Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part V....Still checking those knickers? Check together here :0)

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New thread for knicker checkers every where

Off to catch up with and link the old thread.

lol, knocker checkers....I always manage that typo, but it's just as appropriate in the early days. I was never sure whether my boobs were sore because they were sore, or because I was prodding them every 10 minutes to see whether or not they were sore

sussexoldspot, I meant to say yesterday that I was really sorry to hear that you had MC'd. I know we haven't spoken properly, but hopefully you'll be back here soon and we can chat then . Look after yourself.

No time to really catch up, but I've read all the posts. My nesting instinct has definately kicked in and I have been spring autumn cleaning all day. Am now knackered as it was a rough night with the DCs last night so I didn;t get a lot of sleep, and I'm so stiff and sore, I bet I won;t be able to move tomorrow......and I have my NCT refresher course lol

Catch up properly soon.

ilts, glad things are going well and of course you can keep posting here as long as you like

Hello knocker checkers! LOL

Haven't been on here for AGES but saw the new thread and popped in to say hello to everyone, then I saw that I'm second on the list to give birth - yikes!!!

Am on maternity leave now and trying to sort out the flat with DP. We've done tons of DIY and still have loads of decorating to do etc but the nesting is kicking in...

Decided to go for a homebirth too and the "kit" is sitting in a corner of the lounge!

Hello to all of you, old and new and I'll keep you posted on the outcome. Am knicker-checking now for different reasons and it feels much better than in those early days, I can tell you

I still have my home birth kit I keep telling them but they wont listen!!!

Yes it is 3:20am.....bloody night feeds

hello all

home birth how nice but not a real option for me

how is everyone feeling? I am stumbling along at 6wks and feeling a bit nauseous, which I wish I could take as a good sign but am far too twisted for that.

was thinking that last time I felt it more because I had just taken up a huge new project and was working long hrs, this time things are more relaxed

Hello, all!

dan, my midwife was quite negative about my planned home birth too (but then she is marginally less cheery than the angel of death generally. I am keeping everything crossed that she is NOT on duty on the big day ).

I am looking for a doula for that reason as it will be good to have some positive support - dh got a bit too terrified to be useful last time, bless him. I'm also writing to my Trust to make it clear that I'm expecting them to send a midwife to attend me - mine said this might not be possible. Details on how to do this on the aims.org.uk website if you're interested.

Hi Everyone am finally in my LAST WEEK OF WORK YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYY
have just sent round the bye bye email so all feels really real and scarey - have seen how close I am to top of list YIKES!!!

Wheely My due date is exactly same as last years - we must only do it once a year - was so freaked out when i realised!

Gilly Glad you changed your job - I remember we were both having stresses at same time - I have had the best 6 months ever in this temporary job and feel ready to leave without being totally desperate to have a baby so as to get out of my job as I think I was last year...Keep me posted with your IUI/IVF - I've crossed fingers and toes for you - and am looking forward to that pink champers (thinking back to January this year when Ronny and I met up in RL and drank champers and moaned about not being PG when both of us actually were ha ha).

missE I have been so lazy - thought I'd be one of those super fit PG women walking/swimming yoga but has been so hard - have struggled just getting myself to work to be honest. When I go swimming now everyone startes at me like i'm in there for a water birth

Just popped into the new thread to say hello. I might be next on the list to pop - and in actuality the due date is only 16 days away, but it seems like AGES!!! (and could be longer of course)

Am sorting the house out and relaxing a lot now have stopped work, but having to keep busy so I don't go mad from impatience! Midwife told me today that "it's not a big baby - not a 9 pounder" which is fine by me

jennylindinha, Splish and Popsy - fancy a flutter on who will first!? I don't think it will be me

Hello to everyone else hope you are all ok Know how hard those early weeks can be, but keep positive all of you and they will soon pass....

SHIT rainrain - you will defo be first - I am intedning on having 2 full weeks of down time on sofa before minipops arrives
Can't believe we are down to counting in days - this pregnancy has taken forever and is now flying by - I remember reading about alittlebitshy and jule having 12 weeks left and thinking GOD that is AGES away - and now I'm weeks away yikes!!!

good luck pops and rainrain and other upcoming new mums!

Elodie is now 3 months and she is a little cute pumpkin (see profile pics) but then, i'm biased!

did anyone hear from Lcy - i kind of lost her.

hi all

it is getting a bit emotional my way, had this very involved convo with dh yesterday as I don't want to see the GP yet, last time I went around this time and she said 'oh you are not very pregnant yet'

dh said ' you know mc is very common and she was just playing it down nothing wrong with it'
my very grown up response was 'she is stupid and I hate her'

anyway still a bit queasy but it is approaching the time it all went very wrong last time so am a bit of a wreck really

sorry about me me me (again)

missEdith - I know it's not funny, but LOL at your 'grown-up' response. Nowhere near as crass as the GP's remark though, IMHO!

Having just been through that horrible 'anniversary' with this pregnancy, all I can say is just hold tight and know that you will get past it. Hope you get some TLC from DH. And if it were my DH, I would instruct him that there's to be no more agreeing with GPs that say the wrong thing if he wants to get through the next few months intact!

