Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VI....Share your worries and knicker checking stories here...

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Oh Joyfuleyes - that is very hard losing babies in 2nd trimester It really sounds like you need extra support right now. In your circumstances, I would've thought there would be more scans - for reassurance at least. Can you push for this?

joyfuleyes,
I know it is a terrible worry, I contemplated mw earlier this week. Like you too scared to in case they couldn't hear hb as it was too early... You have to decide which is worse worrying and not knowing or knowing and then facing the truth. I am afraid I chickened out and decided I could cope better with the worry of not knowing!

Migola, yes sorry, I'm 14 weeks tomorrow. Had lots of pains in this pregnancy but everthing seems normal.

Cece, I think I'm going to wait. I'm not exactly slender which makes it harder & I know tha if she couldn't find it they'd just say it's too early.

They are being pretty good, I get scanned every two weeks, but I'm getting into the danger area (15-18 weeks), I think next time I'm going to ask for weekly appointments for a while.

Go for it joyful - you might have a UTI which is a very valid reason for a midwife visit! Might make you feel better if you have a reason for feeling crap?

migola its all fraught with funny pains as Joyful says - its so hard not to worry at your stage (actually and every other stage too...)

How are you other newbies holding up?

Going for a thai meal with a friend now - had curry last night and the night before, am training my child in utero!

Hello everyone!

I'm just ducking in to get your news and send lots of love and sticky vibes.

herb, belated Happy Birthday to you! Everyone on TTC at 40+ sends their love, even though you are far to young to know which thread I'm talking about (cough)

Please reserve me a spot on this thread for next year!

'too young'

thanks, feeling a bit better about it now. You're right, it's so hard not to worry. I dread every time I go to the loo and worry about straining too much when I have a poo (TMI I know!)

ladylush - may have mentioned before (at some length ) dh has dodgy sperm and it has not stopped us having two dcs - well 1 dd and 1 on the way, at least. Dh has 1% normal morphology which is pretty bad considering the the normal range would be 15%. Plus he has less than 50% the amount he should and only 20% swimming the right way.

Happy birthday herb - personally I have been so hungry I could eat a scabby horse (and its stable) throughout this pregnancy, but I am just greedy anyway. Other symptoms have come and gone.

Welcome migola and hi to sussex!

Have been a bit blue myself this week - rowing with dh, worried about work and starting to fret about childbirth, despite having hired a lovely IM. There's no pleasing some people. TMI warning - my "secretions" have become so active, that twice recently I have pulled down my knickers briskly and accidentally violently ripped out pubes which had adhered to them. Yelping in pain in the toilets at work takes some explaining...

Thanks downbutnotout - h's results doesn't mention morphology but I guess "Percentage abnormal sperm count" is the same thing. His is Hi at 88%. Normal range 0-15% However, his sperm count is high, motility fine. Progressive rapid sperm is bit low at 26% but hoping that the high sperm count will compensate for this. I'm less worried about conceiving than I am conceiving a dodgy one iyswim. We have always conceived eventually.

I do know what you mean - I have wondered whether the sperm might have been the issue with the mcs (as I was discussing with sussex back up the thread), but I don't think I will ever know conclusively.

hello everyone, i've been reading all your posts for a while and they've really helped me during this pregnancy, as i've been quietly freaking out most of the time, checking my knickers every half hour and generally in total disbelief that i'm pregnant again. i'm 13+5 weeks and still can't believe i'm this far on in a pregnancy, it just doesn't feel real. we've had 3 previous miscarriages and this will be our first. on top of that, i hit the big 40 this year, so i'd kind of given up believing it would ever happen. frustratingly (but thankfully) nothing was found to be wrong in all the tests they did which just made us feel really helpless as no-one seemed to be able to tell us why it was happening. we went through chromosone testing, testing for anti-phospholipid (sp?) syndrome. the consultant i saw has put me on progesterone and so far everything seems to be ok - is anyone else on it? we've had 3 scans (6w, 9w and 12w) and there's been a strong heartbeat each time. but i can't stop worrying! i wish we had a scanner at home so i could check every day! we haven't had the courage to tell any of our friends yet so no-one knows! even posting here makes me feel like we're tempting fate! however, we are telling dp's dad this weekend . maybe that's why i'm freaking out so much today as it'll make it so much more real
anyway, thanks for listening, i'm due 31 May if there's room to squeeze me on board xx

Hi babytiger congratulations! I'm 14 weeks, I was on cyclogest pessaries until a week ago. I've had 4 scans so far but they only make me feel better for a day or so then I go back to being convinced the baby has died

Is anyone getting headaches? I always get them in the second trimester & the last two days have been awful ... paracetamol doesn't really help. So tired too.

Sorry I disappeared yesterday, had every intention of coming back. Unfortunately I fell asleep on the landing (while waiting for DS to fall asleep). DH didn't wake me up till 11.30 pm so I oculd go to bed! LOL So yes I am tired!

Hello babytiger, I am 15 and half weeks now. Also due in May

Hi all Just checking in I've not forgotten you, Life pretty hectic as hubby working loads, Threats of redundancies looming for him, trying to settle little one at nursery, swim lesson for him, nursing colds, juggling house work....so hardly any time for TTC!Bet I'm not alone tho!!! Will know if this month has been successful or not by Dec 10th so will update you all soon.(Altho getting norm period signs so not getting my hopes up but would be nice for xmas if I was) Sending positive thoughts to all with lots hugs. xxxxxxxxx

tiger - I can understand how you must be feeling. Strangely I feel reassured by your post and that you have gone on to have a normal pg after 3 m/c (though I bet it does not feel reassuring for you - just really scary). It's really encouraging that you have had strong heartbeat each time. I have everything crossed for you X

Well I gave in & got dopplered (I had a little - half a fingernail sized - bit of gark brown stuff in the my CM & completely freaked), heart beat was there (145bmp) .. do I feel better? No, I bloody don't. What is wrong with me?

