November/December babies

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Hell, I've just found out I'm expecting No. 3 mid November, and am very excited. A bit scared too - I can't remember a thing! How can I possibly have done this twice already??? Hope more of you can join me soon!

Hi Hana - I saw my GP at 6 weeks coz there was a little bit of a debate about my dates. I thought I was a month further on. But I've only had one baby so far so can't comment on the early bump. But going by other threads..... you're gonna get bigger, quicker coz everything's a bit.....looser now!!

hi, it seems to be check-in time.
well I'm feeling absolutely cr@p, I thought I'd found the magic solution to morning sickness two weeks ago (sea-bands) only to find it worked for 4 days, and I was left with bruises on my wrists. So back to feeling horrible.
I've just made a load of stupid mistakes in my very responsible 100% male environment job, so at the moment I'm getting scolded for being careless, in a month of two it'll be patronisingly out down to my girlie hormones, followed by snide comments on having the nerve to take the full maternity leave (and then some, I?m not shortchanging my family again)
Still don't really want to be pregnant, but at the same time I can't wait until I feel the baby move, yet another example of my current contrariness. I'm driving my partner mad with stupid little arguments, aggghhh when does this nausea stop??? I just want my body back.

Ok rant over, not looking for sympathy, just needed to vent my frustration, excuse me while I go vomit.

Susanmt, I?m sorry you?re having a terrible time at the moment too, your new baby does sounds like a bit of a miracle though, hopefully it will be a kind miracle to your body too. Don?t feel guilty about being down about it, I sure as hell don?t, but have no doubt that I will love this little one as blindly as I do my ds.

Rhubarb, I hope things are looking up for you too, I?m relieved for you it was just a scare. Take care of yourself.

why do my posts always end up so long, what's the secret to short concise posting??

Susanmt - nothing constructive to add. Just hang in there.... you know it'll get better when you feel physically better.

Eefs - I work in a very male orientated environment too and it drives me mad all there pathetic digs! Grow up BOYS!!!

Time for a moan - I am also feeling crap - really sick ALL day and very hormonal - dh is lurking around the house avoiding me. I also feel fat and very down, coupled with guilt as I should be happy to be pg.
Had some good news today though - a very close friend just told me she is pg - baby due 3 days after mine!!! you can imagine how surprised she was when I said snap.

Oh Grommit - I'd LOVE one of my pals to be pg at the same time as me, how nice!!

Susanmt, when I got pg for the first time I never wanted it from the word go. I considered an abortion and when it became too late for that, I wanted to get it adopted. I became convinced that I was a bad person and would make a horrible mother. I would vent my anger out on my unborn baby and called it some horrible names! Right up until the birth, I still didn't want the baby. Then, when she was born, I don't know, something just clicked inside me. I realised that this baby was part of me, she had a mass of dark hair and her eyes were wide open, looking at me, I couldn't help but love her.
You must be going through hell right now, but you don't have to do all this alone. Have a word with your GP and midwife, tell them how you feel. Maybe they can sort out a counsellor for you to see every week or so, having a third party to talk to really helped me, I could say things to her that I wouldn't dream of telling my dh! It helps so much to get it all off your chest. Also, if it gets really bad, they can prescribe you anti-depressants, which is much more preferable than suffering all the way through your pregnancy.

But whatever happens, remember that you are not alone. Every pregnant woman at some stage has doubts about being able to love her baby and continuing with the pregnancy. In your circumstances I would say that your feelings are perfectly normal and understandable. But please don't suffer alone, there is help out there. And you will cope, we always do don't we?

Susanmt, sorry to hear you are feeling like this. You must be exhausted, especially if you are not sleeping well, early pregnancy is tiring at the best of times but it must be worse with two little ones. I totally agree with Rhubarb you should speak to someone about how you feel. In 7 1/2 months no doubt you will feel differently but perhaps speaking to someone now will help you through these difficult few weeks. Hopefully you will be blooming soon.

Susanmt - any chance that you could get away for a day, a couple of days, or failing that - a few precious hours? Either you and your partner or just you if that's not possible? Maybe having some space from the 'day to day' will give you a breather and chance to take a deep breath and focus on yourself? YOu need to look after yourself and I hope you have the time to do that....

And just a question for everyone - when did you tell or when will you tell friends, etc about your pregnancy? I was reading the post below about a friend also expecting at the same time. (how wonderful to go through it together!) I ask because apart from family we haven't told anyone. A good friend who has a dd same age as mine is ttc....would like to tell her but I don't want to 'gloat' even though it wouldn't be that, and it's still so early...I had a m/c before conceiving dd (m/c at 10 weeks) everyday I wonder will it happen again? so don't want to tell anyone too early .....oh here I am waffling away.

So when did you tell?
a nosey hana

Hana, the last time I didn't tell anyone until I was 25 wks! apart from DP of course, but I was lucky that I was very fit at the time so didn't actually show until then. This time I'm going to tell everyone at about 14 wks. I think the usual is about 12 wks. I find the pregnancy seems to go so much slower when everyone knows, so I'll try and hold out as long as my stomach lets me.
I got an appointment for my 12 wk scan, am really excited!

hana, I told everyone as soon as I knew, mainly because I will expect their support if things go wrong so I will also be telling them if I miscarry. Each to their own though. I did the same last time except at work, where I kept quiet until 12 weeks.
Eefs, I have a 12 week nuchal fold scan next week, exciting and scary! How on earth did you not show until 25 weeks? What an achievement! Grommit, sorry you felt awful yesterday, much sympathy and I hope today's a bit better. Susanmt, how are things? Hope everyone else is OK and starting to bloom Ha ha, definitely no blooming going on here though!

