Totally's Grads Part Deux - Let's handhold through pregnancy after MC

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So many threads by so many names but this thread is a place to come after TTC after MC..

Deposit your worries in the box by the door and grab a cuppa! :-)

Congratulations Memorylapse that's brilliant!

Now an advance warning: I'm really upset and confused this morning, so having got the nice bit out of the way the rest of this post is gonna be a bit ranty.

So I got a call from the midwife this moring, a week after seeing my gp to tell them I'm pregnant. And she does not want to see me. She's going to book me in for an early scan (I am 8 weeks today btw). This could take a week to come through (9 weeks). And another week to wait for the appointment by my reckoning (10 weeks). If everything's okay then I'm to ring her and make an appointment to see her (another week to get mw appointment). And she'll do all the basic paperwork and bloods then. Which will probably mean that my 12 week scan will be late due to not being officially in the mw records and I won't be able to have the nuchal scan as that only runs until 12+6.

What is really irritating is that there was a scanning clinic at the local hospital (15 minutes away) yesterday, which they hold fortnightly, but not in 2 weeks' time as it's a bank holiday. If they'd pulled their fingers out I could have had a scan yesterday. Instead I have to go to the main hospital (an hour away) whenever they are able to fit me in - I'll get a letter.

Basically it feels like the mw reckons there's no point in her wasting her valuable time on what may not be a viable pregnancy. I'm so angry and upset I don't know what to do. I'm now waiting for a phone consult with my gp (who's being quite nice about it all) to see if this is what happens to everybody or if it's just me they won't touch with bargepoles.

So much for ante natal support post mc.

Appologies for long post, thanks for letting me vent. x

Hi, before I catch up with everyone properly, just wanted to say a huge congratulations to Memory, I must admit I am welling up a bit as I type, I'm really happy for you, I know you haven't had it easy. Are you the first on the May list? I haven't been over as my date is fast approaching and I'm trying really hard to stay focussed on this one.
My first scan is tomorrow (13+4) and I'm terrified, but my feeling is that this one is okay - lets hope so.
Will catch up properly later, love to all xx

Good luck *Sarahlou8" X

sarahlou..I was 3rd on the list..I always found the anniversary of due dates really hard so I understand..good luck for your scan..sending you lots of lovely positive vibes

Unbuffy - that sounds pretty pants. She should arrange your booking appointment now, before you've had any early scans - that's surely what she'd do for anyone else?

I woke up in the night with really bad cramp, like very bad period pain. It lasted about 10mins, and today is quite mild. I kind of feel it's all over, but I'm not bleeding at all? Gah!! I have a scan in a bit over a week, so I guess I just have to wait until then to find out, not like anything can be done now anyway.

I wish I knew what a normal pregnancy was supposed to feel like . Sorry for the doom and gloom!

xxxx

Unbuffy, that's horrible. There are some fantastic midwives out there, but then there are some who plainly have chosen the wrong job! Could you get in touch with your "supervisor of midwives"? They might put you in touch with someone else who would see you sooner.

GLB I had lots of weird pains and still get them now - it's so scary, isn't it? But you're right, there is nothing you can do, so best to just wait and see and try to believe that it will be all right.
Fingers crossed for you.

Cheepz, Becky - good to hear from you both. Yes, am climbing up the list fast - that's why I want Apples to come join the list . Enjoy your maternity leave Becky! And cheepz, given sod's law I just know you will be preggers at the most inconvenient time.

Sod's law seems to have worked for me too! Monday night things started to look very grim for our holidays, so Tuesday we started looking for nice places to go and things to do in Cornwall. We ended up getting in touch with a hotel on the Isles of Scilly; they were fully booked but had had cancellations due to people not being able to fly in . We begged them to hold the room for us until we knew for sure that our flight would be cancelled, and they agreed. Well, it worked - a few hours after settling our alternative, it started looking better and better for our flight! Right now our plane is already on its way to Heathrow, so chances are it will leave for Dubai with us on board later today.
Lah-di-da-la-di-dah.... beach and sun, here we come!
(It will take us over 24 hours travelling time... but it's defo worth it!)
(Now got to go finish packing!)

Have a great time everybody, I'll check back in May 6th or May 9th/10th.

Good luck Sarahlou!

