40 + mums with baby tums & those who've already 'popped' with muffin tops - come say Hi!

[jeanjeannie]

Yet ANOTHER thread. Like it says - those of you who've waved bye bye to 39 come and say Hi to us instead.

We think that 40 is the new 20, cyber cake is the new weight-watchers and older mums rock

So, if you fit that description come and play with us. We like cake, gossip an occasional luke warm debate and a good moan! Oh and we're also very friendly and supportive!

OK everyone.....take it away x

hello peachyfox and congratulations

yes I felt totally normal much to my paranoia - I had a m m/c the year before and was convinced there was a problem because I didn't feel sick or tired or have pregnancy sense of smell or cravings or anything. I was even able to drink a glass of wine which I could never do in previous pregnancies and I was forever saying that if I didn't know I was pregnant I would know IYSWIM.

It's crazy to find yourself wishing you felt sick but, once you feel the movements you will relax to a certain extent!

But if you have got to 15 weeks the chances are pretty damn good that all is well and you are just lucky

Thanks for the congrats and encouragement MrsB and Mum41, it was indeed a Christmas miracle - after all that it worked first time!

I saw the posts about nuchals.

We were offered a nuchal with the 12 week scan but we turned it down. The doctor seemed quite offended and asked us why we didn't want it. I said if I'd ever believed the statistics I wouldn't have been there and we just wanted to enjoy being pregnant. At the end of the scan she said, "I did the nuchal anyway, and it came out very low risk!" It was hard to be cross...

I've had quite the dullest pg ever so far! DP upset as he was expecting to be sent out for pickles and ice cream at 3am but nothing.

How do you know what's movement and what's just your uterus stretching? Will I just know?

yes, you will just know. The stretching and the movement feel nothing alike. In a first pregnancy its usually a bit later - I think only because you recognise it sooner in subsequent pregnancies. It sort of feels like bubbles or a fluttering feeling at first - I think around the 20 week mark.

I would say that if you feel a feeling and wonder if that's it - it probably is.

Just had far more excitment than I need

I woke up to go to the loo (thank god I did) went back to the bed room and heard popping noises looked out the window and neighbours hedge was going up in flames sparks all heading towards my roof called the fire service head out window intersperced with oh my god comments.

Engines seemed to take ages so rang again cos there was a lorry really close to the fire and thought did not want to be around if that went up. Bumped into half the village outside all watching. Fire men finally there and sorting it including moved said lorry. Have been out and checked roof and fine Smile but Kez now things it is time to get up and I stink of smoke and think I need a

kaz OMG, how scary. Glad it all was okay.

Welcome peachyfox good to see you over here!

As for feeling the baby move...if your tummy feels sort of rumbly and you neither burp nor pass wind? That's the baby! Seriously, it sort of feels like bubbles bursting the first few times. After about a week of that, it is definitely kicks!

As for me, finally got a good nights sleep last night. Still going to have a quiet day today including long soak in the tub!

peachy, welcome! I am 41, and 18 weeks with my fourth after a very long gap and a fairly late miscarriage 2 years ago.

I am utterly paranoid about this pregnancy, and have been symptom spotting like mad too. At 18 weeks now I am clutching at straws, convinced that everything is going to go wrong any moment. Every time I'm convinced the little blighter isn't going to make it, that it's been too long since I last felt a movement, it kicks me in the bladder. Also the fact that the fridge is still nauseating is reassuring.

Apart from that I have no symptoms (very slightly sore breasts, but...) . I hardly have a tummy at all (ie nobody would guess I'm pregnant yet), no sickness or queasiness, no light headedness, no especial tiredness. So I'm right with you with the paranoia and symptom spotting. Here's to us both have healthy babies in the summer ( and I'm sure we will!). Mine's due around mid August.

kaz Spontaneoulsy combusting hedges??? Whatever next! Thank goodness for the early morning bladder call! We once had to call the fire brigade in the middle of the night when we noticed our neighbour's greenhouse on fire (it was winter and his woodstove had set fire to some roof timbers...). Exiting times...

