A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

[woollyjo]

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

Will be thinking about you tomorrow Lunatic xx

Just wanted to pop in and wish you all the luck in the world for tomorrow Lunatic

Hey lunatic are you believing it yet?

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cadmum - how did today go? I really hope you are OK.

lunatic - you're having a baaaaayybbbbyyyyy!!! Best wishes

Best of luck! Still can't Imagine what it will be like to be so close to giving birth. Wishing you, dh and baby all the v v best.

Hello all.

Big hugs to lunatic. Today should be your day. I hope everything goes smoothly and that your little one is born feisty and ready to take on the world.

Thank you for asking. I did have a scan. The news was not good. Baby no longer had a heartbeat...

I have been down this road before but it does get exhausting after all of the first trimester nausea. My losses occur when other women stop worrying and are starting to announce their pregnancies to the world.

The complicated part is that even though I have started to miscarry on my own, the recommendation is to fly to Bangkok for a d&c. Beyond 12 weeks they don't recommend trying on your own as many women need an emergency d&c at that point. The blood supply here in Cambodia is not safe to an International standard and the ObGyn at the big ex-pat hospital is not highly regarded.
Thankfully, my parents are currently visiting from Canada and will be able to help with my dcs.

I have very much appreciated being able to read your stories as well as being able to vent on here and I wish you all every success. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You are a lovely strong bunch of women!

Oh cadmum I am so sorry, how utterly unfair My heart goes out to you, you have been through hell losing your 5 precious babies all so late. I wish I could say something, anything, to make it easier but there is nothing. So much love to you and praying that you are well cared for and safe as they treat you xx

Lunatic as Badger says, wishing you all the luck in the world today for a smooth section and a happy outcome. Will be thinking of you today xx

cadmum I am so, so sorry.

I was so hoping for good news for you and I cannot begin to imagine how much pain you are in at the moment.

I am wishing you all the strength in the world to get through the coming days, weeks and months and hope that you have enough support around you to muddle through.

So sorry cadmum, very saddened to hear your news & wish there was something I could say to help but I know very well that there isn't. I hope you are being cared for well. Take good care xx

I am so very sorry for your loss cadmum, look after yourself x

Thanks for wishing me (us) well.

It was a logistical nightmare. Thank heavens for evacuation insurance. They even flew dh with me but he had to sit in economy while they insisted that I fly (alone?!?) in business class.

I was taken to the hospital in an ambulance with sirens blaring and I was thinking that it was such a waste of resources until I started to hemorrhage a few hours later. I guess that I must have been in denial...

What was supposed to be a scheduled d&c at 9:30 am turned into an emergency one at 4:00 am...

I am happy to be back home and although I am eternally grateful to have had my mother here to take care of my children during our absence, I did not really appreciate her lecture that ended with the question: Who will be sterilized? Dh or I?

This is the first time since I had my first child over 13 years ago that she has provided care for us. We have never lived in the same area (rarely even on the same continent) so I fail to comprehend how she would get a vote on such an important decision. I guess the one benefit is that I currently feel far more than . I guess that will come with time.

I assume that everyone has already seen lunatic's announcement? Big congratulations from the Cadclan. It must be a massive relief to have Lewis in your arms!

cadmum so sorry that you have had the additional stress of your mother's comments

How are you feeling today? I hope you are looking after yourself.

Sorry Nancy, I didn't notice your reply until today.

I am feeling relatively well. My hemoglobin is still low but not low enough that my blood pressure is as well.

I am still getting my head around all of the implications of this loss. Boo Hoo! I was sure that things would work out this time.

The logistics were a nightmare and it was frightening to start hemorrhaging when I didn't have much faith in the medical staff. Every nurse that we spoke to had a different idea of how much bleeding was too much and they all proposed various courses of action that I didn't feel comfortable with.

All of this should lead me to conclude that I am not destined to have another baby but my heart doesn't agree...

How long until you reach the 37.5 week point?

Hope everyone else is as well as possible. I will try to follow your stories. I have added this to threads I am watching.

to Nancy and you too Lunatic two more mums on the list of those who never thought they'd make it - well done.

How are you doing Cadmum?

Congrats Nancy!! So pleased for you, look forward to your update!!

Pleased your boy is gaining weight Lunatic. Go easy on yourself - you've had a very rough ride.
My son is almost 9 months old & 2 stone! He's a huge chunk of gorgeousness & crawling everywhere. I pinch myself everyday, even when he was projectile vomiting over me this morning!

Hope you're coping ok Cadmum, thinking of you.

Hope everyone else is ok too xx

Thanks wooly and onebaby. I am doing relatively well. First af this week so that brings mixed feelings.

Your boys sound lovely lunatic and onebaby. I am so happy for both of you!

How lovely to read Nancy and Lunatic's news - huge congratulations to you both.
Thinking of you Cadmum, good to know you are doung ok.
I am thrilled to report I am watching (crying) Comic Relief as my 26+4 little monkey kicks and squirms away reassuring me they are here!
TO all those still trying and hoping, don't give up, it is worth the heartache.
Love to you all x

Just checking to see if NancyDrew has posted an announcement...

I can't wait to hear the details! [tea]

even!

OMG!!!
Just done a test this morning and it appears I am joining the rest of you in frantic knicker checking & anxiousness for another go at this baby lark! Yikes! We haven't been particularly trying but we weren't not trying either - I'm 38 this year & as time is not really on our side we thought we'd just see if nature would take it's course before seeking any treatment. After all our problems with getting pregnant & four pregnancies which have resulted in one (very wonderful!) 9 month old little man I guess DH & I didn't think anything would happen without a little intervention!
I am REALLY terrified & VERY excited! I have just started the injections to help control my blood clotting disorder which has probably caused my previous three MCs & am on progesterone & aspirin daily - all left over from last time. I have got a GP appointment this morning to get more supplies & be referred to my lovely consultant who I hope will get us through this with the ultimate end result - another healthy baby - could I possibly be that lucky twice???
Please hold my hand - I am petrified!
Maybe I really should think about changing my MN name now!!

Cadmum - pleased to hear you're coping as well as can be expected - go gentle on yourself & take good care.

Couldthisbeit - I guess it really could be!!

Hope everyone else is doing ok xxx

Congrats Onebaby! we'll be here for the journey xx

Onebaby that is wonderful news x