Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part V....Still checking those knickers? Check together here :0)

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New thread for knicker checkers every where

Off to catch up with and link the old thread.

ha ha sparky, I've beaten you, got dressed 10 mins age DH shamed me into it otherwise I would have stayed in PJ all day!!!

Hello Sparky, fancy seeing you here . It only seems like 5 mins since you got your BFP!

Sorry to hear that things haven't been good TMD.

Hi and welcome funtime, of course you can join us - so long as you promise to be as mad as a box of snakes, if not you might feel a tad left out....When do you think your first scan might be? Where are you with your dates? Good luck with the medics, push for it all as soon as poss given your history. Fingers firmly crossed for you and sticky thoughts to your bean.

BTW on the jammies front I won yesterday as I spent ALL DAY in jim-jams, got up at 4.30 as I was so hungry and dh had stopped bringing me tea and toast....but then I am recovering from my 'no holiday as lost passport' so I reckon its perfectly allowed. Can't believe I have to go to work tomorrow to answer all the 'how was it/did you have a lovely time's with 'we didn't go cos I am a total f**kwit.'

Spent today on the internetlooking at prams on eBay and in the real world, shopping for a kettle...I do despair of dh when he (eventually) decides to get involved with the baby shopping. He flicked the on/off switch and the open/shut lid mechanism of EVERY kettle in the city today in an effort to decide...

Anyway tea time.

PS sorry forgot to say Hi again to sparky too - good to see you still with us!! Time will drag til scan no doubt - worry here!!

Just quickly popping on and trying to catch up with everyone's messages.

Welcome to the world Stella!

Finally, I have my scan date through. I'm having my dating scan on Friday at 15:45 when I'll supposedly be 14+1. I can't wait for the scan. It's been a very long time coming and knowing that I'm either more pg than I thought or expecting twins is killing me! I am not patient at the best of times and wish that I'd accepted the offer of an early scan when my GP offered it to me!

just a quickie from me. I have a really bad tummy bug and the diahorrea is causing some very uncomfortable things to happen with my uterus. I thought I was off and running last night

so, am on the sofa, being looked after by DH and trying to avoid my poorly children. We've all had it, and now DD has a throat infection and is on ABs as well.

I'm trying to avoid calling the MW as I really do not need or want to be kept in the hospital for any reason. things have settled with the contractions, but not with my bottom end.

feel like death warmed up

and much as, at 37.5 weeks, I'm ready to meet my baby; I really don't want him being born into the house of lurgy.

Off to catch up.

For everyone who contributed to the MN miscarriage guidelines campaign

Hello ladies, im just looking for some suppor and your thread come highly recommended. I had a MMC in july and got a BFP on Saturday so am in the gang and also knicker checking regulary!
I havent managed to read the whole thread but i am trying to have a read now

hi lullymamma and welcome to the thread. Sorry to hear about your mmc , but you have found a fantastic source of support, encouragement, a ear to listen when RL doesn't seem to understand and sonewhere you can offload all your fears and worries to an understanding audience.

This thread has got me through two pregnancies and is a fab place to be

When are you due?

daisy sorry to hear you are poorly - stay on the sofa!! sending sticky thoughts of a different kind to your lo!

Welcome lullymama It takes a fair old read to catch up!! It is a great thread tho.

Thanks for the welcome ladies. According to my last period my due day should be around the 27th June, that makes me only 4 weeks. I know its still really early days but im not letting my MMC take this excitement away. One thing i learnt from having the MC is that this sad experience in life is completly out of my hands. Im just hoping this one will be here to stay.
I have a DS who is 2.5yrs and a great DH.

Sorry you're feeling so rough daisy and thanks for the link. I've been keeping tabs on the debate, although I've been one of the lucky ones and, on the whole, have always been treated with dignity and sensitivity during my ectopic/miscarriages.

