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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

The pregancy grump cafe. Come whine and whinge here while drinking espressos.

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Thandeka · 06/01/2010 16:12

Am 36 weeks pregnant. I can't sleep. Baby movements when she goes are massive and painful but then she will be silent for ages making me wish for the movement. Can't get comfy sitting or lying down. Have no motivation to do anything (am supposed to be working from home at mo). Having lots of braxton hicks but know I probably still have at least another four weeks of this and every day it gets just a bit worse! I know this is all part of natures master plan to make labour seem like a relief but grrrrrrrrr! Phew that felt better to whinge (despite me knowing I also have a lot to be thankful for- this baby is alive and kicking (previous mmc), have not put weight on anywhere other than bump in fact lost weight everywhere else!, have not had piles, carpal tunnel, restless legs, swollen ankles or anything so prob by most standards this is a straightforward pregnancy (apart from the stopping breathing in night thingy and reduced foetal movement dramas!)

Please post your grumps here and enjoy ordering cyberrly all the things you shouldn't eat (mine is a baked in box Camembert and large glass of rose cava thanks!). Of course the added advantage of starting this thread is that of you are all feeling much worse than me, then I shall feel very nesh and maybe pull myself together instead of being a great big grumpy pants!

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lostlenore · 10/01/2010 16:42

My (not so D)H refers to me as 'The Fat Controller'. I want some cider, and maybe a cigarette, and donuts... had a little tiny wedge of brie all to myself for Christmas, which did make me feel better ;)

Wonderstuff · 10/01/2010 17:01

MamaLazarou I feel your pain, I have had no fewer than 3 calls today from my mum worried about me getting into work tomorrow - we work at the same place, but are travelling in from different places, she can't seem to accept that I am a 30 year old adult and quite able to get myself organised - its like she worries needlessly about me because she is worried iyswim. I think it is to do with needing to be needed really, that and I suspect she actually enjoys worrying.

Karrierbag · 10/01/2010 18:09

31 weeks today and just want it to be over.. Don't know how much more of constant sickness I can put up with, my hair is falling out, my hips are aching, I can't sleep properly, getting terrible toothache, nosebleeds, and it's bloody cold out! Measuring small for dates (26cm at 29weeks last measurment!) and have to go and see consultant to check everything is ok on 18th Jan, saw her just before christmas, had growth scan and baby measuring pefect so don't really know why I have to go back again - she said something about my midwife prob referring me back if I was still measuring small at 32wk check. Sorry for the moan, but am fed up of offloading onto friends and family!!

I'd like to order a bottle of vodka please

Thandeka · 11/01/2010 08:43

In middle of night I was kept awake by and hour of fairly strong regular braxton hicks. The resultant adrenalin from the " oh shit is this labour" then kept me awake for rest of night! So this morning I would like a nice strong milky coffee and sod it put a slug of baileys in- for medicinal purposes obviously!

Keep on whinging kids! Xxx

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Babieseverywhere · 11/01/2010 10:47

Can I join in ?

I am only 3 months pregnant but I am so tired and sick and everything tastes of metal Yuck.

This morning I dragged DS in the pram /and walked DD to nursery in the snow this morning and it took me 50 minutes to get there and back (normally 15 minutes each way)

I am so tired I could weep, I am so cold I'm wearing my coat inside but don't want to waste money on gas to heat the house just for me (DS asleep in his warm pram)

I want to sleep on the sofa but I can't as I only have two days too rewrite my presentation....arrgghhh.

katiemamam · 11/01/2010 11:01

can i join this thread? am only 7 wks pg, but need to eat all the chuffing time. otherwise i feel sick. and i mean all the time.

so far today i've eaten porridge, scrambled eggs, toast, 8 cream crackers, a muffin and some cornflkes. it's only 11am. will be the size of a house by the time i'm 12 wks.

ds woke up late this morning - why can't he sleep in at the weekends? he refused to get changed for playgroup so had to dress him like he was a baby. and all the time hoping that i wouldn't throw up on/near him. now that would have been a bad start to the week.

i would like some peanuts, an open prawn sandwich,and some cider. i'd also like to reserve the right to want more stuff later...

Babieseverywhere · 11/01/2010 11:30

Katie, I do feel for you, it is not nice to feel bad all the time.

Like you I feel sick all day every day and I only stop feeling sick when I eat. But as my food and water now taste like metal filing I really can't bring myself to eat more than regular meal times, which is probably for the best as I am big enough to start off with. ;)

Anyhow finished my new presentation spider chart plannign tool thingy, so off to do some housework.

kmac80 · 11/01/2010 12:07

Arghhh after a night of no sleep (are mild pains near the ovaries normal at 9 weeks?) I could not drag myself out of bed to work until midday. Tomorrow I have to somehow get to work at 7 to make lunches for 20 kids and take them to the zoo without throwing up on them.

sockmonkey · 11/01/2010 14:08

Oh Katie... I remember that bit well. I also remember wanting to kill DH when he cheerily said "oh never mind, its only for 7 more weeks"
You try feeling sick every waking moment for about 2 months and see how cheery it makes you!!!
Hope you feel better soon.

