November/December babies

[monkey]

Hell, I've just found out I'm expecting No. 3 mid November, and am very excited. A bit scared too - I can't remember a thing! How can I possibly have done this twice already??? Hope more of you can join me soon!

Doh! I forgot to say, I'm due on 4th November!

Hi everyone. Monkey, sorry you're having a hard time getting the info you want over there. Do you have any women friends who could help point you in the right direction? (good news about Ba from other thread btw!) Rhubarb, sorry you're still feeling bleak but at least you must be over half way now (23 weeks ish iirc). Hi mumbojumbo, sounds tough, spd and all the rest, there was a thread about spd recently which might be helpful if you do a search. Elliott, glad you're enjoying this bit. I'm not sure whether I am or not. I do like the kicking and it's making me feel very loving towards this baby but I don't like the dodgy stomach and piles (sorry! it's a disgusting combination, please do try not to get it) I've got atm. bleeaggh, it really is revolting. The joys of pregnancy hey? Dp is embarrassed at being asked to get cream for the latter today but is going to, bless him. Thank goodness the weather has broken here though, my heat rash is going and I actually managed to leave the house yesterday for a walk in the rain on the beach, which was bliss. Ds is away so I got lots of looks from mothers with children which seemed to say "aha, look at you with your tiny handbag but you're obviously pregnant, just you wait til you have to cart a great big holdall to the beach missus" or that may have been my imagination - I wanted to say, I have already got one, I do know, he's just not here. But maybe they weren't thinking that at all

Isn't it funny how you notice other pregnant women more when you are pregnant? I see them all the time now!
WWW - I'm ok really, I just got some bad news the other day about my godparents daughter. She was a year younger than me and was expecting her 3rd child next week, but she had a cardiac arrest last weekend. They managed to save the baby but not her. No-one knew there was anything wrong with her. It upset me a lot, her funeral is today. So I've been struggling to keep going, but I do feel my head blurring again at times and I wake up at night feeling anxious and panicky. However we're having a holiday in Scotland after the bank holiday, so hopefully that will be a lovely rest. And then dd will start nursery in Sept so I'll have lots more time to relax.

I hope I haven't worried anyone now! I'm sure all our pregnancies will go smoothly and we'll be putting up birth announcements before you know it!

Rhubarb, how truly awful and tragic and terrible. Hope you get through the funeral OK.

oh Rhubarb, her poor family! I hope you and they can get through this awful time ok.

what an unimaginable tragedy. Hard to get your head round. The poor husband and 2 other children. Thinking of your family. No funeral is easy, but that one must surely be one of the hardest anyone would have to attend. thoughts with you all.

Hi Monkey

Just happened upon this thread and wondered whether you were in contact with the Basel Childbirth Trust (I seem to remember you are up that way) www.baselchildbirthtrust.com, which may at least be able to give you some answers as to how the system works at the hospitals. Also were you aware that you are legally entitled to 10 days post natal care from a midwife even if you leave hospital within this period - I never got around to organising this but again perhaps someone there can give you a recommendation if you are interested. Otherwise try the Swiss Association of Midwives, www.hebamme.ch , probably in German though.

good luck

Oh no, I didn't go to the funeral! My mother did, I've sent a card. TBH I haven't seen the family for years, but my sister knew their daughter as she used to attend the toddler groups near her. I guess I just feel it because she was a year younger than me, had the same name as me and her married name is my mother's maiden name, which is quite spooky. She was also very pale and thin, a lot like me when I was younger. People are always telling me how pale and tired I look now! I guess it just reminds you of your mortality. But apparently the funeral, though sad was lovely too. The baby was a girl and they've named her after her mother.

But this is too sad. Grommit, will your placenta move up do you think? I don't know much about low-lying placentas I'm afraid. Must be a bit of a worry for you. Susanmt please let us know how you are doing!
Not long now everyone!

Thanks Lizs, I'll check it all out. I 'phoned the hospital direct yesterday & I've made an appointment with a midwife, and I'll just have to write down every question I can think of and try to be firm about getting balanced answeres from him/her. Maybe they won't be as bad as doc thinks.

Rhubarb - what a sad story - it must have been such a shock and does make one think. The day I went for my 20 wk scan I had an email from a girl I know who was also 20 wks to say her baby had died - she also lost a baby at 20+ weeks last year - I just do not know how people find the strength to cope.
Consultant hopes my placenta will move up - didn't help the worry when I watched discovery health today and there was a woman with a low lying placenta who had bleeding at 27 weeks and was hospitalised until the birth at 38wks!!!!
Hope everyone else is OK- WE ARE OVER HALF WAY THERE!!!

