A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

[woollyjo]

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

I can't believe it but I am still here at 10+2 - never got anywhere near this far before.
Am even kind of enjoying the all day morning sickness and heartburn as I hope that means a healthy little one is in there!
We have our first midwife appt on Monday.
Best wishes to everyone wherever they are on thier journey x

Yey! I knew there were folk out there!

Well done all of you, time seems to have flown Lunatic and Julez but I bet it doesn't feel that way.

Take care all of you

Off to lurk on the x factor thread as dh is asleep on the sofa so not great company (anyone would think he was the one not to have had a decent night sleep in 6 months!)

Hi ladies, can I pull up a chair and join you ( with bucket ) MS is driving me bonkers I should be happy I feel so sick I know.. 2 MC this year and praying this one holds out as I'm not sure my body could take much more.

I do however sadly know of some who have had much worse luck, I feel for you all. x

I haven't posted on here for absolutely ages - largely due to being in and out of hospital with kidney problems towards the end of pregnancy.

But I am so bloody happy to announce the birth of my son, Jacob, at 4.34am on 13th November. He's just perfect - and 9 months ago I couldn't allow myself to believe we'd get here.

Congratulations Trish - how wonderful! I get so excited about the safe arrival of little ones now - chuffed to bits for you!

Hi Littlemiss, you'll find some great support here.

xx

hi everyone, didn't know which thread was best but you seem like a friendly bunch so here I am !!

Brief story so far.. 36, and got pg for first time in May this year. Had a mmc in July after seeing slow heartbeat and small embryo at 8 week scan and had an ERPC at 11 weeks. Took a while to feel like trying again and last month decided to go for it. Think I might be pg as having all symptoms I did the last time at this stage (day 33 of my cycle which is normally 30) but weirdly don't want to test just yet... and that's just not me at all.

Last time around I felt like every day dragged especially as we had to wait 2 weeks for a second scan which then confirmed mmc....so a little wary this time as I know once it's real (if it is) the whole circus starts and I'll be counting the days/hours etc between scans.

Anyway hello

Thanks lunaticfringe and woollyjo. I really am so happy. I hope everyone else on this thread gets there in the end. I know how agonising the worry of each day of pregnancy is.

I wish you all the best of luck in the world.

X

I am here!

Congratulations Trish wonderful news

I am 24+5 and just getting through one day at a time. I have a scan on 20 December to check progess so that is the next big hurdle but I am getting bigger and all seems to be well so just waiting.

whizzy are you still out there?

I'm at 40+4 with pregnancy number 4. Pregnancy number 1 ended two years ago today at 14 weeks due to anencephaly (Habbibu, you're the first person I've ever encountered that's also gone through that). Pregnancy number 2 was a blighted ovum which ended in April 2009 at 9 weeks. Pregnancy number 3 was diagnosed as ectopic, although personally I'm convinced the foetus simply didn't develop far enough to be spotted on the scan. That ended in August 2009.

So far I've had one medical termination, one surgical termination, and one pregnancy ended through medication only. This one has been very normal up to now, and as there's been no pattern behind our losses there's no reason not to be hopeful that all will go well this time.

Sometimes I wonder if I could cope at all if anything happens, though.

Hello, think I might need to join this thread (sorry haven't read it all so will take me a bit of time to get to know where everyone is in their journeys!). I have one DS who will be 2 in a couple of weeks - he is perfect but had brain damage at birth due to lack of oxygen so has cerebral palsy. Was so traumatised by whole dreadful experience that had no intention of going through it all again - for a while anyway - but had a positive pregnancy test this morning - unplanned and a bit of a shock really! I am mostly just in a bit of a panic now as had absolutely no intention of getting pg, in fact just had interview for new job yesterday which I really want, and needless to say have been drinking - not loads but often have a couple of glasses of wine in the evening. I hope it is too early to matter too much It will be nice for DS to have a brother or sister though - if it goes ok.

Congratulations Trish, and welcome baby Jacob!

Had my first scan today, and blow me down, there's only a baby in there wriggling and waving.
I am so happy and I just can't believe it.

Thought I was 11+1 but moved back to 10+2 so even get another scan in 10 days!

I know I have a long road ahead but this is our 5th pregnancy and we've never seen a heartbeat before so today feels like the most amazing day ever.
Best wishes to you all on your journeys.

Welcome to the new arrivals.

Well I am in a fab mood. I had a scan this morning and I have just been signed off by the consultant. I am so totally thrilled

The baby is healthy and well, the cyst she had on her brain has been reabsorbed, she is still a little small but nothing to worry about and I can go back to just seeing the midwife from now until the begining of Feb when I am seeing the consultant to arrange a date for induction (OMG!) if that is the path I wish to take.

I am sure by tomorrow I will have something else to worry about but for today I AM HAPPY!

Hi there.. Congratulations on the birth of your son Trish.

Am 6 weeks gone with my first. Had a miscarriage in September last year. We then tried for 13 months to get pregnant again... and here I am. No symptoms to speak of, except for the BFP, sore nipples and being tired. And I'm overreacting every twinge and ache I feel in my tummy is potentially terminal. 12 weeks seems like a very very long time.