Oh, and there was the high voltage electricity pylon shorting out at 4am that my husband discovered. The air strangely full of sweet creosoty smoke. Apparently a capacitor had shattered, sending 11,000 volts straight to earth through the timber pylon. There was a 12 ft radius patch of scorched ground the next morning, and the electricity company had to change the pylon (we're still using the old one for kindling now!)

Morning all. Nicely refreshed from a full night's sleep despite having got back at midnight! Had a fab time...I'd definately go again, maybe to something more hardcore as I loved the full orchestra - tres exciting.

Plus the rain stayed away so we have a lovely walk through South Kensington - got a parking spot right outside Imperial College, had our wild Eastern Euro dinner (beetroot soup and Uschzka MMMmmmm) and strolled on over to the Royal Albert. It really was like being on a date!

HELLO! peachyfox and huge congrats. WIth both my pregnancies I had a panic around the 16 - 20 week mark - as I just felt a bit fat! Nothing - no symptoms, I could eat, smell stuff without throwing up and all the nausea went. While it was a relief I was in limbo till the 20 week scan and straight after that I felt movements!

kaz OMG - how scary!! Thank goodness for light sleeping eh?!!

Well we had our own drama while we were away. Got back last night and DP's Brother and girlfriend looked slightly traumatised - they said the loadest bang had happened and had shaken the house. We looked out into the dark but couldn't see anything. This morning however - we saw that a 20 foot tree next to the house had smashed down into the neighbour's garden - narrowly missing ours No wonder they freaked!

jj a full night's sleep! you'll have to go out more often! Is that where I am going wrong I wonder Glad you enjoyed it!

kaz oh my lord - too much excitement for a Sunday morning!

Gosh, a lot of bizarre and potentially dangerous things going bump or crackle in the night! Glad you all made it through

peachyfox welcome and congratulations. Those of us who have had the full set of symptoms - and I'm still vomiting every few days at nearly 26 wks - will try to feel happy that we have these constant reassurances of pregnancy . I know what you mean though - I had a 10wk m/mc between DD and DS and that was a symptomless pregnancy so the fact that both subsequent pgs have been full of nausea and tiredness has been strangely reassuring

JW morning, are you having a lie-in har har? My stubborn DD won't be 11 till May! She's usually a sweetheart but has got a thing about maths at the moment which is rather a worry. She's top notch on all the other subjects so something she actually has to think about and apply herself to is totally alien and she responds badly. Her daddy spent half an hour with her this morning going through the work every so gently and nicely and she was fine until she got bored at which case all the crying and flouncing began . I don't want her to feel pressure with SATS coming up but equally I can see her sliding if we don't sort this out. I'm looking forward to a nice simple baby that'll need feeding, changing and cuddling.

JJ glad you had a good night at the opera. The only thing that spoils it for me is when some huge fat singer plays a dying consumptive - my disbelief can't be suspended quite that far..

I've been up since 8.30! That never happened in the old days...

No hedges on fire or falling trees though but we live in a very urban environment...

Thanks for making me welcome everyone! it's a bit overwhelming having no. 1 in your forties. Is it anyone else's first?

I've booked an appt with my doctor to discuss my asthma (always bad but much worse now pg) but really all I'm after is some of her sweet doppler love...Then I have an antenatal check-up on the 16th so not long to wait I know.

We're moving to Berlin in a couple of weeks, so I'll have to do the whole thing in German (

[Duchesse] you're just a bit ahead of me, I'm due August 26th. I'm glad someone else understands my paranoia...I had a ten week scan which detected a little internal bleed and when I told her nothing had come out she said, maybe you just didn't notice and I was like "Er, believe me, I'm policing that area pretty thoroughly..."

