Is there a thread for the old birds who are pregnant and over 40?

[hippychick66]

I'm on a fab thread on the ttc section but am now 7 wks preg .

I know it's early days but I wondered if there was a thread on here for the older pregnant woman who might be experiencing all the same things as me.

God, I hope I'm not tempting fate by coming over from the ttc side!!!!!

May I join in please.
I am 43, DD23, DS20.
Due 2nd Jan so very very early days but keeping fingers crossed. DH currently mute with shock and its much too soon to tell anyone else so need someone to celebrate with[grin[

Hello Howold! I know just how you feel very excited but noone to tell until first scan. Dh and I are both finding it hard to keep quiet(I've accidently told my sister ).

I'll help you celebrate!

Kiwikat -- I agree with your attitude. A healthy mother and baby at the end is all that anyone can wish for.

Thank you so much Kathsunn
Sooooooooo excited but wish I was ONLY 40.
You seem like a spring chicken to me.
Congratulations to every one.

Good memory, Lindalinda! I'm 10 weeks today. Welcome, Howold and Kathsunn - it's so damn exciting, and it's such a BIG secret! A little bit like Christmas, I guess. And we're the Christmas wrapping ... Sorry, have overindulged in chocolate, and it's made me a bit scatty.

But I'm 44, so you youngies have to respect my advanced years!

Hello, have been reading and lurking, and not sure if I can join in - am 39, this is my first pregnancy, am 8 weeks and due in December, and turn 40 6 weeks after expected DD.
waves

Miffster, you're more than welcome to join us.

Hi everyone and welcone how and miff.I'm a baby then at 43! Honestly i didn't even notice i had got so old until the mw mentioned the consultant appt. I had dc1 at 38 and dc2 at 39.75 and the consultant referred me back to the mw until 37w. Anyone who is brave enough to have IVF deserves the best possible care and the consultant care doesn't necessarily limit your birth options,just not as cosy as mw led care.

I'm tryng to get over a cold at the moment and have had one or the other of dc at home all last week as they got a sickness bug. I wasn't actually sick but have felt icky for a few days and none of us have any appetite which is most unusual . We were supposed to go on holiday next week but I'm not up to the jpurney(I have spd) so we've cancelled and I'm quite relieved about it. If I didn't have spd and a cold I'd be feeling great!

Having just completed my 3rd test in 24 hours, There doesnt seem to be much doubt, there really are 2 lines. I was made redundent in January, I have a very small house and two children aged 9 and 10. My husband has gone to work in shock, and has suggested we discuss 'options' as currently being unemployed and previously being the main wage earner, this is a serious wobble to our existance. We are paying the mortgage with my redundency money, whilst I look for full time work or become a self employed consultant. Am sat of the sofa, paralysed. Part scared, part excited, mainly terrified. We agreed not to tell anyone, I am days late so it is very early days. We took so long to conceive with my other two. I have never understood people who said we can't afford children. My husbands salary is only half the mortgage. Now I am just sat here with no one to talk too. When do you becoem a grown up, am 40, feel like I am 16.

This is my first post so please be gentle! I'm also 43 and 18 weeks gone with baby no. 4 (unplanned). Anyone have any ideas on how I tackle telling my 16 (almost 17) year old daughter? We've had a few wobbles recently and although she does talk to me a lot, I'm worried I'll alienate her and she'll go off the rails (has 26 year old boyfriend I don't approve of!). The other 2 are only 6 (twin boys) so I'm not so worried about them. PS - haven't told a soul I'm pregnant so far, other than my husband.

Welcome Summer and Dexter - so interesting that everyone on this thread has a different story to tell. It sounds like you both have a few things to deal with. That's what we're here for, to unload to.

There used to be one here, but we all popped. You're very welcome over there as well if you like. Good luck with your pregnancies. My daughter is gorgeous and so worth it.

Welcome Summer and Dexter. Summer I act like my 3 year old dd sometimes at the moment, pregnancy is not a mature time!

Good luck all you older mums to be. I had my third baby at 41...he is now 9yrs ....Fingers X for you all.
xxx

Hi Ladies,
Can I join you all on your journeys please?

I am 40 with one very unplanned and suprised about, dc number 3 and am 15+3 weeks along.
I have two lads 5.5 and 2.5,one stressed dp and one small house lol!

