots of family and friends around you xxx

Sorry BARRENBROOK take care of yourself.I too have had 3 MCs but nearly 20 weeks now....I know you won t now, but hopefully, to give you a small glimmer of hope.X

BarrenB I'm so so sorry. That's absolutely the shittest. I hope you get some answers following this and that you'll be back with us soon. Take good care x

Bit knocked sideways over BarrenB, it's just so shite, so just a few quick hellos.

Jolls lovely to see you, hope everything's ticking along well with the house etc x

Malteser crikey I didn't know what a symphysis was, but sorry you're having stress. Hope you get some answers on Monday. [hug]

Happy poo juice, I mean prune juice if you can bear it - and LOTS of water. Have also been suffering a bit

Wishing you all a peaceful evening

And if anyone can reassure me that it's ok for symptoms (inflated/achy boobs etc) to disappear then that would be great. Not feeling very positive at the mo.

Hope everyone else is faring well x

Oh barrenbrook so so sorry. I don't even know what to say. Too sad, I hope you get all the support you need.

And G1lda I'm there too, boobs fine this morning, and tiredness I just can't believe is down to being pregnant. If I feel even slightly nauseous I think it's just because I'm so bloody nervous all the time. I can't believe I'm saying this, but bring back the sore nipples! I know that's not reassuring at all.

Have a good day everyone, x

Sorry Gi1da, my typing is rubbish!

Hi guys - I think those symptoms do come and go!! I felt fine a couple of days ago, totally unpregnant - could really understand those stories about women not knowing they were pregnant and then going to the loo and popping out a baby. Today I feel sick and boobs are sore again.

I imagine (in my head, have not been told this by anyone who really knows anything about medicine) that the symptoms will come and go depending on hormones and interaction with everything else (mood, food, sleep, etc) so somedays good, somedays bad.

Anyway, I don't know if that's reassuring or not, I just think it can be totally normal.

xxx

Thanks for all your lovely, thoughtful messages. I shall continue to lurk to see how you all get on.

gi1da stay positive chick, easier said than done though I know. Sending positive bean growing vibes your way.