The pregancy grump cafe. Come whine and whinge here while drinking espressos.

[Thandeka]

Am 36 weeks pregnant. I can't sleep. Baby movements when she goes are massive and painful but then she will be silent for ages making me wish for the movement. Can't get comfy sitting or lying down. Have no motivation to do anything (am supposed to be working from home at mo). Having lots of braxton hicks but know I probably still have at least another four weeks of this and every day it gets just a bit worse! I know this is all part of natures master plan to make labour seem like a relief but grrrrrrrrr! Phew that felt better to whinge (despite me knowing I also have a lot to be thankful for- this baby is alive and kicking (previous mmc), have not put weight on anywhere other than bump in fact lost weight everywhere else!, have not had piles, carpal tunnel, restless legs, swollen ankles or anything so prob by most standards this is a straightforward pregnancy (apart from the stopping breathing in night thingy and reduced foetal movement dramas!)

Please post your grumps here and enjoy ordering cyberrly all the things you shouldn't eat (mine is a baked in box Camembert and large glass of rose cava thanks!). Of course the added advantage of starting this thread is that of you are all feeling much worse than me, then I shall feel very nesh and maybe pull myself together instead of being a great big grumpy pants!

I've just got off the phone with my mum and I feel awful cos I've upset her. I think my point was valid, but she wasn't going to accept it and now I've upset her and I feel horrible.

I'm going insane stuck in the flat on my own - I have hyperemesis which means that the outside world is just a place of torture - I walked round tescos trying not to cry at the sight of all that food looking at me, and car rides make me feel so sick. I'm barely sleeping cos I feel so sick and I'm so tired. My boyfriend has been away on the long weekend trip that we were both meant to go on - I had a phone call and a text since Thursday morning which is ok, just kinda wished he wanted to say hello a little more often which is quite clingy for me. Moved to his area so I know no-one and not being able to leave the house means that I can't get to know anyone very easily (I could hold posters up in the windows?).

So my afternoon was great when I called my mum and she chatted with me and looked at stuff on the internet with me, and it was nice to have someone to chat to, until we drifted into one of those rows where you look back and think that it just wasn't worth having cos its so destructive, and now I've just sunk into a sobbing lump of queasy self centered self pityingness and I could just do with a hug, you know?

Sorry. Just wanted to tell someone I didn't mean it. I would call her, but I know that she'll need a little time to cool off and I can't see me ringing repeatedly until she or my father answers and then crying down the phone is going to make anything any better is it?

Poor Muddychipmunk I didn't want to let your post go unanswered. I've had moments like that with my mother in the past and they feel so so HORRID at the time but it will get better, please don't worry too much. How many weeks pregnant are you? The nausea is just unbearable, isn't it? But this too shall pass, believe me. I also understand your feelings of loneliness since you moved to a new area: I moved a few months ago and don't have anyone yet I can pop round to see. Things will get easier for you .

jardins thank you. Thank you for replying so quickly as well. Tears pouring down my little chubby cheeks - I'm 12+2 at the moment and appear to have hit a wall of hormones at Mach 1 speed all of a sudden. I'm fed up of feeling sick and throwing up and staring at the tv glassy eyed at 4 am hoping I'll feel sleepy soon, and having to eat carbs every two hours cos my tummys rumbling even though I'm so not hungry. Sorry. I'm a bit of a mess but I'm sure I'll get better soon.

Tell you what - I'll pass on the support to someone else who's hormonal and unreasonable and knows it, in the future. But at the moment, I'm considering hiding under the table for a few hours - perhaps I can escape from myself there?!

Ah wonderful, you have reached the famous end of first trimester mark, sooooo, things will slowly and surely ease up on the vile nausea front. In all three pregnancies I found I would have a day or two when things would ease up and then another day or two when I felt sick again BUT things really improved so by 16 weeks I was virtually normal again.

Poor you. I imagine you are feeling wretched and alone. I LOATHE the first trimester: I would honestly say I didn't feel human at all. Infact nausea makes me go off the strangest things. Here's an example: one of the only things that got me through those awful weeks was reading novels. Result? I haven't been able to pick up a novel since the end of the 1st trimester: the thought of reading one makes me sick. Very strange.