I'm worrying about the brown stuff, I'm worrying the heart rate was too low, we didn't hear the baby move, I'm worrying about that too.

Hi joyful! Ds-to-be's heart rate is 137 at last count, dd's was always 130. I'm going to say try not to worry, even though I know it's no good

Welcome to tiger - you are in good company - it's virtually impossible not to feel completely paranoid in your position, but you just have to try and get through it a day at a time. And we're here to listen to whatever's bothering you. I will be 32 weeks tomorrow after 3 consective mcs and I have been worried at some time or other most of the way. And it hasn't even stopped now, but in fairness ds has a cyst on his neck which does make me a bit edgy. Tho' I am still planning a home birth at present.

joyfuleyes - well done for being brave and getting checked. Concentrate on the positives, there is a hb and it was the right speed. Babies are like us, sometimes they are still and sometimes they are not, you obviously caugt yours having a nap.

I know you are worrying, I understand but try to stay calm and take each hour as it comes. Small steps now for the next few weeks...

Hi everyone,

Dh is away for the weekend so have got my hands full with ds at the mo. Bless him, he has been so "helpful" - trying to help me vac and dust etc. Was lay in bed this morning and felt the baby's legs through my belly, so ds decided he would sit and stroke his little brother's legs and tell him what we were going to do today. It was a lovely moment - it helps to make it seem more real and safe iykwim.

Wanted to decorate the Xmas trees this weekend, but dh didn't have time to put them up before he went. They are 8 ft beasts and v fiddly, so not a job for me at the mo. Still, can make some decs with ds to keep ourselves out of trouble

joyfuleyes - it all sounds ok, even the brown stuff (brown is acceptable - brown = old). There is nothing wrong with you for still feeling worried. Scans/mw appts would give me a couple of days respite from worry, then it would start all over again, so you are not alone in that respect. Try and concentrate on the positives - difficult I know, but it might help. Pretty soon you will be feeling the lo moving and then, hopefully, you will begin to feel a wee bit more reassured about things.

Welcome babytiger - don't blame you for keeping your pg quiet. Most of us on here have done the same, so understand your worries. Here's to a long and uneventful stay here for you (and that goes for everyone else too!)

Hope that everyone else is getting along ok - have a good weekend .

Hello all - sussex and TMD* nice to see you!

joyful hope you are feeling perhaps marginally less stressed...?

Tiger hello and was wmmc says above you and your paranoia are in good company! we are good on here at virtual hand holding thru these bits. I know what you mean about tempting fate, it took me a while to say it out loud even on here. Lets hope you have a long and uneventful stay.

dbno at the pubes incident!! I am moody too - had horrendous crying jags and extreme upsetness with dh for no obvious reason. Hormones again.

I am 30 weeks now and just finished antenatal classses, but we are going to meet up again. I really enjoyed them and was so repieved that dh seemed to get quite a lot out of them too - a million times more than he anticipated! He is even starting to take an interest and even looked up some stuff on the internet on baby signing and then SIDs - clearly that will be our next big worry. Other thsn something going wrong in the next 10 weeks or at the birth (which is a scary thought now that we have been into detail at the class...)

DH feeling more positive about the homebirth thing too as a lot of what we have talked about is about stress exacerbating problems and home beign calmer etc...

Eww and I had a wee squeeze of one of my breasts after the bfing class (yes yes I know I know!!) and some stuff came out!! Nearly passed out. How odd. (Not as odd as me doing it, I know?!!)

So its all good. Tho I am seeing my friend tomorrow who got pg at the same time as me and had mmc at 12 weeks, that's gonna be hard. There are 3 of us in fact who are close, and me and the other girl are 30 and 35 weeks...she lives at the other end of the country and so hasn't seen the bumps - I know how I wpuld be feeling if I was her so I hope she is okay. She ius a very lovely woman and I know she is very happy for us, but I am sure she will get a wee sad feeling too.

How cold and miserable has it been today?! Foggy, soggy and cold - brrrr! Even the dog hasn't bothered me to take him out today (dh is chief dog walker at the mo due to bloody pgp nonsense. Am going to be such a lard arse by Feb )

Dan - invest in some nursing pads now. Am only a couple of weeks behind you, but mine have been leaking for weeks with no pressure applied . I regularly threaten to blind dh with my laser guided boobs if he winds me up .

Hope that the meet up with your friend goes well and you have a lovely, hormone-free day.

Well, better go and get the wee monkey to bed and finish my assignment that is due on Monday.

dan - thank goodness you mentioned the pubes - I was beginning to think everyone was revolted by me . Hope the meet-up goes well. I have a friend due within a week of me who had 2 previous mcs: we are being basket cases together.

Still very blue sadly. Ended up in hysterical tears today. Having difficulty getting through to oblivious dh how hormonal and vulnerable I am feeling. And it seems to be getting worse as due date approaches . I feel very self-indulgent when I should be counting my blessings.

Btw, my boobs leaked precisely once during a year of breast feeding dd, but I did have terrible trouble establishing bf in the first place.

dbno don't worry - was LOL about work lav story, really no such thing as TMI here

ha ha dbno re pubes story. relieved to hear though as i have been having increased secretions too and was wondering what the heck was going on??!!

hello to all the newcomers and everyone else!

ps is it too early to get braxton hicks at 26 weeks??