I feel bad for moaning about DH's cough now, turns out he has a secondary chest infection which was very close to becoming pneumonia... I still had a little cry feeling sorry for myself that I have another person to take care of.

Need to keep this baby in till he's better!

mama2moo · 11/01/2010 17:26

Mama2b5 - You had to organise your own babyshower?? I hope you enjoyed it and that you got loads of goodies that made it worth while.

MamaLazarou I feel you need a day with your phone turned off and not checking emails. MIL's are such complete fools most of time. Luckily mine lives in the States so just have to put up with her a few times a year

My poor 19mo dd is ill today. She has a bad cough and another bloomin tooth coming.

I practically pushed dp out of the door this morning - It has been so nice having my house and dd to myself today after his snow days last week.

I am 38 weeks on Friday and am knicker checking so much to see if I have a show or anything. This baby needs to get the hell out of my body soon!! I to want nice clothes again, no more grey skin and to be able to walk properly

bogie · 11/01/2010 17:31

Hello, can I pop on for a moan?

I have a head ache, back ache, really bad stomach ache, I am tired and grumpy.... Dp not back untill 7 and Ds and Dd are driving me crazy...

Just needed a moan.

Thandeka · 11/01/2010 21:19

Well my "moan" can be found www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/892202-Head-completely-engaged-and-cervix-1cm-dilated-how-long -do

Bit of a drama at the hospital today, so gimme brandy to steady my nerves!

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Mama2b5 · 11/01/2010 21:28

mama2moo - thanks yes it went real well although snow stopped a few attending, but got some lovely bits and fun all around!

glad its over now just playing the waiting game and praying baby will just come now! painful to walk,painful to sleep, painful to go toilet!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh DH refusing to do HIS bit to start labour so just have to bear it, aint got no choice!

mama2moo · 11/01/2010 21:36

Thandeka I have just seen your other thread. Nightmare!! I think you can be 1cm dilated for some time before anything happens. Is it your first baby? Fingers crossed it happens soon for you though.

Everything just gets so much harder in the last few weeks. I am now trying to 'talk' my baby out! If I tell it daily how nice it is here and who wants to meet it it might move - I actually feel myself going slightly mad.

I also feel I need to do some sort of video of myself now explaining all of the problems I have at the mo. Then in a few years when I am broody again I can play it to myself to put me off!!

Stupid rant over, off to bed now to toss and turn all night, wake myself up snoring and have to deal with my ill dd.

mama2moo · 11/01/2010 21:42

mama2b5 Sounds like fun. I was hoping someone would throw me a baby shower this time but I havent had one yet You need to remind your DH that he got you into this so he needs to help get you out of it!! Or, tell him he wont get it for a year once your dc is born That might make him change his mind!!

ReneRusso · 11/01/2010 22:33

Quick moan about my annoying FIL

FIL: "You must be wishing it could just be over now"
Me: "No I'm feeling fine actually"
FIL: "Yes, you must be really exhausted"
Me: "Well I can't complain really, I'm feeling ok"
FIL: "Hmmm, yes poor you, you must be really fed up"
etc etc

Oh I know he's just trying to be nice, but ffs I still have 12 weeks to go.

mawbroon · 11/01/2010 22:39

I have a new moan today. Went to the fracture clinic and I have to have surgery on my ankle. I am going in on Thursday for it.

Don't know what the recovery time is after this surgery, but i can say for sure that it's not going to be healed before the baby comes, unless I go about 10 weeks overdue.

howdidthishappenthen · 12/01/2010 02:28

Feeling so much better reading your threads and realising am not alone in being heartily sick of pregnancy.

34 weeks and suffering from man-flu- would sell my left leg for a packet of sudafed.

Moods all over the place so I'm a sodden sobbing wreck every third day.

Work madly busy and am self-employed with clients who don't yet know I'm up the duff so I can't shout down the phone at them, "I AM HEAVILY PREGNANT YOU KNOW - BACK OFF AND TAKE YOUR ENDLESS DEMANDS TO SOMEONE WHO GIVES A FUCK'.

Husband being a bit of a tosser about giving me some support.

DS1 is very nice though - lots of cuddles and 'are you alright mummy?'.

I'll have a bottle of cabsav and the chicken liver pate pls.

esselle · 12/01/2010 03:28

Ok sit down and get comfy because this is going to be and epic....

