WHO'S THE DADDY???

[chacha1976]

Okay, so here's the problem and please dont judge I'm pretty mad at myself as it it. I have a 28 day cycle, I had sex with Mr. A on day 12 and 13, sex with Mr. B on day 18 and sex with Mr. C on day 19. All three were unprotected. Now I'm pregnant? Who's most likely to be the daddy????

ImNotMamaG

With all due respect, we all know your view on this by now (and Im not any any sides here, its not something I condone but Im sure as hell not going to condemn!) you have said several times you aren't posting on this thread anymore...

perhaps its time to do so??

Certainly not some of your comments NotmamaG.

Why not just let us get on with offering support, instead of hanging around making your views known when all they will do is upset someone further...

When people are saying things about me I will defend and explain myself. I can post where I want actually.

Ohhhh, sperm competition!! Biology in action! Cooll!!!!!

Do tell me who wins eventually!

I am not talking to the OP though am I? I am responding to you but I have had enough now.

But you're not defending yourself, particularly well at least, you are attacking the OP.

Yes, you are allowed to post where you like.

How would you feel though if you had made a stupid mistake, come to ask advice on dealing with it, and been slagged off to the hilt for something you already knew was daft?

It wouldn't help really would it?

Unless you'd rather OP's 'sort' didn't bother to ask for our advice and help at all.

I ahve had enough too.

This is clearly a waste of time.

Erm, Twig..how does a mathmatical average not make a most common and/or average?

Cha, I would say fella a - but sperm competition is an issue so you cannot say for sure. It's just more likely to be him than the other..depending on the state of the sperm.

Men who have sex regulalry might not have such vigerous sperm as those who have sex less...not that that helps you any I know...sorry

oh yes..mamma mia!

I never said 'sort.'

Obviously I am pleased when anyone gets support, and I to get have been very greatful to get some myself.

She came on to ask us who was the likely father of her baby and there is no way we can possibly know.

Is it a waste of time because we disagree - you think sh should keep quiet, I think she should tell them. It is hardly relevant as she is going to do what she wants, not what we discuss between us.

I am not interested in arguing with anyone.

PMSL,

I knew you'd post again!

oh god really monkey? you really want to know?

h'ok

13, 18, 13, 14, 13, 16, 14, 21, 13

The mean is the usual average, so:

(13 + 18 + 13 + 14 + 13 + 16 + 14 + 21 + 13) &divid; 9 = 15

Note that the mean isn't a value from the original list. This is a common result. You should not assume that your mean will be one of your original numbers.

The median is the middle value, so I'll have to rewrite the list in order:

13, 13, 13, 13, 14, 14, 16, 18, 21

There are nine numbers in the list, so the middle one will be the (9 + 1) &divid; 2 = 10 &divid; 2 = 5th number:

13, 13, 13, 13, 14, 14, 16, 18, 21

So the median is 14.

The mode is the number that is repeated more often than any other, so 13 is the mode.

The largest value in the list is 21, and the smallest is 13, so the range is 21 ? 13 = 8.

mean: 15
median: 14
mode: 13
range: 8

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I think it is really out of order to cast aspersions about what sort of mother the OP might be, pity the baby etc. Being sexually permissive does not have any bearing on whether she will or won't be a good mother. We also don't know the cirumstances, for all we know some of the sex may not have been consensual. She may be an alcoholic, she may be depressed, very young, who knows. She took some big risks (pg and health-wise), she knows she did, she is now trying to act responsibly. Give her a break - have none of you ever messed up or gone through a dodgy patch? I know I have.

Ooooh, this brings back my mathematics lessons!!

well said MBF! agree completely. tis one thing to say you dont agree with the actions some one has taken but this thread is just plain nasty!

totally agree MBF and SSSSBTS! OP has made a mistake and I imagine she the worry, anxiety and stress is punishment enough without others kicking her when shes down.

chacha, unfortunately there is no way of finding out until the baby is born. do you have family/friends who know about this and can help you through your pregnancy and beyond?

Is there really no way of knowing though? I think if it was me if I decided to continue with the pg I might think about having a CVS (had one with my ds so I know the risks etc) if they could also use the DNA to establish paternity. I really don't see why this couldn't be done but then I have never heard about it. I think not knowing for the next 8 months would be so hard - at least if she could find out earlier she could tell the father and maybe get some peace of mind. I do think the father has the right to know but the 2 that aren't do they really need to know the situation?

Being sexually permissive - no problem with that. Asking loads of random strangers on the internet to speculate on who the father is - pointless, stupid and, urm, and did I say pointless. A DNA test when the child is born is the only way she's going to clear this up.

Hi, i have kinda skipped through this post and i will be honest i have no clue about who the daddy could be, but i hope the OP has i wonderful pregnancy and everything works out for her. Good luck xxx

MBF - dont think medical staff would carry out procedure like CVS for a DNA test (maybe wrong) with risks like miscarriage of a healthy foetus.

most likely imho to be mr a as sperm have defense mechanism good luck chacha

yeah you are probably right - I thought maybe if she was to go on to have a CVS anyway maybe. i mean you can request them privately anyway even if you dont have a high risk nuchal. I'm sure there must be clinics out there that do it - I mean I am sure ther are various celebs etc that have got themeselves in similar pickles ane money can buy anything if the technology is there ime. I would vote for A as well if that maybe gives her some peace of mind for tonight. I have a roughly 30 day cycle, ovulated on day 15/16 and concieved both my children on day 16 in the months I got pregnant. Has absolutely no bearing to the OP's cycle I know but there you go. Plus there is that thing about the first sperm blocking out any others I seem to remember too. Also when I was trying to get pg for a while ther was all that stuff about lying with your legs in the air, female orgasm encouraging sperm up etc so SURELY if A did actually ejaculate inside statistically ther is more chance as there would just be a greater volume of possible culprits around.

For those of you making silly ignorant remarks about 'infidelity': The Op has made no mention of whether any of the men believed themselves to be in a sexually exclusive relationship with her. And it is not at all immoral to have sex with lots of different people in a short space of time as long as all the people involved are consenting and none of them think they are in a sexually exclusive relationship.

Having sex without using contraception when you are not actively TTC is a bit ill-advised, but people sometimes do it when they think that a) one or both of the parties involved is not actually fertile and b) they know or believe that all parties involved are free from STIs.

I just want to say that I reported Geordieminx's post last night, and have just discovered that MNHQ have deleted mine instead

That is why the nasty one is still there and the one where I said 'that's very nasty I'm reporting it' has been deleted.

I hope this will be resolved soon...

Mind you I did say that it was a 'bloody bitchy thing to say' by Geordieminx so perhaps that caused confusion.