Can I have a different kind of grump?! I just need to vent a little, and any advice/sympathy noises will be gratefully recieved!!
I'm 11 and half weeks pregnant, (scan tomorrow, yay!). Its my first baby and this pregnancy has hit me hard, I never expected it to be this hard before we started TTC!!! I'm constantly knackered, constantly being sick and just generally feel really really rubbish. (Fingers crossed for feeling better in a few weeks!!)
Anyway, all that is enough to make me grump in itself but DH (the D is debatable at the moment!!) is really starting to piss me off... its not just hormones! We've just had another falling out cuz I asked him to make tea and he had to get off his Xbox. Bearing in mind he had been on it for four hours already, I don't think I was being unreasonable.
His whole attitude is that I'm using this pregnancy as an excuse to be lazy, he does not appreciate at all how poorly I'm feeling. He just has strops and moans every time I ask him to do something that I'm finding difficult to do, for example cook cuz its turning my stomach with the smell, cleaning cuz the cleaning products are making me sick with the smell etc etc. The Christmas Tree and decs are still on the stairs cuz he still hasn't bothered to put them in the attic and I just can't do it myself. (17 full days living on the stairs now!)
Now a lot of this is nothing new, he was ruined by his mother to the point where she opened his curtains each morning, made and changed his bed and tidied his room for him among other things at aged 26, so when we moved in together 3 years ago and instantly had a battle on my hands! And believe me it is a LOT better than it used to be helping around the house wise, but now I'm pregnant and struggling and asking for a little bit more, all I'm getting back is "God your only pregnant, why can't you do it." Now believe me I know being pregnant is not an illness, but some support would be great.
I've tried the whole explaining things and how I'm feeling many times, and he has man pregnancy books which I bought which explain first trimester is hard even if I'm not visiably preg yet.
I feel awful badmouthing him and having a moan on here but I just needed some understanding women who know what I'm going through!! I love him dearly but god he has much growing up to do by the time this baby is born. (and yes I have told him he'll be lucky if he managed 30 mins uninteruppted xbox time with a baby needing us let alone 4 hours.)
Maybe the scan tomorrow will make it all more real for him and he'll get that my body is actually quite busy right now and needs extra rest.
One positive thing, if we're having a DS I will be ensuring he is not molycodled like this father was!! So his poor future wife doesn't have the same battle I have had! Maybe I shouldn't be so mean, DH has afterall spent a few nights on the sofa in the last couple weeks cuz his snoring is keeping me awake and making me feel worse. Gotta keep thinking of the positives isn't it!
Haha, feeling much better after my moan already! I love MN!