Pregnancy after Miscarriage X - Knicker Checkers Anonymous. All welcome.

[youknownothingofthecrunch]

Just thought I'd start a new thread for you (so I can pretend I'm still a valuable member of the gang )

Here's the list. Please add yourself whenever you feel ready

GUSSET PATROL GRADUATES

Cricri - 1st November - GIRL- Elise Vivienne
LackaDAISYcal - 6th November - BOY - Finlay
barbareebaa - 24th November -BOY - William
Jackstini - 10th December ? BOY- Harvey
KD73 - 20th December - BOY - Aidan George
downbutnotout ? 3rd February BOY
dan39 ? 10th February GIRL - Rose
winemakesmummyclever - 17 February - BOY - Isaac Alexander
Bunnyinheadlights - 23 February - GIRL - Carys
Wheelybug - 12th March - GIRL - Lara Florence
TSOM - 17th March - BOY - Seth
Grinningbee ? 4th April ? GIRL ?Amy Florence
Daisy J ? 1st April ? GIRL ? Maya Celine
Scotlass - 17th April - BOY - Nathan James
Swaliswan - 20th April - GIRL
LoobyLou36,- 23rd April GIRL - Matilda Rose
Ladyhelen2 - 2nd May - BOY - Rufus Daniel
Divedaisy - 2nd May - GIRL - Sofiah Rose
Aquababe - 6th May - BOY - Ethan
Youknownothingofthecrunch - 8th May - GIRL - Polly Anwen
Ses - 9th May - BOY - Owen
SparkyMalarky - 10th May - GIRL ? Evie
Cece - 23rd May ? BOY - Tom
Mumface - 19th June - BOY - Connor Ellis
herbaceous - 8 July - BOY - Samuel
nattythomasandellen -
cornflakegirl - - BOY -
Ashleighbeee - 18th Aug - BOY - James Peter
HerNameWasLola - 28th Aug? GIRL - Tahlia
blogqueen -
sydneysuze - 18th Sept - GIRL - Mahala

CURRENT CONCEIVED-AIR PASSENGERS

lal123 - 25th October
alana39 - 30th October
Tamlin - 5th November
scarlotti - 6th November
Tink08 - 24th November
Fairywing - 11th December
Ciara - 5th January
Blondieminx - 18th January
HappyBump - 28th January

Welcome to the thread redtent

I'm still here and soooo fed up with strangers asking me when it's due then looking concerned that I might suddenly wet their shoes / carpets etc.

1 week over now. Still having evening runs of contractions. And trying not to get too concerned about induction. What really bothers me is that I had no choice by to go to delivery suite with the last 2 as I had to have antibiotics, so ended up with epidurals and being heavily monitored as a result just because they were available and I am weak . This time, have really got my head round going to the birthing centre (same hospital, just downstairs so still have the back up) and having a calmer, more natural delivery, then the baby decides not to make an appearance.

Obviously it is still early days, as they won't induce until next Wednesday anyway, but feel optimism leeching away.

Off to eat

Oh alana and scarlotti, it'll happen soon enough. And then all this waiting will be a distant memory

If anyone wants to concentrate on something else you can give me some advice on my thread in the Relationships topic. DH is having a relapse

I'm sure that was terrible MN etiquette Sorry about that.

alana ah, thought you had been away long enough to get excited for you that things were happening. Sorry to hear that's not the case

If it's any consolation am in the same boat, although due today so I still have a potential 10 day stretch ahead to wait. This would also take me to the birthday party I've booked for DS - thought Sun 15th would be safe when was due on 6th and everyone kept saying he'd be early

Amniotic birthday cake anyone?!

crunch sorry to hear things not going well again, will pop over to your other thread. hugs.

Crunch I have just read your thread, I'm so sorry to hear what has been happening after it was all looking better. I don't think I could add anything more useful than some of the posters there with similar experiences. So I'm not sure if I should say this here, or there?

From what I know of you on here you are one of those people who is naturally very good at supporting other people who need it (I remember sitting in front of my computer terrified to post on here the first time because once I started to talk about how scared I was of mc again it felt much too real) and I can't remember what you said but it was something that made me feel so relieved that I had finally done it. Do you have people that can support you in RL through this? I know from experience that when you are the one that always looks like you're coping, other people can be slower to spot you need help yourself. Sorry not to have any suggestions, but am thinking of you.

alana that is so touching I might cry! You're right about being the one who just copes. I always get lots of "Wow, you're coping so well!" and I just want to say "Really? Because I feel like I've completely fallen apart inside"

When I look back on the past year I cannot believe what I have coped with, not just alone, but with the burden of looking after DH. I spent so long being so jealous of anyone being wrapped in cotton wool. But received lots of comments along the lines of "Oh, Crunch is so independant she'd hate being treated that way!". Argh! (Had to put a grin in, or I wouldn't be me)

crunch have to agree with alana and say there's some good advice on that thread. I do wonder if the nights drawing in and his heading down again are related? I think he has to go see his GP and explain what's happening so that they can come up with a plan of action. Once he has that then you can happily support it and him through this next bit.

