Totally's GRADS...lets handhold thru this....

[boodleboot]

Ok girls....time to get started....

lee stressy amyboo totally

and of course any other ladies who have recently had a Big Scary Fat Positive and will now literally be counting the days to healthy babe in arms, welcome y'all

i have no idea how i am going to make it but i know that i will need handholding....and knowing lots of you already i know you will too ha ha

{Totally's conception thread got me thus far with lots of handholding and i love them for that....}

BRING ON THE BABIES.....

Hi!
Tried to do list - sorry for double posting by mistake. Added Sarahlou, Louise and re-added Becky. Hope that's ok - feel free Louise and Becky to add more info to your stats!

Anyone hear anything from MrsRigby or Lee recently? Hope you and your beans are doing well!

Any news hoops?!? Amyboo just wondering, can't you ask them to give you your baby right after getting him out? They did that once on OBEM... depends on the circumstances obviously, but seeing as it's all planned and not an emergency section, it could be doable. Else, can you ask them to give him to your DH?

feeling sick: My German alternative medicine pregnancy book suggests sniffing at essential oils. Just carry a small vial with you and whenever you feel sick (I realise that that is all the time for some) you get it out and sniff at it - supposed to help. The author suggests a few "flavours" that have proven to be popular for this, and I can look it up tonight at home if you want... but basically she says to sniff at several in the shop and pick the one that intuitively suits you/works for you. I had a vial of mandarine, and it was lovely to sniff at, but I didn't use it very much.

cheepz I know what you mean about feeling ambivalent about your suffering. That's why I am also reluctant to announce to everyone (at work for instance) that I'm pg. It's like, why should I tell them (it will be obvious soon enough...); I don't "deserve" any special treatment as this is what I desperately wanted and put a lot of effort into achieving... so why tell? Also, it being a youngish, student-ish environment, no one else is even thinking about having kids. It just feels odd. But I find myself sucking in my bump when walking around, these days... so should better think of a strategy of letting people know!
Anyway, even though it's what you wanted, you're still suffering, and you are perfectly legitimate in complaining and moaning about it. It's not that you wanted the suffering, after all, it's the baby that you want and you'd gladly have it without the sick-all-the-time, if you could choose.

I'm seeing my PhD supervisor in a little while. Will have to tell her that a) I'm pregnant and will have to interrupt/delay the completion of my PhD, and b) I have achieved virtually nothing for my PhD since my BFP in December (due to first-trimester sufferings and lots of worries, mainly...)
Am a bit nervous about that. I'm sure she'll be lovely about it, but there will also be some hard realities to acknowledge.

Wednesday's Updated List:

Wednesday

Amy - BOY - 37 wks - due 02 April
Hoops - BOY - 37 wks - due 02 April - IN LABOUR
Memorylapse - GIRL 33+1 wks - due 4th May
Jacanne - GIRL - 32+6 wks - due 29th April/6 May
Becky78 - ??? - 32 wks
Meita - baby#1 - ??? - 18+1 wks, due 17th August - 2nd scan 1st April
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 14+2wks- due 16th Sept 20wk scan - 4th May
TFLS - baby#1 - 12+1wks, due 29 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 12 wks, due 30th Sept - 12 wk scan 26th March
Louisesh - 11+5 wks
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), 11+3 wks, EDD 7th October
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 9+2wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 9 wks, EDD 20th October, dating scan & nuchal test 13.04.10, 20 week scan 07.06.10
Freezing - baby#2 (DD 18 months) 8+6 wks, EDD 21st Oct
Cheepz - baby#2 (DS1 2.8) 8+5 wks, EDD 22nd Oct, 12 wk scan 14th April, mw booking appt 21st April
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 8+4 wks, EDD 23rd October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010 V

I've updated my details on the list - scan dates and I was one day out with my current day (no idea how I did that?!).

Meita Hope it goes ok with your superviser...I am working full-time and studying for a masters at the moment and I'm not really doing very much at all either. Too tired and sick for extra work that requires self-motivation!