Please believe me when I say that it'll all be worth it in the end. They may seem like empty words to you now but you will be in seventh heaven when your baby arrives.

I'm sure your mum is feeling remorseful about your argument too. Don't worry hunnybunny you'll patch things up nice and quickly.

I thought being pg would be lovely and joy filled but it isn't; it's crappy.

I feel pukey all the time, I'm snappy and growly with my lovely dp. I swing from being madly in love with dp and feeling totally gooey about him to being enraged that he is taking so long to make poached eggs - if I were doing it it'd be done by now. Really I ought to be thinking aw he's making me breakfast he's so kind...but no, I'm a meany monster with meany monster thoughts.

I know my packed lunch will make me feel better but can't face eating it. I'm anxious that the baby's not there, not ok, not human.
I worry that by being growly and grumpy I'm polluting my babe with negative stuff. I worry about all the car fumes I inhale while waiting 20 mins for my bus each morning.

I've started to envy the figures of lean, teenager actors like Sookie Stackhouse - I've never done that before but now that I'm a fatty I resent their carefree, youthful shape.

Rant rant rant - ah thanks for listening. I'm done now.

I'm going to sit back now and have brie with cranberry relish on toast and have hot drink with milk in without puking.

mama2moo I sympathise - have just hit 39 weeks, and find that when I stand up I have the urge to hold onto my bump as it feels like it's going to fall out or something!

Morning sickness has made a very unwelcome return in recent days, too.

Herbalholly I'm having a bit of an aversion to milk myself and it's driving me crazy! On the plus side, have been able to partly get over general problem with dairy by starting with actimel probiotic drinks, then just having a little little cheese or milk now and then.

Looking forward to getting up in the mornings and not being sick.

Everyone's loving telling me and DP how we'll get no sleep - I just say, well, I'm up every 3 hrs for the loo at the moment anyway!

tell you what, little fella isn't half kicking me with a whallop now. Getting that 'Alien' tummy thing a lot too - seeing a foot sweep across my bump and feeling him kick right down inside.
The little monkey!

I keep trying to capture the movement on my phone's camera, but I think he's camera shy; he always seems to know (like when I say to his dad, 'look, look!') and seems to stop when he knows he's being watched!

I feel a fraud as my woe's are not as bad as other poster's! Randomly did some proper chucking in the early hours of sat morning. Sat daytime was good til i nearly passed out in a shop. Dp then told me i was grey! I do feel better after 13 hours rest- though still look corpse like. Still have bloody mucas too so back to doc's i think for the 3rd time! i also want milkshake but it will make me vom. Keep thinking i feel babe move but am sure its wind- grr! Moan over. Champers and brie with cranberry here please

IM STILL PG! 40+2 - I am sick of the texts asking if anything is happening, sick of the bh's that sometimes feel real and sick of waiting!

Rant over

herbalholly hah hah yeah I find myself looking at all the young students wandering around my town and get quite jealous too! They have no idea how lucky they are - I'm looking forward to motherhood, and me and DP being mummy and daddy bear on many levels, but I do think how lucky them young uns are - they have no strings, no reponsibilities, tiny waists...disposable income...!
Man I hate them!!

28 weeks pregnant and I havem't had a decent night's sleep since I was pregnant- generally wake up at least 5 times a night with heartburn/general wind or just for no bl&&dy reason.

Constant heartburn and indigestion during the day. Knackered from lack of sleep - just moved house - DP appears only to be unpacking garage despite not working while I am working silly hours. Oh and he reckons he's stressed. And if he tells me one more time that pregnancy isn't an illness and women rum marathons at 8 months pregnant I shall scream

I'm only 8.5 weeks along and have been so miserable already for 4+ weeks that I find myself jealous of ANYONE who isn't pregnant! Ridiculous I know but I feel it all day long, anyone I see or talk to and they seem to feel so normal while I feel sick-sick-sick and bloated and disgusting. I'm even jealous of all you ladies right now because you are all further along than me and pretty soon you won't be pregnant anymore and I still have months and months and MONTHS togo! waaaahhh!!!! (thanks I needed that ridiculous rant)

I am 40+3 and utterly fed up! My 2 other DC's were over due by 9 & 13 days so I shouldn't be surprised this one is going over too. It's just not fair...

