Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part V....Still checking those knickers? Check together here :0)

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New thread for knicker checkers every where

Off to catch up with and link the old thread.

I am at the prices of the bugaboo! My youngest is 5 now and he had his sister's old graco citilite till it broke (that cost £90 new and I thought that was expensive!). Then some stoller thing I picked up at a car boot (like new) for £12!

Think I may be in for a shock.... do they still make graco citilites? It was soooo light, only 4.5 kg and you could fold it up one handed.....

Ooh winey where did you get the witches hat smileys??? ( at my superficiality! I am hoping to convince dh about the marvellousness of the Bee, new, or the Chameleon on eBAy.

Speaking of shopping I bought some tiny books yesterday and a Whoosit - I have been buying Whoosit's for friends for years, so weird to get one for me!! - and a £1.00 teddy/dog from a charity shop! DH's stated intention is to shop in Nov - that's soon so I am very excited! He is good at internet research etc so hoping he gets into it (but I am trying to manage my expectations (as per ronshar's advice )and not expect him to be too excited.

swali GREAT news on the scan! Chill for a few moments and enjoy!!
ses good luck with yours, seems like two mins since you came along but I know it will seem a lifetime for you...
joyful good luck too, as I have said before I think, its a scary time but you are nearly there.
ladyh thinking of you with your testing...hope you get what you need. I decided not to test altho am 39, but have a vague nagging worry cos when she did the 12 week scan she asked if wew were having the nuchal whilst she was doing it and I wanted to poin her to the wall with a 'WHY WHAT CAN YOU SEE, TELL ME TELL ME TELL MEEEE' but just said, um, no, and was not brave enough to ask/question her.

pin, not poin...

roquefort clever girl!! Don't tell 'em anything til they see how fab you are!

I found 'em!!

...and where/how is Lacks? Have you got news?

I'm still here dan ....minus baby; well with baby but on the inside not on the outside iyswim!!

Lots of start/stop things going on; lots of pelvic discomfort; a cat that is permanently glued to my side today (can they tell what's going on/sense hormonal changes?) and am feeling really weepy and emotional....for a change!

Am seeing my (new) consultant tomorrow to discuss my care plan; then baby is free to arrive anytime after that; once I've had the "continuous foetal monitoring" struck from my notes and had the OK to use the birthing pool

oh, hormonal pram mania

so far, for ds 1 and 2, I have owned:
2 x bebecars - I broken (cracked across chassis as I slammed it out of car boot yet again), I living at my mums
1 M+P aria - given away, also steered like shopping trolley
1 double mountain buggy, ebayed now ds 1+2 outgrown it
I single MB - all time fave, currently under the stairs awaiting dc3 (hopefully)
also borrowed old silver cross pram from neighbours and extra long M+P double pushchair (insane) from friends

dh said enough was enough, house looked like pram shop, however has agreed to get me carrycot for mountain buggy as reward for getting rid of all other buggies so hurrah I will not entirely be denied pram mania this time

13+1 today (first baby after mc in June) and going for nuchal scan tonight. Have to drive 60 miles to Cardiff as we can't get it on nhs and have to go private. Alternatively dreading it and looking forward to it.Dreading in case of bad result, looking forward to seeing baby again - fingers crossed. I know thay can give us the nuchal measurrement tonight but we have to wait till Saturday for blood result- such a long time. If the nuchal measurement is low I know this does not always mean a good result - Anyone with any experience of this?. So so nervous - couldn't keep breakfast down today more nerves than ms probably.

Morning!

I've got this week off work and am still in my PJs this morning - yay!! More time for MNing this week!!

LoobyLou - I've got everything crossed for you. It is really scary - I've got mine tomorrow!!!

tsom - LOL at pram mania!!!

Lacks - not sure of your due date but sounds imminent. Looking forward to seeing your announcement!

Thanks seshasapinkline

Hi, all

Just got back from early scan and would appreciate your advice. It is now 7+3 since my last mc on 5th September and they found two sacs, each with what they thought was a yolk, but no heartbeats and development was nowhere near what it should be for 7.5 weeks. They thought they looked to be about 5 weeks, six at most. Only thing is, and sorry if this is TMI, but we only had sex three times after the mc, all of it early on (and I would have thought way too early for the pregnancy to be 5 weeks).