Stupid question - does anyone know how/when we get MatB1 forms?

That's the one you give your employer, right? I got mine from the midwife ages ago (or was it just at my last appt - brain is really going )
She said they can issue them earlier now - I think at 20 weeks - while before they had to wait to 24 or 28 weeks (can't remember which) - maybe your midwife is still working on the old rules?

Hello everyone, I haven't posted for ages as have been busy and lots going on So I apologise for the long post. I am 29 weeks now, not long.
Have just had my glucose tolerance test on friday and results came back very high, so went in for more blood tests yesterday (after fasting for 12 hours) So I am now waiting for results but looks like high chance of gestational diabetes..oh joy, I feel as if I have had heaps thrown at me during my pregnancy ( I guess I am feeling sorry for myself- sorry to whinge).
I didn't post on this thread but I posted a seperate thread as I also had a bleed at 26 weeks which really worried me, but have had no more since (thank goodness)It turned out to be a 'tiny' piece of placenta coming off - according to doctors etc not a worry as long as it doesn't happen again
So I am now waiting for my results to find out severity of blood sugar count and whether it will be dietary or Insulin adjusted. Also may result in a 'big' baby, and apparently may have to be induced early, I guess I will find out more when my tests come back and I know where I stand.
But on a happier note bump is moving around alot and it is such a comforting feeling if not a little strange don't you think

Hi 1sttimer. Sorry to hear about your tests, I do hope the next lot of results are what you hope for. Susanmt, how are you? We haven't heard from you in ages - I hope no news is good news. Monkey, did you get any joy with a midwife/similar?

I'm feeling very grumpy atm: scared of childbirth and veering between a) it'll be fine ffs, you've done it before and b) Why not just go straight into hosptial, have an epidural etc? I'm also wondering whether I'll cope with another baby (truly terrified of madness induced by lack of sleep) and a bit scared of going back to toddlerdom. I've been looking at 2yos with horror. Might post on the other "can't face 2 kids" thread actually if I still feel like this tomorrow. Anyway, hope everyone else is OK.

hope the news about the gestational diabetes isn't too bad, 1sttimer, let us know.

Hi www, I'm feeling fine (but very tired again) atm. I met midwife last Thursady. She was so so so lovely. I had a long talk with dh before I went & decided that if all her answers to my questions were X, I'd def. have elective. If all answers Y, I'd def. go for natural, and if answeres were Z I'd discuss with dh again & then decide. As it happens, all of here answeres were X, but i just felt overwhelmingly that natural was the way to go. Maybe this time will be 3rd time lucky. I felt to serene & positive about it, but I'm now getting worried again! I guess that's just par for the course with pregnancy. i didn't go in saying I'm thinking of having a c-section, I just stuck to all of the questions that bothered me, like is this one likely to be as quick, am I likely to tear again etc, so I really didn't feel that the discussion was biiased.

I'm starting to feel very heavy and does this make sence to any others - the baby seems to feel so heavy on my pelvic floor. No stress incontinence (yet) or anything, but just feels so heavy I'm starting to wonder how I can go on another 11 weeks.I'm obsessing about how slowly time is ticking by again. otoh, the tiredness is not going to be funny, so trying to pursuade myself the later the better.

Is anyone else having Braxton Hicks' yet? I'm having 3 or 4 a day & they feel pretty uncomfortable. 11 more weeks to go.

I know what you mean about looking at toddlers in horror too www, except for me, it's not toddlers but babies around 9 months - spoon feeding, pureeing endless carrots again. oh joy. At least your ds is old enough to help.

Did I read btw that you had salmonella? What did you get it off? Are you ok now & were the docs reassuring?

Hello, I'm back at work (and on-line!) after 2 weeks of holiday. After worrying about what to do with a toddler in a B&B if it rained the whole time, ended up being in the UK for the hottest week ever. Oof! Monkey, I'm also counting the weeks and wondering how I'll keep going that long, but no BH-contractions so far.
WWW, are you telepathic? You summarised exactly how I feel at the moment (except 1st time round I did opt for an epidural, so I can't even say "I managed last time"!). Labour seems much more daunting this time round. Prospect of sleep deprivation for the next months also terrifying. And the addition of a wonderful but very demanding 3 1/2-yr-old to the whole mix is scary. I feel I'm just starting to have a life again ... and this will all change soon for at least the next 2 years or so. Very selfish, but that's where I'm at this week. Oh, and did I mention I'd rather spend the next month asleep rather than in the office ?