Cheepz I feel awful about all the moaning that I'm doing...I so much want to have a baby and I should be grateful that I appear to be having a healthy pregnancy rather than complaining all the time. I think I am just overtired and I frequently seem to lose sight of what this is all about. I am going to try to rethink the things that I am doing to try to get more down time. At the moment I am either working, eating or sleeping, but for my own well-being I think that I need to include some other things too! I am hoping that will help me to get some perspective on the situation and will help me make it through the next few weeks with my sanity in tact.

Hope everyone else is ok, I haven't heard any news from Mrs R in ages - when I first joined mn she was posting all the time, I hope she is ok. SB

Hoops Any news???

Cheepz Hope the nausea isn't dragging you down too much

To all of you lovely ladies that I know Im forgetting to reply to specific comments, blame it on the pg brain!

Im sooo distracted today, the long awaited (that was never two weeks, it was an eternity!) viability scan is at 9.45am tomorrow, so needless to say Im absolutely petrified I'd love to say my MS has kicked in, but honestly I know it's just nerves So so so scared they're going to tell me it's my 3rd MMC. Would love it if you thought a little prayer for this baby (not that Im religious exactly, but right now anything would be a comfort!) We're prepared for the worst but hoping and praying for a miracle.. Wish me luck ladies

emmielou81 Good luck tomorrow, little prayer has been duly said here for you and your baby...fx that everything is ok, SB

Good luck EMMIELOU fingers crossed for you tomorrow.

Hope everyone else is well.My stats are 11weeks,5 days.baby 1, edd 1st Oct.

emmie good luck honey, thinking of you and your little bean, sending all good karma and positive vibes your way. x

emmie Best of luck tomorrow! Will be thinking of you.

Meeting with supervisor was ok. Except that she really wants me to do an incredible amount of work before baby arrives (with good reason) so now I'm going to have to start being very disciplined. Everything I get done now will make finishing the PhD after baby-break easier, so she is definitely right... Still, this will be tough 5 months.

Am still looking for a way to tell my "work" colleagues... sigh. ( the problems I have...)

sea sickness acupressure bands are helping, a little, still feel underlying nausea but not gaging all the time or feeling like am on the verge of throwing up all the time. would recommend as being worth a try - they are pretty cheap

Hi all,

Meita thanks for adding me to the list.

Emmie good luck for tomorrow, I really hope you'll be back tomorrow as high as a kite to tell us all about it xx

sam cheepz and freezing another one as sick as a parrot here, in bed again. I'm having to have a sleep as soon as I get in from work to alleviate the sickness enough to struggle through making tea.

I spoke to mw yesterday, she says there is a baby boom around here and she couldn't book me in till 11th April, which means I couldn't have a scan till 13/14 weeks, but after a chat about what happened last time and how nervous I feel, she is going to come and see me in her own time on Sunday morning, which I think is utterly lovely of her. When I told her I feel so sick she said 'thats good news' and I too, feel awful for complaining when theres others who are dying to be where I am.

We are waiting with baited breath to see if our offer on a house will be accepted in the morning, after which I am hoping for a quiet, relaxing weekend!

hi all.. yes im still alive!!

i do check in all the time but theres never anytime to write!

First of all to all the 8-9 weekers out there - it WILL get better and SOON! I felt exactly the same, felt terrible for moaning but lets face it, when life is one big hangover during which you have to work/parent/socialise/pretend you are feeling fine - it is NO FUN!! i was bad from 7-10 weeks in particular and remember writing a desperate thread saying is this normal but those days seem far away now.

Dont get me wrong, i am very tired, headachey and hungry all the time but the sickness is few and far between which is manageable.

emmie good luck for this morning

amy i am nearly 100% positve they will give you the baby to hold on your chest, they did with me and with everyone else i spoke to. I found the section lovely and relaxing though i did wish i could have had DH with me for the anaesthetic going in. word to the wise - you know you need to shave/wax your bikini line? someone told me thank god because the nurse came leering at me with a razor asking if i needed "done" and i was very relieved someone had informed me so i got to do it myself at home!!!

meita i cant believe you are still managing to hide your bump. i think you might be surprised how people react, in a positive way. with my dd, i brought in a cake and said thought you might like to celebrate with me at teabreak and everyone was lovely even tho most arent at that stage yet if you know what i mean.. and dont worry about ~PhD, it will all sort itself out in due time..

