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[rainbowdays]

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So lovely to see you Rattling.

Where is Cityangel? I have been thinking about you this morning, hope all is well.

rainbowdays - i'm so very sorry to hear your news.it must be even more devastating this time after getting further and your scan a few weeks ago. don't know what to say really, wish i knew you in RL so i could come round and give you a big 'greedy-style' hug.
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oh rainbow I'm so sorry for your news... was so hopeful this time!
Hope your dh is looking after you... come back soon when you feel up to it.. thinking of you xxx

Am feeling rough today, realised that I was miscarrying at my husband'd uncles funeral on valentines weekend, and today I get phonecall saying dh's great-aunt died last night. I don't think I could cope with hearing of any more losses right now. Meanwhile I have to wait another 9 days til the d&c.

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rainbow I am so so sorry
Though I have no idea what you are going through right now my heart goes out to you, sometimes life is just too cruel. Massive {{{{{hugs}}}}}

Been meaning to post for ages, will try and catch up.
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Oh Rainbow - why do you have to wait 9 days for a D&C? That's awful. Waiting a week for mine was bad enough, but there was a glimmer of hope that the scan had been wrong in my case - but 9 days that's just too hard. I wish there was something I could say to make it easier, but I know there isn't - just know that we are all thinking of you from afar.

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I am fasting this morning just in case they have a slot on the theatre list for today. Tomorrows list is already double booked. If they can't fit me in today then I have to wait til next friday.

Thank you for all your posts, it helps knowing that people are here for me. We have not told dh's family as they are going through enough trauma at the moment. They also don't know about any of the previous pregancies that ended in m/c, so no point in telling them about this one. But it is hard trying to pretend that I am ok with them around.

Sorry that you have to wait that long rainbow - hope you are able to go in today .

How are you feeling Minxi? Are you fully over your stomach bug - sounded nasty!

Oh Rainbow- I hope you were seen today. Sad that the clinic is so busy though as well

Thinking of you and your DH's family lots. xxx

Yes, Minxi - how are you feeling? Sounded a nasty bug you got there.

How is everyone else doing?

I think I'm heading for a nervous breakdown - I have so much to organise in less than 7 weeks now before we move - that I'm not sure I can cope with it all. It is hard enough these last few weeks of any deployment; it is hard enough sitting your final exams in a course you've worked hard for all year and your future depends on; it is hard enough selling (yes we decided!) your house; it is hard enough moving your whole family from a place you are happy and well-loved to a completely new area where you know limited people; it is even pretty hard to arrange a party for 25 six-year olds, but that feels pretty lame compared to some of the big things above!! But I'm doing all of these things in a period of 7 weeks, as well as having to keep a house running and look after 2 children. Feel awful being so self-centred, when there are yet more deaths announced today and with everything poor Rainbow is going through, but feel better getting it all down here, for my virtual friends (you've all been more supportive over the last 6 months than some of my real life friends have been!!!). I'll be fine again after a good night's sleep I'm sure - was awake at 5am this morning in a cold sweat worrying about everything I had to do and that we'd done the wrong thing agreeing to sell.

Right, best get on.........

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sounds exhausting fettle!!!

Great news is that you've decided to sell which is one massive weight off your mind and so you dont have to waste valuable brain power on that debate . So no more worrying - its decided and only a crystal ball can tell you if its a mistake or not (it wont be!) so dont even give it a second thought. Dont know about you but I'm a real list person and I feel so much better if I've got everything I have to do written down and I've planned in when I'm going to do them. (I'm not a control freak really!! ) - perhaps you can start planning some of the stuff into specific days when you can arrange some child free time???? It must be so hard doing this by yourself but hopefully the only plus part may be that the time is flying by fast and it wont be long til DH is home (although I've just realised thats a double edged sword because that means its not long til you move!). Wish there was something we can do to help... thats the problem with virtual friends isn't it .

Thanks Chooster - I have lists coming out of my ears and things scribbled on bits of paper everywhere! Need to make sure it is all consolidated before I lose track!

Off to bed now (with a pad and paper, so I can write anything down that I think of rather than lie awake worrying about it!!)

Just been trying to find Rainbow table clothes, plates and napkins, as DD is having a rainbow themed party! Bright and cheery.

Thinking of getting everyone a Lush bathbomb - they do a Dorothy one, with a rainbow on it. What do you think? Good idea? Bad? Will the boys like it too? My kids loved them when we got one a few weeks ago for them, which is what gave me the idea, but I'm suddenly worrying that some parents might think it a wierd present or not like them for allergy reasons etc? Not sure if they are hypoallergenic? What are your thoughts??

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Fettle.... Breathe. You are doing amazingly well holding it all together, keeping all of those plates spinning. Amazing. Just hang in there, you can do it. I know you can.

Chooster, hehe, control freaks are lovely. I am a huge control freak... and I am lovely

I am THE listmaker. I love a list. And a list for a list. Keeps my mind focussed. I have lists of goals for each month so far, right up to May already

I love love love the rainbow theme... Think the bath bombs are a great idea, and if they are the fizzy or water colour change ones then boys will love them too I reckon. Everything from lush is natural isn't it? So should be fine for little skin... and to be honest, if the parents don't like it, then they can just accidentally forget where they put it before bath time can't they?

Thinking of everyone...

PS. Our baby monitor charging unit has gone kaput, not good to find out at 3,30am that I cannot hear H. Argh. Thankfully have spare rechargeable batteries, but anyone know if I will be able to take it back to the shop for a replacement after 8 months?

I LOVE that you have goals every month ready! Thats takes lists to a whole new level - I aspire to be you! . Actaully I think something like that may help focus my weight loss / get fit campaign which is failing badly .

