Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VI....Share your worries and knicker checking stories here...

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Hey Everyone!

I'm just back from a holiday at Centerparcs. Had a fab time but seem to have missed loads on here! A big hello to my Due-Date Buddy Youknownothingofthecrunch. Everything seems to be going OK here with Bean. I'm feeling (very) occasional flutterings which stopped for a while after I had a bout of severe diarrhoea on holiday which was worrying. But, they seem to have started again now. I don't remember feeling movement quite like this with DD. By this stage I was feeling proper kicks from her so I'm looking forward to that reassuring stage with Bean. I'll read through all of the messages properly soon but I need to go to bed now.

Do I get a nice lay-flat bed on Conceived Air?

Maz - they will defo see a heartbeat at 9 weeks and I think it should be audible by then too, but I'm not sure. If you google you will get lots of info.

Hi all. I am in a pig of a mood today and not sure why - can't stop crying - not weeping, but proper loud snotty crying. DH not helping really, partly cos he isn't psychic but also largely cos he was out last night and came home drunk IN A TAXI not on the train line that we live on - that's £20+ which really pisses me off. We have a difficult monely relationship at the best of times and at the mo I am paranoid about maternity leave.

So what does he do today?? BUYS AN IPHONE. Cos that's £400 well spent/essential, isn't it? And now he will be setting it up and expecting me to be enthusiastic about it.

(That's it I am having a Bugaboo.)

I am miserable cos
a) worried about money
b) pissed off thst he can get drunk and I can't
c) worried about work/sick leave/unsupportive manager
d) worried about birth/being a crap parent
e) worried about DH being no use either with birth or being a parent
f) feeling guilty that I am moaning about it
g) worried about how I will get through the next three months feeling as shit as I do (pgp and rib flare)
h) feeling even more guilty about moaning about later stages of pregnancy HERE of all places.

Apart from all of that - I am fine.

dan - I don't really know what to say to make you feel better, but am sending you a massive virtual hug and your DH a virtual great kick up the arse.

I'm sure anyone, regardless of whether they were pregnant or not, would be pee'd off at this. I know I would.

oh dan

I've been off the booze for so long as I dropped it while ttc and there are times when I miss it sooooo badly , esp. after a rough day. You have my sympathies. It is no picnic dealing with this stuff with all these pregnancy hormones swilling around. Find some way to pamper yourself if only lying face down in a trough of chocolate/ice cream/whatever else floats your boat. Then when you have calmed down talk dh through your money/employment wiorries and ask whether this is the best time for the boys toys.

ladylush - fingers crossed.

maz - yes a heartbeat should definitely be visible and you should see a wiggling bean/tadpole if you're lucky.

Love to ladylush

Maz Should get a hb at nine weeks and I guess you should see the beginnings of arms, but remember we are all different so please don't be disappointed if it's not as much as you expect (I did at early scans and therefore didn't really feel reassured)

Ladylush Fingers crossed - did you manage to get an early scan-if so when is it. Sounds more positive today though.

Dan Bless you - most of the things on your list are regular worries of mine so you are not alone and I would have been at DP too - even with a big bump they don't seem to get it. As far as moaning at late stages - we all have off days. Whenever I am finding things difficult (and this PG lark is harder that I thought it would be) I feel terribly guilty for moaning as just feel with my history I should just be grateful to be this far and full of the joys but we're not robots. Hope you feel brighter tomorrow.

I am also having a bit of a tough day, have had horrible vomiting - like exorcist proportions (sorry tmi-hope dinners are all done) last night and tonight and have spent most of the day in bed. Don't have a temp and books say to just rest and replace fluids but can't help being petified that it has harmed the baby. 10 days til 20 week scan and am 19 weeks today so 10 days of tenderhooks as convinced midwifes will just send me away with flea in ear - it seems you have to be writhing in pain for anything to be offered. Sorry for long post but needed an offload.

Oh dear teehee - sorry you are being so sick I have never suffered with it, but it sounds awful

Scorpio - hello How are you? What ttc thread are you on?

Hi everyone else

The ttc#4 one, noisy corner one!