Lullymamma, I completely agree with the sentiment to not let it be less exciting. I confided to a friend that I was pg and had the marvellous advice that this was a new sperm meeting a new egg and was therefore an entirely new chance of life. Made me feel loads better.

Oooh, first midwife appoinment this morning! I've been lucky enough to see the same midwife for all my pregnancies and I'm really looking forward to seeing her again, as I know she'll be chuffed .

Sorry, I'm rambling (wanders off to raid the fridge...)

Hi funtimewincies, I don't think we've "met" yet

congrats on your pregnancy and fingers crossed all is well. the booking appointment makes it seem more real somehow

Lully, you have the right positive attitude I think. fingers crossed for you that all is well

MN have made the Times Article sticky. Link to thread here

Feeling much better this morning and seem to be over the worst of it. The temptation is to spend the day running around and catching up on housework etc but I should still take it easy for a few days. My new pram arrived yesterday (P&T sport) and I'm itching to get it built up and take it out for a spin, but DH wants to wait until we have sold the old one or will do it when I'm in the maternity hospital. Men are too bloody practical about these things; does he not realise how exciting a new pram is??????

Hello all, Just catching up. I can really only do this when I'm at work!! LOL. Should be working really but mumsnet is far more interesting.

Scan last week went well. COnsultant dated it at 11+1 which makes me 12 weeks today. On my dates though I reckon I'm 12 weeks on Friday which is when I have my Nuchal scan. Hadn't really thought I would get this far and now its imminent, I am now getting nervous about it. I will be 38 on Saturday so am dreading those odds, but I have to know.

ANyone else due an NT scan soon? I need to hold hands with someone!!

I think once that is over I may go and buy some maternity clothes as I think my waistbands are now getting a bit tight. My norks have certainly gone up a cup size or two. I read in some book somewhere that a DH called pregnancy the "Titty Fairy" as it generally brings extra endowment in the norkage. Such a shame they are so damn sore I won't let my DH any where near 'em!

Hope everyone else well....

LadyHelen, I'm having my '12' week scan on friday as well but as I will be at least 14+1, I won't be having the NT scan, just a dating scan.

Hi everyone, I can MN in peace now!, DH has gone back to work so 2 weeks till he?s home again. He was poorly and kept coughing all night so to be honest I?m loving having the bed to myself again ? poor DH

daisy I hope you?re feeling better now, diarrhoea is dreadful at the best of times but worse when you?re so near to term and have a house full of ill people. Forget the housework, you need to rest and build your energy up for your labour day!

funtime and lully welcome and congratulations, here?s to a long uneventful stay!

ladyhelen good luck with the nuchal scan. I left it too late to organise a private one and didn?t want to shell out money if it was going to be inaccurate cos I was too far on. It?s terrible how they make us 30 somethings feel so old, I?m 36 next week and don?t feel old normally!!

thanks daisy for posting the info on the times article. made me all weepy reading it with all the memories flooding back. too right hosp. and doctors etc need to be more sensitive. i must have missed the survey when it happened as wasnt online for quite some time, but what a great thing for MN to do. frankly without MN i would probably be in a mental hospital now! it was reassuring to know that you werent the only person going through all the horrendous stuff.

anyway, hope you are feeling better soon - tummy runs are never fun at the best of times get lots of rest!

welcome to lully and funtime sending you sticky baby dust vibes and i dont know what to say about the worry - except that you probably wont be able to stop worrying. at least know that it's normal and come and post here lots

ladyhelen, scotlass and swalisan good luck on your upcoming scans. breathe breathe breathe - think lots of positive thoughts x

Hi ladyhelen2 I too am having my nuchal scan soon - on Monday have to travel to a private hospital 2 hours away for it - so lets hold hands. I too am nervous I'm 36 and my midwife seemed to think I'd automatically come out as high risk with the nhs blood test so fingers crossed. I too have had a visit from the 'titty fairy' lol, and am no longer able to do up my jeans - thank god for rubber bands. I didn't think I would show yet I'm 12 + 3.