I haven't even started the rounds with the doctors yet as am currently on holiday. Moved house two weeks before I left to go on hols, and got the BFP 4 days before we boarded. Was simply not possible to register with a new GP and get checked out before we flew away. I guessed that I'm not missing much with the first appointment, but would like at least to be on the ultrasound list, and perhaps wrangle an early scan? Anyway - good luck to all, and am looking forward to hearing any tips or suggestions for things like sore nipples.

Hi all, welcome newbies! Lovely to see lots of new names - hope lots of good news is to follow. Good luck to you all.

Trish - congratulations!! So pleased for you, enjoy every minute with Jacob!! Fabulous!

Lunatic - how did your scan go? Hope all's well.

Good news re the cyst too Nancydrew, good luck with your scan.

Jobob hope all went well with you - my 6 month old son was also my fourth pregnancy but my first baby, I'm hoping it all went well for you too

Hope everything's good with you Julez?

Emin is absolutely wonderful, need I say more?! Feel very lucky.

Good luck you guys, thinking of you xxx

Hi everyone, please can I join you?

I am 4+2 today with my second baby. We lost our first daughter in October, she was born sleeping after an induced labour at 20 weeks (no heartbeat detected on the 20 week scan).

The tests revealed that I had a strong toxoplasmosis infection which is probably why we lost her. We were recommended to wait 6 months from the birth before ttc again. However, at the point of the consultation we didn't know it, but the damage was already done and I got my BFP on Thursday.

We've been referred straight to the consultant and I've just phoned and gone through the "Choose and Book" malarky (bit weird that) and should be getting an appointment letter in the post shortly.

I'm very nervous for lots of reasons. Nervous because I'm pregnant so soon against advice and I hope this baby will be ok, terrified about another unexpected late loss, scared about all the usual early pregnancy stuff (early MC, ectopics, blighted ovums etc etc), and also nervous about being pregnant generally - I was really sick and exhausted last time and struggled with pelvic pain from quite early. It wasn't fun and it will be a "grit my teeth and bear it" sort of exercise.

Please hold my hand.

Can I say a big congratulations to Trish, OneBaby, woollyjo and anyone else I've missed on your lovely new babies. It makes me well up and get tingles down my spine to read about your safe arrivals. It's all the more poignant in the light of the terrible experiences you've already had xx

split - congratulations! I read about your experience. Really hope all goes well this time.

I had 2 MCs and experienced the death of my daughter shortly after birth. I am 26 weeks now. It has been nerve racking to say the least but I am receiving amazing support from my ante-natal team. I hope you do to.

x

Hello. May I join you as well?

I am 6 weeks along and petrified.

I have lost 4 pregnancies in the second trimester. (18, 13, 17(twins) and 20 weeks.)

Our most recent loss required a c-section because I also had a full placenta previa which prevented an induction and natural delivery. The consultant wanted to perform a hysterectomy because that procedure would have been easier for him and less risky for me. The recommendation following the successful c-section was to wait 9-12 months before trying to conceive and it was 10 months ago so we have followed the advice but barely...

Our families are quite unsupportive and seem to be suggesting that if we had stopped at two (a boy and a girl) then we could have spared ourselves this misery.

We do already have 4 beautiful dcs so part of me agrees with the people who argue that we should just leave well enough alone. Another part of me cannot see the connection between the children we have and the ones we have lost. It feels as though the suggestion is that since we have so many the others were just expendable.

spiltthetea,

Your post is so beautifully and eloquently written that I can practically feel your angst as I read.

I am sorry that you will spend this pregnancy feeling paranoid and wondering if you have done the right thing. This thread looks like the right place for support and I also hope that your ante-natal care providers are sensitive and caring.

Thanks sh77, LF and Cadmum.

Cadmum I am horrified to read what a terrible terrible time you have had, to lose 5 children, what a torturous experience. I think you're on the August AN thread too aren't you? I'm feeling a bit weird over there and out of place, everyone's so excited and happy but I just have this massive undercurrent of fear and worry borne out of my experiences.

Lunatic I hope for your sake they do have wi-fi if you become an inpatient! I can't imagine going through that without MN support during all the long and frightening hours. Your MW sounds lovely.

sh77 so sorry to hear about your daughter. I'm getting in a muddle - I do remember you and I can't think where we have "met". Actually, were you in my March group? Really hoping you and bump will get through this safe and well.

Ladies - wishing you all a very peaceful, stress-free Happy Christmas.
Hoping all your dreams come true in 2011 xx

Hope everyone had a peaceful Christmas - I actually rather enjoyed ours, but it is difficult not to with a 4 & 6 year old. Their excitement is infectious and I feel so grateful to have them.

I am however dreading New Year. The time that the loss of F passes into another year. I will no longer have lost him "last year" and somehow that feels wrong, as if his not being here is somehow diminished by the passage of time, at least in the eyes of those who I will come to tell. It sounds so "past" but still feels so "present" IYKWIM.

Anyway don't I just sound maudlin?! Venting really.

Welcome and best wishes to brownb cadmum and spilt

It has gone very quiet on here.

Is everyone OK?

9 1/2 weeks here and feeling dreadful for most of this week.

'Booking-in" on Tuesday. We live in Cambodia so not too sure what to expect really.

Happy new year all, I hope it's a happy and healthy one for us all.
I'm 16 + 4 and was thrilled to hear our little one's heartbeat on Tuesday. I'm slowly beginning to hope I might finally be a mum.
Hope you are all well x