Just popping in on my lunch break - having to be very strict with myself or would spend all day on the net looking at all manner of things. Dh says I must have been a magpie in a previous life as am easily distracted - oooh, look....shiny things.....
Now where was I?
scotlass - I second that "bah!", but I figured it would be easier to carry on and cope with a wee babe this year rather than defer and have to cope with an 8-ish month old next year. Still have one year to go after this one, but have fab support so should be ok. In fact asked my mum if it would be ok for her to have this lo, one day a week next (academic) year. Bless her, she said she would have both ds and the lo every day of the week if I would let her. Had to remind her that she is closer to 70 than she realises and needs time for her and dad! Hope you manage to pick up where you left off when you feel ready. Love being at home with ds, but found my brain turning to mushy goo.
Ronshar - Monday seems like it may be a bitter-sweet day for you. You will never forget the ones that you have lost, but that will just make this lo even more precious to you and everyone around you. Fingers crossed and good birthing vibes for you
aquababe - glad you got through the anniversary yesterday. Try not to stress too much about symptoms - they come, they go, they turn up again twice as strong at 3 in the morning or in the middle of an important meeting. I think most of the people on MN are barking, but there seems a special kind of round the hatrack insanity on this thread. Coping mechanism? Probably.
Ses - can only echo what everyone else has already said. Sounds like ligaments stretching and trapped wind. Have had constipation like nobody's business with this pg. Keep hydrated and do some gentle stretches to help promote gut motility and strengthen your back/undercarriage .
daisyj - will think of you too on Monday. Be good to yourself and do something nice and out of the ordinary if you can.
Anniversaries are hard. They are just another day to other people and you kind of resent them going about their business as usual whilst you want to curl up in corner, cry and probably get quite pished (if not pg, of course). Time won't erase the hurt, it just put successive band aids over the wound and the pain isn't quite so intense or obvious.
I avoided buying a doppler - God, I was so tempted - and am glad as I would have just panicked about not finding a fhb. Took the mw a good 5 mins & 2 dopplers to find it at my booking appt. Have an anterior placenta so it just kept picking up my hb. Imagine what state I would have been in at home had I not found it?
Still only feel occasional & v muffled movement up high (?placenta previa - just fab )so not as reassured as I would like to be, but am trying to stay positive and only slightly unhinged.
Have got my anomaly scan 2 weeks today - will be 21w. Am desperate to see the lo again and get that few days of peace of mind that it brings. Will find out the flavour if possible too. Or will def have private scan if the lo starts playing silly buggers and crossing it's legs.
Oh well, better go - human and financial resource management calls . Ooooh, my life is just a gay, mad whirl......