40 + mums with baby tums & those who've already 'popped' with muffin tops - come say Hi!

[jeanjeannie]

Yet ANOTHER thread. Like it says - those of you who've waved bye bye to 39 come and say Hi to us instead.

We think that 40 is the new 20, cyber cake is the new weight-watchers and older mums rock

So, if you fit that description come and play with us. We like cake, gossip an occasional luke warm debate and a good moan! Oh and we're also very friendly and supportive!

OK everyone.....take it away x

floria break a leg for night chuck! Go on - belt out a bit of Verdi - old ones are always the best...

ermintrude yes, I know what you mean about suspending disbelief. I get that with musicals. I'm fine with plays - love plays. Opera was good although English translation not so good.."I shall sit down," "YES, you MUST sit down" "I am sitting down" But musicals....NO! There I am, enjoying a play when suddenly they break out in song - and I get all embarrassed and want them to stop!

Two interpreters - like buses you lot! peachy you're moving to Berlin....no pressure then! I had DD1 at 41 and DD2 at 42 - infact it was reckless 42nd birthday celebrations that got me up the duff! So, just 18mths between the two - Oh, such fun and games.

Where are jw and hedgepig??

There's jw - crossed posts

The fire was apparently arson it is the talk of the village

JJ I'm afraid I love musicals . Cabaret and Chicago are my favourite - I prefer the hard-bitten cynical showy ones - but to be honest I'd sit through the campest more romantic schmaltz and sing along. I'm not proud of it but I can't help it...

It's all a bit quiet on the June thread - one of the girls who's been a regular, really excited and chatty, posted to say she gave birth to a stillborn daughter last week. I think it's giving everyone pause for thought and, as we've been saying here, any irritating pregnancy symptoms are as nothing compared to losing a baby.

peachyfox that's okay! We can still be buddies.

I'm due the end of June.

ermintrude I am still in a bit of shock over the news. I feel so bad for her.

I would bet she's also really angry, I know I would be, since the doctors have been basically patting her on the head and telling her to go away about those pains she was having in her bump.

But I will take the headache and slight nausea I have been having today over what happened to her any day.

Hi girls, haven't been on here for a while so thought I'd say hi.

This thread has got too long for me to read it all from the beginning so I will wait for the new one to start .

I'm 36 weeks tomorrow and nearly ready for the new arrival. Need to get my arse in gear this week and get everything finished off in case baby is early (wishful thinking on my part!)

Tee aw, shucks, buddy. We're both first-timers though, eh!

Still busy here but I'll post a longer pile of crap post later.

Just to let you know my little sis had a baby boy this morning. 8lb 1oz. Her waters had gone Thursday so it was a dry labour. Mum and baby are fine

Welcome Peachy. My first is due in June.
Congrats on Jw's new nephew. How lovely.

Tee I know, she's been through so much hassle with those pains, but every time they checked the baby was still moving, heartbeat OK etc. Hope they find out the cause, and that it's solveable, although I know so many cases where it's put down to being 'just one of those things'. I know 2 women who've had stillbirths at 8+ months only days after MW appointments at which all was well - in both cases the baby had serious but undetectable problems with vital organs and died in utero. Absolutely awful.

Sorry non-June thread ladies; but we can't talk about this there.

JW congratulations on your new auntyhood!

Hello again pintofstella. Am v you're so nearly there - I'm coming up for 26 wks but it's been a loooong 2nd trimester. And of course my arse-expansion programme has some way to go...

..not helped by DH cooking delicious Lebanese spicy lamb pizzas for tea, of which I am now very full. He's supposed to cook once a week but hasn't done it for months so now that we all appreciated it so much I'm hoping he'll 'remember' to carry on. It's finding the right book for him - I bought him a Street Food from around the world one but it's very fiddly with loads of grinding spices and making doughs, so I've settled on Good Housekeeping/BBC 'One Pot Meals' which is about the right level of sophistication for him

Congrats on the new nephew JW.

I'm also at how close you are pintofstella. It feels like forever to June today, with pains in my hips and slight nausea. But as ermintrude and I have been discussing, better than the alternative.

It's so awful, that poor girl - I hope she has the support she needs. I cannot begin to imagine the reality of going through labour knowing that there's nothing at the end of it but grief.

Evening all. Congrats auntyJW - pleased all are doing well. Any name yet?

How heartbreaking for that poor girl I really can't begin to (and don't want to) imagine that.

ermintrude PMSL at "arse-expansion programme"
Would that be the very same 'arse' you refered to as being similar to a Welsh dresser only the other week?!

pintofstella good to see you popping by - and OOooooo, your're sooo close now

kaz Arson OMG - that's so naughty! Bad people

My DP did lunch today - that was very nice. Then our local councillor came over for tea - it was all very interesting. We enjoy a good hob-nob with the local dignitaries! Anyway - she is a govenor at the local school and basically said it was SO bad that we'd be bonkers to even consider it - and she'd been trying for years to get the standards up but the kids are about 2-3 years behind when they leave and over half can't read to a 7 yr old standard Just not right.

Early night me thinks - and I've got blinkin Carmen tunes in my head. Is that FloriaTosca I can hear warbling away in Manchester??!!!