You've all made me feel better about not having symptoms - I can absolutely see how some of you would swap places! Particularly if you already have kids to look after and/or work. I'm self-employed and if I feel even slightly poorly I go and have a nap.

My bump is quite big now - I got offered a seat on the tube the other day - by a pregnant lady who was going to hoik her sleepy 5 year old up off his seat onto her lap . All menfolk deeply engrossed in their books of course, grrr...

Hope you all have a lovely Sunday and [Tee] enjoy your long soak in the tub...

peachy I'm self employed as well and find that being able to nap whenever I want to is keeping me feeling very very well (vs commuting 1 hour on the train when expecting child 1). It could be just that we are both feeling so rested that we have no tiredness related symptoms...

Ok, so it looks like we'll have to go private for the NT, it's good to know so I can get it booked as soon as I can.

Kaz that sounds really scary, I remember the house 4 doors down going up in flames a few years back, I was terrified! I couldn't sit in the house as I was so afraid of it spreading to ours, but when we went out in the street the firemen chased us back in! Scary stuff.

peachyfox* Yes, this is my first baby as well. I was 40 this past February.

Wow what a drama filled night!!!!!
Kaz Hope the smell of smoke has washed away and glad all is now well
JJ Glad the tree missed and that you got a good nights sleep. Also happy that you had a fab time at the opera. Carmen is one of the more accessible ones..famous tunes throughout. Good job it wasn't one of my shows ... I'm one of those ear splitting huge fat sopranos trying to convince everyone that either I have consumtion or am a 16yr old japanese girl that ermintrude cant suspend her disbelief for ... ....
...off to scream rehearse some Verdi now...fingers crossed it is not to an empty hall

..ooh peachyfox..welcome...I had my first born ds 17 months ago at 43... and am working on Dh (without much hope) to agree to trying for #2. I too had few symptoms and worried myself sick...even bought myself a doppler! (dont reccommend one, it can panic you as much as it reassures)

...really am off to rehearsals now...

Oooh Floria how fabulous of you - I didn't realise that's what you did.

Watched Red Ridings last night - very good I thought.

Where's jw this fine afternoon?

Floria I didn't buy a doppler for that reason - I know it'll make me panic. Hope you're in fine voice! Good luck working on DH for No. 2.

Tee we're nearly buddies! - roll on August...

Oops Tee sorry it's Duchesse who's due in August. I want you all as buddies though really!

Duchesse I'm a freelance translator too - I do interpreting as well. What's your language?

peachy I did wonder if you were- your lifestyle sounded so similar to mine! My languages are French and Spanish to English. I don't do interpreting yet but am hoping to do the Bath course that my sister did- living in Exeter means it's very easy to hop on a plane to Paris for sessions, and it's so much better paid than translating, hour for hour. My sister earns 600 euros a day (and that's for possibly 3 hours' work...). Also it would be nice to leave the house from time to time.

Duchesse I'm French and spanish into English too. About to add German. I interpret spanish-english both ways. I love it and it is nice to get out the house - I teach interpreting at university too. Bath course is supposed to be very good. Let me know if you need advice.

Wow, Floriatosca, I assumed an operatic interest from your name but didn't know you were a real diva. Bravo!

Hellooooo! Conspicuous by my absence I fear

Comings and goings of children today at Worf Towers so just a short rambling for now.

JJ sounds like a lovely adventure you've had. I'm still very envious.

ermintrude I can understand the girls/maths thing as I had a complete mental block with it too. It's just a state of mind and her fear is overcoming her knowledge.

Nothing much to report from my end. No trees falling nor hedges on fire. All very quiet.

floria I am going to have to send my apologies for tonight but I wish you well. I saw it advertised in the MEN too I would however like to make a donation to the cause so if you send me a postal address on Facebook, then a cheque shall wing it's way. I wish you all the best for tonight, for what I'm sure will be a splendid performance by yourself and others. Break a leg (or whatever it is you break when you sing!)