Urgent

[Tumi]

When a baby is conceived on the 30 of August when will the due date of the birth be? i am really looking for an urgent answer please, my boyfriend slept with another girl on the 30th August and now she says she is pregnant and does not know who the baby daddy is but she is giving birth this april ... how possible is it my boyfriends? he is very traumatised and when i call her she laughs, we had a fight and thats when he slept with her. Thing is if the baby is his then i wont be able to be with him as its his first child and i dont even have a baby yet, i wont be able to stand the hurt.

Please help ...

Thank you. They are lovely and noisy!

You can get DNA tests online and through the CSA I think. I hope you can celebrate soon with some non alcoholic champagne!!

Remember there are loads of people on MN that you can chat too, even if it is just about the weather to take your mind of everything.

Thank you so much Kayzr, it was very lovely talking to you. I really appreciate it

It's ok. I come on nearly everyday(ok everyday) so I will come and chat with you again!!!

Thanks for your reply shineoncrazydiamond but it is just your opinion and i know much because i was told as i said previously i hope they both didnt lie to me and i am pregnant which i founf out after all this, i appreciate all the help and i deffinately didnt thing everyone will be on my side which is acceptable. So thank you!

Yes they have and i am blessed to have them through these difficult time that i am facing, thats why i know i can always count on them as they always know how to make me smile. This will end soon and i will be happy like evryone else, my day will come and until then i am puting all my hope in God.

you said you won;t take him back if the baby is his, but then you say you are going to put it behind you

i think you need to really take long hard think about what is best for you and your baby and what you want

he has cheated on you at least once

maybe more

i think the DNA test, even if negative is not going ot help you regain trust in him

i would be looking for him to make serious signs of commitment to you, the DNA test, then supporting you in this pregnancy and then going to some sort of couples counselling or something .

Exactly what I was thinking shineon. Surely the issue is his cheating, a baby is sort of here nor there at this stage, if there even is a baby (given that the OW seems to have the gestation span of an elephant?)

i seem to have made some enemies and i dont know how i got to do that, my situation is nothing like what you think. If it was you in my situation you would feel exactly the way i feel "alone" and you need anyone that you could get to keep on reassuring you that it will be okay.

I come all the way from South Africa and when i found this site i was happy because i knew there could be ppl who would understand me for what i am going through, surely it would be nonsense to waste all my time and energy by lying.!

I am very greatful to everyone that has been there for me and to those who never got tired of me, this is my last day i come on here and it has been a great pleasure to have friends and family like you all. May God bless you and your families. Thank you, until we chat again, From Tumi.

i am not your enemy.

i just feel there is nothing more that can be advised.. the DNA test is the only thing that can help here

i hope you have support from people to get you through this

Tumi, There are always people who find things a bit dubious.

Has your partner sorted out a DNA test yet?

UPDATE:

I just wanted to update everyone what is happening now and it is all good news

She got her baby on the 2 June and my boyfriend took her to the DNA test with me present ofcorse on the 5 June 2009 and the test came out NEgative. HE IS NOT THE BABY OF THE FATHER.

I dont know what to say coz i am so overjoyed, all i just want to do now is work out the missed time on enjoying my pregnancy and become myself again. Thank you to everyone that has helped in comforting me and just being there for me everytime i needed a shoulder to cry on. My boyfriend has lightened up and seems more serious about where to go from here, he says he has lent his lesson and from now on i will be treated like a princess

Ladies you are all awesome, I WONT. I FINALLY GOT WHAT I WAS WAITING FOR

YAY!!!!!!!!!!

I am so pleased for you!!!!

that is good news and i hope you acn move forward and rebuild things , if you want to, with your partner

Thanks Kayzr and Unicornvomit, i will deffinately live life and take each day at a time. I love my boyfriend and i will do what it takes to mend things between us, he is also willing and we want to be a family. So ladies now since i am all calm this baby is starting to act up or am i just being spoiled

tumibeen reading ur thread 4 few weeks now got 2 say im so pleased 4 u just concentrate on u and ur baby now and make sure u keep that bf spoiling u he has a lot 2 make up 4 putting u threw that and forget about that bitch who put u threw all this heartache congrats on result u wanted and take care xx

Thank you Pinky78, i will deffinately do that