The "4 weeks and bricking it" lounge.

[Thandeka]

Hello,
Me and Wasabipeanut thought a specific thread for people in our boat may be nice- as lovely as the knicker checkers thread is and great support but a lot of the lovely knicker checkers are past the evil first trimester and for those of us that have just found out we are pregnant again post MC we thought it might be nice for us to have a sub lounge to huddle in and support each other in these very early stages where in a way we are still in denial about this pregnancy!

We don't have to post due dates or anything scary like that, just more a place to wobble with people going through it at same time.

So I will be only 4 weeks tommorrow and 40 days ago tommorrow I had an MMC at 10 weeks but emby died at 6/7 weeks. So am going to be petrified basically for at least the next 8 weeks and would love some handholding- especially as this time I am not telling anybody except DH and best mate. Parents need not know.

Hello everyone!

Wasabi how was your scan. I've been thinking about you, I hope all was well.

Mummytopebs & Joy good luck for your scans tomorrow and Friday.

Jardins I hope you are feeling somewhat better

Quirky poor you, I hope your DD is feeling better.

Olga glad your scan went well.

Well I have my scan tomorrow. I am feeling pretty positive although very nervous too. My appetite has increased and I need to eat every couple of hours otherwise I feel quite lethargic. I am hoping that's a good sign. I wonder if I will sleep tonight? Good thing is I have put all thoughts about Swine Flu and travel out of my mind for the moment whilst I get over tomorrow. Then back to fretting (hopefully!)

Scan for me tomorrow to Happy bump and i am nervous to x Fingers crossed for both of us.

DD was at hospital this morning so i was a bit naughty and told work her appt had run over so i didnt have to go into work - naughty. I am just so tired all the time, does anyone feel like this? I could honestly just go to sleep at any time, when dh comes in im going for a kip (and if he whinges about the house not being tidy i will throttle him lol). Was going to ring midwife and ask for iron to be checked but dont know if it is normal to feel like this, last time i was pregnant didnt have dd to look after

Thanks HappyBump good luck for tomorrow. Good luck to mummytopebs and Joy too. DD a lot better, still on a lot of medication but we've been referred to the hospital asthma clinic for monitoring/assessment.

Dear Quirkychick good luck with your spate in hospital.

HappyBump I'll be really thinking about your tomorrow for your scan. Have fun!

Ok, I had my appointment with the genetics specialist at the university hospital here in Tours (a very impressive in a nice kinda way, the hospital, I mean) to discuss the amnio. Ladies, it's a miracle any of us choose to have children whey you hear about all the possible genetic problems which exist! Naturally the advisor would not give us an opinion as to whether I should have the amnio, or not. She simply explained the stats, some of which went over my head! We still haven't decided although I think I will probably do the tripple blood test. After my scan, which estimated my risk of DS at 1/344, the doctor said it was worth taking into consideration the 1/200 risk of mc after the amnio. At the Tours Hospital this test is carried out with all the surgical paraphenalia to ensure maximum sterility, nevertheless they still fall in the 1/200 stats. The lady explained that the amnio was the only 100% way of putting one's mind at rest. I guess I will do the tripple test (to buy time) and to see if my risk factor goes up.

I really don't know what to do. I guess before I had my scan I just assumed I would have to do it since I am 40 but now I have the choice, well, it's not easy. Our gentic family tree did not ring any alarm bells, according to the specialist.

Sorry to be a bore, but do any of you have any advice?

Jardins no advice really just my opinion, i have decided not even to have the blood test to see if there is a problem as my dd was born with a bifida nodum at the base of her spine, and i was told if i had the amnio thing this would have showed up as spina bifida. Plus if a baby was down syndrome i would not terminate anyway as i believe most of a good quality of life.

Everyones different and i honestly believe there is only you that can make the decision x

jardins it is a really hard call, I have my triple test on Friday and then await the call or letter and see if I have to make the decision. I was told that the integrated nuchal and triple test results give an 80-90% accurate result. Like you, I feel this is my last chance to have another baby as I am high risk and it has taken me a year to get pg after mc. Also, if I do this again I will be even older and therefore at more risk.

Hello!!!
woohooo!
I am sooo so so -over-excited, happy, thrilled to tell you all that I had the scan this morning and everything was fine. Hurrah!! The sonographer was not overly forthcoming but did hint that everything was okay. I will get the nuchal results on Monday from the doctor.

yipppeee!

Hi everyone,

Well the scan went well. Peanut is now a stonking 6 and a half cm with a lovely strong heartbeat. The naughty little munchkin wouldn't get into the right position to have the nuchal fold measured so I got sent away for a walk and a cold drink which did the trick! All was well for the nuchal measurement but obviously I have to wait for the blood test result as well.

I celebrated this morning by being the sickest I have been for this pregnancy yet. Urrrrrgghhhhh its grim. Still unbelievably tired too. I really want this phase to stop now - I'm getting to the point where I have kind of had enough.

Happybump Wow your scan was early! Very glad all was well.

Quirky How are you and your DD? God you must have had a rotton few days you poor thing. I hope you and DD are resting as much as you can.