I too am a coper, and so nobody ever thinks that I need help or support regardless of what's happening or falling apart around me. You will have to reach out and ask for the support you need, do you have people in RL that you can lean on? I am always here on MN for a virtual shoulder to lean/cry/shout on so bear that in mind too.

Those that are wrapped in cotton wool don't have the depth of strength that you have. Try and see that as a positive for you as it is a gift that you will also pass on to your children, and one that will enable them to go far in life.

scarlotti thank you I really appreciate you reading my (far too long) posts. He's not right. Did a big speech about how he was going to change when he got back from work. Then I didn't see him again until 11 as he was "busy".

I've been here before

Hope today's the day for you and alana - it's about time we had some twins on here

crunch it must be so hard for you as you know what a good guy he is naturally, and was for the first 9 years you were together. I can only hope that he goes to see the GP or his counsellor and tells them he's heading back downhill again.
I think you need to make it clear that should he do that, and keep making efforts to get better then you will stand by him with full support. I also think though that you need to make it clear, and be prepared to follow through, that if he doesn't try and turn this back around by seeking proper help that you will be forced into taking drastic action to save the sanity of yourself and the DC's. They deserve a happy mummy as much as you deserve to be one.

Downward pressure has increased today so hoping it's a positive sign, as the discomfort increases every day now ... as does the size of the baby - the implications of which aren't lost on me!!!

scarlotti I will follow through. As I said somewhere, if I can kick him out when 8 months pregnant and crippled by SPD, then I can kick him out when fit and well!

Hope this means baby will arrive today. And that all the weight baby puts on is in length and not width

Just popping in hoping that the weekend might have brought some news from Scarlotti and Alana but all quiet I see. Hope you ladies are not here this morning because you're busy having your gorgeous babies!

Crunch I was really sorry to read that things are not right at the moment. I would second Scarlotti on asking for the help that you need (even if if goes against every "coper" grain in your body )- and add that as you are juggling a newborn etc people will surely be glad to help you however they can. I hope things start to look up for you very soon.

Rosa I thought of you as I shovelled in another sausage and slice of pie at the family fireworks do at the weekend to a comment from my sort-of sister in law (mother in law's new husband's son's wife iyswim) "oh you have a really healthy appetite now!" I was like, "yep, and I'm measuring spot on for dates so it must be all good!" . Relieved to know I'm not the only one out there who's ravenous !

Ciara hope you're ok?

How are the ladies at the start doing, not heard much from Redtent Sunburn and Flossie - hope you're all hanging in there ok?

Hope everyone is doing ok today

BlondieBump is causing me to put the moan in hormonal at the moment - he/she is still footling breech which means I am still getting kicks in the bladder. Have had 3 awful nights in a row and am feeling really tired and fed up today as a result. Went for the hospital tour at the weekend and it's all suddenly seeming very real... eek!

MIddledaughter - hope you're OK. There's no way of telling I'm afraid. Once it worked out for me, the time before it didn't.

Sorry not been around for ages but been busy with mother/toddler stuff and had a period of strange confidence so I neglected you all.

I seem to be having my crisis at a strange time this preg. I've been feeling the odd flutter but nowt regular and am sh*tting myself over my 20 week scan next Thurs. Pull your bloody self together woman.

Was quite laid back til now. AAAghh!

MaHobbit I remember having a "moment" just before the 20 week scan. Glad to hear you've been feeling more positive in general.

Blondie, thanks. I've been tentatively letting family know that he's having problems. And it's been a lot easier than I thought. Since they already know all the history I haven't had to explain it all, or "convince" them, they've just been sympathetic. Shame none of them live round here, but at least I have them on the end of a phone.

And as for it being real not long for you now until you join the upper list! Exciting stuff. Sorry to hear you're not sleeping well. I did actually sleep a lot better once dd was born! Which is ridiculous.

DH seems a bit better. Went for a run yesterday and was lovely all day. So hopefully we've just had a blip on the road to recovery and all is well.

It's not like alana and scarlotti to be so quiet Can I hear twins?

Hi MaHobbit,

glad you've been having a confident stage. I'm sure you will have more post the scan.

I am doing well thanks. I haven't had any spotting for a couple of weeks and was honest with the EPAC unit when they called me so they said they wouldn't scan me early. As I am going slightly mad still especially as I am having some slightly strange tummy pains - nothing serious but I'm aware of it, I have booked myself a private scan for this time next week. I am terrified that they will find out something is up so I imagine this will be a lengthy week but having got through the last 3 I know I'll be alright.

Let us know how you get on next Thurs.

x

Can I ask people's opinions about shortening the Graduates list? Maybe keep 6 months on it? I think it might be a bit intimidating for those adding to the Current bit.