Evening ladies. I gather that on the June thread one of the ladies has lost her baby? I cannot possibly begin to imagine how she's dealing with this. A very sad thing to happen

JJ she already knew she was having a boy and he's Finlay Daniel....Not sure about the Finlay bit but I've already got Daniel as a middle name for my first son (which she knows), but Daniel features many times in our family

K has been a real misery guts today so I did the tried and tested 'stick her in her car seat til she nods off' trick and of course, it worked a treat. Still, can't be driving around each time the little lady wants a zizz.

ermintrude I gave DH the St Jamie of the Oliver 'learn how to cook' or whatever it's called. You know it, the basic idiots guide. He looked through it and, I quote: "can't find anything in there I like" I give up. I really do.

Have DS#1 coming over tomorrow (him of the middle name of Daniel) to put the contents of his flat into our loft They're moving out after 6 months of useless letting agents/landlord runarounds and finding somewhere new. In the meantime we're storing their stuff. It's amazing what us old parents come in useful for in times of need

Well, managed to sell off the ebay stuff today; car seat, toys etc. Still have lots more to get rid of but not had the time to photo it all. I said to DH today that my clothes are getting loose already so looks like I'll be needing new stuff in a few weeks so guess that'll be a wardrobe sort out. Even DS#2 noticed I was looking slightly leaner Yay for me!

Johnworf we've picked Daniel if we have a boy too

Poor girl having a still birth, you get that far you expect everything to be ok, the thought went through my mind when I was having Kez (you think these things when you have worked in that sort of area for years)was so relieved when she screamed

Welcoe and congratulations to anyone new been a little preoccupied of late

tootsieb it must be popular then! Never thought any of the names I'd chosen for any of my 4 were ever in vogue - probably because they weren't/aren't/ever will be. Daniel is a good solid name though. Good choice, even if I say so myself

Morning all. Gorgeous day here - I've even put a skirt on - avec tights of course!

jw ah yes, sorry it's Finlay, you did say. Now I'm singing "Finlay the Fire Engine in my head...." Daniel is a great name; works for when they're little and grown up.

jw they're very lucky you've got somewhere to store their stuff - they'd be out of luck here! We've virtually got no loft space left due to a lifetime's worth of my stuff up there!

Iris has perked up but I was up 4x with Verity last night - poor thing was so bunged up I'm lack lustre to say the least.

Hope everyone had a nice weekend. neddie hope yours was a lovely one with your future DH

Where's hedgepig? Come in hedgepig

Off to playgroup this morning and then I think I'll have peaked!

I have very sad news . Results of the amnio showed baby to have abnormality. After much agonizing we decided to terminate the pregnancy last week. I was one day short of 17 weeks. Decision largely based on our 3 children who are still very young and on unknown of how badly baby affected (could have been severe level of disability). It was just awful and I'll never really get over the feelings of guilt. Something to think about being older although I have to say despite the odds being higher I was just one of the unlucky ones.

I have a follow up appointment in 6 weeks to discuss the future and am going to express my anger as it turns out I could have had CVS at 11 weeks. I thought it was much riskier but depending where it is done it carries the same risks. Outcome would have been the same but at least much earlier on.

Can someone take my name off the list please. I hope to pop in again sometime when I feel better but for the moment am not up to it. Got a long weekend booked in a couple of weeks with the family which will help. Good luck to everyone here with their bumps and babies.

Eulalia I am so sorry to hear your news , best wishes to you and your family.

eulalia I'm so sorry to hear this. All the best to you and your family.

I'm home from work today. Just feel BLUERGH. Have been feeling that way all weekend. I think I overdid it last Thursday.

Eulalia so sorry to hear your sad news. And completely agree that tests should be available as soon as possible to reduce the trauma as much as possible. Hope you can have some rest and recuperation now.

I've updated the list - hope it's the most recent, but if I've missed anyone sorry. And mrsb DO you have an older son? I'm not sure whether this is just a mistake that keeps being pasted in or not

Mum41+5 - Dds 18 and 15 and 5 and twin boys born July 2008 (Fraser and Regan)
Johnworf 42 - (Katherine) Born 28 May 08 (16 weeks early, due September 14th 2008) 4th baby. Others are 23,20,17
Jeanjeannie 43 - (Verity) Born 30 May 08. Iris is 2.
Mrsboogie - (Darragh) Born September 08. plus older DS
Hedgepig 42 - (Oliver) Born October 08. Also has Ben, 5.
Tee 40 - due June 09. First baby.
Ermintrude13 42 - DD 10 and DS 6 baby due June
Duchesse 41, boy of 15, girl of 13, girl of 11, due number 4 in August.
FloriaTosca 44 -(Alexander) born Sept 07
Neddie 41 - Dd 16, Dd 6 1/2, twins due Sept 09
Ladymac - (Elizabeth) born April 07, Grace is 12, DD1 24 and DS 20. 5th baby due April
Tabitha8 43 - Little Tab due June. First ever baby.
Kaz1967 -(Kezzy) Born 1 July 2008.
BonzoDoodah 40 - DD1 18months, baby due in July
Triggles 43 - Ds1 24, Dd 22, Ds2 2, 4th baby due August
MsBrandybuck 42 - Ds 2, baby due Sept
Palmetto 40 - Ds 18mths, baby due Sept
pintofstella 41 - DS 5, baby due 6th April

eulalia gosh, what sad news and what a horribly difficult time for you and your family You did what was right for you and your family and I agree that you should have been able to make this decision a lot earlier on. My thoughts are with you and try to relax in the company of your family this weekend xx

Eulalia so sorry to hear of your tragic news Feelings of guilt are natural but don't beat yourself up too much. Hope that you'll come back to us and say hello when you're feeling up to it and that your family are a source of comfort at this sad time. xxxxxx