The pregancy grump cafe. Come whine and whinge here while drinking espressos.

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Am 36 weeks pregnant. I can't sleep. Baby movements when she goes are massive and painful but then she will be silent for ages making me wish for the movement. Can't get comfy sitting or lying down. Have no motivation to do anything (am supposed to be working from home at mo). Having lots of braxton hicks but know I probably still have at least another four weeks of this and every day it gets just a bit worse! I know this is all part of natures master plan to make labour seem like a relief but grrrrrrrrr! Phew that felt better to whinge (despite me knowing I also have a lot to be thankful for- this baby is alive and kicking (previous mmc), have not put weight on anywhere other than bump in fact lost weight everywhere else!, have not had piles, carpal tunnel, restless legs, swollen ankles or anything so prob by most standards this is a straightforward pregnancy (apart from the stopping breathing in night thingy and reduced foetal movement dramas!)

Please post your grumps here and enjoy ordering cyberrly all the things you shouldn't eat (mine is a baked in box Camembert and large glass of rose cava thanks!). Of course the added advantage of starting this thread is that of you are all feeling much worse than me, then I shall feel very nesh and maybe pull myself together instead of being a great big grumpy pants!

Ahh at last ive found a home

Im only 26 weeks but this pregancy has sucked from day one and looks all set to be rubbish to the end

whinges
nausea - still, if i dont eat frequently and even if i do it comes on everyday around 5 and 6pm
No appetite - most food still looks like a bad idea
exhaustion - have to be in bed by 7 and even going to the corner shop feels like running a marathon
The burps - they are incessant i sound like the intro to Paul Mcartneys frog chorus
Thrush - im not even going to go there
Piles - or there
Incontinence - or there
Cant sleep - on my back i cant breath, on my left i feel sick, lying flat i get indigestion...the resulting position is frankly untenable

Ok i'll stop there as im boring even myself

Now for my food order
Id like my appetite back then I'll have a glass of champagne and a plate of brie, goats cheese and other soft unpasturised lovelies, some salami, cured ham (serrano, parma whatever..)and pate with some crusty bread. Oh and a soft boiled egg on the side

Roll on April, you cant come soon enough

If it is any consolation to anyone my last pregnancy was really rubbish and I hated it - I sailed through childbirth (with the help of some drugs I must admit) - kept focused on the thought that it was nearly all over, for at least the first 6 months of my dd's life I was on a high, not being pregnant any more was the most amazing feeling, having my body back was bliss - and dd was extra specialy cute

Roll on July after this baby I am never, ever, ever going to do pregnancy ever, ever again.

ok im goin to moan 37+2 and im fed up off people asking me "anything yet" or if i dont answer my phone due to me napping it sends them in a panic and i get bombarded with calls!!!
although i have DH with ma all day! also i had to asked if they are my MW and if not they will have to wait until i want to contact people!

also this weekend is my "babyshower" and i have had to get involved and find and pay for venue to hold it, so im "fumming" would love to cancel it more trouble then its worth but DH is saying just get it over with, i will never be involved in another shower!!!!!!!dont care whose it is! feel really let down with this all.

sorry no food issues and never drink!

23 weeks and suddenly really glum (last week or so). Fed up of being snowbound, no friends nearby, family miles away, partner doesn't understand - I keep crying and he's baffled. Working full time in low paid low status job that I don't like, struggling to keep on top of work work and domestic tasks, fat and tired (partner is brilliant round the house and it makes me feel guilty that he does so much while I am doing so little).

Worried about money, how we will cope in our tiny house, relationship after baby (I will be so ugly and boring that surely partner will want someone better?), and now convinced that such a miserable ungrateful b like myself is going to be a terrible mother and my poor child will be unhappy.

Is it hormones? I feel bad even moaning about it, I am excited about the baby and I know lots of people would kill to be pregnant I was really happy until a few days ago!

I'd also like to say that I am missing booze drinks and would love a cigarette despite having given up smoking years ago. I also miss clothes.

When I say "I miss clothes" I mean I miss having a choice - am not spending my pregnancy in the nip.

I need to add currently I keep saying to my DH I don't actually want this baby and can we give it away as I have changed my mind! I am not actually serious but I know I am freaking out a little bit about being responsible for a tiny person. I am far too lazy and selfish to be a good mum.

Aye carumba what have we got ourselves into ladies!

My grump today is that the baby is lying in a really weird position.

I think he is curled up and lying sideways across my bump.

When I get braxton hicks, my bump becomes a doughnut shape with a hole in the middle and it's bloody uncomfortable.