Jardins I guess my advice on testing is similar to the others - only you know what level of risk you are happy with and whether a child with downs, spina bifida etc. would be a deal breaker for you. If it were purely down to me I probably wouldn't have the testing done as I feel it can blight pregnancy with false positives but my DH was adamant that he would want to know. I don't actually think he really got the implications of us finding out but we'll cross that bridge if and when we come to it.
I have loved this child since it was the word "Pregnant" on my digi test and I would love it no matter what.

How is everyone else feeling today?

Great news Happybump and wasabi on your scans.

We are watching cbeebies resting here, but I am still having to wake DD every 5hrs at night to give her an inhaler. Just chilling out at home until DD has finished her steroids and antibiotics. Not what I had in mind about spending some mummy/daughter time! I have had better weeks, I must say.

wasabi Glad your scan went well too. I'm a few hours ahead the UK as I am based in Dubai, so not an early bird at all.

Quirky you must be exhausted, waking your DD every 5 hours would be hard.

Jardins I would recommend you do the triple blood test, or there is even a quadruple one that is done a few weeks later I believe. At least then you would have all the information before you would have to chose to do something invasive. Personally, I am a believer in more information rather than less if possible, especially if there is no risk to either mummy or baby. So you can make an even informed decision as to the comparative risk after you get the results. I will be going through this myself next week.

happybump and wasabipeanut, I'm thrilled for you that your scans brought good news. That's wonderful.

jardins, it's a tricky one... I guess before you didn't think you had a choice, and now she do, it's a dilemma. Sorry that doesn't help at all. I think, like the other ladies have said, that you have to consider whether it would make a difference to know in advance about such things. Some people would like to be fully prepared/researched in everything they encounter. If you're that kind of person, maybe tests are the way forward. On the other hand, if like me you're a huge worrier and would stress endlessly about any less-than-brilliant results, perhaps best not to do them.

Speaking of worrying, I am now, in the honoured tradition of this thread, well and truly bricking it. Have got 12w scan tomorrow morning and instead of feeling excited, I'm dreading going in there and finding that the baby isn't alive. Was having mc dreams all last night... terrified. Still, at least there is not long left to wait.

Anyone else a big nervous wreck?!

Yay for happybump and wasabipeanut! Oooh I do like all the good news on this thread.

Joy you are 12 weeks today like me! Yippee! Fingers crossed for tommorrow- Since our sproglets are marrying I know its going to be okay. My next scan is a week tommorrow but DH is whisking me away tommorrow to somewhere secret for our first wedding anniversary which is very exciting (wedding anniversary 2nd aug). I brought my first pair of maternity jeans today- as I do have a bump/fatter pot belly now! yippee.

Love to everyone.
xxx

Good luck Joy for tomorrow. I have my triple test bloods tomorrow and then wait and see.

Have a lovely time Thandeka.

YAY YAY YAY

Good news on my scan front today as well. Everything fine baby measuring 13 weeks x x I was over the moon to see it moving around and its little heart beating, i was really expecting it to have died. I am thrilled, i cried, very emotional day. Plus they used a scanner they were testing and the picture is fantastic, i cant stop looking at picture x

Seriously this thread is rocking for good news- hurrah mummytopebs!

Nargh I just made the 666th post.

Supertitious moi? a tad!

Ooops. this post makes me feel better though 667.

Hi all

Well I have made it to 7+4!

That seems like a lot to me when the last 3 were lost at 4+6. Scan next Wed at 8+3 - anybody had one at that point - what should I expect to see?

Glad to see lots of good news here and hope the same is true of me next week

Make a pregnancy ticker

Ooh sorry about that last post - accidentally pasted the ticker I just copied to send to my sister!

Oooh ILBAM that's brilliant news! (and gasp a ticker- haven't women been thrown off mumsnet for less!? am teasing

8+3 will still look like a blob like bean probably but you should be able to see heartbeat and head and may be able to make up some other bits out but is still very tiny at that stage. Good luck!

Hi all,
Can i join? I have done a fr test this morn and cant believe it was BFP but after having a cp last year this time and a mc at 12 weeks in march, i'm so scared of it all happening again. Will be constantly checking and begging for scans left right and center!!!

I have just noticed jardins is here! Wow i was just wondering how you were!!

Welcome angelfifi I too had a mmc in march at 12/13 weeks and this thread has been brilliant at holding my hand through all my scans (6 weeks, 8+ weeks, 13 weeks) and everything in between. It really has been a nerve wracking time and these ladies are lovely. Fortunately (touch wood, cross fingers, etc.) this time round for me I've had some positive results. Take care of yourself.

mummytopebs wooohooo!very happy for you. Such an amazing relief isn't it?! now what next to worry about

ILBAM yey! for getting this far. I had a scan at about 8+ weeks and as Thandeka says you do see a baby-type shape but for me the biggest reassurance was seeing/hearing the heartbeat.

I hope everyone else is well.

Quick message for Jardins - thanks for the update on the other thread. Wasn't sure if you would look there and didn't want to ignore it! We are going in a few hours and seem to have escaped illness so far, so figure we are much better off somewhere that isn't full of people with flu anyway

Yippee, the sound of trumpets blasting and cymbals clashing (harmoniously, of course) welcome Anglefifi! Congratulations my dear. You're on the right thread here. Everybody will hold your hand.

I am so delighted to hear about those wonderfully positive scans, ladies. It's all so marvellous.