I also swear that if anymore fuckers friends text or call me to find out if the baby has arrived I will not be responsible for what I say or do. Yeah check the time difference - I am in Australia, you are in the UK. NOT THE SAME TIME!!!

Guess who got a call at 12:30am then a text at 6:00am last night??

As if I would keep the babies arrival a secret...

I'm off to seek out chocolate and improve my mood!

hi im 9wks, and feeling like crap, i feel i want to be sick( but havent) i work alot, and can only go for so long then sit down for a rest, im out of breath, my clothes not fitting, and my boobs, and the getting up in the night a few times for a wee. then people say aww how you feeling, well the next person is gonna get it xx im on my 4th baby, my youngest is 14yrs, and have had 5 miscarriges since,and the midwife told me you are classed as an elderly mother, im only 37, why dont you put me out to pasture, . plus she looks like she came out the ark, and built like a brick shit house.

i got that off my chest

Elderly?! WTF

What an odd thing to say!

My moan is that I have hyperemsis and somone saw fit to give me a bloody tummy bug! [envey]

I'm 32 weeks and soo fed up - breech baby is somewhere up under my ribs which meant cleaning the house today and all the bending made me feel totally sick and breathless! headache as well so feeling thouroughly miserable!

20 weeks and in agony with SPD/PGP/whatever the fuck they call it nowadays. Walking hurts, sitting hurts, standing hurts, lying down hurts.

Also have constant heartburn from hell (and have had for the last 12 weeks) and now suspect I have thrush Work is stressing me out completely and all I want is a good nights sleep.

Off to GP tomorrow but will have to walk as bastard car broke down yesterday and I cant get anyone to fix it til Monday plus the bloody washing machine is on its last legs and not draining properly. Fed up to the max.

Oh, and theres no chocolate in the house

31 weeks and I swear this baby is coming out of my ribs alien-style ow ow ow.

STILL feeling sick and having 3 lbs of baby shoving up against my stomach is really not helping.

burp

Can't breathe unless I sit back like a banana.

Am just the enormous woman. Sat next to my size 8 SiL this afternoon, OMG I'm at least 3 times her width, maybe more!

So tired I fell into bed when we got home tonight, but now up with the usual queasy/ heartburn/ breathless combo.

RRRRRAAAAARRRR!

Plus the next person to say "not long now" when there's at least 7 more fun-filled weeks to go will get The Look.

Thanks for listening!

Hello. I've had a good whinge on couple of other threads, but I have a smorgasboard of gripes so I've saved one just for you. I'm early on, nearly 10 weeks and so far have only had pukiness, tiredness, enormous but excruciating boobs and nosey MILs to deal with. Spent all today looking forward to going out to dinner with DH and friend. Until I got my latest symptom. Horrible constipation and wind that I had no idea was humanly possible. In a crowded restaurant, in a booth. Have you any idea how hard and unbecoming it is to, erm, contain oneself while everyone was wolfing down their dinner? . I actually thought I was going to have to go to A&E with the pain and then erm, I had relief if you know what I mean.But now I need a new name, I was very unladylike this evening.

Good God. How does anyone actually make it to 40 weeks? I've heard all about losing one's dignity in labour but I think mine will have already gone by 12 weeks.

That's all, thanks for listening.

i am sick of dealing with car issues and having to maintain a pleasant disposition when really some ppl are about to be verbally attacked by an angry pg lady whose jeans wont do up. Am shitting myself about my scan 2moro yet ppl keep saying scans are lovely- they are if you know your baby is alive and everything is ok and your not completely paranoid and hate hospitals. Plus did want to find out the sex and now nervous about finding out (i dont have a preference) but really want to know. Im cold and want a big glass of champers and cake and my clothes to fit! i now have to get dressed after my bath deal with my hair and put some slap on as a grey pregnancy glow means i look like a junkie. Moan over. I do apologise.