WHO'S THE DADDY???

[chacha1976]

Okay, so here's the problem and please dont judge I'm pretty mad at myself as it it. I have a 28 day cycle, I had sex with Mr. A on day 12 and 13, sex with Mr. B on day 18 and sex with Mr. C on day 19. All three were unprotected. Now I'm pregnant? Who's most likely to be the daddy????

ooh, i love it when you are needy !

twig, you have gone psycho

Can I watch when you do that twig?

I have a few to add to the fray

when was I horrible to you lulumama

(not disputing it just asking)

Arnold I am all of a teremble here.

ooer.

och, when i was a wee newbie.. many moons ago,not that i hold grudges, you understand!

it might hvae been cauliflower cheese related

"cauliflower cheese related" ???

so at least it was important then

i think we shoudl draw a line under this, non?

the poor OP, she will be befuddled..

Snurk!!!

i am going now... i have had wine.. tis not my fault

Oh sorry yes, cross posted...yes I was just thinking about OP, she might wonder what loonies have taken over her thread. Sorry Chacha

Flight - and then let the actual father miss out on all the scans etc. She got herself into this mess and she should deal with it. Stress or nothing, she should have thought about that before sleeping with 3 men. Her needs do not come first, the baby's needs do and the baby has the right to know who its father is. How is Mr whoever going to feel when he spends 9 months bonding over a bump that doesn't turn out to be his baby?

But you can't take three rival blokes into the scan with you!!

Why not?

I never suggested that she lie to the most likely father anyway. Or at least if I did initially I retracted it.

You can't find out for sure until after the birth.

Because they only let you take one person in afaik.

And they might hit each other.

"She got herself into this mess and she should deal with it".

The three men bear equal responsibility for not using contraception.
No need to beat the OP with a big stick of misplaced morality, is there?
We're supposed to be a supportive community, are we not?

NotmamaG I think the men are also responsible, why didn't they insist on contraception...
unless OP has told all of them that she is exclusively seeing each of them, I don't think she is the one entirely at fault here.

And suggesting so isn't constructive imo.

It's none of our business.

I take the point about the men not using condoms but maybe she said she was on the pill.

Misplaced morality?

I am sorry, but I find it hard to be supportive of someone who doesn't know is the father of her child and seems to be planning on keeping the men in the dark for quite a while.

It becomes our business when she posts on here for advice. You can't reply to a post without getting involved.

How can she not keep the men in the dark? It is impossible to find out which is the father until after the child is born, how do you propose she works it out before that time?

And I disagree about it being our business - the potential of each of the men to be the father was what she wanted advice on, not judgment on her relationship status which none of us is aware of tbh.

And if you find it hard to be supportive of someone clearly in a state and asking for advice, perhaps it would be best to avoid the topic, no?

It is misplaced morality to assume the women bears all the responsibility for contraception, and then condemn her when an unplanned pregnancy occurs.

We don't know that she told the men that she was on the pill, but even if she did, that wouldn't provide the man with any protection from STDs.

A man needs to protect his own sexual health, and is equally responsible for providing contraception.