Oh Memory - congratulations and welcome to the world baby Olivia. Quite a story and I love your DH's comment!! Hope you're all settling down well now.

Meita - that's great. Been thinking of you everytime I watch the news. Get that case packed - you just need your swimsuit and a credit card! Not that I'm a worry wort but I always put my swimsuit in my handluggage as I reckon as I could manage without the rest of my luggage but not that! Don't know how you coped with the stress. I'm going off into floods of tears in the last week at the slightest thing. Hope you have an absolutely fantastic time - you'll forget about the journey once you're there. My PIL were due to arrive this week but can't make it until the end of next week (a day after we're due to fly out to Spain all together..... will be interesting)

Zayja - good news re the scan. I know it's early days but it's another step forward!

Louisesh - hope your Avon cream has arrived and working some magic. I think you can use hydrocortizone for short periods failing that. I've started getting hayfever so might need to have a word with the pharmacist about what I can take.

GLB - I'm another one who's had all sorts of aches and pains. It is really unnerving but I try to think about it as my body growing to accommodate the baby rather than focus on the worse. No idea re holidaying at 26-27 weeks as this is my first but think you might need a certificate from your midwife or GP to fly by that stage?

Cheepz - lovely to see you. Blimey with all that on your plate, will you and DH have time to ttc?? Sod's law does say that you'll get up the duff at the least convenient time so keeping my fingers crossed that we can steal you back here permanently! I was never good at sharing!

Becky - second on the list - yikes!!

Unbuffy - what a horrible midwife. But they can send off the scan paperwork in advance of your booking in appointment so I don't know what she hasn't done that. My midwife booked my dating/nuchal scan as soon as I rang to arrange my booking appointment which didn't happen for another couple of weeks. Don't want to add to your stress, but I would be insistent given the dating restrictions on the nuchal part. My dating scan put me 6 days further along than I thought - I had insisted on moving the nuchal scan forward as it was too close to the limit - if I hadn't moved it, my result would not have been valid. Good luck.

Sarahlou - fingers and toes crossed for you today.

Sorry if I've left anyone out - got a brain like swiss cheese at the moment.

Hi ladies,
I'm hoping to join you all as in need of some serious handholding! Only 5+3 but a nervous wreck...........you must know the feeling.
Take it there has been lots of good news recently, many congratulations to memorylapse. Enjoy motherhood.

Unbuffy- I know every PCT is different but in the hospital I work the scans are allocated depending on your gestation ie regardless of when the hospital receive the booking paperwork you will get a scan to perform the nuchal. I hope this is the case for you too.

Hi Malteser!!

Malteser - welcome! I certainly know the feeling, I'm a permanent nervous wreck (7+5).. the ladies here are wonderful!

MemoryLapse - huge big contratulations.. great to hear some good news. What a beautiful name also!

Unbuffy your MW sounds just awful, like absolutely awful. That just gives no confidence at all when they should be super confident to you.. you poor thing.. I really hope you get a scan sorted soon.

I've been trying so so hard to be really confident the last few days and to stay positive etc. Been feeling fine too and then today started to get these waves of pain above my belly button below the boobs.. they were really infreuqent but in the last hour they are like every 5 mins.. when I MC'd in Feb the pains were all below the belly button so I'm withholding hope that hopefully this is just my body moving to accommodate what's hopefully growing inside me but it's just one big gigantic worry.

Hello all I wonder if it would be OK if I joined you? I got my bfp today (which was a bit of a surprise) and have had two mc's in the past, one Sept '07 and one Oct '09.

I'm very scared, in fact I burst into tears when it came up positive, my last mc was so painful both physically and emotionally and I am so worried about going through it all again.

When did you all go to the docs? I don't want a scan before 8 weeks as they can't tell for certain so I was thinking of going about 7 weeks plus.

Welcome Malteser and ClaireDeLoon - congratulations! This is THE place for nervous hand-holding. I think I found those initial weeks after the BFP far more stressful than ttc! CDL - I think I rang to book in at about 8 weeks - too nervous to do it before then.

Happygirl - sounds like your ligaments stretching. I found it quite a sharp sensation that lasted for a couple of minutes and moved around.

No meita yet which I'm taking as a good sign - hope she's well on her way by now.