But apart from that, everything ok. I had heartburn and constipation a few weeks back, and for no apparent reason, it's vanished. I'm not complaining!!!!

haha at the image of a donut shaped bump! How odd! Is bub breech?

No, he's not breech just now, but has been on and off for a while. I have a heart shaped uterus, so presumably he is finding the way which is most comfy for him.

At my early scans, I was told that the pg was in the right horn of my uterus, and now I can see that is exactly where he is. I am very uneven and lopsided.

DS was exactly the same, but at the time i thought it was normal, first pg and all that. He ended up getting stuck breech at 32 weeks and I had a section, so I am not holding out great hope for this one going head down either.

Section recovery + leg in plaster is going to render me completely useless (won't even be able to do crutches) but la la la la la la not even going to think about it until nearer the time....

Oh just thought of another thing...

I am the pastiest, palest greyest-skinned thing you'll ever see.
I don't smoke and Im not much of a drinker, but I have always succumbed to the odd sunbed session here and there (ok, once a week for last 10 years) and god, I miss them.

I'll have 12 minutes of electric beach please. And make it soon.

yaay somewhere to moan.

I've had enough today enough of the stupid weather enough of trying not to fall over enough of being bloody stuck in all weekend because it's too freaking cold to go out for too long!!!
Also had enough of waiting and worrying! Am only 11 weeks and got nearly two weeks to wait for my scan!! Had enough of worrying over every single thing (Already lost two and no children.) Had enough of heaving and not feeling hungry and had enough of just wanting to cry.
(Obviously am really really really happy to be pregnant though)

oooo buckler good luck with your scan. All sounds positive. Seeing a live one at 12 or 13 weeks after having had bad news scans is possibly the most amazing feeling ever xx

OOhh great somewhere to whinge! felt too guilty to whinge on my ante-natal thread.

So I am 32+4 and I would like to whinge about the following:

Leaky Boobs - all the bloody time

Heartburn - whether I have eaten or not doesn't matter. Gaviscon is my friend

Not being able to sleep properly as cant get comfy or bub breakdances me awake.

Changes in movement that make me panic- I didnt sleep a wink last night as was convinced that bub was not moving about as much as he normally does

Swollen hands and carpal tunnel - cant grip anything and this is yet another thing to keep me awake at night with pins and needles/numbness

BUT - I do love feeling him move when its not to kick my ribs or headbutt my bladder. I also love gazing at all the tiny baby clothes I have bought.

I would like to order a bottle of vintage champagne and a lovely bottle of Pinot Noir together with a plate of runny smelly cheese.

My whinge is that I am going to be house-bound all weekend.

Im nearly 16 wks and have been off work for most of the week due to our school being closed (teacher).

My DH has been around and has been getting us out and about in his 4x4 van but he's back at work today and my car is bloody useless in the snow and really won't move anywhere.

I had great plans for this weekend - looking at prams, going swimming (need to get my arse moving again), looking for maternity jeans etc. But the snow/ice has scuppered all that!

Ive not been overly bothered so far by the things Ive had to give up (not really a fan of runny cheeses, yolks etc) but last night I actually nearly cried as DH drank a pint of cider. I yearned for a very large glass of sauvignon blanc and a sneaky cigarette! Was very surprised at myself as pre-pregnancy it would take a lot for me to cry at all.

This morning's whinge is... Congestion! I am sick of dry sore bloody nose that i cant blow and now bloody mucus thus cant breathe and olbas oil is not the same as sudafed! Dp's cure- stop sniffing Also dp seems more interested in his phone and the tv that what i had planned this morning. On the upside bump is behaving oh and more snow tonight!

This is most certainly the group for me, I HATE being pregnant and can't wait to get my body back. Had a horrid scan this week where they told me (after lots of bruising and prodding) that baby is breach and could quite possibly be forced into an early C-Section - and that's bad news?!!

Sadly I did NCT so have been conditioned to think C-Section is bad, but would LOVE it to come 3 weeks early!!!

Have pretty much had all the nasty symptoms of pregnancy (except piles, and I don't want them thank you!), and am now just dealing with Carpal Tunnel which is the scariest one so far.

Can't wait for it to be over, and to get back on the wine (like properly, not this half glass nonsense!!)

36+4 and counting every minute!!!

38+5 with number 3
Fed up of DH complaining everytime I turn over in bed. I normally sleep on my front, and now having to sleep on my side leaves my arm, leg, hip numb.
I'm fed up of the shooting pains I get in my fanjo everytime I stand up or have to climb the stairs.
I'm fed up of back ache and not being able to get comfortable standing or sitting.
I'm fed up of DH still expecting me to run around after him and the kids.
I hate having to walk the children to school, especially now in the snow.

