Totally's GRADS...lets handhold thru this....

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Ok girls....time to get started....

lee stressy amyboo totally

and of course any other ladies who have recently had a Big Scary Fat Positive and will now literally be counting the days to healthy babe in arms, welcome y'all

i have no idea how i am going to make it but i know that i will need handholding....and knowing lots of you already i know you will too ha ha

{Totally's conception thread got me thus far with lots of handholding and i love them for that....}

BRING ON THE BABIES.....

i have made initial appt with the midwife today but have been experiencing some really crampy feelings which are starting to concern me....i hate the thought that i cannot see what is going on inside my body....i am totally still going to try and relax but i am terrified....is this what it is goin to be like??? i think that this is going to be a very long few weeks....

hopefully i will be able to get an early scan booked in which should provide some reassurance but i don't even know if that will make me feel better....

crikey....and i thought TTC after a MC was stressful.....this is a whole new league of terror!!!!

welcome to the new ladies.....only requirement for joining is obviously paranoia to unbelievable levels and the capacity to walk in a conga style whilst holding on the the person behind....

Hey boodle I've been cramping too and despite the woman at NHS Direct saying it wasn't normal I'm convinced it is. If it's just like period pains but without bleeding I reckon it's just stretching.

I was quite reassured with mine at first as had it with DS but not with mmc though have to admit that NHS Direct nurse did make me worry a little. It must be stretching - there's a lot going on in there.

I'm with you on the it's going to be a long few weeks thought - I'm not sure that I'm ever going to stop worring or relax totally. DH bless him reminded me last night that swine flu will be on increase too - joy!!

Still, I'll put up with anything as long as I get a full, term healthy DC this time.

I had cramping with my two normal pregnancies, and not with my MC. I was reassured by the cramping this time- it's stretching and implantatin- both good! Silly NHS Direct lady- just causing worry! I got an early scan because my doctor told them I'd had a recent mc and needed reassurance before going on holiday- also, we said I had pains on my left side- they have to check for ectopic.

Hiya everyone, well have had another scare today so am booked in with my local EPU tomorrow morning......my symptoms have all gone and have been bleeding again........need some serious hand-holding

I have added myself to the list but have no idea if I'm going to stay here.......

Totally-14 weeks- DC#2- Due 24th Feb
hoops997 - 8 weeks - DC#1 - Due 2nd April
LeeWT - 7 weeks- DC#2- Due 10th April
Boodle - 3-4 weeks? - DC#3 - due 30th April

Hope you are all ok......

Hello, may I join in, I am also on the scary April bus? I am 6+5 and had a MC back in February at 8+3 weeks.

Every time, I stop feeling nauseous, I start to worry about it and as soon as it comes back I am so relieved.

I also had some cramp this weekend but there were no other symptoms so I want to assume it is only stretching. I am having a scan on Thursday, I just can't wait.

I am also still breastfeeding (bf) DS1 whom is 16 months. I am trying to stop but then feel so guilty, since he gets so upset and I kind of feel it is wrong in some way to stop because I am PG but at the same time, my body just doesn't belong to me anymore and I get so exhausted.

Oh sweet hope you are coping ok. It's such a crappy time isn't it. I've got my fingers crossed for you. Loads of pregnancies have bleeds- my friend bleeds every month and she is now 38 weeks. Keep hope. I'm sure all will be fine, and if not, we are all here for you. Xx

fingers crossed for hoops and her bean...

Hoops sorry this is going to be a stressful night til you see your bean tomor.. The only thing I've read is that once a hb is detected your chances of mc fall drastically and you've seen it twice.. Hope it all goes well will check mn frantically at lunch xxx

thanks guys, yeah the fact I've seen it twice is what I'm clinging to.......this is so worrying, I doubt I will get any sleep tonight.....

My DP is away with the Army as well and he is beside himself with worry, so I will be going on my own for my scan.....

Thanks again for the handholding, I love you all and I don't even know you

Oh hoops - how terrifying - you poor love - we're all here for you. All digits tightly crossed that tomorrow's scan will tell you that your bean is fine and just causing unnecessary mischief! As if it's not an anxious enough time as it is.