Happy to leave it though

MaHobbit hiya, glad you have been feeling confident! It's nice to enjoy a few worry free weeks eh! A girl who had her baby son almost 2 years ago got really worried as she didn't start to feel kicks for ages, she said it was 22-23 weeks before she really felt anything definate (it turned out this was because of the position of the placenta). Let us know how the scan goes eh - am sure everything will be fine.

Hi, how about like this ?
Feel free to change it if someone is not happy with it.

I have added my name. Anyone else for 2010 ?

GUSSET PATROL GRADUATES

Ladyhelen2 - 2nd May - BOY - Rufus Daniel
Divedaisy - 2nd May - GIRL - Sofiah Rose
Aquababe - 6th May - BOY - Ethan
Youknownothingofthecrunch - 8th May - GIRL - Polly Anwen
Ses - 9th May - BOY - Owen
SparkyMalarky - 10th May - GIRL ? Evie
Cece - 23rd May ? BOY - Tom
Mumface - 19th June - BOY - Connor Ellis
herbaceous - 8 July - BOY - Samuel
nattythomasandellen -
cornflakegirl - - BOY -
Ashleighbeee - 18th Aug - BOY - James Peter
HerNameWasLola - 28th Aug? GIRL - Tahlia
gemmac1 - 28th Aug GIRL - Evie Grace
blogqueen -
sydneysuze - 18th Sept - GIRL - Mahala
lal123 - 13th October - GIRL - Maia
Tamlin - 18th October - BOY

CURRENT CONCEIVED-AIR PASSENGERS

alana39 - 30th October
scarlotti - 6th November
Tink08 - 24th November
Fairywing - 11th December
Ciara - 5th January
Blondieminx - 18th January
HappyBump - 28th January
Rosa333 - early May

Middledaughter glad the spotting has stopped. Will be thinking about you next week. Hope the scan goes well.

mahobbit when you feel more confident again do you think you'd like to join the list?

Rosa that's lovely. Great to see another name up there. If anyone who is a graduate wants to put themselves back on then please do. I will happily be removed next month to make more room for the Current air passengers!

Still no sign of alana or scarlotti?

Hi all short post here as modem not working so doing this on mobile. No baby yet. Had sweep at lunch time. Only a little ouch. Hardly dilated despite all the contractions. Induction on wed if no baby by then. Hopefully dh will fix computer tonight so i can get back to hobby of buggering about no mumsnet soon! My phone wanted to call it nunsmet.

I think I'd use nunsmet... although my posts might be considered rather outragious there

alana sorry to hear you're still waiting. Hopefully the sweep will have triggered things for you. I remember that last week all too well. 14 days overdue and I had the perfect labour and birth. There's still time for it to all go according to plan.

Hope you ladies are ok and Alana hope the sweep did the trick for you yesterday.

Rosa thanks for reposting the list and it's great to see you on it now

Slept loads better last night and am feeling much more like me again today - Crunch thanks for the reaasurance that you slept better once your baby arrived, was half daring to hope that might be the case for me too and the fact it worked out like that for you reassures me that I'm not mad to hope that it'll work out for me too!

Hope all are doing well today

Me? Spying? On all of you?

Never!

Hellish night of irregular painful contractions but then faded again. Was emptying dishwasher and making packed lunch at 4 am! Now looking forward to induction tomorrow to get things over with. Although would be good to in into labour properly first and get to go to birthing centre obviously. Still no proper internet either. Blondie i've always slept better after the baby arrives so you're perfectly sane for thinking it may work like that for you. Any news scarlotti? Waves to everyone.

Howdy old friends - just popping in for news of Alana and Scarlotti

Sorry to hear you're worried about induction Alana. Are you trying all the tricks? Bet those evening contractions mean once you do start you'll be well away though. Fingers crossed.

And no word from Scarlotti for a few days I see - let's hope she's babygazing as we speak!

Sorry to hear DH is returning to earlier form my dear Crunch. Such a shame after he seemed to rally so well after Polly's arrival. Will zoom over to have a read of your other thread when I can. Does his depression usually worsen in the winter months as the nights draw in? Does he use a lightbox?

to Blondie, Ciara and everyone else, and hello all newbies. Will post a pic of Mahala up on my page soon

Hi all

Just a quick post ....
He has arrived!! Ioan (yo-an) Scott McLean was born on Sunday 8th at 5:20pm weighing in at 9lb 8oz (around 4320g). Somehow managed to get away with no tears or stitches!

Just trying to catch up on some sleep now so will check in soon and catch up on everyone. alana hope all goes well for you with your induction.

scarlotti congratualtions! Cor, Ioan is a biggie I love the name Ioan, every one I have ever known has been one of those good-looking, studious, nice-guy, types. Hope you manage to get some rest soon!

alana I really hoped you went into labour last night and you're already holding your LO, but if not, good luck today. Can't wait to hear your news. This week is definitely turning out a good 'un after all

syd great to see you! Don't worry about my thread (it's very long and you've got your hands full at the moment), things have improved although he is still low. Fingers crossed for a quick recovery. Have just bought a light box so hopefully that should help too (great minds)

Hope everyone else is having a peaceful morning.