Don't apologise for being 'me, me, me' - I know it feels like that when we come on here to moan, but we all do it, and that's what everyone else is here for

Hello all, (Hi Ses, I am not following you, I promise!)

I have been lurking on this thread for a few weeks but have finally taken the plunge to join. I am 6+6 in my second pregnancy - I lost my first at 10 weeks in March this year (Although we knew something wasn't right from about 7 weeks).

I have been telling myself that I wouldn't let my mc affect this pregnancy, but (As you all know...) it isn't so simple. I have been giggling at the 'Knocker checkers' (Yes...I do that) and nodding at the 'wearing white knickers so it is easier to check' (Yes...I do that).

Promise to catch up with a more detailed post to everyoone shortly...

Hello all - I am going for a scan in a minute and am really, realy nervous...I am 19+1 and have a big tummy but am still convinced they will tell me it has no heartbeat again! I almost wish I was worrying about something being hideously wrong with it rather than the irrational dead thing. I wiah I wasn't going. I also had to have a sulk last night as DH had forgotten despite me reminding him all last week and then on Mon...I sat, stoic, silent and sad for a bit, blinking back a small tear in a Jane Austen heroine kind of way. Eventually after staring at his diary for about a century he said - 'make it later in the day if you can, if not its fine, I will come, these things only happen once.' So I forgave him. But can't change appt....and as for only once - we have done 6 weeks, 9 weeks, and 12 weeks so far and each one kills me - is he mad?!!!

Anyway better go - will post later about it and more about my homebirth rubbish midwife.

Sigh. Wish it was 1pm and all over.{sad]

hi dan so sorry that you are nervous of your scan, I can imagine how terrifying it is! Look at the bright side though- after 1pm the scan will be over, you will have had good news (I am sure of it!) and this stressing will be over with

I am glad your DH could go with you and offer you support.

let us know how it goes, will be thinking of you.

Dan I was also petrified before my 20 week scan. Having suffered a mmc with my first pg and found out at the 12 week scan I don't think I'll ever get over my fear of scans. It does get easier once you feel the baby's movements though (I wasn't nervous for my 4D scan at 27 weeks), although this doesn't help you today I know. Keep thinking positive - there is absolutely no indication that anything has gone wrong and I'm sure you'll see your little bean waving at you from the screen You'll see it's much more detailed than the 12 week scan too. Glad DH is coming along to support you and hope it all went OK - let us know how you get on.

Dan - hope all OK. Thinking of you. xx

H everyone,

Dan - I have my scan tomorrow and my DH is also very laid back about it, I know he cares but I just don't think it is as real to them as it is to us, it's on our mind constantly and they just carry on as normal. I would actually say that the last few weeks work seems to have been the major thing on DH mind although he would of course deny this. Maybe be he is just better at hiding his feelings, I don't know. I am sure your scan will have went well and you will see your very own sticky bean, hope you enjoyed this. Keep us posted, all the good news stories keep the rest of us going.

I am absolutely terrified about tomorrow, according to my last scan I should be around 7+4, later than my last mmc and we should see a hb now if everything is going well. To be honest I have pretty much prepared myself for bad news, and I just can't shake the feeling. I just feel that tomorrow is D day and we will find out if this pregnancy is really going to happen. In my last two mc's the baby had stopped around 6 weeks and I have had the goal in my head to get past this point, I guess tomorrow we will find out. I know everyone here has felt this and that's why we are all here for each other, it does make it easier to know others understand the feelings I and many of us have at this point. Thank god for mumsnet

dan best of luck

I can fully understand the fear of scans, I have either been bleeding and hoping against hope all was ok or everything was fine and I could not quite believe it

here I have been very emotional today
I completely forgot it was 9/11 on that day I started spotting when I was 11+4 all years ago, the following week I had an ERPC

funny how this things pop up

so I popped out and got some treats there is a lovely Pavlova in the fridge

and booked to see gP late next week

Hi all,

Lol at the knocker checking - if mine get any bigger I swear I'll tip forwards!

Had an interesting few days. Started with a bit of a scare on Saturday morning when I went for an innocent wee, only to find (sorry, tmi) a big handful of cm and blood. Cue panic and after a horrid call to weekend mw (who cheerfully said "well, if it's going to happen it'll happen") we went down to a & e.

Have to say, it was marvellous mostly. I only had to wait 10 minutes before I found my self in a nice backless number with a canula in the back of my hand for which I have an enormous bruise. Had to wee in a pot the size of a thimble (do they really think we can aim???) and had the joy of the cold metal speculum followed by a nurses hand!!! (I informed dh that should he ever need a prostate check, I will be there to laugh my ass off!)

Dignity has left the building.

I was convinced it was all over, bawled my eyes out whilst there, and then they said they don't do scans at the weekend. They said it looked ok as the cervix was closed still, but they'd sort a scan for Monday.