I too have several friends who have bled during pregnancy and all now have perfect babies (one of which is my little niece!).

Big hug. Hope the morning comes round as quickly as poss for you. xxx

Oh hoops will be thinking of you for scan Big hugs and let us know.

I'm with Lee one of my friends was told by her consultant, after having a couple of early scans that once you've seen the h/b chances drop drastically.

Lots of sticky dust to you all.

(look at the time - tonsillitis doing my head in - SOOOOO painful )

Thinking of you this morning hoops - I hope it all goes OK.

Morning ladies.

hoops I am thinking of you this morning, keeping everything crossed for you. Rotten for you that you are going on your own to the scan as well, hopefully you will see your little one bouncing around.

It's all such a worry, oh for a crystal ball to just know that we will all get very pregnant and end up with babies.

All okay (touches wood) here today. Just starting to get odd waves of nausea, and can barely keep my eyes open in the evenings. I do have fairly frequent backache though so am still waiting for it all to go wrong. I haven't been to the GP yet to register the pregnancy but should do really as I would like an early scan, worried about saying I'm pregnant out loud.

Morning all
Hoops, thinking of you, and echoing everyone else who knows women who bled and delivered healthy babies. I know of two! Also think cramping is normal to some extent.
Hello to Helpet - your situation sounds exactly like mine. What day did you mc? I was 7th July. Fingers crossed for us this time.
Draughts, which chromosomal abnormality does your dc carry, if you don't mind me asking? Nice to "meet" meet you and enjoy some hand-holding.

Okay, I'm adding myself to the list, even though am convinced I won't make it much further. Does anyone else not feel sick? All I have is, ahem, a "really upset tummy" at the other end. I keep having to rush to the loo - v stressful, but then the stress makes it worse. I wish I could just keep busy all the time. Oh, and does anyone else keep waking up at 5.30am?

Totally-14 weeks- DC#2- Due 24th Feb
hoops997 - 8 weeks - DC#1 - Due 2nd April
LeeWT - 7 weeks- DC#2- Due 10th April
Boodle - 3-4 weeks? - DC#3 - due 30th April
Sunnydale, 3-4 weeks (?) - DC#2 - due 1st May

Hi sunnydale. I have only just this last couple of days had faint waves of nausea, I'm 5+4 today. I don't think morning sickness is supposed to take hold untill six weeks. I also have a slightly dodgy tummy too, I keep thinking I have AF type cramps but I think they are bowel cramps .

I don't mind you asking about ds2, he has 22.2q deletion, or otherwise known as di-george syndrome. It is a testable for condition but during my pregnancy with him there was nothing that suggested a need for further testing. Saying that I'm glad in a way because I wouldn't change anything about him for the world. He is scrummy! His main symptoms are moderate hearing loss, cleft palate, and a dodgy immune system.

When he was diagnosed, both myself and DH were tested and told that it was a totally random thing but the doubt is nagging in my mind.

Hello - my mc was on 16th July and seems sooo long ago now and yet it wasn't really (time stands still with all this waiting waiting waiting). Really really lucky to conceive just over 2 weeks later. I don't think my last little bean even made it to 5+3 because all blood tests and wee tests were negative once I started to bleed. That was supposed to be a source of comfort at the time. A lot of platitudes were not particularly comforting at the time but you will all understand that. At least WE will understand what NOT to say to friends who suffer a mc. What bugs me at the moment is the constant need people have to say how common they are (a) the ones who have said this haven't had an mc - it's the minority of women who have - so yes it is common but it's not the norm and (b) I want to scream at them because I don't want this little bean to get ideas of wandering off, obv they don't know I'm preg again. Regret telling people in RL about mc - BIG MISTAKE. Slightly hiding away from the world this week; easy because I work from home.

I've got lower back pain too - like sciatic pain (I think, not sure) - but quite relieved to have begun to feel sick yesterday - although moaned about it quite a lot to dh when he came in (partly to get extra brownie points for cooking him a roast chicken).

