A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

[woollyjo]

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

I think that I am going to go for it. I've asked my consultant, my mum has asked the consultant at her hospital and I've asked my mw's. Basically, there is no proven risks to baby with the vaccine, however high temps are not good for baby, even if it doesn't get to the super serious point where you have to be admitted to hospital. I can't bare the idea of loosing another baby, so I am going to take the vaccine and hope for the best. I'll wait until I am in the 2nd tri though.

Oh also meant to say to Wooly Jo and anyone else who has had a term,or late pregnancy loss, there is also a specialist support forum that was set up after sands was shut down.
This is the link:
www.ourspecialbabies.com/forums/index.php
rx

I haven't spoken to any HCPs about the jab yet but you make it sound like a sensible idea mrs. Not sure we'll get it here in Shropshire very quickly, they seem to be a few years behind the rest of the UK!

Ihave'nt got a clue whether or not to get the jab. Although they will have to give me very good reasons and reasurrance into it's safety. Eight years on I remain convinced that the severity of my sons' disability is due to the overuse of certain medications that are not appropriate in pregnancy
Half term here so having to keep busy, another scan thurs. Hope everyone is keeping well and resting as much as possible xx

How are you all out there today?

Hi

Since I'm not actually pregnant I am going to mostly lurk but thought I'd say Hi in the hope that I am soon and can "officially" join.

I lost DS2 at 22 weeks in August and I have also had an early mc. DD1 (my first baby) was a clomid baby, DS1 a total shock and DS2 took a few months to conceive so who knows how things might work out this time.

Good luck to all

hope all goes well with your scan tomorrow Hairy xx

Fingers crossed for you Tinkerbelle, hope all goes well for you.

Good luck tomorrow Hairy, how many weeks now?

How you feeling Woolly? Hope all's good & you've been reassured by your scan.

I'm ok, had a very busy few days & got a lot on at work so need to try to take it a bit easy but feeling pretty good so far. First scan on Tuesday . . .

Stay well everyone xx

Not good news sadly, no heartbeat at scan today, hospital excellent and booked me in for a d&c tom pm.
Wishing all of you on here long and normal pregnancies.
Have practical head onat the moment so am suprisingly calm.
Take care all xx

unfortunately no good news here either. had the 12 week scan on monday, they diagnosed another molar pregnancy (cannot believe my luck, the chances for this were 1.4%). scheduled for d&c tomorrow morning.

feeling mostly upset and actually quite numb, but mainly worried about whether or not there will have to be another chemo (which i really, really would not like). i just feel like we just got back to normal, i was finally myself again and then... bang.

but that's life, nothing we can do about it. now i just pray for this time to pass relatively quickly, not to have to go through chemo... and then, god safe the uk for pre-implantation diagnostic testing, which will be our only hope.

Oh Hairy & Joesgirl - so, so sorry to hear your sad news. I know there's nothing I can say to help ease the shock & hurt but thinking of you. Hope you're being well looked after in RL. Take very good care & best wishes. Big hugs xxx

Hairy, I am so sorry to hear your news, this is a heart crushing moment for you &DP take care of yourselves.

Joesgirl I doubt there is anything I can say to make you feel better but I am thinking of you.

Hairy and Joesgirl so very sorry for you both. How heartbreaking. I hope you are getting all the love and support you need in RL.

so very sorry to read your news Hairy and Joesgirl.
Congratulations Woolly and good luck Tinkerbellesmuse.
I'm not pg but wish I'd found a thread like this when I was. I had a m/c 4 years ago then when pg a few months later I had lots of bleeding early on. Had early scans to 'reassure' which didn't as they kept saying too small, no heartbeat so very long anxious wait until the following week when they found the heartbeat. I bled a lot through the first months and had lots of cramps and found it so very hard to relax but thankfully that little one is now 3.
When pg with my DS had the same bleeding cramps again and several scares but we got through it all ok and he is now almost 9 months.
I know that everytime you get a twinge or ache you will fear the worst but don't give up hope. I'm so glad you've started this thread woolly as I would have found a thread like this a real lifeline.
Good luck to you all xxx

Joesgirl & Hairy Thinking of you today, hope you have the right folk around you for the next few days/weeks xx

Hi mumofsatan it is so nice to hear from mums who have been here and gotten through, my dd was conceived and born without a second thought so I had no idea how heart breaking the whole process can be. 4 pregnancies later but with no more living children I feel like I am treading water and only just managing to keep my head above the surface.

Here's hoping there is good news soon.

Lunatic I completely understand the photo issue. Ours got scanned as soon as I could sort it and everyone who wanted them had emailed copies. DD has her own set to maul but no bugger is having my ones!

My mum is still after scan photos for dd2 - why? I barely see her, didn't see her during the pregnancy or since and she hasn't seen her living GD for over a year. I don't encourage visits because we don't get on but she doesn't seem that interested in dd anyway. Dives DH nuts as his mum died 4 weeks before dd was born and would have loved to be a granny.

