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Totally's GRADS...lets handhold thru this....

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boodleboot · 23/08/2009 23:15

Ok girls....time to get started....

lee stressy amyboo totally

and of course any other ladies who have recently had a Big Scary Fat Positive and will now literally be counting the days to healthy babe in arms, welcome y'all

i have no idea how i am going to make it but i know that i will need handholding....and knowing lots of you already i know you will too ha ha

{Totally's conception thread got me thus far with lots of handholding and i love them for that....}

BRING ON THE BABIES.....

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stressyheady · 02/09/2009 09:12

oh lee darling - am SO SO sorry lots of big hugs to you am thinking of you. I can't believe it - am so sad for you. xxxx

memorylapse · 02/09/2009 10:11

Lee Im so sorry to hear your news

I did another CBD test yesterday and it had gone to 2-3 weeks..but Im not reassured..woke up this morning and had absoloutely no symptoms..if it wasnt for the test I wouldnt have known I was pregnant..Ive never had a pregnancy with out severe sickness and quite extreme symptoms early on..yesterday I felt nauseaus and my boobs were tender..today nothing..and when I went to the loo and wiped once..there was a sort of snotty looking greeny discharge on the paper..but just the once..so am not feeling optimistic..off to the docs now because I have underactive thyroid but kind of feeling that I should have cancelled it

Sunnydale · 02/09/2009 10:38

Lee am so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you and sending hugs. So, so sorry. Please don't give up.

Like you Memory I also did another Clearblue yest - it had gone up to 3+ weeks (wish it went higher) but I don't feel reassured at all. I can't face a 3 hour wait like last time in the EPU, so I called a private scan place and am just wondering whether to fork out £160 to have one done tomorrow. It's hard to know my dates as I didn't have AF after my last MC, but I think I should be about 6 weeks. Like you, I have no symptoms whatsoever except sore boobs. I can't bear how I feel. I just want to know one way or the other so I can move forward, but on the other hand if I wait a week I'm more likely to see a heartbeat or not more conclusively. I feel like I was sat here agonising about all this so recently - but then the last mc was only 8 weeks ago so it's hardly surprising. Just think my eggs must be f*ed, but surely 39 isn't that old. I mean it's old, but some people have babies at 46. God how I wish I'd started my family earlier. So full of regret

memorylapse · 02/09/2009 11:56

Sunnydale..its horrible isnt it when you feel yourself analising every symptom, or lack of it..£160 seems a bit steep for an early scan..is there anywhere else? my local private clinic does them at around £85..Im going to book an early scan too as I dont want to sit around for hours in EPU..trouble is, its too early for me at the mo, a scan wouldnt show anything..Im keeping my fingers crossed for you that your little bean sticks..I think either way, get an early scan if you can..if only to put your mind at rest..you havent left it too late..((hugs))

hoops997 · 02/09/2009 16:43

lee so sorry, sending you lots of hugs......life is so unfair

Jacanne · 02/09/2009 18:24

So sorry to hear you sad news Lee -loads of love to you.

You know Sunny, I only had sore boobs/tiredness until about 8 weeks with both of my successful pregnancies so don't loose hope. I am 39 too - so I know what you mean about worrying abe out age being a factor - I do know lots of women 40+ who have had babies.

I seem to have sore boobs again today, after a day of non-sore ones.

amyboo · 03/09/2009 08:17

Can anyone give me a word of advice?

Since my light bleed last Thursday when I went to gynae and everything was OK, I've still been getting a kind of brownish discharge. Gynae reackoned this could happen, but mentioned 3 or 4 days. It's now been going on for a week. It's not very heavy, and seems to happen when I'm active - i.e when I walk to work. It stopped on Tuesday, but then came back again yesterday...

I'm due for another scan and gynae appointment on Wednesday morning, so I don't know if I should hold out for that or if I should be panicking that I'm still getting the brownish discharge. I don't have any cramping, and there are no clots or anything, and I still have nausea, but I'm starting to worry. Any advice ladies?

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boodleboot · 03/09/2009 08:22

amy - get thee to a doctor and ask for a scan - to check all is ok and to reassure you....

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memorylapse · 03/09/2009 10:00

Amy definitely get yourself referred for a scan, if only to put your mind at rest..I bled at 11 weeks with ds 1 then periodically through my pregnancy, with dd2 I had a heavy bleed at 5 weeks, turned out that I have cervical erosion..

Im still very anxious about this pregnancy..said to DH last night..cant really get excited or anything at the moment..just in case..and we havent told a soul..not even our parents

TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 03/09/2009 12:53

Poor Lee How awful. I really thought things would be fine for her this time.

Boodle etc with the tests, I would say if the conception indicator is going up, all is well. Wth my MC, the conception indicator stayed at 1-2 weeks for weeks and weeks. With this pregnancy, it went up to 2-3, stayed there for a while, maybe a couple of weeks, and then went up to 3+.

I keep getting pains and things and I'm finding myself worrying a lot. It's flown to this point, but now I'm back at work and tired, it's hit me and I worry it'll drag from here on in. Feb isn't too long away is it? Going to give up work at 36 and a half weeks this time (as opposed to 29 weeks last time ) not the same maternity pay this time, so I need to work my tush off. Going to be doind about 24 hours a week but it's lecturing so it's hard work and then there's all the prep and marking. I'm tired after one day! Really willing on the 21 week scan, I want to know everything's ok, and I'm feeling very guilty for not taking my folic acid as it made me feel sick.

My friend is 36 weeks and in labour, but it keeps stopping and starting for her. Just when it gets regular, it stops again. Feel really sorry for her. But at least babba will be here soon.