boodle i hear you on the hormonal front. i am not a very good cook while DH is an excellent cook, consequently he doesnt really let me near the kitchen which has made me lose any confidence i previously had. yesterday morning i decided to make him pancakes in bed as he is always making me brekkie in bed. of course once he heard me making the batter he was down telling me to do this and not do that and why didnt i sit down and he would take over. so i cried. lots. uncontrollably. its the first moment where i really wasnt that upset but hormones just raged. poor dh felt really bad which is well.. no bad thing

Turned out yesterday was just going to be a bad day, went to the loo, wiped and saw red blood. the most ive ever had from spotting etc. so rang the hospital and they said to come up and we waited two hours. i really thought it was end game and that this was going to be the cruellest twist of all, that i would get to 12 weeks, tell everyone and then lose the baby. EVENTUALLY got scanned and the baby was fine, heart beating away and little legs outstretched.. the relief was unreal.

if i bleed again i've to get anti-d injections tho they think this bleed was from sex so DH is going to be neglected again for another while!

sorry for not mentioning everyone else individually. hope everyone doing well and yes MrsR let us know how you are!

hoops good luck!!!

Good morning, Hope your scan went well emmie
Know how your feeling on the sickness front ladies, as im sick as a dog too, never been this bad with the others, but I know its a good sign, so just going with it.
Glad your little baby is ok LeeWT

We have a heartbeat!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was so shocked I had to stare at the screen for ages before it sank in!!

8 weeks exactly and perfect, EDD 28th October, so please add me to the list

Thank you, everyone, for your wonderful support over these last few weeks, it's meant a hell of a lot Off for a cuddle with DH and the DC's now

Hope you're all having as wonderful a day as we are

woot woot for emmielou have been checking in all day!!!! wonderful wonderful news

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Excellent news, emmielou! Here's another one who has been checking in all day . Very happy for you. I'll bet you'll sleep better tonight than for a long time!

Lee good to hear from you. Must have been some rollercoaster yesterday! Glad it ended on an up though!
Can I ask, re: anti-D, will you be having the prophylactic shots later on? It's just that they've changed things where I am, instead of two anti-D injections (at weeks 28 and 35) I will only get one but a double dose, at week 28. What will you be having (if any)?

sarahlou any news on the house?

TFLS Your scan next, I believe? In case I forget, all the best for Monday!

SamB Yep, work in general is great as it provides distraction, BUT self-motivated and self-disciplined work with hardly any feedback is very hard when your mind is otherwise preoccupied!

Thursday

Amy - BOY - 37 wks - due 02 April
Hoops - BOY - 37 wks - due 02 April - IN LABOUR
Memorylapse - GIRL 33+2 wks - due 4th May
Jacanne - GIRL - 33 wks - due 29th April/6 May
Becky78 - ??? - 32+1 wks
Meita - baby#1 - ??? - 18+2 wks, due 17th August - 2nd scan 1st April
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 14+3wks- due 16th Sept 20wk scan - 4th May
TFLS - baby#1 - 12+2wks, due 29 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 12+1 wks, due 30th Sept - 12 wk scan 26th March
Louisesh - baby#1, 11+6 wks, due 1st Oct
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), 11+4 wks, EDD 7th October
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 9+3wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 9+1 wks, EDD 20th October, dating scan & nuchal test 13.04.10, 20 week scan 07.06.10
Freezing - baby#2 (DD 18 months) 9 wks, EDD 21st Oct
Cheepz - baby#2 (DS1 2.8) 8+6 wks, EDD 22nd Oct, 12 wk scan 14th April, mw booking appt 21st April
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 8+5 wks, EDD 23rd October
emmielou81 - baby#? - 8 wks, EDD 28th October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010 V

Brilliant news emmielou81 am very happy for you.

Lee very happy for you too, in that it all turned out okay even though it was a rollercoaster. Your DH sounds lovely making you breakfast in bed on a regular occasion.

