Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VI....Share your worries and knicker checking stories here...

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Hi all, quick post as only just in from work and haven't eaten yet. DD also swinging from the lightshade from the sounds next door.

ladylush I'm so so sorry. Thinking of you and your DH at this sad time. Take care and I really hope you get some answers xx

Time is going so sloooooooooooow, I'm 19+1 and petrified that 20wk scan is going to bring bad news next Thursday. baby is moving and doppler check at night is reassuring but can't seem to shake the doom and gloom of being a recurrent miscarrier. Funeral is on Saturday and had to order a black dress as belly too big for my black suit. Have missed both deliveries so will be bitter and sweet to have dress for funeral and glam evening frock.

Ladylush - just popped in before bedtime and read your news & couldn't go without adding my condolences. I am truly so sorry about your loss. Get out the wine, chocolate and tissues and let yourself have a good cry. Really hope that the docs start to investigate in earnest now and that you don't have to go through this another time. Be kind to yourself and let dh and everyone else around look after you. Hope to hear better news from you soon x.

so sorry ladylush, hope you have plenty of people to look after you and talk to you? and i hope you get the referral and some answers.

xx

hi bluesatinsash yes i was on the expecting in april 09 thread and like you have not dared to even search to see if theres an expecting in june thread cos i dont want to spook myself anymore! how many weeks are you?x

Hello

I am a bit of a lurker, but can I ask a question....mmc was picked up nearly 7 weeks ago at 12 week scan, and I began to bleed 2 days after. Bleeding stopped after about 6 days, but have had no period since. When did people's af return after mc - just to give me some idea of what to expect.

Many Thanks

detoxdiva - I think it does vary alot but I would imagine 7-8 weeks is about the limit, so think you should get af soon. I waited 6 weeks for my af after an ERPC. But only 28 days after a late mc and induction.

Well I think that I have felt some movement today. Very slight but all seemed to kick off while I was in the room while a recorder practise was taking place! LOL And I think I have had a few more since, so feeling a bit better now.

ladylush - thinking of you.

Cece - Good news on the movement, I'd imagine recorder pratise would be enough to make anyone move .

Detox - I had a 6 week wait after a complete natural m/c at 7 weeks so would think you should expect something soon.

daisyj - I did nct in london with dd and it is expensive. I think the class preparations were good although I didn't really get to put much of it into practice so am not sure. I did meet like minded people (they try and put you with people of similar age etc) and we saw a lot of each other in the early days which has got less and less. DD is now almost 4 and I met up with 2 girls yesterday but haven't seen anyone else for about 4 months. I don't live in the same local area (only a few miles away but not pram pushing distance) so this meant they didn't become my closest friends. OTOH, my NHS classes were pretty rubbish in terms of preparation but I met 2 girls who have become v. close friends and love close to me. DD goes to nursery with one of them and we still meet weekly.

I think though if you already have a few people around you and you are going back to work (I wasn't and didn't really know anyone locally) then you probably don't need the 'friendship' side.

im so so scared i am 7 weeks pregnant and i am bleeding i had a scan today and saw my baby and its heart beat but i lost my 1st baby to misscarrage scared it will happen again please help x

detox I was about 6 or 7 weeks after the miscarriage bleed so I think any time now...

Woodie you might have read back on here - bleeding not always bad, and brilliant news that you have seen thre bean. You WILL be scared and the only advice is one day at a time - and feel free to share how you feel on here. Good luck with it.

Hi Maz - I'm only 4+4 so very early days but already a regular knicker checker. I'm trying not to look too far ahead, just want to take it one day at a time. How are you doing?

ladylush, I'm only new here but was so sad to hear your news

Thanks everyone for your kind words. I have not been on the wine as I just don't fancy it at the moment. Maybe residual HCG left floating around. I might continue my alcohol detox. Been eating a lot of crap though....biscuits, chocolate etc. Back to work today. Hope everyone has a good day.

Stick with the choc then Ladylush! I remember feeling pretty horrific for a fortnight after my ERPC, barely able to get to the loo never mind consider getting trolleyed. Just take your time and give yourself the space you need to recover as best you can. And ask some questions when you are strong enough?

Back to work ladylush? Wow, that is a bit soon isn't it? Hope everyone at work is lovely to you and you get as much rest as you can. Maybe you just want to be occupied right now, but do try and take it easy.

Whilst my recovery from my ERPC was ok & I was home within 2 hours,(if an anaesthetist and ITU nurse cannot manage care at home it's a poor do) I could not have envisaged going back to work so soon.

Hope dh is looking after you when you get home and you have a relaxing weekend.

Woodie - bleeding is not always a mc, but it is best to get things checked out. Hope that you are able to see someone today - try your local EPU or A&E. Not knowing what is going on can awful. Good luck.

ladylush, I think eating crap is absolutely justified. DH & I spent the month after we lost the last baby pretty much shitfaced. The day after I came out of hospital (I was in for 3 days & ended up with an ERPC for retained placenta) we drank the bottle of champagne that the in laws brought for us to celebrate the BFP & it pretty much went downhill from then.

Have you had any investigation/referral for repeat loss? I've had everything (including the NK stuff) but nothing has come up abnormal. Despite I've that managed to persuade them to treat me really aggressively (purely empirical with aspirin/clexane & steroids). The maternal/fetal medicine doctors in Oxford believe that there is a group of women with recurrent losses who have clotting problems that cannot be tested for so there is a case for offering aspirin/clexane to women with recurrent losses as some of them will benefit & they are very safe drugs. They don't like the steroids though.