Going to have to tell work before my contract is signed as it won't be done until October, and I'll be over half way through the pregnancy by then! It means risking losing a lot of hours and a lot of money

draughts · 03/09/2009 13:47

Lee I am so sorry to read your very sad news. I hope you are taking very good care of yourself. x

draughts · 03/09/2009 13:50

Hello all, I had my appointment at the EPAU yesterday where they were all very lovely and kind to a very shaky me.

Had a transvaginal scan which showed a 6+1 foetus with a heartbeat! It is obviously still very early days and anything can happen but for now I feel quite reassured.

amy If you are concerned then call your doctor if only to ask the question about the discharge/bleed. Hope you are okay.

amyboo · 03/09/2009 15:04

Glad to hear your scan went well draughts. Keeping my fingers crossed that everything carries on going well for you.

Discharge hasn't reappeared since this morning, so I think I'll just take things easy and ask the doctor about it next week. He did a very thorough scan last Thursday and couldn't see any reason for bleeding. And seeing as it's not bright red, I think there's little point rushing in for another scan. I'm going to try to just relax and let nature take its course.

Sunnydale · 03/09/2009 15:10

Hello all - just returned from having a scan: couldn't take it any longer so stumped up £160 for a private one. Daylight robbery, but the news was good so I don't care! Despite being positive the pg was failing, I saw a 2.7mm bean (small is beautiful) with a heartbeat of 95bpm. I cried like a baby at the good news. I realise it's early days but these stats will do me for now. To anyone else on this thread who is worrying about lack of symptoms: it doesn't always mean anything bad. I feel v foolish for thinking the worst, but after the last mc I suppose I was just expecting it. Am completely over the moon and determined to obsess less and relax more.

Draughts congrats on your successful scan, too - we must be due on v similar dates.

Amy just echoing the others - get a scan if only for reassurance.

Jacanne glad to know there's another 39-er on this thread! Hope you are feeling ok today.

Lee still thinking of you and so sorry.

Prisci · 03/09/2009 15:51

hourrah, just had another scan since the one last week showed a slightly slow heartbeat, everything seems to be fine now, the bean is still well placed, good heartbeat and has grown well so far. So releived, I will be flying to France tonight even if I am still completely exausted and the nausea is getting worse, hopefully DS will be good and I will not throw up on anyone....

Lee thinking of you too

Sunnydale I am so pleased, you must be so so releived.

amyboo · 03/09/2009 15:57

Congrats to sunnydale and prisci for the scan results! You most both be so relieved. I can't believe they charge £160 for a private scan though! My gynae charges ?45 (about £30) plus ?40 for a consultation.

Enjoy your trip to France prisci

LeeWT · 03/09/2009 19:57

Hi girls thanks for all your kind thoughts and words..

Just wanted to tell you that as they were wheeling me out of the op theatre today I could hear a newborn crying for the first time in the next theatre. It brought a smile to my face and I thought of all you girls and your beans.. Remember to think positively for this bean and don't dwell on the negatives.

Although I am sad i've made my peace with not ttc for a while and will be checking in on you all from time to time to send you good vibes..

Loads of love xxx

GiPi1 · 03/09/2009 20:42

Lee I am so sorry for you - please take care of yourself.

Tomorrow is a nervous day for me - I have my long awaited appointment for the early dating scan. My boobs are now starting to hurt quite alot and my tummy is getting bigger by the day - I am still wondering if there are twins in there - apparently my age (40) means there is more chance of multiples. I just hope that it shows a healthy bean in there and then I can relax (a little!!)

To everyone else keep those beans warm !!! x

memorylapse · 04/09/2009 08:14

Gipi-good luck with the scan

memorylapse · 04/09/2009 09:04

Im off to hospital in a min as gp wants to rule out extopic pregnancy ..the discharge is now very obviously brown, which the gp said is not a good sign

GiPi1 · 04/09/2009 09:10

Memory - good luck hope the news is good x

amyboo · 04/09/2009 09:13

Good luck memory. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Sunnydale · 04/09/2009 09:25

Lee, lovely to hear from you. Respect for your positive attitude. I hope your hospital visit wasn't too sad and traumatic, and wish you love and a speedy recovery.

Gipi good luck for your scan, and how is that swine of a DP? It really sucks when someone is with a dodgy, non supportive DP, and you have my sympathy. It's not for me to comment on him any further, although there a few choice words I'd like to say!

Memory good luck for your scan too, fingers crossed it's not ectopic. Brown discharge could be completely normal too and in your case I really hope so.

Does anyone know the chance of mc after a heartbeat is detected? My doctor yesterday said 15%. Quite hard to find by googling. Hope everyone else is ok today

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boodleboot · 04/09/2009 09:53

memory - really hoping for positive news for you...

GiPi - good luck with your scan - we are all with you in spirit....xx

Lee - really lovely that you are able to take the good out of a very negative situation.....god bless you and your DH.

i am off in a minute to the booking in midwife appt and will be quite forceful about the fact that i NEED an early scan...i just need to see that it is progressing....it was such an awful shock at the twelve wk scan of my MMC when they said that the preg hadn't gone past six weeks....i cannot endure that wait agin....i'll be a nervous wreck.....

i'll check back in later for news from our scan ladies

enjoy your days everyone

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GiPi1 · 04/09/2009 12:07

just back from EPU and had abdo scan to start - she could not see anything sent me off to empty bladder and for a sample for her to do pregnancy test and then back to room for internal scan !

Pregnancy test came back positive and internal scan was absolutely positive

Just the one bean and it has a good and strong heartbeat - only 6 weeks though (thought I was further along) and am so so pleased

The father didn't turn up for the scan - didn't expect him to really but he has just tried to phone me - didn't answer it !!!

I keeping my fingers crossed for the rest of you to have good news, and will still be knicker checking for at least another 6 weeks though !!!

Lots of love to you all xxx

I am over the moon and just hope