Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VII - Gusset Reporters and Knicker Checkers welcome

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oooh, I do love a new thread

herb for your scan. Actually feel quite queasy just thinking what you must have been through for a minute there...

DBNO - I certainly did want to cry, when she couldn't find the heartbeat, but had to sit and make polite conversation with gormless student.

Did shed a tear or two when I saw him grooving around on the screen. Thought my smile was going to split my face!

teachertalk, I'm so very sorry for what's happened and am thinking of you.

Oh herb that's wonderful news, especially after the sweat-inducing buildup!

Thanks for your kind words daisy, wheely and valz... feel I need all the comfort I can get right now; a friend of mine told me this afternoon that she's convinced that my mc last September was caused by stress and anxiety! Well, you can imagine what that's done for my stress and anxiety levels right now... Tried to steer her off the topic but she just wasn't going to let it go. wheely, it's oddly comforting to know that someone else was in the grip of anxiety during their first trimester to the point of weeping throughout, because that's how I feel now!

Hello ladies, I'm going to take the plunge and join this thread. I'm 12 + 2 with my 6th pregnancy - have had 4 mcs, with DS appearing between mc 1 and 2. Because I've had so many mcs, I've been really lucky and have had fortnightly scans for reassurance, the last of which was last Tuesday. And tomorrow I officially leave the early pregnancy system and move over to ante-natal for my NT scan. Every scan I've had so far has been fine, baby exactly the size s/he should be, strong heartbeat, etc and last week the obstetrician said "I think you're going to be OK with this one".

So far so good. So why am I soooo nervous about tomorrow's scan, imagining that they're going to say there isn't a heartbeat, baby isn't viable? I still can't really let myself believe that this one IS going to be OK. I think maybe I need to practise some relaxation techniques....

teachertalk so sorry to hear about your scan. That is what happened with me last time. Natural end to things took about a week for me. I will be thinking of you.

Hi Rachel! I feel EXACTLY the same. I've had four MCs, two of them discovered at scans (11 and 13 weeks) and so every time I go for a scan I fear the worst. For my 10-week one I thought I was going to throw up in the waiting room.

I even had to listen to Paul McKenna's deep relaxation CD in the middle of the night - not something to be undertaken lightly!

But miraculously I'm now 17 weeks, and as you saw above had a brilliant scan today. It can happen! Keep the faith!

readytopop goodluck for your scan tomorrow, mine is also tomorrow and ive never been so scared. Wishing luck for us both x

villagemum ms is awful isnt it, Ive had it none stop morning noon and night for the last week, i never had it with my last 2 mmc so im thinking of it as a positive sign. Not long now til your next scan x

valz how did you get on today? x

Great news herbaceous x

Hi to everyone else xxx

Im so scared for tomorrow ladies, I aint ever seen a heartbeat and im so scared that it will happen again its unbearable. How long does it take to find a heartbeat at 7 1/2 weeks?? I had light brownish discharge at 5 weeks and then it stopped a few days later and have nothing since but I cant help wondering if this is when it was going wrong just like my last 2, dear me I so dread tomorrow.

teachertalk so sorry

Good luck to all who have scans tomorrow

herb great outcome

Things with dh no better. He's moved out for a few days at my request. We both need a bit of space. I could do without all this stress to be honest.

Hi ladies. I'm ready to jump in at the deep end and join you all, if I may. Had 20 weeks' scan on Friday and all going well with Little Tab; I can feel him or her moving about, which obviously helps a lot.
Herb pleased to hear your news. I told my workmates only yesterday about Little Tab.

Teacher So sorry to hear your sad news. I had 3 natural mcs and being able to deal with everything at home was a great comfort somehow.

Good afternoon all, thought i'd do my daily check to see how everyone is.

Teachertalk I am so so sorry to hear your sad news also, I found out at 7 weeks that i had a sac but nothing else, they didnt really explain it very well, basically told me to wait at home and see what happened as i could have my dates wrong.. a couple of days later my body started naturally miscarrying.. Its a very hard thing to deal with and i hope you have got the support you need at this time.. I hope to see you here again soon.