Cece, glad you're feeling baby again

I'm having a hard day today, very anxious again. I'm debating getting an appointment with the midwife for next week (14+ weeks) but I really don't want to go through the stress of her trying & not hearing the hb if I can't have a scan straight away. Next scan is on the 8th.

I really should proof read - if you can make any sense of that last post you're doing better than me

I was quite convinced yesterday that it had all gone wrong, as boobs weren't as sore, and just felt sad. That may well have been because it was my birthday, and I felt old.

Today, boobs back with a vengeance, together with new symptom - no appetite. Up until the beginning of this week I was eating anything that wasn't nailed down. Now, I wouldn't care if I never ate again. Bit of a shame, as it meant I didn't enjoy birthday meal out much last night. Despite naughty glass of champers! Has anyone else had this?

Oh yes, herby. My early symptoms used to love to come and go leaving me very confused and worried. It really doesn't help when you're already going mad with worry does it? Hope that things have calmed down for you (re. blobs). It is natural for us all to have ups and downs - soon the ups will outweigh the downs .

From about 7-15 weeks, I existed mainly in supernoodles and toast. They cooked quickly, so I didn't have chance to remember that I wasn't actually hungry and abandon the whole thing. I actually lost weight in that time. My appetite returned with a vengeance a week before my booking in appointment and I was a huge fat bloater once again by 16 weeks .

TBH, my appetite isn't all that great now (am 27w). Unless you put a bag of large choc chip cookies in front of me that is

Belated happy birthday btw!

yes, belated best wishes herby - don't feel old - getting older is a good thing - if you are not convinced go into any city centre on a fri or sat night and look at the girls out on nights out with no coats!! (no offence to any of you young fools ravers on here who go out without coats! Oh and well done on the glass of champagne - I am starting to feel like the alcoholic on this thread as I have had quite a few sneaky guinnesses!!

Joyful sorry you are feeling anxious - are you sure you don't wanna risk the doppler attempt? I went almost weekly from week 13 as I was so paranoid and could not conceive of waiting til week 19/20 for scan...

I had a similar response to mmc to you - when I got discharged from the hosp after surgery for retained placenta they had given me an armful of horrid antibiotics which had those 'do not mix with alcohol and this time we really mean it' signs on them. I got home at midnight and drank a bottle of red wine with stilton and started the drugs the next day....

your proofreading comment made me laugh too...
I went back to work this week and am knackered. Came home early today - working at home (as you can see by my presence here...) as its so hard. I am gonna finish on 19th Dec (partly cos they are not being very supportive) and now can't wait!

hello can I join you please? Am about 5 weeks pregnant, have one child already, had a very early miscarriage in August, so am paranoid it's going to happen again. Having cramps (although not bad like last time) but I know that can happen in a healthy pregnancy. The thing that's worrying me today is that I have backache, that's a bad sign isn't it? (don't think I had it in august)
please be honest I am prepared for the worst

Hi Ladies, the thing I love about this thread is not just the support but the info sharing. Very helpful. I feel like I need a plan of action now to keep me going. Thank you
Winemakesmummyclever - IKWYM. My ERPC was at 09.15 and I was told it would be 8am and out by 2pm. I thought no way. I woke up with a jolt at 10am, had a cry, then asked to go home. I was very alert. They said I had to finish the infusion of Diclofenac - it was not even half way through. I told them to stop it, give me some TTAs and let me go home. I was out of there by 10.30 Am a nurse too - don't we make the worse patients I have done the 2 weeks off work before (this is my 4th m/c) and I think it was right then. This time, I just felt that I was in danger of cracking up if I took more time off. I needed to be busy. My manager was shocked when he found out today and wanted me to take more time off, but I talked him round. He has been lovely. No one else knows at work. I haven't been there that long - it feels weird telling them. They know I had surgery - I didn't say what type.
Joyfuleyes - can understand how helpless you feel wrt your pregnancy but try to stay positive. Your post re aggressive treatment was interesting. So you are on Heparin, Aspirin and Prednisalone? I'm not sure about the evidence base for women with normal blood screens. Don't want to push for something that may not help me. But I would very much like to push for something I feel so frustrated atm as it just feels that these professionals haven't a clue. 50% of women who have recurrent miscarriages test normal for all investigations.
In answer to your question, I have been tested for Thrombophilia inc. full clotting screen and anti-bodies. Also Karyotyping. I've had a pelvic scan. All normal. I diagnosed myself with thyroiditis but this is currently well controlled and whilst may be a cause of previous m/c, was not the cause of this one. Now dh got SA yesterday and it was not great. Count is very high but abnormality way over average. This pg was a blighted ovum (sac and no embryo). Possible that a dodgy sperm fertilised an egg and it stopped developing into an embryo. Just a theory though. SA is quite unreliable. He has to do another two for comparison. I would feel more reassured if the abnormality was reduced to within normal range as I worry about this happening again and don't think I can go through another EPRC because of the risk of scarring. Sorry VERY long sentence there.

worst Oh fuck my grammar has gone to pot too

Ladylush, I see where you're coming from re the unproven treatments. In my case I think they are willing to be aggressive because both my losses were chromosomally normal babies in the second trimester. It is so hard to weigh up what to do when most of the time there aren't any answers to be had. I worry about scarring from the ERPCs too.

Hi migola I had masses of aches & pains (felt like I was getting my period for the first 2 weeks) in the early days. It isn't at all pleasant

Ark I feel crap today - maybe I'm coming down with something - v. depressed. Still debating midwife.

joyfuleyes, sorry, don't know your history - am I right in assuming you are pregnant now if you're talking about midwives? And do you mean you had aches & pains at the start of this pregnancy?
I can deal with the aches and pains as long as it's normal