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A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

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woollyjo · 13/10/2009 14:19

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

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hairyclaireyfairy · 16/10/2009 23:03

Hope you are all ok?
Another day gone...

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woollyjo · 17/10/2009 18:36

Been away to a wedding. The night in the hotel was terrible, not sure if it was sharing a bed with dd2 (3 at xmas) or the snoring DH (doesn't normally bother me)or the pregnancy insomnia kicking in. Not that it matters - still only got a couple of hours kip and am knackered today.

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tinkerbellesmuse · 17/10/2009 19:41

Awww woollyjo that is such fantastic news.

I just saw this thread in the active list and curiosity got the better of me as it is something I think about often so a lovely suprise to see it was your thread .

I hope I might join you soon. I'm trying not to think about it (ttc) too much but tbh it keeps my mind off losing F.

OneBabyPlease · 18/10/2009 15:41

Hi all - please can I join you?
TTC for 4 years, 2 mc's (sorry I don't know all the abbreviations!), 1 mc after having Clomid & now I'm 5 wks pg after taking Clomid again. Also been diagnosed with Factor 5 Leiden and am on daily Clexane (Heparin) injections, aspirin & twice daily progesterone.
Have an achy tummy & I'm very scared of it all going wrong again. Please let everything be ok this time!!
Nice to know I'm not alone though!

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woollyjo · 18/10/2009 19:32

Hi

Lunatic be gentle with yourself over the next few days, I found being due on made everything so much worse and was a complete mess until AF arrived.

DD2 was born on her due date so I didn't have to go through that anniversary. Its another reason to take the easiest options over the next few days maybe

It took a couple of cycles for things to settle down for me as after the post birth loss I had intermittent bleeding etc. had no idea what was going on as I bf dd1 so no experience of all this stuff so soon after birth and was quite freaked out by the after pains, engorgement etc and was certain that I was scarred for life despite a straight forward delivery.

Hi Onebaby sounds like you are having quite a time of it, fingers crossed. If it helps at all, I had quite a lot of abdominal pain early on with dd2 and was told this was quite normal, I am getting it again now and trying hard not to worry too much (hell, it is not as if I have any muscle tone left to put up any sort of a fight!).

6 weeks today and that is one mc threshold passed now I need to get to the 8 week scan ....

sending you all calming thoughts!

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OneBabyPlease · 19/10/2009 11:52

Thanks a lot WoollyJo - comforting words, I'm trying to stay calm & it's good to know that abdominal pain doesn't necessarily mean the worst - I feel ok today & have got everything X'd! Note to self - try to stop panicking! Good luck to everyone else out there too - these certainly are stressful times, aren't they?! Wishing my life away to get to 12 wks (even though I know that's not always a guarantee)- I have only got to 8 wks before. Hoping that all these bloody injections etc will eventually be worth it!

mrsrvc · 19/10/2009 12:14

Hello all,

I've been loitering around here for the last few weeks, wondering whether to join an antenatal board, but feeling nervous about doing so.

I'm 9w3d pg on pregnancy no.4. My first two were v early miscarriages, one of which was eptopic. My third was very happy and healthy and I carried my darling boy to full term, before he was starved of oxygen at birth, which led to his passing away a week later.

Its still early days in my grief (we lost him in may), but here we are expecting his baby brother or sister. Due to my earlier history I have to have scans to locate the pregnancy, and thankfully so far so good. We had an 8 week scan where we saw a happy little heartbeat.

I am so nervous about this pregnancy, and so excited that we have another chance for happiness. Its lovely to have a thread on here where people understand. It might even give me enough courage to go onto a ante natal thread... who knows.

I am so sorry to hear of your losses also, and hope that we all have lovely gentle pregnancies, resulting in screaming healthy babies.

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OneBabyPlease · 19/10/2009 13:32

Oh Mrs - what a terrible trauma to experience - I'm so hoping that everything goes smoothly for you this time & there are no complications - wishing you all the very best. It's completely understandable to be so nervous & it's mixed emotions with excitement but the fear of getting excited too! Be very gentle on yourself, it is still very early days since your loss & your hormones & emotions must be all over the place. Take good care & here's hoping we all have healthy babies at the end of this

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woollyjo · 19/10/2009 19:19

Goodness Mrs you've been through the mill, here's hoping we can all prop each other up here.

DD2 was stillborn at the end of June, we haven't told many folk that I am pregnant again incase we get odd reactions from folk thinking it is too soon, or maybe we feel a bit guilty about wanting another baby straight away - not sure really.

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hairyclaireyfairy · 19/10/2009 22:40

fingers crossed for you all and will pray that all turns out well xx
scan tomorrow morning hopefully all will be ok.