Fozzie good luck with your scan tomorrow.. I went for my 1st scan at 7 weeks and 4 days and it was hard... she tried over my belly at first but couldnt see clearly so had to empty bladder before internal scan, she found the baby very quickly though and reassured me all was fine, however doesnt mean that time alone going to toilet didnt include a few tears.. I was scared! I also experienced brown spotting at 5 weeks and then again at 6 weeks.. I bled very slightly at 8 weeks 1 day so went for another scan and all was still fine! Got another scan on Saturday but have been having awful morning sickness so i am taking this to be a positive sign, doesnt make me any less worried... it will be 9 weeks and 4 days.

Herb congratulations on your scan, It all sounds very nerve wracking but with a lovely ending.. So pleased you got an extra peak at
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Youknownothingofthecrunch I am sorry to hear that things are no better with DH, hopefully this time will give him a little perspective and things will be more positve from now on.. probably isnt much comfort to you at the moment and i imagine you definitely dont need this stress!

Rachel Congrats on 12 weeks and exiting the early pregnancy system - relaxation techniques for ladies who have had miscarriages to use before scans - now there's something that someone should look into!

napa hope take away was lovely last night & travelling on trains/underground was not too bad today!

Hope everyone else is okay too, Im about to leave work so best do the final bits, will check in again tomorrow.x

VM, sorry to hear you're feeling down, i hope yuor scan offers you more reassurance. I am terrified this time around. As for ms, i can sympathise, mine is horrendous and most of the day. I'm really struggling, but trying to see it as a good thing
take care.

VillageMum ? at your friend. I?m sure she ?meant well?, but it?s nothing to do with stress and anxiety, unless you were in a war zone (nor for that matter is it likely to be your ?lifestyle?, unless you are a chain-smoking crack whore ? apologies if you are, of course ? or any of the other things ?helpful? people like to suggest). It makes me furious when people think they know best about why you mc?d. Please, please try not to let this get to you. And firmly tell your friend that stress and anxiety, unless they are extreme (as e.g. above) do NOT cause mc.

OK, rant over .

youknownothing - sorry you?re having a bad time with your DH ? hope you can resolve things soon.

fozzie and Rachel (welcome)- very best of luck for tomorrow. Thinking of you.

Hi Tabitha - 20-week scan is such a great feeling, isn?t it? . And at 30 weeks I still haven?t got over the novelty of feeling the baby moving (very vigorously!).

wow another busy day on the thread.

sorry about your scan teachertalk take care of yourself

herb glad to hear about your extra scan to reassure you but must have been a horrid few minutes in between

youknownothingofthecrunch hope you and DH manage to sort things out

welcome rachel good luck for tomorrows scan

looks like a few of us are having scans tomorrow. hope it goes ok ready and fozzie. Mine's in the afternoon but have to concentrate on a full mornings work first, not sure how as very scared due to not feeling as sick today as yesterday.

Hello to everyone else, hope to be able to report good news tomorrow

Good luck ladies! Keep the faith...

villagemum I was told the same by a doctor of all people, its nonsense, who in the right mind wouldn't be stressed in our situaton, its human nature.

napa & ready - heres to a good positive scan for all of us tomorrow. let us know how you get on.

Thanks for re-assurance ashleigh

Congrats on 12 weeks Rachel

Good luck for your scan fozzie, I will be thinking of you.
teacher I'm so sorry this has happened to you

I have still got bad ms, not actually being sick, just feel so crap, which is a good thing I know. Been having cramping pains yesterday and a little bit today, is this normal? I am constantly knicker checking!
I go back to work on Thursday after a week off, but I don't want to, I don't know how I'll get throught the day. Wow I'm sounding miserable, but I'm not, honest

herb well done on the contract at work - hope they take it okay but if not don't worry - this is way more important!!

Teacher I am so, so sorry. Do what you can to look after yourself and come back soon - you know where we are.

Youknow nothing what a pain in the ARSE for you re your dh - just what you don't need hey? Hope you get it sorted soon.

Good luck with tomorrow's scans everyone, too. They are horribly scary but then hopefully you will all get the news you want and see something. Sticky thoughts!

daisy thanks for the prompt ...but, er, I, um, haven't done a thing...I am going to have to get in touch with my tutor to ask for yet another extension tho god knows how I am gonna do it with a baby around? I am a bad bad woman - that wmmmc puts me to shame with her very impressive self discipline!

