Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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oooh, I do love a new thread

scarlotti don't know what I'll do if it turns out to be a boy after all I wish I knew how tonight was going to go. I could really do with a hot bath and an early night instead [cowardly emoticon]

wheely congrats on safe arrival of Lara

bunny sorry to hear you have been unwell, it's such a vunerable time when you're post-partum and get a complication

Baby Seth was born by c/s as planned on Tuesday, spinal a bit unpleasant but otherwise all well. 8lb 10.5 oz, hoping my milk will come in properly soon then maybe I won't be up until 4am feeding again tonight.. speaking of which I can hear him now so must go, will catch up later

tsom congratulations and welcome to baby Seth (another lovely name)

Ladies, I'm so nervous about tomorrow. Roll on 09:15 & pls be good news. Still having a bit of brown discharge but I think it has calmed down so I really hope it is nothing to worry about.
I so want this little one to be with me x

Congrats on the birth of Seth Tsom. Hope all is going well !

Good luck with the scan Hopeful tattifer - my gp wouldn't refer me for early scans. I took the private option and paid £160 each for 2 scans (first was inconclusive) - best £320 we spent though. Good luck for Monday.

crunch - hope it has gone ok. It helps having an older child with 'activities' so I have to remember what day it is so she doens't turn up at swimming in a tutu and ballet in a cozzy !

Waves manically at dan - good to see you !

crunch so hope tonight hasn't been to hard for you.

tsom congratulations on little Seth.

hopeful fingers crossed for you tomorrow.

I'm not able to get another scan either, even though my gp said yes, as the hospital won't do them. I'm probably going to get a private one at around 9 weeks.

hopeful fingers crossed for tomorrow. Will be thinking of you at 9.15 x

Well that's that. More productive than last time as counsellor could now see how H says one thing and does another. H ended the session by saying he felt "got at". Which wasn't true. I confirmed that this would be the last session as H is stuck in a state of denial and seems to think all his problems will be solved if we can sort out our marriage

Outside the session I told him that I hoped one day he would see the truth, that everyone he thinks is "getting at him" is actually trying to help.

He tried to hug me, but I wouldn't let him. I made the mistake of asking where the children come in his list. At which point something clicked, everything was my fault, how dare I question his love for the children and he stormed off.

I don't think he's even noticed I'm pregnant

So I'm home, and I've been to look at my boys sleeping soundly. And I hate myself for wanting him to behave how the man I married would behave.

Just wanted to let you know that it has been confirmed that I have had a missed miscarriage. The scan this week didn't show the yolk sac or the fetal pole and the structure of the sac they could see was less tight than it should have been. However, my HcG levels were up to 12k. I stopped taking the progesterone on Tuesday evening and have started to bleed today which is a relief as I was not looking forward to wondering when the bleeding might start.

Best of luck to everyone and thanks for your support and encouragement.

Have just read your post crunch and wanted to say sorry you are going through a difficult time and I fervently wish that things improve for you and your dh.

Morning all

thanks for the support guys

crunch don't hate yourself for wanting the man you loved and married. Dealing with someone's condition (whatever that is, depression, asbergers (my ex) or even an addiction) is one thing but it's so much harder, almost impossible, if they're in denial as to their contribution to the situation. I remember joking to someone once that instead of having a conversation with ex I could simply find a break wall to head butt - it would seem less like talking to myself.

You're sound like you're still managing to keep your head up - good for you (more strength and oat cake crumbs coming your way)

hopeful news from scan??? fingers are still crossed for you.

crunch sorry your session wasn't great. Your situation sounds so similar to a friend of mine. I think her DH is depressed to but he also won't acknowledge it. Its so frustrating for all around who can kind of see whats happened but can't get through to him at all. Thinking of you.

tson congratulations on Seth's arrival. So lovely to hear about each baby's safe arrival after all we go through on this thread. Here's hoping the feeding settles down for you soon.

hopeful hoping to hear good news from your scan. You are probably in the waiting room right now feeling very nervous. Fingers crossed for you.

milkroll so sorry to hear your news. Life really isn't fair. You'll beback soon though I'm sure.In the meantime, look after yourself.