Horrid wait for the rest of the weekend, but we did get the scan and I was due to be 11 + 1. Imagine my relief when I saw not a jellybean, but an actual small person! It wasn't moving about (asleep I guess) but I could see it's little hands and everything! Spot on 11 + 1 so my fears of it all stopping were put to bed.

Ever since then I've been in a daze which to you guys will seem daft, 'cos all I can think is "there's a little person is inside me!"

Can't wait for the next scan, I'm so jealous of everyone who says they've seen their beans wiggling around. Maybe I have a very docile laid back bean.... lol.

Sorry for the long post!

grinningbee congratulations!! I real little person!!! I feel similar as the scan went fine today and I saw it and even sort of recognised bits of what it was!!

Thank you all for your good wishes, they worked. I think i might BE HAVING A BABY...and I even know what - its a GIRLLLL!!!!! ...which I am not gonna tell anyone, and have so far kept it secret for 7 whole hours (and for me thats amazing as I am crap at secrets. How great to be able to tell you guys...I am kinda enjoying the challenge of having a lovely, delicious secret that just me and DH know...its a novelty I can tell you and no one who knows me will believe it!

A girl! A daughter! me! Oh my god!

It (gonna keep up the 'it' so's I don't slip in RL) had its hands up either side of its head a few times, which was the best view. All measurements are good - average, tho the head a bit small. DH said i need to eat more brain food to make it grow; to which i responded that as I am the one who has to push it out I am MORE than happy for the head to be small....!

mm - thinking of you for tomorrow and sending you some of my stickiness...if you can, try to stay positive til you have a reason not to. Not that I did...but thinking of you, and do let us know how you get on.

Thank god, indeed, for mn!!

I girls,

Can I join you please? I recognise some of you from earlier on in the year..
I had an ERCP at ??9 weeks (but only measured 6) in April. It was weird cos my father in law had passed away round the time my dates told me I had conceived... I felt like I was carrying his ghost! I didn't like it, and unfortunatley didn't really connect with that pregnancy - though that made me feel guilty cos I really wanted the baby. Anyhow, some things you've no control over.
So I got a BFP on Sunday. Hubby 'already knew' because I had been so moody and irritable over the past weeks! So we're both pleased and scared at the same time DH doesn't realy want to get involved/attached/hopes up etc in case it goes the same way. I understand this view, but it is hard not being able to freely spaek to him without worrying that I am burdening him... after all that's what MN is for!!!

I have my GP appointment on 22nd Sept, so am taking things calmly and trying to just accept each day as it comes. Though I would love a scan to see it for real! Though on other hand, part of me is glad I don't know yet! All very contradictory... but you've been there before and know exactly wot I'm raving on about!

Sorry about long post - plenty more to say but have to get DS into bed!

Looking forward to getting to know more of you. xx

Dan and Grinningbee - Fantastic news, the tears are not far away reading both your posts, I am so happy for you and feel better after more positive stories. Hope I do have just as much stickiness .

Welcome divedaisy - This is a horrible stage you are at and it seems to take an eternity for your scans to hopefully put out minds at rest. You are definitely not alone. Hope you have a long stay with us here.

Dan Wonderful news about your scan and the fact that you're having a girl Hopefully this has made it more real for you and you can start to believe you really are going to have a baby Not long until the movements start if you haven't felt flutterings already...
Grinningbee Really pleased everything turned out well for you and that you saw your little bean Fingers crossed he or she doesn't give you any more scares from now on.
mm Fingers crossed for you tomorrow and that you come back with some good news. I treasure my scan picture at 7+3 when we first saw the hb...
Divedaisy Welcome and congratulations My DH was exactly the same as yours, he didn't really relax until the 12 week scan. Hope we can help you through the nerve-wracking early weeks.
Missedith Hope you're feeling better tonight after your pavlova. Anniversaries are horrible

yoohoo....another daisy! It could get a bit confusing around here! ; glad you found us lovely and hope all is well.

missE.....try and hang in there. tis bloody hard I know, but feel free to rant as much as possible, or just talk it out. We've all been there and are happy to listen, advise, {{{hug}}} or manly pat as required

grinningbee...great news on your scan and seeing your sleepy little bean, bless . I guess they have to sleep sometime, but by the amount of wriggling going on with me, I doubt virgil ever does!

dan...great news on your scan. hopefully you will be able to relax a bit more now, and you'll start to feel your first little flutters soon, which ir really all the reassurance you need from here on in. girls are lovely, although my "hurricane" DD as she is affectionately known, is flipping hard work!

I'm nesting in earnest now...bugger! Have been really busy in the house this week, trying to get things organised and cleared out and tidied and painted and cleaned etc etc etc before bubs arrives. 32 weeks today!!!

mm...good luck for tomorrow, lovely. I'll be thinking about you

9/11 also has a particular resonance with me. I found out on 9/11 that I was pregnant with DS, and was facing a life of single parenthood as DH didn't want to know (he was ex DP then; we had split up a two weeks previously). I just howled my eyes out and couldn't tell anyone why I was so upset by it all.

Still all's well that ends well there; we got back together, officially, when DS was 2.5 and married 6 months later . I have nearly forgiven him