Hana, I mainly go along with www here (I'm just terrible at hiding things anyway) but I do try to limit it to those people I'd feel comfortable telling if I miscarried. So ironically more of my friends know than family...I expect to 'go public' around 12/13 weeks but I think people may start guessing before then!

Hana, having just passed the 12 week mark I've started to tell people. I had already told my parents, but left it till last weekend to phone close members of the family / close friends. By now even distant relatives will know as the grapevine works very well! I had hoped to have the first scan before I told people but that has been delayed till 14 weeks, and I couldn't hold out much longer (and my Mum was bursting with not being able to tell people!).
No-one had guessed so I can't be growing as much as I thought! or been as hormonal as dh says!

I can't keep a secret!! I found out at 5 weeks.... had a confirmation test at the Docs a week later then told EVERYONE who would listen!!!

Hello, everyone. Just got back from my 12-week appointment and nuchal fold scan, combined with blood tests (what looked like gallons of it) for the triple test and anything else you can think of. Baby waved its arms around a lot, but insisted on lying the wrong way round so the doctor couldn't see its neck for ages. Finally came up with a measurement of 1.6mm. No idea what that means, so I guess I'll have to stay ignorant until the results of the tests come back. I've been told "we'll phone you within 10 days if it's not OK" - and I've just realise that means I won't know the full results, just whether "they" think they're OK. Not sure I like that idea, but maybe I'm just being over sensitive. As I turn 35 next month, I suppose I just feel more at risk of something going wrong than I did first time round.
Www, blooming, what's that? Don't you mean blooming exhausted?

www blooming?? still feeling blooming awful here. How is everyone coping with the morning sickness?
Sprout did you get a good view of the baby? I'm looking forward to the scan immensely, hopefully it will make this pregnancy real for me and I'll start looking forward to the baby.
p.s. I managed to hide it last time until 25 wks because 1) i didn't want anyone to know, i didn't feel ready for it at all, and 2) although I did put on weight it was all over rather than just my stomach. I also stopped going out so didn't have to wear skinny clothes. No such luck this time though.

I'm not planning to tell family until I'm in labour! They were not very supportive to me last time and actually made things worse for me, plus I don't like being the talk of the family, I don't want to give them that satisfaction of having some gossip to spread! My dad knows though as we were planning to see him before I had my threatened m/c so had to cancel.

I'm booked in for another scan next week, but simply cannot abide by all these intrusive tests! With both pregnancies the docs have been really pushy about me having a vaginal scan and I've been really pushy about not having one. I mean, I'm going to lose all dignity soon enough, I don't want that to start now though! Not with a male doctor either! If it has one head and two sets of arms and legs, that's good enough for me!

I'm feeling a bit better - have had a couple of good nigts sleep and realised that part of the problem was dh being grumpy over the weekend - but he lost a patient at the weekend and that always upsets him, so that had alot to do with things (of course I was over-personalising everything!).
I am desperate for my scan. I think once I see the little blighter then things will improve - at the mo part of the problem is that I can't picture myself with a little baby in there and once I see it (managed to see a heartbeat with abdo scan at 7 weeks with ds) I hope things will get better.
Thanks for all your suggestions. We are considering getting a cleaner and sending out the ironing, so I can stop worrying about that!

eefs, yes, I did get quite a good view: enough to convince me that I really am still pg (not just fat & flabby!) and that there is a live baby in there. There seemed to be 2 arms, 2 legs and 1 head, but you couldn't really see much more than that. It was lying on its back lazily just like its mum on the sofa in the evenings!

Sprout - did you try to find out the sex? Must be great to see baby moving around!! Makes it all real

I'm really looking forward to having my scan.....hurry up week 12! Thanks for telling me when you 'told' others - my friend who I wasn't sure to tell or not (they're ttc) told me today that SHE was pregnant herself!! So of course I came clean. We are 2 weeks apart, and our dd's are exactly 2 weeks apart as well. So I'm thrilled to be able to go through this pregnancy with a friend!!
Yay!

How wonderful Hana! Next time, I'd really love one of my friends to be preggers at the same time. I was the first of us to have a baby so noone really understood and I probably bored them all with my pregnancy moans/groans and excitement.

ok not sure whether this will help anybody but its helpin me at the mo
i felt really grumpy this morning and fed up about not feeling pregnant wen i feel i shud b and feeling exhausted an fatigued.
so i put on my bridget jones sound track album an had a little dance around my lving room (strange i know...) but i feel so much better now.
its a great album with songs like respect by aretha franklin chaka khans im every woman and generally jus feel good songs
although i think ill skip all by myself ( jamie o'neal) as i think my partener is having second thoughts as to whether he really wants to b around a baby

Rachel - are you serious about your partner?? Is he really thinking about leaving you????

im not sure wat he's thinkin at the moment he doesnt really seem interested at all an he hasnt told his family yet im jus scared ill end up all alone
i think he may jus still b in shock he's only known for 2weeks an i think he's findin it all a bit scary. he's only 19 an hadnt really even thought about kids
im jus hopin he'll come with me for the scan an after seein it he'll change his mind an really want to b involved like he says he does

i think mum2toby im jus paranoid an not copin with hormones very well

its probably my brain malfuctioning from lack of caffine
my body is tellin me it doesnt want tea or coffee cos its disgustin but my brain is sayin wheres my usual caffine intake
lol im goin mad already an i still got another 29 1/2 weeks 2 go