November/December babies

[monkey]

Hell, I've just found out I'm expecting No. 3 mid November, and am very excited. A bit scared too - I can't remember a thing! How can I possibly have done this twice already??? Hope more of you can join me soon!

Mears thanks, not sure what sort of birth I'll hav yet (had a nice experience with a midwife-led hospital birth last time), it's WWW who's been considering a homebirth. I'll read the book though, it may cause me to change my mind.
BTW major thanks for the sea-band tip!

www - see homebirth reference below to eefs! Got my posts mixed up when trying to read through too quickly.

eefs - gLad the seabands helped

Mears, I'm going to start a new thread on home birth I think but I will get that book, definitely, thanks!

snap chanelno5 - I'm due 13th too.

I am so knackered too. Some days not too bad, but today i haven't actually felt awake at all. I'm just so so so tired. I feel like I was out drinking till 4am ( oh, did I ever actually do that?) - dehydrated, foggy head, slow motion, etc etc. That's how I feel all the time, but without any of the fun.

Good luck with your home birth www. I personally am looking forward to a week's break in hospital - I don't have any family near me, so the minute I'm home I'm on my own, so to speak, - dh is wonderful, but as he cheerfully points out, he can't get up to bf can he?

But each to their own. It really annoys me how poeple think it's ok to make negative comments. I was at a meeting on Friday & they (all women) were going on about how much I'm showing already, and asking stuff like - you're only 2 months right?, how big's the baby now - about 1cm and you're already that fat. etc etc. I feel really upset about it!

But anyway, sod them. I'm 10 weeks tomorrow, a quater of the way through. Is it 12 weeks when you can stop worrying? I wish people wouldn't keep mentioning to me friends who've lost their baby. I need to keep positive.

Hope all our symptoms calm down. I have sore boobs too www, but unfortunately mine have not grown a mm.

Hi folks
I had a seven week scan today which shows all is progressing nicely, and I've been packed off from the fertility clinic to go and see my GP. But I will be happier when I get to 12/13 weeks. No more scans for me now until the anomaly scan at 20 weeks
I've been given a due date of 1 Dec, which I think is a couple of days too early, but its clearly an inexact science even if you know exactly when conception took place! Just as long as it doesn't arrive on ds's birthday - that would really add insult to injury for the poor love!

I don't have a huge number of symptoms, though I've been off work this week and have found myself sleeping for about 2 hours every afternoon!

I've also been toying with the idea of a homebirth, www, but I'm really not sure. Ideally what I want is for the midwife I know to come into hospital to deliver me, but I don't think that's a service available locally. My first birth sounds a bit like yours (but was in hospital) and I am a bit worried about not getting to the hospital in time!

Elliot, I'm really pleased things are going well.

Just popped in to say that it's still here so far, but hoping some of you can put my mind at rest. The next scan is on Tuesday so we will find out then what has happened. But I'm a bit paranoid that it might be dead or something might be wrong with it, understandable I guess. My tummy is very flat, althought I will be 7 weeks this weekend, I seem to have constant mild tummy ache and it is very uncomfortable. I feel worse lying down, and then getting back up again from a lying position. I didn't get any of this during the last one, so should I be worried? I also showed very early last time too - I had a noticeable bump at 8 weeks, which is why I'm a bit worried that there doesn't seem to be anything there.
Does anyone have any of these symptoms at all? Thanks. I'll let you know how the scan goes - fingers crossed!

Well, I hope you don't mind if I join you!
Had a coil check yesterday, and discovered it was sitting low in my cervix. The GP said it wouldn't be working properly there so whipped it out - didn't feel a thing. I was to make an appointment to have another one fitted in a couple of weeks but there was a little voice in the back of my head, saying 'what if ....'. So I did a home test and I'm pregnant. Cant be much more than 6 weeks, so have been figuring it out and think I'm due at the start of december.
I'm terrifed, and I can't really say I'm happy about it as yet. I was warned last year not to get pregnant again as I risk serious permanent kidney damage. Plus we are so happy with our two. We were never planning to have more than two.
Dh is shellshocked as well - I think he is seeing another 2 years of kidney stones, PND etc stretching out in front of us.
But hopefully we'll get our heads round it before December!