Do you think there's any hope? I'm terrified that the two poor little fellas should be 7 weeks, but stopped developing at 5 . The EPU have said there's a risk it might all go wrong, but to remain positive and come back in two weeks.

Sussex - I don't know what to say. What an awful "not knowing" situation to be in. I don't know what the chances are but I do know that there have been some fantastically positive stories that people have shared with me after my experiences. The 2 weeks you've got to wait will seem like ages but we're here for support and for you to sound off at.
Thinking of you and sending big hugs.

sussex - I read something recently who went for an early scan and like you, it looked 1-2 weeks younger than the dates and no heartbeat and when they went back 2 weeks later there was not only a hearbeat but the dating scan was closer to the original dates. There is always hope. I have just been through something similar and thought it was all over, but all is fine. Hold on in there gal. Wishing you lots of sticky vibes.

Hi everyone. Just been so busy, so have been lurking, but missing you all and dying to join in. Just wanted to say a quick to swaliswan for your scan and to ladyh. I think your translation to percentage is such a sane way to look at things ? so sorry you have to go through this, and will be thinking of you.

funtime - so sorry for your loss, and hope that you will be back here soon.

joyful - thinking of you at your scan today.

wmmc I know exactly what you mean. My old assistant was a lazy, feckless little s**t, who used to deliberately sabotage me at every turn (really, it wasn?t just me that thought that!), so I do sympathise. In the end I killed him, buried him under the patio, and danced about on top of it, singing, ?you lazy fecker??. I have a new one now. She?s lovely and wonderful and I want to hug her every day. She doesn?t know that the old one is under the patio?

looby and ses - very best of luck for your scans.

Oh, sussex . Those two weeks will feel like an eternity, so hang out here with us and we?ll try to keep your spirits up. xx

sussex, I really feel for you - the uncertainty of that wait is just terrible. As others have said though, it's quite possible that it will all be fine, just such a stressful time not knowing. Many (((((hugs))))) to you.

Damn sussex the wait will be awful, lots of supportive thoughts being sent your way.

Feeling a bit deflated after the scan - baby is there with hb & has grown. It's the right size for my dates but hasn't grown as much as I expected from the last scan IYKWIM - the sonographer who did the scan said the first measurement was inaccurate because it was abdominal not transvaginal but I can't stop myself worrying. Next scan isn't for three weeks which will be a nightmare wait.

joyful but that sounds like good news - its there! It has grown!It's the right size for dates! I am pleased for you! And am sending useful sticky thoughts to you for your interminable wait til next one. Feel free to worry and panic about it with us tho as that's waht we are here for.Sonographer sounded positive? Isn't that a good thing?

sussex ooh what a mixed bag of news for you. As others have said, we hear stuff like this quite a lot on here and it turns out to be ok so sticky sticky sticky thoughts to you for the next million years two weeks til next one. Does two mean poss of twins? are there twins in your family? It's one of the dilemma's that ple often have about early scans as it CAN be too early to see anything.

And I would not worry too much about the exact conception date either as again from lots of stories round here I get the impression that sperms are tricky/determined wee buggers who can hang around for ages waiting for their chances, and anyway, exact conception and implementation dates are almost always a mystery outside IVF - look at any of the TTC threads to see evidence of both. Having whoopee and conceiving are related but not to the minute - So there is hope!

funtime so sorry about your loss

sussex what a horribly uncertain time I wish I could whisk you in a time machine forward two weeks

joyful the same for you hbs are a positive thing though. It does sound positive if the dates and size are correct

I'm having a good day today. Had my scan fab little heartbeat, kicking and wriggling round like a mad thing. Managed to keep on track with my fake dates (I've lied about 3 days). I must say it's head did seem rather big still. dh has a big head and my mil spent the whole of my dd's pregnancy trying to scare me with tales of tears and prolapsed wombs.

I was brave enough to go maternity shopping managed some next trousers for 12 pounds, which I am now wearing. I can't believe how big I've grown so quickly particularly as I'm still puking up.