I am annoyed that I am expected to just get on with it, when all I want is to be pampered.

ahhhhh. Thank you.

I'll have some sushi, a nice dippy egg and lots of chocolate please.

Hey Sockmonkey - get back on our thread!!!!!!

now i hate the snow,hate,hate hate hate it!

it spoils my day plans without DCx4 and i have to deal with them all day and DSx2 think its all right to get up at 6.30am everyday!!!!!!!

ahhhhhhhhhhh is there anything i can give them for some extra sleep, they woke up DD this morning demanding breakfast which was out of order they could of waited so think and told them how selfish that was! angry hormones flying today people be warned and duck and run!!!!

Hello, back again for another theraputic whinge about how horrid it is to me 38 + 5 now, can't tell if I have a cold or if it just congestion or (most likely) both. Vaguely sore throat, horrid blocked nose, feel generally yukky but no temperature. I really want a lemsip but not sure if that would be a good idea.

Sick of the snow and being almost housebound. Thankfully DP loves driving in the snow so is taking me up check on my pony every day but otherwise I am getting such bad cabin fever.

Feeling very very sorry for those with young children to look after whilst being pregnant in this weather.

Hello, can I join in please and sorry in advance for a slightly indulgent, moaning post...

I am 17 weeks and in the first trimester I was expecting the hormones to kick in and for my moods to change, however it never happened. So I (wrongly) thought I was lucky and it was not going to have an effect on me and I would just 'glow' through the 2nd tri.

But no...

I basically am experiecing constant PMT type moods, my poor DH who is really very brillant is driving me crazy. For example how is it that I am able to put my dirty clothes in the wash basket and yet he just leaves them on the floor next to it???? (now follows a total over the top rant at poor DH while I conviently forget that he has done all the cooking for the past 3 months due to my nausia).

But my anger is not only directed at him, it is mostly towards mysel. Why is it that I am so unorganised, untidy, look s**t all the time, have not shaved my legs for weeks, foget EVERYTHING, going on MN instead of writting my 4000 word essay and just wanting to sit on the sofa watching boxsets all the time?

Also am I the only one who seems to have a baby growing on my arse instead of my stomach? Non of my knickers fit anymore, not because of a lovely pregnancy bumb but because my bum is expanding daily. And the snow is preventing me from going out to buy some nice new pants.

Can I please have a whole bottle of white wine, with a load of bree, cambert, goats cheese and bread please.

Thank you ladies feel better now

Thank god I found this! I am only 9 weeks and I have a feeling that I may take up permanent residency in the Grump Cafe.. My pregnancy was unplanned so not only do I feel like I'm hungover everyday, have an alien inside of me taking all of my energy, and have the digestive system of my grandmother, this years overseas trip has to be cancelled. Whinge whinge...
I would like a bottle of pink champagne and a case of Brie with a couple of cooked chooks that have been sitting in a greasy cafe for half a day please!

Crikey, im only 9 weeks PG and i feel like shit!!

2ND PG and my god ive never felt so bloody tired, sick, moany and just shit!!!

Like Buckler, ive finally got my DRs appoinment on monday and then have to bloody wait ages for a scan, its a nightmare. Crap history of SPD and Cholestasis coming my way BOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Just realized that I may be the only one on here not in the UK / Europe. If it is any consolation it is bloody hot here in oz and my car's ac has decided to throw in the towel... I'm wondering what is so beautiful and natural about this pregnancy gig anyway! Surely popping out a pink or blue egg would be more humane?

Ha kmac80 so true but my god it will be a big egg!!

Hope your enjoying the sun x

Excuse me, please, while I have a rant about my mum. She is driving me round the BEND!

I'm 38wks with DC1. This is her fourth grandchild. I get several emails/texts a day from her, expressing her worries about the baby's arrival, telling me how nervous she is, panicking that the new moses basket mattress hasn't arrived yet, worrying because I am having a home birth ("But what if something happens ??"), panicking about the snow...

AAARRGGHH!

I think she has forgotten which of us is the parent and which is the child... or which one of us is actually having the baby. She actually said to me today, "Well, I'm glad you seem to be so calm and relaxed about it all!" as if I am somehow offending her by not getting into a state!

I would happily put up with the SPD, the carpal tunnel syndrome, the insomnia, the heartburn... if only my mum would shut up! It's not my job to keep reassuring her.

I tried complaining to my best friend, but she just said she thinks it's sweet!