We did go through the shall we have it conversation ....for over a week! .....but I decided one more would not make much difference to us and really couldnt bear the thought of not keeping it, although dp knew that would be what I would decide from the start , he is fine with it too so alls well.

I am worried about being 40 and doing it all again though, certainly not looking forward to the sleepless nights again and getting up early to get dc1 to school this time ,nor the extra washing lol!
Oh and having a amnio next Thursday too and so not looking forward to THAT!

Havent told my lads yet about number 3 ,cant seem to find the right time,dc2 I will imagine will be too young to care less,but I am worried about telling dc1,somehow I think he will feel a bit put out by it,even more so when he finds out that he will be sharing his room with dc2...even though they get on most of the time.
Going to be tricky tomorrow as the midwife is coming to the house to do the all the normal prods and pokes and dc1 is at home because of voting at his school so he will be asking all sorts.....still perhaps thats the push I need eh? I think perhaps I ought to get on and tell him so he doesnt start telling his teachers that I am getting fat from all the food I am eating just lately!

xx

Hi SUMMER76

I have just read your last post,My pregnancy put a spanner in our planning too different to yours though really as I dont work anyway and dp has been self employed for many moons.We have months when money is tight and others when everyhing is fine,but we also worried about the finacial side of things,also about the house size and about everything else you can think of.The big one was that we were starting the process of emigrating this year ,so it has put paid to that but hopefully only for a while(dp is older than me and it will be his skills that get us the visa so we have to watch the time span because of his age).
One of my ways of thinking in the end was simlar to what lindalinda wrote about wanting a child later on and having not had this one how would I feel then,I also worried that if that was to happen what if I couldnt because of my age/health but the desire was unbearable and I ended up on another emotional rollercoaster.So much to consider I do feel for you,only you can decide on whats right for you.Like you say early days yet so take your time and weigh up your own whys and wherefors as everyones circumstances are so different.Good luck in deciding,I hope you make the right choice for you all.
xx

Welcome mmoomar. I have dc1 5.5 and dc2 nearly 4 and we didn't tell them until 28 weeks. We thought we'd wait for them to ask and they never did! dc1 is really excited, dc2 is not so sure.

Hi all,
I`m 40 in oct and pg with a planned baby no. 4.
dd1 17
dd2 14
ds1 6

All plaqnned and all family decision to have this one-im sooooooo excited . One thing i have found being older is i can this overwelming urge to sleep after lunch ! Not a good idea as im still working and have 3 dc`s to sort and an extension which has the whole house upside down !

Oh, there's a thread for old bags who are up the duff. 'tis the place for me.

40, baby number 3, due in Dec, when I will be the ripe age of 41.

Hello

I am 40, and 8.5 weeks pregnant! I couldn't not come and say hello. I was told getting pregnant would be really tricky, for reasons I won't bore you with, so it's a little miracle that I'm here. So it was planned but totally unexpected and I'm still getting my head around it all - when my head isn't in the toilet that is. Yuk. I'm realising that there's quite a lot about the physical journey of pregnancy that can really takes the magic away.

Hello to all and I guess I can join in too Im 40years young and just found out Im pregnant 5weeks so I know its early days with number 4 already have a 16, 12, 8 year old...My hubby is shocked, and asking if perhaps we should go to doc and get a pill for "you know what" but I feel as if this is my last chance and I would like to see it through if body willing to the wonderful end but I am a little scared and nervous about all that goes with being an older mum...I just want to be be contented knowing the decisions I make are right .....scary stuff

Hi,

I gave birth do my daughter when I was 40 years and 1 month.

She is now 3 months old!

Maybe I can join as well and help with tips!!!

G

Hi ladies,
Thanks for the warm welcome guys and hi to all the newcomers since my joining just yesterday,great to see so many of us old gals on here ,one in the eye for the superslim twentsomethings
Hope everyone is feeling ok today.
Just had the midwife in and had my first listen to bears( looks like a bear on 12wk scan lol) heartbeat...fab stuff!
Was in a panic when she turned up as ,I presume dc2,had hidden my notes.Spent bloody ten minutes looking for them when she arrived,felt so ....little devil! Found them in the porch hid behind his buggy,wouldnt mind but I had only put them in the sitting room about half an hour before she came,they are normally kept out of reach ....GRRRR!!.

Wonderful stuff ,someone remind me why I am doing all this again to have it play me up rotton in 2 years time!

xx

...oh and why cant I spell anymore either.....pregnancy or old age?