1sttimer - sorry to hear about your problems - I had high glucose levels in my last pregancy but never enough to diagnose gestational diabetes. WWW - hope you have got over your Salmonella. Agree with everyone about worrying about the birth and especially the lack of sleep - especially as I was up all night last night with dd who has a nasty ear infection - thoughts of how will I ever be able to manage with 2??? Also dh may be taking a job in Amsterdam so I will be on my own 4 days /nights per week! Oh well - we're on the home strait now....

Monkey, I'm so glad you got a lovely midwife - it really does make all the difference. You sound a lot happier about the whole thing. No, haven't had any BH yet but am only 27+4. Sprout, hmmm, not just me then re nerves etc? Glad you had a good holiday although I hated the heat and spent most of the heatwave in a darkened room!

I've just seen the other community midwife who didn't seem that keen on home birth either - more or less said she didn't like 'em much since we're so far away from a hospital although she admitted that there was only any kind of a problem with about 15%. Trouble is, now Dp's heard that (he came with me), he's not so keen on the idea of home and I'm thinking of either a) moving house to be nearer a hospital and then going for home anyway (not as mad as it sounds, we do need to move anyway probably so could just bring it all forward a bit) or b) going into hospital anyway just to shut everyone up. Seems a shame though given my previous successful home birth. Apparently my blood pressure is low too so that's why I've been drooping around like a wet weekend. Oh pants, pants, pants

Hi everyone, I haven't checked in for ages either. Sorry to hear people have been having problems and been poorly, hope everyone is feeling much better and on the mend.

1stimer - keep positive! Now your gest. diabetes has been diagnosed, you'll get the appropriate treatment and should start to feel a bit better and also your baby will be more closely monitored. I think that this is quite a common problem in pregnancy, I had high sugar levels with my no.2 (though I was rather partial to Mars bars at the time ) but didn't need to have specific treatment just watched what I ate.

I'm 29 wks now and feeling crap, fat and frumpy. Oh yes, tired and irritable too. It isn't helping that I've got a massive painful mouth ulcer on the side of my tongue which is really interfering with 2 of my favourite things - talking and eating! What's a good treatment? Bonjela is totally useless though tastes nice!

On a positive note, have started getting a few baby things - travel system, changing bag and a few clothes (all white, of course) Trying to be organised for a change.

Am also having big worries about giving birth again, didn't have 'nice' births with the other 3. Also, wondering how on earth I will manage to get 4 kids ready in the morning and out of the house in time for school! Will have to invest in some pyjamas which can pass for day clothes for myself!

What a moaning minny I sound! Still, not long to go now and time will pass even quicker when the kids are back at school.

Best wishes to everyone

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ooh yes, sprout, like you say, for me I guess it's not just the lack of sleep (which I'm not looking forward to) but the restriction on life in general. I popped to the supermarket & thought, blimey, it won't be so easy soon. (even though it's ages away). Also, how long it takes to get out of the house & how much stuff you need.

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts, still haven't heard anything, still hoping for dietary solution, as yes I have been rather partial to anything sweet in the past few weeks so that may be it
I feel the same sentiment that most of you have voiced about the birth and it seems that I am the only one (recently posted) expecting their first baby, ahh you guys have all been there and done that so I guess you know the pain, sleeplessness etc involved I feel quite nervous and am questioning whether I will be capable, which I am sure is perfectly normal.
No BH as yet (I don't think anyway ).
Just want to say it is so nice to come on mumsnet and read other peoples feelings when we are all going through the same stage in pregnancy, it makes me feel not quite so nuts
I Will post when I get my results.

Chanelno5, blimey! I'd forgotten you'd already got 3 - and I'm worrying about coping with 2! I'll slink off, ashamed of being a wimp, for a while now.

Sprout, don't feel sorry for me, it's all my own doing! Actually, I think the jump from 1 to 2 kids is probably the hardest as you have to get used to splitting yourself in half between 2 little demanding things who don't give you any let up (am I making you feel better yet?) After 2, however many you have it's all much of a muchness really, because you're already a dried up old husk of your former self who is used to having no time for yourself and living your left in a state of perpetual chaos! Or is that just me? Don't worry, you'll be great!

Well just a short note, Blood results back no sign of Gestational Diabetes on 2nd and 3rd test...
I guess thou I had better lay off the chocolates

Great news, 1stimer.