Meita glad your meeting with supervisor went well. I totally understand about the self-motivation & self-discipline though. I have really been struggling myself although not doing a PhD. Hope you don't mind me asking, but what is your PhD on? I'm just being nosey, but once upon a time I also did one so I'm always interested in others. I know your pain. (mine was in fertility & breastfeeding/lactation)

Have been having a bit of worry in the last day or so. My sickness seems to have subsided quite alot, and had period type backache yesterday. Masses of knicker checking (soory if TMI) and I couldn't work out if I was imagining very feint spotting or not or just being paranoid. Plus it was at this time (9weeks) that I m/c'd last time so feeling very anxious. I've been feeling much more confident this time round until yesterday, and now getting rather scared. Sorry to be rather down but I know you'll all understand more than anyone else.

freezing mine comes and goes, couple of days dreadful, then it gets less severe, today it has got progressively worse over the day, yesterday was intermittant, day before it was relentless and so on. Try not to worry too much, although always an anxious time when its a bad anniversary. thinking of you.

FREEZING hope all settles with you X

EMMIE yeh fabulous news!!!!!

LEE glad alls well with you.

I m ok still KNACKERED at times then ok at other times....Continuing with my twice weekly injections only got 2 weeks of them left..Can t believe i m 12 weeks tomorrow , the last few weeks have flown by.Never got to 12 weeks before WOW!!!!

Hi to everyone else X

YEH its Friday , another week finished at work

just noticed we are nearly at point where need new thread .... am crap at doing it so defering to someone else, but please post a link so I don't get lost!!

Hi all,

Freezing I hope everything turns out ok, I seem to have a terrible sickness day followed by a not quite as bad day, they alternate so maybe nothing to worry about. Today I have bought some accupressure bands, very at first, but boy have they worked today! I put them on at 11am and I haven't felt sick ALL DAY! I did have a bit of a sleep this afternoon so it could be that (my day off today) but if they are working it's FAB I'll try again tomorrow and let you know.
Of course I'm also worrying now I don't feel sick...

Emmielou Thats fantastic news about the scan, I'm so so pleased for you, it must be such a relief and a heartwarming moment to see baby on a screen for the first time.

meita no news yet, the vendors said they wanted a conclusion by the end of the day but when DH rang estate agents to find out what was happening, she had gone to a meeting, we have to wait until morning. I have a (very tentative) good feeling that we've got it though!

I think we will be eating beans on toast for the next two years...

Sam Have you told your children yet? (and anyone else who has older ones?)

hello all

emmielou - congrats, really thrilled for you.

Am having awful struggly time at work at the moment and my boss is off with shingles and as i am preggers will not be in until it is absolutely gone which is great as i really don't want it BUT means i have an inordinate amount of work to do.....and my support worker is 21, legs up to the heavens but the admin skills of a walnut....boo.

i am to supoerstitious to start the new thread.....crashed off the this one in spectacular style after starting it the last time....

i am feeling pretty meh at the moment....thrilled to be pregnant but heartburn just starting to make an appearance and need to reevaluate what i am eating.....

bah....just grumpy.

Cheepz, meita, freezing, louisesh, sarahlou,sam, leewt and anyone else I've forgotten, thank you very much Slept like a log last night, until I woke for a toilet dash at 5am lol

freezing I really hope you're okay hun, are you going to speak to your GP or EPU? They should be able to offer you reassurance, sorry for the pg brain, but are you due a scan yet? Perhaps they'll see you early

lee So glad everything was okay with your scan yesterday, such an awful worry isn't it? While we were waiting to go in we saw a young girl with her Mum and partner who'd clearly just been given bad news, it was heartwrenching to see her

Im not going to attempt the list, as Im sure I'd inadvertently leave someone off, but this is preganancy no 5 for me, with a DS who's 6 next week, and a DD who's 3

sarah With regards to telling our 2 DC, we decided yesterday that depending on the size of the bump (No 5 means Im growing very quickly!) we're going to try to wait until we have our 20 week scan before we tell them, for two reasons, obviously, knowing that all is fine with the baby being one of them, and also, because of their ages, knowing Mummy is having another baby can seem like an endless wait for them, we think it best when we know all is well and they can actually see the bump, feel baby kick etc, it just makes the whole experience more 'real' for them

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/931880-Totally-39-s-Grads-Part-Deux-Let-39-s-handhold?rnd=1268 986798087

New thread!!!