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Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VI....Share your worries and knicker checking stories here...

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SparkyMalarky · 10/11/2008 21:39

Will this do?

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mumface · 25/11/2008 20:05

Have been suffering with crampy pains all day,&being sick,Then had on& off power cuts all evening.Need to noan to someone.I am 8+6wks & had horrid tummyache with both DS1+2 so know it's probably nothing but it still feels scary when u feel like ur gonna come on at any moment.Anyone else had this with a healthy PG?

mumface · 25/11/2008 20:06

I mean Moan not noan

ladylush · 25/11/2008 20:11

Thanks roque - how are you doing?

SparkyMalarky · 25/11/2008 21:10

dashing in to say ladylush am so sorry. Lots of love and hugs - maybe get DH to pour you a large g 'n' t too. Make sure you get some rest and hope you get some answers too...

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mummy2t · 25/11/2008 21:15

hi all just wanted to say i had a MC in 2006 and this Feb i had my ds 2, i also might be pregnant again, just in the 2ww.
although it's hard when it happens it usually for a reason and you can go one to have pefectly healthy babies. just wanted to share and prove there is light at the end of the tunnel. love to you all xxxxxxxx

ladylush · 25/11/2008 21:37

I don't feel like drinking. Prob not good idea what with all the diclofenac and codeine I've got in my bloodstream! Answers would be good though.

SneakerPimp · 25/11/2008 21:43

LL i am so so to hear your news,

please read this thread

love to you and dh

SneakerPimp · 25/11/2008 21:44

so sorry ob

1 finger typing

tsom · 25/11/2008 22:00

ladylush really sorry to hear this , will be thinking of you and your dh

cece · 25/11/2008 22:10

ladylush - I am sorry to read your sad news. Take it easy and i hope you get some answers this time. Will they do any tests?

No news here. Much the same so trying not to panic.

SneakerPimp · 25/11/2008 22:18

((squeeze)) for you cece,

i know how hard things are for you too,

i cant drag myself from this thread

bunnyinheadlights · 25/11/2008 22:19

ladylush very sorry to hear your news. it's not fair at all. take care of yourself and rest lots - nothing anyone can say will help i know, but i hope you know you are not alone here - so please do post and dont keep it all in. i wish you will get your answers in some form in the future. many hugs xx

herbaceous · 26/11/2008 07:47

Oh ladylush - poor, poor you. The shock never gets any easier to deal with, does it. Try and take comfort in DH and DS, and let them love you lots...

ladyhelen2 · 26/11/2008 09:24

ladylush so so sorry to hear your news. So unfair. I hope you get a referral to a recurrent miscarriage specialist and get some answers. Thinking of you.

ladylush · 26/11/2008 11:01

Thanks everyone. Unfortunately there never seem to be any answers. And there is less help for women who can conceive but not stay pregnant than there is for those who have problems conceiving.

LoobyLou36 · 26/11/2008 11:21

ladylush so so sorry for your bad news

Hope you're being well looked after.

ronshar · 26/11/2008 13:12

Ladylush. I have only just seen your news. I am so very sorry for you & DH.
Please look after yourself, take it easy so you can gather your strength. You will need all you can get, when you take on the doctors, to help you stay pregnant next time.

downbutnotout · 26/11/2008 13:16

ladylush so, so sorry. And I second your comments about the irony of less help available for miscarriers than those who can't conceive (although God knows I wouldn't want anyone to be in either position). Hoping fervently you get some help. As I've said on this thread before I'll never know why I lost my 3 - I hope you get some answers and some treatment.

ladylush · 26/11/2008 13:20

Thanks again - too many kind well wishers to thank you all personally. Downbutnotout - yes I agree. I don't want anyone to think I meant women struggling ttc are somehow luckier. Terrible situation to be in as well

Swaliswan · 26/11/2008 13:31

Ladylush I've just read your news. I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope that you have your feet up today and manage to give yourself enough time and space to recover with another little one to look after.

maz32 · 26/11/2008 16:46

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daisyj · 26/11/2008 17:46

ladylush- I?m so so sorry to hear your news. I hope you will be able to find some answers, even though, as you say, there seems so little help available. Hope too that you are able to find some comfort in your DH and DS.

Iris - hope you find some resolution with your DH. He sounds very confused, and tbh it does sound as if he is being totally irrational ? it must be very, very difficult for you to deal with a situation when he doesn?t seem to be able to have a logical discussion, and I really really feel for you. I think you?re totally right to carry on as you are and look after yourself and your bean (and the dd you already have). Good for you, standing firm.

Scotlass ? so sorry about your grandpa ? I was broken-hearted when my darling grandma died two years ago, so I do sympathise. I hope 2009 will be a much better year for you.

appletiser - welcome ? glad you found us. Yes, my boobs got much less sore around 10 weeks, and not had any discomfort since (so far, and I'm 22+3) ? I can totally understand your paranoia, though, as I shared it

cece - hope you?ve found some way to ease the fears. If you think you?ve felt the baby already I?m sure he/she will be kicking with a vengeance really soon.

Ugh, I am developing heartburn. It?s still mild, but I fear it can only get worse. I?ve read Gaviscon is OK during pregnancy, and seems to work for lots of people ? anyone have experience of this?

daisyj · 26/11/2008 17:55

Oh, and I meant to say to dan - I was interested in your NCT experience. I was thinking of doing classes there rather than just doing the NHS ones at Lewisham hospital. I enquired, and they have a class in Catford at the right time for me, which is pretty near to where I live.

The midwife told me that she'll give me information about the NHS class at my next appointment (9 December, when I?ll be 24 weeks), but I expect I'll be by far the oldest mum-to-be there, as the first-time-mum demographic at Lewisham is more teenage mum than 36-year-old, middle class, etc., etc.

People do say that the best thing about NCT classes is that you meet lots of nice people that you stay in touch with, but in London classes are £240 and I just don't think we can afford it after the HUGE amounts of money we've spent on our new flat? I know the NCT do subsidise if you can't afford it, but I don't think we exactly qualify as poor, despite having no money, iyswim. Having people around isn't too much of a worry for me, as DH is usually at home two days a week, my SIL's maternity leave will overlap with mine. I also have a close friend down the road who will be around for six weeks of my mat leave in the summer, as she is a teacher. Also, I guess I can join in with NCT things (coffee mornings, whatever) after the birth if I'm feeling in need of mum and baby company.

What does everyone think? Would I be a fool not to go for the NCT classes? Will I be totally unprepared for labour and beyond without them, even if I have read all the books...? Help!

daisyj · 26/11/2008 17:56

Apologies for the long ramble, by the way, in case you bothered to read all the way through .

dan39 · 26/11/2008 18:16

daisy We went again last night and it was about breastfeeding and I thought dh was gonna HATE it and he said afterwards it was 'excellent' - to the teacher!! He said he learned loads. Good sign, he is getting slightly more interested as time passes...I am really pleaseantly surprised at how nice it all is at the class!

I think £240 is shocking - think ours (yorks) was £120 and that was outrageous too...my sis did hospital classes but was 'old' like you and so didn't connect - BUT she has a group of three friends now (The Desperate Mothers) who meet regularly, who she met at a post natal class at the surgery. So long as you get out there I reckon other mums will be welcoming...

Why not ask the NCT if you can pay less tho? Can't hurt?