V successful consultant visit today! Scanned me(first one) which I wasn't expecting as got an early scan booked for Tues - saw tiny fluttering heartbeat on my little apple pip, v pleased. Also have issues in that I am seriously phobic about having a vaginal birth & was dreading a long drawn out argument fighting to get a CS - when I told consultant my fears he just said - 'So you'll need an elective CS then? Not a problem'. I am SO relieved, I can't tell you, it has been stressing me right out. Just need to stay pregnant now! Need to continue with daily heparin injections & progesterone for next few months.
Good luck you guys too . . . x
PS Don't think you're being unreasonable at all re photos either Lunatic x

Gosh I've missed a lot this week. I've been really struggling with emotions so just been trying to keep myself going. This Pregnancy after loss thing is seriously tough, and exactly like you say Wooly, like treading waster, (only this week my head has not always been above the water).

Joesgirl and Hariy. I am so sorry to read your news. I hope that the next few days pass as gently as they can. (((((((((hugs)))))))

Lunatic, I know exactly how you feel about the photos etc. Everything that we have of DS is so very precious because they can never be replaced.

Woolly, sorry that things aren't great with your mum.

Onebaby, great news about the scan. Fingers crossed everything stays positive for you.

Amongst a lot of other cr*p. I've been driving myself mad with my doppler, I know that I shouldn't as its still really early, but I found splodge first time and then not again since. I know that at 11w this is not uncommon, but I am now dreading my nuchal scan on friday...

Also struggling with lack of contact with lack of contact with MW's still not booked in , or got a date for booking even though I have the MW's who looked after me with DS, supposedly to offer me more support. I might have to remind them of how very nervous I am .
love to all,
rx

Hi All

Onebaby - so glad your scan went well and your consultant seems tuned in to your wishes.

Hi Mrs, I discussed getting a doppler for reassurance with the MW in the aftermath of DD2's stillbirth and we came to the conclusion that they can be as much a source of stress as they are a comfort so, so far I haven't planned on getting one - that could all yet change yet. Try and keep positive if you can (I think it is my mantra at the moment).

Lunatic - DH has had a really rough ride the last 3 years with the loss of both his parents (his dad v.suddenly in Jan)a close cousin, and a daughter. I think it helps him to think they are all together somewhere. Personally I am quite a hippy and am loving this time of year and all the seasonal activities.

Pumpkin soup and toffee apples anyone?

I think I've had my most nauseous day ever today, which I find pretty wearing. On the plus side DH has managed to convince dd to stay in her room until it starts to get light for two mornings in a row which means we have gotten to sleep past 5:30am for the first time in a year!

Hello, wondering if you would mind me joining. I am feeling a bit scared at the moment, having only today found out I am pregnant again. I am very fortunate to have 3 children, but always hoped to complete my family with a forth child. But in the last year I have had 4 early miscarriages (one only previous to this). So this is my ninth pregnancy and I am accutely aware of all the early symptoms. Last time I knew that it was going to end in m/c and was not surprised that it did, but the one prior to that I felt the symptoms so strongly, and was getting stronger and stronger pregnancy tests that I was lulled into a false sense of confidence. It is hitting me hard this time, and whilst I know that I don't really fit into any thread, I do want to be part of a gentle thread if that is ok.

I am aware that some people might think that I should give up and be happy with my family as it. I am happy with my family and love being a mum, but I can't shift the sence that something is still missing. If you feel it is insensitive for me to be here then just let me know.

I am not sure how I would feel if this was a 5th m/c in a year, it is heartbreaking even when they are lost so early. Last time I refused to let them scan me, all I wanted was to check that the hcg levels were going down. I could not face seeing another doomed pregnancy on screen.

Sorry this is a mammoth post, but hope you don't mind me joining in?

Joesgirl and Hairy - Sorry to hear your news, hope you are doing ok?

lunatic - I can understand your feelings about the photo, it is exactly how I would feel. Also, I have to start baby asprin now too, I was told to start it as soon as I got a positive pregnancy test, and will have to go to the EPU soon too. Not sure how soon I will go though?

Onebaby - congrats on the scan and good to have a dr sympathetic with the cs request.

mrsrvc - can understand the desire to use doppler, bought one myself, but think that they probrably do cause more stress than they relieve!!! So hope the scan goes well this week for you.

woollyjo - good to hear things are going well for you so far, thank you for starting this thread.

Lunatic - good to hear you got the photo back, poor dh having to suffer, but then he won't make the same mistake again

I did another test today, slightly darker, and symptoms have started to kick me already, so I am gingerly allowing myself a little hope. But it is such early days so I know I have a long way to go.

Willitbe - m/c is heartbreaking, we all know how much it hurts, welcome. Thinking good thoughts for you.

Lunatic - bless DH for his big round trip to redeem himself. Pleased you got the photo back.

Hope everyone else is doing ok, try to relax girls! Difficult, I know!