I was a bit cross today as went to GP to pick up hb prescriptions, as instructed but the mw who did her home visit last fri. He was very offhand (not my usual lovely one) and basically said he wasn't giving them to me as it was not the surgery's responsibility, and was generally quite negative about the hb thing. He said he would talk to the mw (who is admittedly new to the practice) tomoro. When I asked if I should ring tomoro he said there was prob no point as he might not manage to talk to her! I pointed out that I am 37 - 38 weeks depending on which dates are right, but he still didn't seem to get it that I need this sorted. He said 38 weeks is time enough...but I want to know its all in place!

THEN I came home and tried to ring the Community MW office who I am, incidentally, supposed to ring when I am having ctx 7 mins apart, for the hb midwives to come out, tried for AN HOUR and could't get thru! [anger]

Imagine how good that made me feel! i am so cross with them - if I need to go to hosp for a good reason then fine, but if I have to just cos no one is answerig the bloody phone I will be really pissed off.

Rant over for now - but let it be noted that I am not happy.

Goodness, this thread is busy! Good luck with all the imminent scans - I should mention that when I went for my seven week one this time I was shaking so much I nearly fell off the couch. I then topped it off by bursting into hysterical tears in the car park (I'd made the mistake of going on my own) as I felt that even though things were OK now, maybe they wouldn't be in a few weeks time. This process drives us all mental - thank God we have each other.

teachertalk sorry to hear this . Two of my mc involved 5 week size sac when I should have been 8-9 weeks, had to wait for rescanning in 2 weeks but mc started spontaneously within a few days - one I was already spotting and completed mc within 3 days, other bleeding started in about 5 days. Horrible time for you.

dan not surprised you are concerned, hope you get it sorted soon (and the roadworks)

crunch sorry to hear about your dh

Still worrying about pg, much more anxious than with ds1 and 2 due to mcs and placenta probs. Decided to do my tax today as a distraction - must be bad hey

vjay I've had a bit of back ache and some light twinges in my tummy, notsure if normal or not, I think is a bit like the discharge it can be normal tofeel twinges but if cramps are strong then its best to get checked out xx

Hi fozzie the cramps aren't strong, just there IYKWIM. I think I'm noticing it more though because of the previous mc's, I'm on high alert for every little twinge.

vjay im exactly the same too, the slightest twinge makes me worry, this is why this thread is such a big part of my life at the moment, Im on it every day now and you lot help me so much xx

Btw dan I sympathise - sometimes the NHS drives me crackers but the poor quality of the general antenatal care has been made up for by the loveliness of the local prenatal screening team re: ds's cyst.

crunch - so sorry about your situation with your dh. The timing really is lousy, isn't it? My fingers are crossed that having some space helps you find a way forward together in the future.

In-laws arrive Thursday - may have to insist on sex tomorrow night

olivo, hi, I totally sympathise with you about the fear... will you be having a scan anytime soon? I found my 7-week scan really reassuring, even though the reassurance has worn off by now!

VJay, hope your time off work has left you feeling rested... every week that passes uneventfully makes a good outcome more likely, I like to think.

Thanks fozzie, daisy, for your reassuring words about stress... daisy, I loved your rant, just what I needed to hear! I'm actually angry with my friend for bringing the whole thing up as I'm a stressed person at the best of times. She's had some pg complications herself in the past and more than one mc, and has always put these down to stress, so I guess she may be projecting a bit here. But it doesn't help me... Just trying to stay positive till my scan on Saturday.

Thanks for being there girls. x

Thank you for everyone's kind thoughts. We have been talking and he is back, so fingers crossed. I could really do with support if he is willing to give it. Annoyed at my mother for asking how dh is, when I told her it would be nice if someone was concerned with how I am (after all I am pregnant so should be the centre of the Universe )

dan ignore the stupid doctor and don't worry too much - for my last HB their policy was to leave me with nothing and bring it all to the "event". Hope you get to talk to your MW today. Looking forward to hearing all about it (got my home waterbirth planned here).

dbno you've got the inlaws arriving before the birth?! How brave of you it's a great time of year to have little one. My eldest's b'day is this week - gives you a reason to be cheerful during a time when everyone else is on their Christmas come down.

vjay I had lots of crampy pains too. As long as they're not regular and increasing in intensity then everything should be fine. If they're just every now and again then it's pretty normal. Of course that doesn't make it any less terrifying. Which is why I ended up getting a scan at 13 weeks, because I had wound myself up about twinges and then doc couldn't find HB. So although I sound all rational, I'm really not

Hope scans went ok for people.