No news from Sarahlou yet.

Hi all, welcome newbies , I'm a bit worried about Sarahlou, hope you are ok hun. Too tired to post properly but will soon. SB x

Hello everyone so glad I found this thread. What a relief to find its normal to burst into tears after a positive result! I got my bfp last night and while my husband is overjoyed I cant seem to shake the feeling of something will go wrong. I am finding it hard to believe I really am pregnant. Has anyone else felt this way?

Hi newbies Ozymandias,Clairedeloon and Malteaser Welcome we ve ALL been through what you re experiencing now....It was absolutely terrifying until i had my first scan at 8 weeks, 4 days.

Lovely to hear from you TFLS how you doing? Yes, avon stuff came today i m now covered in it!!!!!!!!!! Bites slowly improving and yes i ve been using 1% hydrocortisone cream.

Have a lovely holiday Meita hope you ve got off X

Unbuffy hope you get somewhere X

Happygolucky Fingers crossed for you X

I m fine .Had a good day went to the midwife she heard the heartbeat and all my measurements in line with 17 weeks...But still loads of shie at work and tonight our car fuced!!!!! oh thats life isn t it? good and bad !!!!!!!!!

Hi to everyone else hope alls well X

Hi all,

Everything is fine
I've not long been back, our antenatal clinic is so busy that they're having to offer evening appointments to catch up, and I wasn't seen until 7pm.
Baby is fine, and was wriggling around so much waving it's hands, as soon as I saw it I started crying and the image kept flickering all over the place so had to calm myself down! The sonographer was lovely, I've got some lovely pictures and she's put me forward one day, to 13+5 edd 22nd October.
I've been feeling so emotional all day, I cried on the way home from work imagining how I would feel if the news was good or bad and I really can't believe that it's now looking very likely that I'm going to have a baby!

Meita Hope I'm not too late to wish you a very happy holiday, have a wonderful time!

Goodluckbear I'm going to Rhodes in August and will be 27 weeks going out and 29 weeks coming back. It was booked before I found out I was pregnant and I've posted separately on here about it and had some reassuring replies, so I'd say go for it, and September will be a bit cooler too. My midwife was fine about it - just check with the airline you're travelling with, you may need a doctors certificate.

Hope everyone else is okay, keep meaning to have a proper catchup but sickness is taking over the excitement of today and now I'm off to bed!

Night night all xxx

Thanks for the welcome girls! Can't tell you how chuffed I am to be here!

GLB - got my scan booked in for 5/5/10 when I should will be 7+3. Do you like the positivity? I'm trying so hard!

I've still got naggy left sided pain and cramps, but thanks to reassurance I got at the hospital I know is probably a corpus luteum cyst. Doesn't stop the paranoia though.

Hope everyone has had a good day. Big special congrats to Sarahlou!

sarahlou..thats fantastic news1

Congratulations Memorylapse! I am a bit jealous as, despite many episodes of false labour, my little lump has yet to make an appearance and I was kind of hoping she would before the section date. I am off to the hospital tomorrow for pre-ops and in next Thursday for the section - wish me luck

Congratulations Sarahlou

Yay Sarahlou!! That sounds lovely, glad it was a nice sonographer as well. Your EDD is my birthday, it's a great day to be born!!

I'm going to positive from now on too Malteser - I'm pretty sure the pain I'm getting (up in the night again!) is my guts or some such malarkey. Better to assume that I guess (although was obviously in tears again thinking it's all over!). But must be ok as it comes and goes, it's not constant... I am getting a scan at 7 + 3 too (in a bit over a week), hope we both get reassurance then.

Welcome CLD and Oxymandias - you're in good company here. Hard to believe you're pregnant....definitely!

Happy sunny day everyone!

oooo - good luck Jacanne!! Hope it all goes well, look forward to hearing about your new baby!

ooh good luck Jacanne..wont be long before you have your little bundle

Hello everyone, hope you're all well and enjoying the sunshine!

Updates: GP told mw what was what. mw saw me yesterday for about an hour (!). BUT. lots of cramping yesterday and some bleeding (bright red). Am booked in for scan at epac tomorrow morning, but it does not look good I'm afraid . Not feeling so sick and don't smell pregnant any more. Will let you know