I think the boys would love the bath bombs although I'm one of those mums that would accidently lose it (and use it myself! )unless there was something that said it was all natural and suitable for sensitive skin. The boys skin flares up really easily so I wouldn't personally chance it. You might make a lot of the mums happy though if they get to use it and it would look great in the rainbow party bags- Really cool theme .

Hello!

Don't think I am coping too well, but I'm currently battling civil servant bureaucracy, which is extremely frustrating. Luckily I have some people fighting our case, but they need to involve the soldiers out in Afghanistan and you would think that someone over here could use their brains and over-ride the black and white rule books and computers without disturbing those in a warzone, but there you go...... Sorry just very cross about it all. It's not the end of the world just means we will have to pay for our move up to Lancashire, which is galling considering I don't actually want to move up there in the first place!

Anyway, glad you like the rainbow theme - think I will get the bombs then and some other little rainbow thing for the bags - assume they won't come with labels for all of them, but that's up to the parents isn't it? I'm just lucky that my kids are not too sensitive (when it comes to soaps!!). Children are all 5 turning 6 Lottie.

Right - must get on - shouldn't be wasting time on here!

I too love your goals Ready - mine is to be in one mental peice by end April!!!

Lottie - I think your goal sounds fab and well worth attempting!!! Good luck with GF - I've known many people have good success with her, doesn't fitwith my lifestyle though.

Rainbow - hugs.xxx
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Lottie, it is so natural to argue with your other half when you are tired and stressed. Glad you feel you are over the worst. I think the first 3 months of motherhood are the hardest, and I know I lashed out at dh more times than I should have. Good job he just took it on the chin and moved on ? and imagine if I had twins

Ooh, I made jammy donut muffins this morning, and have crossed 3 more things off my February goals list? taking H swimming this afternoon will cross off another, and that leaves only 3 things to get done by Sunday.

My friends mock me, but I find lists and my monthly goals especially help me to be focussed and know what needs to be achieved. Lottie, it wasn?t a surprise really was it, that I am the listmaker ? I am what I am. ? not sure how your bathroom is situated, but I used to take H into the bathroom in the mornings, sit her in her bouncy chair with a few toys and let her kick about while I showered and dressed. I always feel better with fresh skin and clean teeth ? could that help you achieve said goal of getting dressed before noon? How is the GF routine going?

Fettle, you are amazing. My superhero inspiration. You can do it, just keep breathing, counting to ten and remembering that it will all be sorted soon.

Ok, I should stop wasting my time online while H is napping? I need to get our things ready for our swim. Yay.

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Well, I am relieved to say that I was fitted on an emergancy list and finally (after several genuine emergancies were dealt with!) at 1am this morning, I had the ERPC. It was strange, I woke from the aneasthetic with a huge sence of peace, that I had done the right thing. I am still emotionally raw obviously, but the physical side of things is a bit easier at the moment. Thank you for all your concern.

Rainbow - I'm so pleased you are feeling ok - I too found I was feeling strangly peaceful after my ERCPs (although it could be partly to do with morphine I needed for the pain), it certainly made it all seem a bit easier to cope with.

I hope your body heals quickly and it doesn't take long for your mind to grow accustomed to it too - I don't think you ever "get over" miscarriage.

I'm feeling much calmer too now - been to Pilates, which if any of you haven't tried, can so recommend - it is fab - I always feel like a different person after being - amazing. Shame all the people I need to call aren't around now, as I feel as if I can cope with anything right now!!

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i wrote a nice long message earlier and i have just come back on and realised that i never actually posted it.....dur!!

glad to hear they fitted you in rainbow. 9 days would have been a ridiclous amount of time to wait.

fettle - i recommend pilates to all my patients, think its fab! glad it has chilled you out! you will easily cope with everything, you just seem like a 'coper'. and i think bath bombs sound lovely.

ready - you're just weird!!!!

lottie - i am a big big GF fan as long as you know when its getting ridiculous and you are taking it too far! one of my friend with twins followed her routines and swore by them, and had the best behaved most chilled out babies ever!!! different story now they are toddlers, but hey, you cant have everything!

better go anyway, had another sick child today........ellis this time, and i'm knackered and expecting a night of vomiting! great!! so tomorrow i will be REALLY knackered!!

So relieved they fitted you in Rainbowdays. I have never experienced a miscarriage, so I can't possible begin to know how you feel - but I hope that time heals the pain a little. Are you going to have tests to find out why you might have had so many? Something on the news the other morning about Hughes Syndrome made me think of you. So many women miscarry needlessly because of it and it costs very little to screen pregnant women for the sticky blood.

Ta Greedy. Love you too. Sorry to hear Ellis is sick now Get better soon little 'un.

Pilates sounds fab Fettle.

Didn't manage to swim in the end. H decided she'd rather sleep than swim.

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BUMP!
blimey we were on the third page...

Did I kill the thread? Oops. x

Hi had 12 week scan today but the baby had died at 11.5 weeks which was ironic as finally after feeling so ill felt so alive and well on Monday/Tuesday both DH and I now devastated as we had got used to the idea and can't believe this has happened. I was sent to GP and she said wait a few days and hopefully the baby will naturally miscarry if not then have to go back to be referred... is that the norm? It was all v confusing and upsetting am feeling v shocked and weird right now having seen my nearly 12 wk baby with no heartbeat

Anyway just thought I would share my sad news and hopefully I am doing the right thing waiting...
Hope everyone else ok x

Oh god Minxi - I am so desperately sorry for you and your DH - sending you lots of love and prayers.

What is up with 2010 so far? Too much tragedy and sadness so far - this sucks

darn gotta go C just waking from nap - back later
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