Rhubarb, don't know the answer to your question, sorry but hang in there and fingers crossed for next week. Susanmt, blimey, that sounds like a shock! I remember you saying recently that you didn't want another because of your kidney problems so I hope you're feeling OK about it. Congratulations

Rhubarb - I had stomach and lower abdominal pains with my last pregancy for the first 10 weeks and with this one for the first 5 weeks so hopefully yours are normal.
Susanmt - congratulations, welcome to the thread!

Rhubarb - usually there are no abdominal signs of pregnancy until after 12 weeks. It is really common to have cramps right up until 16 weeks. Were you perhaps heavier last time round. I have seen many women with bleding noted on scans to have perfectly normal pregnancies. Hope everything works out OK for you.

Susanmt - my goodness, what a shock. Think positively. I am sure your doctors will keep a close eye on your kidneys with renal advice. Many a woman has been advised not to have any more pregnancies only to sail through unplanned ones.

Best wishes to you both, mears.

Rhubarb, Good Luck with your scan.

Susanmt WOW!!!! Congratulations!!!

I also had cramps for the first 16 weeks of pregnancy. I was convince I was having a miscarriage every time I felt them and didn't believe the midwife when she said it must be constipation. I thought I must be a real wimp being doubled up just because of constipation.

I've since had two miscarriages and realised that the cramping of miscarriage is completely different. I have also noticed that the pain occurs after weeks of constipation and after a couple of hours of constipation I have diarrhoea.

Please don't worry about the cramps. It is probably constipation or maybe your womb stretching. I have heard that's a cause of mild pain.

My word I am sick! I had forgotten - this was one of the reasons I wasn't going to do it again
Its out with the fizzy water and a squeeze of lemon and the lemon and ginger tea, none of which does a lot of good but which makes me feel like I am doing something about it.
How did I go through this for about a week and not realise? No idea!

is it just me but... but we've just had the most wonderful weekend with dd1, now 14 months. She's just started walking and spent the weekend charming grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins etc. I kinda feel that the new addition is going to get in the way, it's hard to imagine that we would be lucky enough to have a 2nd who was as great as our first. Is this just normal baby no 2 anxiety?

Allatsea - funny I was thinking the same thing at the weekend. My dd is 3 and I am really enjoying her at the moment. I then see friends with 2 or more and they always seems so stressed...not much we can do about it now! My mum always said she felt more like a family when she had the 2nd

allatsea - don't worry, it's natural, and you'll probably have plenty of moments of thinking "what have I done???" (in terms of coping, and "what have I done to no. 1" Things only got better for me once I forced myself to stop feeling guily. But I honestly haven't had any problems with falling in love with no. 2, and am looking forward to no. 3. I am a bit nervous in case it's a girl - I'm assuming it will be a boy as none of my family has mixes,. Everyone assumes I'm desperate for a girl, but actually, I'm pretty nervous in case it did turn out to be one. I really see myself as a mum of boys, does that make sence?

Anyway, I was at docs today & little Schlumpfli is already 3.5 cm, and I saw arms, legs, hands, the lot. it was really exciting. I don't go back until 2nd June, but dh is actually going to come - thought I'd better persuade him or he won't believe it's real, & get a BIG shock in November

Good luck Rhubarb - have you been yet?

Susanmt - good to see you here. Do you have an idea of date yet?

Susanmt - hope you are ok. How do you feel about it all? Thinking of you.
I've had my scan - and it's still there! They picked the heartbeat up! The blood clot is also still there but not as much of a threat now. I'm starting to get brownish discharge which is a sign that it is coming away. I have another scan in 2 weeks because I wouldn't let them do a vaginal scan, waste of time if you ask me. They found the heartbeat, it's fine, why do they need to do more? And like I'm gonna let some bloke shove a camera inside me when I had a threatened miscarriage a week ago - I don't think so!

Anyway, I'm really glad it's ok! I'm due around 14th Dec I think. Freezing cold b/f - bummer! Thanks for being there guys, you've really helped!

thanks monkey and grommit. it's nice to know I'm not alone! I know what you mean monkey about being a mother of boys. Dd and I were fairly sure that we'd have a boy ( for no reason). I'd always had very good relationships with the boys I'd taught and was looking forward to it, but when dd arrived suddenly Dd and I can't imagine having a boy as we see our selves as a 'girl' family know. Aren't hormones/feelings/perceptions such bizarre things?