Also after dh's weekend away with my dad he's bought me belgian chocs. just wish i had a sense of smell to enjoy them more as I eat them. Might try and save some for when I'm feeling better

funtime I?m so sad to read your news, I hope you are OK, thinking of you

ladyhelen keeping everything crossed for you for your testing, hope it puts your mind at ease and the news is good.

dan tsom wmmc at all this pram talk, it?s great. I flippantly said our pram (which is in the attic somewhere, Britax travel system) from 10yrs ago will be fine but I don?t think I?ll be able to resist getting a new one! aquababe maternity clothes shopping ? hurrah! Enjoy those chocs!

ses and looby good luck for your scans

sussex if it helps my dates are 1wk out from my LMP, My DH insists it?s his super sperm hanging around for longer. When I had a scan at 6wks you could hardly see anything but 10 days later there was a big difference. My cycle seemed to go completely bonkers after mc and mmc so fingers crossed it?s just that. I know each second day must seem like an eternity for you. Don?t give up hope yet.

joyful it all sounds like good stuff to me, vaginal will be more accurate so it?s fantastic there?s a hb and correct size for dates. The time between scans is torture isn?t it.

lacks I?ve came out in sympathy with you and have had diarrhoea (sorry if TMI) for past 5 days. I think I may have to go to Dr?s. Haven?t felt right since we went to caravan 2wks ago, I think I was poisoned. DH keeps telling me I?m a drama queen ? cheek.

Am now paranoid illness is going to cause mc and am desperate for it to be Friday to have reassurance scan. Think I?ve felt some fluttering but it may be gurgling bowels

sussex - poor you, what a worry. Do you know when you OV? Remember it wouldn't necessarily be the 2 weeks after a mc as after AF which (I'm guessing) could throw the dates out? Sticky sticky thoughts for you in the meantime!

aqua - great news
joyful - surely it was good news?! Right size for dates? HB? All good! How many weeks are you know? A TV scan is much more accurate in early pg.

ses - good luck tomorrow

I'm totally paranoid now - feel fine today and am torturing myself by reading stories of people who see a HB at 8 weeks and then discover a MMC at 12+......10 days until my scan.....

Thanks for all the good luck messages for tomorrow.

Sparky - I'm like you and the more I think about it the more I think about bad news stories. I know it's illogical as there's some good news stories out there as well but I don't want to get my hopes up just for them to be dashed. Hope I have a good news story to share with you tomorrow...

Sparky I'm 9 weeks & the baby is the right size for 9 weeks, if I hadn't have had the earlier scan I'd be happy The doc's explanation was perfectly good so I'm making a fuss about nothing ... I've been thinking about it ever since I got back. I think I wanted her to say 'it's great, fantatsic, you'll definitely have a baby in May' ... which of course she can't do.

I'm scared of a mmc too - I was googling 9 week scans & kept coming up with horrid stories; sigh, why can't it be easier. I hope the 10 days goes quickly for you - 24 days until my next scan.

joyful - totally natural that you still have anxieties, but the odds are really high by nine weeks of all being fine - something like 97%. And STEP AWAY from Google

sussex - on the subject of dates, I've just remembered that a friend of mine conceived two days after her af ended, which means that in your situation (i.e. after mc, when dates could be all messed up anyway), she would have expected to be further on too (if that makes sense at all).

aqua so happy to hear your news, in a funny way it gives us hope at this end here, too! Keep scoffing those chocs and save one for me!

Thanks everyone for your wonderful messages! Have no idea at all when I ov, so like a fool I've been counting the first day of the mc as being like the first day of AF.

scotlass and daisyj, yes, this really does help. We only managed it 1, 3 and 5 days after the mc ended, which is why I thought I would be further on. The consultant I spoke to/wept all over afterwards said that some studies have shown sperm to hang around for up to 10 days afterwards . Of course, my DP reacted in a similar way to yours when I told him, scotlass. I'm just going to try to forget about it now until the next scan, or mc, whichever comes first, I'm prepared for it.

ses all the very, very best for tomorrow. If this pg does continue and it is twins, please don't let me be whingeing in a year's time!!

Sussex I've never ovulated until at least 3 weeks after after a miscarriage - last time it was over 4 - so the scan dates could easily be absolutely right

Aqua great news