Hope everyone's ok today (esp Hoops) and wishing time away (and I hate doing that) - I just want us all to get to the reassuring point, whenever that is. I don't think I'll feel 'safe' until I'm holding a healthy newborn in my arms (touch wood, fingers crossed). xx

I too am going to daringly add myself to the due list:

Totally-14 weeks- DC#2- Due 24th Feb
hoops997 - 8 weeks - DC#1 - Due 2nd April
LeeWT - 7 weeks- DC#2- Due 10th April
helpet - 5 weeks - DC#2 - due 23rd April
Boodle - 3-4 weeks? - DC#3 - due 30th April
Sunnydale, 3-4 weeks (?) - DC#2 - due 1st May

Draughts - I've heard that ms can start from the moment HCG is in your system - I didn't have any ms with ds until I was 8 weeks but I have friends who have felt really really sick from the very beginning. Please don't worry - it's a GOOD sign! I have dreadful cramping too, and I completely panicked - I started a thread about it last week and loads of people reassured me and said they had bad cramps throughout the first trimester etc. It's just the hormones mucking up our digestive system and things stretching and stuff (forgive the medical jargon )

Hello again. Draughts, I could be wrong but I think there's a journalist called India Knight who has a dd with di-george syndrome, so I know a tiny bit about it from reading her columns. Your ds sounds adorable.
Helpet, know what you mean about the "it's common" comments. I don't want to tell anyone about this pg because I found it v difficult to tell the tiny amt of people I did tell about the last one that I'd mc'd. In fact, last night I found myself in the surreal situation of having to tell my MIL that I'd mc'd, but was in fact pg again. Nobody had wanted to tell her because of her DH dying, so there she was, visiting us, staring at my belly and clearly wondering why there wasn't a bump.
I have a teeny tiny squiggly feeling in my uterus that is scaring me, as it is exactly the same feeling I had when the bean died before. No pain or cramps, just squiggling, sort of like energy moving around in a confined space. Last time, my pg symptoms just deflated, like air being let out of a balloon. And I just knew. Way before the bleeding started. Then again, maybe I'm just being paranoid this time. These days are getting longer, I swear. Hope everyone else is feeling positive today.

Blimey, this whole creating life stuff is very stressful!!

sunnydale yes India Knights daughter has the syndrome, she was at a recent conference I went to about it. Her daughter has the heart condition too, which thankfully DS2 doesn't have. I have posted lots about DS2 under a different name on here, but have am in disguise due to the whole pregnancy thing.

I read an article the other day that newly pregnant women have to remember that their uterus is not suspended in air and therefore we should expect twinges and discomfort. I hope thats all it is for you sunny. With my miscarriage I was exactly the same, I could almost feel my breasts deflating as the hormones reduced so rapidly. Thats why I keep prodding them, they should be black and blue!!

helpet Your right about the MS, I need to get a bit of a grip on all of this I think.

Hoooops.. What news?!?! I'm in bed cried off work early for a sleep felt too sick :-(

Hi to the new guys.

I heard baby's heartbeat today. DH came with me on his lunch time and he loved it. He said he's going to try and make every midwife appointment like he did with DS. Bless him.

DS won't nap and won't let me nap Could really do with it. Got a long 1st day back at work tomorrow. Just got my new rota and Tuesdays I'm teaching from 9 in the morning until 7pm. I'll be nackered! Still too scared to tell work I'm pregnant, but I've just got brand new maternity clothes and they're obviously maternity clothes... hmm... what should I do??

Er, tell them after the bank holiday? People like a bit of good news on the first day back at work after the last bank holiday of the summer...
Congrats on heartbeat. Wow. Can hardly imagine. Lovely news. Bo-boom, bo-boom, bo-boom.

Hoops! Is everything allright?

Hoops, hope all is well with you.

Totally how fabulous to have heard the heartbeat.

hello ladies, thanks for all the well wishes, well little hoops is fine and looking great, saw and heard heartbeat which made me cry like a 2 year old........

The ladies at the EPU were great again, they said anytime I feel scared/worried to come back and they will do a quick scan......

They also gave me a little picture of a rather fuzzy bean but I don't care cause s/he is OK and and with regards to my symptoms going the nurse said 'think yourself lucky and stop complaining!!!!'

So how is everyone else?