OneBabyPlease · 19/10/2009 23:00

Good luck Hairy

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woollyjo · 20/10/2009 07:48

Thinking of you Hairy xx

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hairyclaireyfairy · 20/10/2009 18:42

Hi all
Had the scan and saw a heartbeat 9weeks 2 days but also have had a bleed which is'nt clotting very well, not quite sure what this means but have to go in if I start bleeding. So after calming myself down over the last few days and being positive am woried again now. Midwife excellent and she was happy for me to come back in 10 days for another reasurrance scan so back to the waiting game for now.
Hope you are all ok and have had nice peaceful days x

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woollyjo · 20/10/2009 19:24

Sounds like you are having some great care Hairy. So glad you saw a heart beat, you can relax a little now. I hope the bleeding clears up, I've heard lots of stories of ladies who bleed all the way through and go on to have healthy babies. Here's hoping its something and nothing.

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mrsrvc · 21/10/2009 08:49

Thank you all for your kind words. We are taking it day by day this time round.
Hairy, I'm glad you saw the heartbeat. Try not to worry about the bleed. If I read your post right, you have not yet sen any visible bleeding yet, and as such the bleed is internal. At one of my first scans (amazingly at 9+5 I have already had 4...) the noticed a very large area of sub chorionic bleeding which made me totally convinced that I was going to m/c despite everyone telling me that it was fine. When I went back a week later there was absolutely no sign of it as it had completely reabsorbed. I took Homeopathic arnica to try to help. May be worth a try.
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OneBabyPlease · 21/10/2009 18:21

V positive Hairy - seeing the heart beat is great news.
Only 5+4 myself so hoping for an early scan around wk 7 . . .
Good luck gang - keep those legs crossed! One day at a time is the way forward!

abbyanxious · 21/10/2009 19:05

Hi,
Just joined Mums net and not sure if it is okay to join this thread.
I have just found out that 5 weeks pregnant. Had a miscarriage at around 8 week at the begining of the year the due date would have been mid October. Really scared, lots of niggling lower abdo crampy pains, feel like have to go and check 10-20 times a day that not bleeding. Are these kind of pains usual?

Any advice appreciated

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woollyjo · 21/10/2009 19:25

Hi Abby come and join us anxious mums to be. Most of the girls here have had miscarriages and/or desperately sad outcomes from previous pregnancies.

I completely understand your worries (I have had 2 mcs before 12 weeks)and am currently 6.5 weeks.

Ab pains - I have been having a fair few, I has alot with my pregnancy with DD2 and was told it was quite normal by the MW.

Hope it helps you relax - just think of all the stretching going on especially if this is your first.

Easy to say but harder to do - try not to worry.

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abbyanxious · 21/10/2009 19:47

Thank you Woollyjo for your support and words of comfort.

I never thought I would have to put so much energy into trying to relax as I have done over the past few days but I think the only think I can do at the moment.
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hairyclaireyfairy · 21/10/2009 21:20

Thank you so much for your reassuring words. Mrs, yes the bleed is internal and I feel better for your advise, the midwife did say it was not unusual but...
One baby will count the days with you, not to many left now are you going to the epu?
Wooly, how are you have you had a dat for your scan yet?
Abbi , same here I think you just worry more with very niggle but I get some definate pain at certain times of the day. Easier said than done I know but try not to worry.
Take Care everyone xx

OneBabyPlease · 21/10/2009 22:18

Welcome Abby - I'm the same, constant checking but I think we need to try to chill out a bit! I too have achy tummy on & off but from the advice on here it does seem to be pretty normal growing pains so I'm trying to relax about it.
Thanks Hairy - I'll be off to the EPU end of next week or beginning of the one after I hope . . .
Thinking of you all x

mrsrvc · 22/10/2009 13:32

Morning Girls.
Well I have also had a morning of it. My symptoms have been really dying down over the last couple of days and I have been trying not to worry, but yesterday I started to have really sharp shooting pains in my tummy and started to worry. This morning they were really bad and even DH suggested that it was sensible to pop to the EPU to be checked out. Thankfully splodge was happy as larry in there with no idea how upset and worried I was. They think the pain is just from the corpus luteum cyst which is totally normal and there is no reason for concern. It was such a relief. The obstetrician really tried to reassure me that I should try not to worry too much as there was nothing wrong with my previous pregnancy so there shouldn't be anything wrong with this one. The horrid thing is that all the innocence I had about pregnancy has gone and I have become someone who looks at the 3% who don't make it from this stage rather than the 97% that do...
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