Dan - I would be annoyed too if h was spending loads of money on beer and taxis. H came home the other night stinking of beer which made me feel a bit sick but only because the smell of alcohol repulses me right now. Most strange for me

Ooh will pop in and chat soon then

Hi all and t for the support. Feel a it better tody and at least am not vomiting exorcist style. I know wht you mean teehee, this pg lark is not as lovely s i ws anticipating either!! But the history bit does make you feel bit like you should just be grateful and get on with it.

I was directive and got him to feed me last night, he does do it I would just like him to anticipate it more. Also made him empty the dishwasher this morn, and he brought me tea and toast in bed (unprompted).

We did talk about the work thing and he thinks I should stop earlier,but I am reluctant to give up any time with the babe at the other end...planning to stop at end dec, 3 weeks leave in Jan so technically would start mat leave in Feb. Maybe do need to bring it forward. But i want to have a year off - so if I start it in dec i will have to go back in dec too...mind you will have accrued some leave so maybe that will work...Need to think about it. just wish my manager was a bit more supportive as her negativity is REALLY getting me down. Will maybe try speaking to other colleagues in the hope they don't think I am crap.

sussex ta for the hug (and the kick!!) and dbno cheers for the virtual wine!! I did have a bottle of raspberry beer last night which was fab.

And on a more positive note, he is finally taking an interest in the pram world (tho likes three wheelers)and we are off to test drive some in a mo. And I asked him last night about perineal massage and he seemed keen..

Hello - can I join you all?

Had a mc in March at 11 weeks and have just managed to conceive again after 7 long months of trying! Just got a BFP yesterday morning

Very very tentative at the moment but have lots of questions! Like how do you all keep your sanity!?!?

Hello Lastbox. I'm new here too. Everyone's very friendly

Sanity? Hmm, will have to have a think about that one... I think taking everything one day at a time helps. Get scans when you can.

Congratulations on the BFP!

As for my new doppler I found the HB straight away first time. It was such a reassuring thing to hear it. I bought this one in the end, it's cheap but tells you the heart rate as well as just hearing it. I'm really pleased with it actually (although the headphones' connection is a bit dodgy the sound quality is really good).

I wasn't sure of movements just a couple of days ago and now I'm getting kicked all over in there. Definitely a gymnast.

Hope everything is ok with all you ladies.

dan hope you found a pushchair - I've got a Quinny Buzz which I love for the fact that it will face me, but it can seem a little bit huge.

Hi all

Sorry not been on. Seem to be v tired still.

LBOT - hello and congrats again!!!

dan - hope you're feeling a bit better. Let us know how you get on with buggy test driving.

I'd best go away and try and catch up properly...

A hearty congratulations to lastboxoftampons on your BFP. As for staying sane, I am not sure it is possible but we are all here and understand

Evening ladies.
I am just trying to catch up with everones news.
Welcome abd congrats lastboxoftampons
Hope all is well ladylush
Went to see Fish in concert last night in Frome, involved standing up for over 3 hours at the front, clapping and singing along and went on way past my bedtime! 20 mins from the end however started to feel very strange and almost passed out. Hubby came to the back with me and I felt much better after a cold drink but it kind of spoiled it for me, plus the sickness returned - think I must have got too hot.
Was nice to be away from home for a night tho - had a lovely deep bubble bath (without worrying about water meter) before the concert.
Anyway after feeling so strange last night I started to worry again so it was nice to get home and use the doppler - found the HB straight away.
My friend has her 20wk scan tommorrow, I just wish I was closer to mine, its 4wks tommorrow and I am both dreading and looking forward to it. [hmm

Sorry for the essay.....

dan39 I know how you feel my DH had 8 pints last night.

Thanks for the congratulations!