DS and I are off to soft play in a min. I just need a sit down and a cup of coffee! I can no longer really get around the equipment to play with him but some of his little pals are coming so that should be fun for him. He DIDN'T wet the bed last night but still appeared in ours at 1am. Grrr. But DH is having terrible insomnia at the moment (work stress, he's having a terrible time at the moment with one of his partners who is being completely unreasonable) so he took himself off to read his book upstairs. DS and I therefore had a reasonable night sleep!
Right off to get DS ready. Hope everyone has a good day.

Morning ladies

haven't been on this thread for a while.

Hi ladyhelen2 enjoy the sit down and coffee

crunch sorry to hear about last night's events. I still see that strength in you though so hold on to that and it will see you through. Your trocodile princess will be here in no time at all and will be another little ray of sunshine to brighten up your day (or keep it so busy you don't get time to think )

milkroll so sorry to hear of your news. Be kind to yourself and take it easy.

hello to everyone else, hope you're all doing ok.
Feeling more nauseous today so will be a long day I think. Keep counting down the weeks to the 12 week mark as am hoping then I'll feel more human again, and maybe worry a little less? Only 5 weeks to go then, sigh.

scarlotti I'll put money on Trocodile Princess keeping her sooo busy Crunch won't have time to think or post on here yikes

Can I recommend oat cakes for the nausea??

mmh?

Oatcake anyone?

Looks like we have an oatcake addict If you have any flapjacks, I'll have one of those!

Crunch I'm so sorry you're going through the mill.

Chocolatey So sorry to read your news too, and I hope it isn't long before you're back with us.

TSOM Congrats on baby Seth!

Er, am I near the top of the list now? It's funny to be knicker checking for a different reason. It's very uncomfortable (but in a good way iykwim) and I have a horrible feeling that nipper has changed position! Still head down but not sure which way she is facing.

I keep getting VERY emotional - anything can set me off! I had tears streaming yesterday watching some rubbish on daytime tv yesterday... how sad am I!!

Congratulations tsom! And Seth's a great name - was on my list too!

I have a question - for the past couple of weeks, Cromwell has been very lively, so much so that I've been able to see him move from the outside. I've been getting myself into a right tizz overnight, as I haven't felt him nearly as strongly. He's still kicking, but just not with the same strength. 26 weeks now - can't decide whether to ring the hosp today, as no doubt at the weekend no-one will be around over the weekend...

Hmmmmm one too many yesterdays in that message! I must be in need of another flapjack...

Purely for mental concentration you understand...

It's always best to check if you're worried, but if it makes you feel better, nipper has the odd quieter spell where one day she'll be like a whirling dervish, and then have a day of milder movements, almost as if she wore herself out.

I would still double check though 'cos it can't hurt to ask.

grinngbee you are very sad - you'll be getting emotinally involved with Jeremy Kyle next! As for flapjacks (makes whistling noise through teeth) I know they're oat cakes with more syrup but really

Actually, since I posted that, he's kicked 11 times in 25 minutes, so I think all is well!

Crikey, the worry never stops.

Mmmm.... flapjack.

Milk roll - very sorry to hear your news. Take time to wallow, and be as sad as you like. It makes the springing back all the better...

I draw the line at Jeremy Kyle!!! Funnily though, whenever I've had to go for a scan in the morning at the hospital, the telly in the waiting room is tuned to it....

Ok, so I shouldn't be eating the flapjacks, but they taste so nice! I've managed somehow to only put on about 20 pounds up to now so I reckon a couple more flapjacks is allowable...

grinningbee be honest are they scones with raisins in (fruit=healthy=ok) or my own variation - chocolate chips (chocolate=necessary=ok)?

Herb good news on the kicking. It seems that the moment I worry that nipper has gone quiet, she starts up! She's only not done it once, and I had to prompt her by drinking a hot cup of tea and having some lemon curd on toast.

That did the trick!

Er... I'm really not addicted to sweet stuff you know.

They're the ones with raisins in - honest! I didn't know you could get choc chip ones. I shall look out for them though seeing as you mentioned it

grinningbee don't do that hun, you'll only get disappointed. I make them. I have a simple approach to home baking - almost anything can have chocolate added to it and if it's chocolate already you can always make a lemon version. It works, bizarre but true

I'm sooo jealous of the kicking tummies - I remember both my daughters being real circus acrobats while in tummy. First one knocked a cup of tea out of my hand when the smooth bump I was resting it on suddenly metamorphosed into a pointy foot!