WHO'S THE DADDY???

[chacha1976]

Okay, so here's the problem and please dont judge I'm pretty mad at myself as it it. I have a 28 day cycle, I had sex with Mr. A on day 12 and 13, sex with Mr. B on day 18 and sex with Mr. C on day 19. All three were unprotected. Now I'm pregnant? Who's most likely to be the daddy????

Yes, clearly the men should have used condoms and we don't know why they didn't. Could have been for any number of reasons.

There is no need to keep them in the dark, she will just have to admit to sleeping with other men.

What would that achieve?

They would just be horrid to her probably

demanding to know if they were the father before she can even tell them.

Not wise, sorry. No point. It'll just make them all fed up for 9 months.

I have been there. (embarrassingly enough)
I felt compelled to tell both everything (overscrupulous)
It was daft and unnecessary but i wasn't strong enough to bear the weight of it alone.

It's deferring responsibility to tell them actually and self destructive

They will only punish her.

better to wait until an answer is known. Yes be honest with the man you're with, he has a right to know about infidelity

But not the others, YET.

It is misplaced to say a woman bears all responsibility for contraception,

However, it is a fact of nature and life that a woman DOES bear MORE responsibility then a man, because it will be her that ultimately has to go through a pregnancy or abortion and the trials and heartache in between if she falls pregnant unexpectedly.

A woman risks far more than a man when she has sex with someone she doesn't know or doesn't have a relationship with.

Its sadly much easier for a man to walk away.

This isn't fair, its isn't me being condesending, its simply the truth.

Thats not even getting into STIs.

So women want men to cough up financially but they are not allowed to know that they might have a baby on the way? And I know she hasn't mentioned money but what I said is usually the case.

We will never agree, so good night.

chacha, I think you need to be honest with Mr A, admit you are not 100% sure he's the father, and ask for a DNA test...if he turns out not to be the daddy, test mr B. If it's not either of them you'll know it's mr C.

And IMO morality is more about having sex with numerous men than using contraception.

Good night.

Nobody has mentioned money, and you are talking without the relevant back up. I refused money from my child's father. I'm offended by what you say.

No, we never really agree do we, not very often anyway.

I said I knew she hadn't mentioned money. I was using it to make my point.

It really doesn't matter whether we agree or not. Both of us are entitled to our opinions, we are bound to come at this from differing angles.

I feel like I am reading the daily mail sometimes.

There's no need to be so judgmental.

Cross posted. Goodnight.

I am posting my opinion. If you see that as judging then that is your probelm.

Opinions based on prejudice without relevant fact are usually seen as judgmental imo.

Assuming anything OP hasn't told us is just that. Morality can't be judged here, we simply don't know enough neither do we have the right.

okay.

she slept with 3 men, she is pregnant.

I think she is wrong to try and hide it from the potential father.

Where is the prejudice?

I have an axe to grind and maybe so do you, shall we leave it - I shan't argue further.

I have no axes to grind.

chacha do you know these men or are they one night stands? do you only know mr.A?

i would advise against telling them if you know them all if not telling them is an option, if its not just admit that you are pg but your not sure who is the father. dont bother telling me that there is an option of three it wont achieve anything but cause you more stress.

unfortunately if you dont know them all/any of them then you need to to face up to the fact that you maybe bringing this baby up alone.

i dont get on the all the comments on here either. im sure the op knows that she has been less than reponsible but the fact is she is now in this situation and berating her atm is not going to help her at all.

steady, geordieminx. You aren't allowed to pass any kind of judgement.

Of course, you're allowed to pass judgement - don't be so petulant.

It's just that most people would prefer to offer support to the OP, rather than make unkind or smug comments when she has come to MN looking for support.

That is just plain nasty. Really it is. I am reporting that post as I think it is a personal attack and furthermore is likely to really upset the OP if she hasn;t already been scared away.

What a bloody bitchy thing to say.

I am not being petulant.

I am posting my thoughts. The OP must have known she was going to get differing views.

I don't agree with what she has done and I don't agree with her not telling all 3 men, but in reality it doesn't matter what any of us say, she will do what she wants to do.

If you can't say something nice then shut up is one to remember here I think.

My god.

How rude!

Who?

What is nice about this situation?