I am 35wks today. It is bloody hot - 36C today, 43C yesterday. Shitty piss you off and stop you from doing anything heat! DD5yo and DS2yo are bored and annoying me for entertainment.

We are suposed to be moving into our new house this weekend but the builders still have not installed the oven, range, hot water, cooling/heating. No one will answer my phone calls or emails to let me know what is going on either. Oh and we have had the keys since 23rd Dec and still can't move in... Grrr!!

Still need to pack up loads of stuff too!

My family all live 6 hrs away so I haven't got any help at hand to do anything and DH is working crappy long hours atm.

Can't sleep as it is too freakin' hot and can't get a nap as DD won't let me.

But on the upside all is well with baby, my back no longer hurts as my super fab chiropractor sorted it out yesterday.

Might have a big bowl of ice cream!!

MrsMc82 · 12/01/2010 06:59

Love this thread...!
I'm 39 wks tomorrow and very whingy!
Also have builder problems - kitchen in new house was meant to be finished by xmas but the guy doing to floor seems unable to actually turn up when if says he's going to and then not return phone calls and when he does turn up if leaves after about 2hrs... Stupid tosser doesn't realise he's holding up the plastering / painting / tiling of the walls and in meantime i'm getting furious about the whole thing and am dreading bringing baby home to a house that resembles a building site GRRRRRR!
Also VERY uncomfy at night with whole hip going numb and wee ing every 5 mins thing so am knackered
AND have now got a stinking cold
AND to top it all am stuck in the house cos all the snow makes it impossible to in out without being terrified of slipping....
phew feels good to vent!
Right mines very large vodka and tonic and a couple of cheeky Marlborough lights Oooo and some pate too please!!! XX

flyingcloud · 12/01/2010 10:43

I can't sit down for longer than an hour, I can't do any work at all. My back aches so much. I can't watch tv, I can't read.

Last night I started to get proper hip ache too, waking up with serious pain in the hips, not the lily-livered minor niggles of the last month.

36+4 and counting.

mama2moo · 12/01/2010 13:35

esselle - Where are you?? Im guessing not in freezing cold Britain. I actually wouldnt mind that heat, I have been house bound for the best part of a week because our council havent gritted anything. Having said that, I was pg with dd in summer 2 years ago and didnt enjoy it. I used to go shopping and stand in the freezer section in Tesco to cool off!!

I actually thought I was in labour this morning. I had regular pains, back ache and had been crying for no reason. Then dp said 'I think today is a good day to have a baby' out of the blue. The pains have pretty much stopped now

esselle · 12/01/2010 23:00

mama2moo I am in Australia!

Actually I must admit that most of my whinges have resolved themselves since I posted.

Builders got in touch and all my appliances are being installed on Friday.

We had a serious cool changecome through yesterday and there is a lovely cool breeze outside. Have all of the windows open and it is lovely. Only suposed to be 21C today!!

Dh has a day off today so he can entertain the DCs.

Still have to move house on the weekend though....

rachelfruitloop · 12/01/2010 23:52

Oh Esselle 21C sounds heavenly! Complaining, I love it! Where do I begin!? I frickin' hate this snow and ice. I've been living in England for about 6 years now but was born and raised in Southern California, so my blood is way too thin for this kind of winter! DH is from Manchester so doesn't quite relate to my aversion. I'm 22 weeks along now with DS2, and have pretty much had morning sickness leading on to bad colds since week 6. Had a chest infection and cracked a rib coughing on Christmas eve. I have a broken molar that I have to have pulled next week, so have been chewing on the other side of my mouth - now have a wisdom tooth on that side cutting through! I had such a great pregnancy with DS1, felt happy and energetic most of the time. This pregnancy has been the opposite. I had such a traumatic experience with the birth of DS1 that I am very scared of what's to come with this one! Seems no-one has time to discuss things with a second timer, and I'm feeling quite depressed. I am already so huge, DS1 was 9lbs 12oz, I have no doubt that DS2 will be large. Already getting pains in my hips and can't get comfy, sleeping horribly. I'm the worst mummy in the world as DS1 watches about 8 hours of telly a day as the weather is too crap to take him out. At least he started pre-school on Monday! Whew! That feels better! I'd love a big platter of sushi, an ice cold cider and about 4 cups of very strong coffee! Can't wait til May!

Thandeka · 13/01/2010 04:57

Nargh latest whinge is baby is completely posterior and since head completely engaged - unlikely to turn until labour (hopefully she will then) meaning back to back labour, increased risk of instrumental delivery etc etc. Grrrrrrrrr. Also means labour may not be as imminent as we thought so I get even longer of the joy of a head so low down I can practcally touch it!oh and midwife said she is a big baby too.

Sod the fizzy wine get me enough vodka to knock me out til she is born!

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