Great news Rhubarb. I'm sure I read somewhere that once you have seen a heartbeat the chances of things going wrong are pretty remote. I think I migtht also be due 14th December (and my b'day is the 16th) but wont know till next week. But my other 2 were 4 and 10 days early so hoping for a repeat!

ery pleased for you Rhubarb, and also pleased you're more happy about the pg in general. Hope your next 2 weeks go fine & the scan brings peace of mind for you & dh. Do you want to find out the gender when the time comes or will you go for the surprise (open question really, not just for Rhubarb)

Hi - I just found out today that I am due around Christmas. This is totally not what I wanted - we were careless just once right after I had my period, and I thought we were safe. I have read some of this thread, but not all. I love being a mother to my one and only DD, and I love the relationship we have - just me, DH and her. I am getting depressed about this pregnancy for a number of reasons, even though I have always wanted to have at least 2 children. Please feel free to tell me how ignorant and selfish I am, but these are the reasons why I am not happy about the pregnancy: (1) I wanted more time alone with DD
(2) I am just getting my old body back - after losing the 4 stone I gained with DD
(3) I never wanted to have a Christmas baby - I think they get completely deprived of their birthday celebrations due to the Christmas holiday.
(4) I never wanted to have a winter baby. DD was born in the summer, and I loved not worrying about germs and colds when she was little.
(5) We are supposed to go on vacation in August - I'll be 5 months then - will that be miserable?
(6) I really enjoy my job and my life right now. I just am getting into the groove of being a working mum, and now, I feel like I'm about to lose all the control I've finally managed to gain in the last few months.
(7) I really wanted to "try for" a boy - based on timing, etc. Based on what has happened, I believe there is a high likelihood that I will have another girl, which is a bit disappointing, although I'm sure I will love her as much as DD.

I know I should be happy, but I'm having a hard time convincing myself. . . Sorry to sound so glum, but I get very grumpy and down when pregnant. Hopefully I'll get used to the idea and start enjoying some of the good things soon, but of course my last pregnancy was horrible - I was nauseous and vomitting for the first trimester. So I don't know when I'll start looking forward to this. Congratulations to all of you future mums who were trying! I'm sorry I can not be as excited about this as you. Hopefully soon.

Tinyfeet - I understand where you are coming from - your feelings are not unusual. Although we were 'trying' for this baby I still have doubts and worries. The reality is that you are pregnant and just have to get on with it and try to be positive (I know, easier said than done). I don't think that the timing of your baby is a big issue - my dd was born in December and my next is also due December. Not ideal but not a real issue - we just make sure to keep birthdays and Christmas realy separate. Again having a winter baby was not a problem and it meant that by the time she was 6 months and sitting up and more alert the weather was warm and she could really enjoy it. The job situation I understand can be a problem - I am trying to work out how to keep my career going with 2 children, and also how to pay for daycare for 2! Now you've got me thinking again.....agghh ! Hope it all works out for you

Rhubarb - FANTASTIC NEWS!!! You sound much more positive about it now. I hope this pregnancy goes by event-free from now on!!

Tinyfeet - I have 1 ds, but I'm incredibly broody. However, I know it's the wrong time and, like you I'm getting on well at work etc etc. We had a careless moment at the weekend so, although I'm yearning for another child I am also poised in horror at the thought that I may be pregnant! We are getting married in October so a 6 month bump would be not very nice in our wedding photos! So I kind of understand your angst.

5 months pregnant for your holiday..... if I remember correctly the middle part of my pregnancy I felt fantastic and more full of energy than ever!! So that's a plus point I suppose. I'm sure once the first trimester has passed and you start to feel the baby wriggling you'll start to feel different. Good Luck.

How old is your dd just now?

wondered if I could join your thread? Did a test yesterday and got a positive result! Am thrilled to be pregnant again (dd 19 months) . Early days as hubby keeps telling me but I just want to share it with everyone! Won't though, will wait a bit longer...but it's so hard.... I think I'm about 5 weeks and due the end of Dec.

I've been lurking on mumsnet for the longest time.....and thought it was about time I posted something! Have had lots of good advice and quite a few giggles on this site....
Hope your bumps and pregnancies are doing really well.
hana