Hi LoobyLou fingers crossed for the both of us.Poor you having to travel so far. Doesn't your local NHS offer you one at 36? Ours do for all those over 35.

I am relieved that I have it to worry about as having had 2 mc this year, I really didn't think I would get this far.
I've not really thought through the implications of what the results may show. I'm guessing it will be a high risk so I ought to give it some proper thought. I've not had my bloods done yet as I haven't even had my booking in appointment! I have that on Thursday afternoon. The only reason I've had the nuchal sorted is the recurrent miscarriage consultant I am seeing sorted it.

I have my 12 week scan booked for the beginning of Nov. I am offered the combined test here, bloods and nuchal which are then mathematically combined with your age and weight to give a risk factor.

Although I am 41 I am in two minds whether to have it done. Last year I got a high risk result of 1:50 and it caused an awful lot of upset. In the end I didn't want to risk a mc so refused the CVS and amnio they offered me. Ironically I then mc at 18 weeks....

So as I know I would definitely not have the diagnostic tests there seems little point to me to have the screening tests done iyswim...

I asked the mw about it at the booking in appointment. She looked a bit shocked that I didn't want it done. So I now have the phone number for the specialist mw in this sort of thing to phone for a chat!

I think screening is a really interesting and personal thing - everyone does it seeking a 'good' outcome (natully) and if that result is not the one you get, then its a source of worry. I think cece's approach is right - deciding how far you would go then deciding on that basis. I am 39 and didn't have ay as I would not have changed my plans...

ANYHOO more dan madness today. Had a pain that got worse and worse, was in meeting at work and had to keep getting up and down, could not ease it at all. Rang mw office and no-one was there (...tried to think positive and assume they were all out attending lovely home births...) and they put me thru to hosp. I really wanted someone to say its ok, its stretching/common/normal, but tey told me to come down. This threw me into a panic and I went, thinking I had jinxed it (by starting to buy stuff on ebay) and when I got there they shouted at me for not having my notes.

But then they were nice, checked wee, bp, heartbeat and all well. Thing is, I was not TOO worried about lo as I could feel her dancing all the way thru the process, but i was scared I had appendicitis or something. Apparently not so they sent me home and said take paracetamol or co-codamol, and two days off work. Feel a little foolish.

Nive to see you back scotlass

nice i mean

Cece, I've declined the screening tests too - for the simple reason that I wouldn't have a cvs/amnio. My midwife completely understood, I'm 34 & had the quad test in my first pregnancy which gave us a very high risk of Down's Syndrome (I was only 24, our risk was 1 in 14). I did have a CVS which revealed no chromosomal problems but the whole experience left me sure that I wouldn't do it again.

dan, I'm sorry you've had a scare, glad all is okay though ~ a couple of days rest sounds like a good idea.

I'm about 8 weeks now, I have another scan on Monday which is a big milestone for me because that's when I started having problems (bleeding & growth restriction) with my first loss. I'm still finding it difficult, I don't have many symptoms ...

Good luck to all of you having tests and hope that all is OK. Had a mw appointment yesterday and she's hoping that they'll let me have a slightly earlier dating scan.

Joyful, I've also always refused any screening for exactly the same reason. The mw's here look at you a bit weird and always say 'are you sure?' as though I don't really understand the implications. But a relative is a genetic counsellor, so I do!

It's such a personal choice and, as with all things in life, you just have to do what is right for you and your family.

Dan, really pleased that you're and the little one are OK.

dan glad to hear that all is well. it's always better to check things out than worry - as my gp says the stress alone is unhealthy so good to make sure everything is ok.

i totally know what you mean about jinxing it by buying things on ebay. i have been bidding for a buggy on ebay as the one that dd used has fallen apart - part of me wanted to wait until i was at least 8 mths gone but the other part said i should have faith and get on with it (tho feel a bit funny buying stuff stilll..). i've become so superstitious since the mcs!