Crunch You mentioned early scans - when I had my mc, the EPU said they would do an early one for me and I was planning on going around week 8 as last time I had a missed mc at 11 weeks, but fetus measured about 7. I had had a scan at 4+3 first time around because I was feeling crampy and the nurse sent me to the EPU to rule out an ectopic. There wasn't much to see except a sac in the uterus, so the EPU told me to come back two weeks later to confirm viability. At that point we saw a heartbeat but apparently it died the next week. So I thought that 8 weeks would make most sense for me, but I'm wondering what all of you are doing? I thought they would only do one extra for me before the 12 week one, but would they do more if I was prepared to sit there and wait?

dan It's only been two days and I'm already jealous of DH's wine And dammit, I KNEW I should've had sushi for lunch last week!

Glad things seemed to have settled down ladylush. Fingers crossed, no more scares for you!

dan - glad to see that you are feeling a wee bit better and that dh is getting a bit more attentive and interested in baby stuff. Dh raves on and on about independent suspension for prams etc - think it is a smaller version of big boy toy for him! I think we are all entitled to be a bit moody every now and again - things can get stressful enough just being pg without life throwing crap at us too. Plus, I have found I an being much more grumpy this time sround due to pgp. I feel like an 80 year old most days and cannot take ds to do many of the things that we are used to doing. Cue frazzled mum and bored toddler . Hope that your colleague is more supportive than your boss and that you get your mat leave sorted soon. It will give you something to look forward to I had 14 months off in total with ds - it was lovely.

lastbox - Congratulations & welcome! Sanity is an optional extra around these parts . Seriously, though youknow is right. Just try to take each day at a time and try to keep positive. Rest as much as you can work-wise, don't bottle worries & stresses up (no question or worry is too silly or TMI for us)and most of all, get as much sleep as you can - it will come in very handy in months to come!!

Have had a lovely afternoon at Tatton Park but am paying for walking around now. Damned pgp - will have to get dh to stick needles in me later on. Oh well, better go and finish my reading for uni tomorrow and pack my bag as up and out at silly o'clock in the morning .

Have a nice, relaxing evening everyone.

Oh and maz - best of luck for your scan on Tuesday .

OK, Ladies, I need to know what you would do. I've been having on and off cramping, period like pains this evening that almost feel like mild braxton hicks. I'm only 17 weeks so I really shouldn't be getting that. I'm a bit nervous about them as I had a premmie last time and had loads of early Braxton Hicks contractions, but not this early. I'm going for a bath now and will try to ignore them and hope they go away. Just wondered what you all thought?

Lbot welcome to the funny farm - first of all drop your sanity off at the door as you come in! We are all bonkers but in a similar way so feel free to worry and rant and panic, you will be well supported! I am 29 weeks and have been here since about 7 I think, and I can honestly say it has been such a help.

As for your scan plan, week 8 sounds sensible re your mmc, lots of us have done that = i went at 7 cos of a bleed this time but again at 9/10 as my mmc at 12 weeks had died at 8/9 and I really needed to know it was still there. Then the usual one at 12.

Gotta pram gotta pram gotta pram!! Oooh its lots of money bur we figured it was do-able as we have been given pretty much everything else..SO its a Stokke Xplory. Don't anyone tell me bad things cos we have paid for it now! Let dh chose colour safe in the knowledge he would choose black...but he chose green - its fine tho I like it, kinda sage colour.

Wmmmc you put up your feet up tonight now - that's quite a day for a woman with a pelvis that feels like its crumbling away!! I actually feel right now that I could cope with the pelvic pain if the damned rib flare would ease up...I am so numb and yet soer at the same time!

Maz good luck for Tue if I forget tomoro - everything crossed for you.

swaliswan - I think if it were me I would phone up the out of hours phone number (probably the labour ward) and get some advise. It is probably nothing to worry about but I think for peace of mind you should get some advisre and maybe go in to be checked.

Hi all, sorry to see some new faces...

has anyone ever had an Eccentric Placental Cord position spotted at 12 week scan? Googling tells me that there's the risk of fetal growth difficulties, labour complications ansd miscarriage. Wonderful!

Been advised it'll be checked again at next scan and not to worry as it could change (?) so anyway - of course I haven't stopped thinking about it... Just feel fobbed off - and pretty worried.

Can anyone put my mind at rest - or at least give me more info re what to expect, as I feel in no man's land.