Thread for mooching around on and whinging about being overdue

[FrannyandZooey]

come and join me in my pit of gloom boredom and a little bit of excitement

I am 2 days over now and no signs whatsoever

Balls. Still here. Checking in.

40wks + 9 days.

3 days till induction.

1hr40mins till ER on Channel 4.
Shower.
Lunch.
Get DS from nursery.
Irritating phonecall from some b*stard relative.
Bed.
Wee.
Wee.
Wee.
Wee.
Get up.

Back to start, add one day to overdue, subtract one day from induction.

Aargh - welcome to my world.

I've looked back and can't find this post - who is it that said they were 6 WEEKS overdue earlier? Did she have her baby yet???

(not like that!!!!)

RIGHT, have come to join you and hopefully get some nice words too that stop me wanting to kill myself.

Am 40 + 1 today. Had contractions (very short, very intense) every 5 mins all Tuesday night - finally got about 3 hours sleep in total, rung my mum to look after dd etc but Weds morning pretty much stopped. Then had contractions all yesterday - same very very short (but def more painful than last time) evry 10 or 20 mins, with maybe a couple of longer breaks.

Back is aching like fuck pretty much the whole time. Anyway, decided to go to hospital last night just to see and I am just 2 centimetres dilated. That's all. After a day and night of PAIN. And me thinking I'd held on and been braver than last time (was admitted before with 2/3cm but less pain). MW gave me a sweep (ouch)and said I could wander about a bit to see. I'm afraid I SOBBED and SOBBED in the hospital. And then we decided to come home cos nothing much was happening.

Got home last night, feeling sick with tiredness. Tried to sleep, very hard. Contractions coming for bit longer - just got up because I was getting scared and thought ok maybe we'll be going back to hospital and they stopped . But not enough for me to sleep properly as my back is still crampy and everytime I want to wee it seems to spark contractions/cramps (no UTI - they checked). So decided to have a bath,and had a snooze in the bath but then woke up and threw up loads. Did that twice. Bath good for back pain though - which is something . Anyway, was wondering how the hell I am gonna get through this - so sick with tiredness but have eventually managed to get some mini stretches of sleep (Thank christ).

BUT now, am just back to these mini but very painful contractions but only every so often (that seem to be triggered by needing to wee ).

AM SO PISSED OFF and scared and miserable and feel like I can't do it at all. I don't know WHAT to do (although is easier to deal in light of day of course). Am guessing I just wait around in loads of pain until my contractions get longer and more regular.

Sorry for ranting - and not very wittily but it is the 'thread for mooching around on and whinging' !

PS Have been following thread with interest, it is so reassuring to know there are others in same boat!

I wonder how many women are currently 39 + 6 who are just waiting for a couple of days so they can come and join the thread?

welcome, ulmellala. I am the chief birthing groupie cheerleader, pleased to meet you

If that MamaG comes along trying to usurp my throne head cheerleader-ness, just stick your tongue out at her. She needs to be shown her place.

Fabio is fab-ee-o

I don't think you're actually allowed to have your baby before Franny now you've joined. I suspect she has to be next

Franny do you want to hear my story about being 2cm for days and then doing a diy sweep (went into labour 30 mins later), not sure if you go for that type of thing or not

Just asking because I was 40+8 and booked for a homebirth and really didin't want to be induced

Hi Umlellala. Poor you. Baby clearly is on the way but you are going to be in a right state by the end.

If I need a wee, it definitely sparks off lots of strong (but painless for me) BH. I guess it must apply pressure or something.

Sherby - what on earth is a DIY sweep? I definitely can't reach my cervix.

Thank you Squonk, I am actually so pathetic hormonal and tired that made me cry

Do you know, I actually thought about that last night? That Franny did actually have to have her baby first and that could be holding mine up (Franny v kindly lent me some great books on play a while ago - so have been following your preg with interest). So come on Franny and you others who were on the thread FIRST and then mine can get on with it

Umlellala - poor you . I had a very similar night with the constant painful wee triggered contractions. Needed the loo 1000 times last night!!!!! and I had very bad back ache all night. This morning a very slight brownish discharge but no contactions at al. Aaaggggggg!!!!! Think I should be walking around but my back hurts too much.

Sherby - Am presuming you had help with DIY sweep (pictures all sorts of contortions otherwise).

Thanks ss - have had loads of BH this preg, not sure why these ones now are so bloody painful. They're def more intense and painful than full contractions were last time (didn't make me cry with pain before) but reassuring to know that it's not just me getting wee-related-BH!!!

I don't think I could reach my cervix either...

If you had a rummage around you would be surprised at how low down your cervix is now

I did only do it because the mw had told me that my cervix was favourable and after she did hers I got lots of cramps/niggles, so just wanted to push it on a bit

Anyway I washed my hands throughly, cut my nails, lay down on bed knees up or you might be able to squat down, I inserted one finger and felt around for the cervix, I could feel it straight away like a very soft ring which I could easily fit one or two fingers into and could feel the babies head inside the cervix. I just swept around the inside of the cervix/babies head with my finger a couple of times.

Started cramping straight away and was having regular contractions about 30 mins later.

Please note I know this is not for everyone and I really don't think you should be digging around in there if your cervix is still closed etc. I'm just saying what worked for me

Also I did tell the mw what I had done and she said it sounded fine, it would probably be more comfortable doing it myself than her doing it again

OH MY GOD - you could feel the babies head?????????

I definitely don't want to feel the babies head but might have a little investigation after my shower.

Why why why did I just have a chocolate brownie? Nasty, nasty, nasty indigestion.

Sherby - just read your bit about telling the MW. Am off for a poke. Will wash hands properly.

yes, I could feel the bag of waters bulging when the baby moved too!

So sorry
didn't realise had to be officially overdue to post
will just keep lurking !!

jamiesummers!!! you don't!

I'm not even pregnant!

I just said that becuase ulmellella made me wonder if people are waiting to be overdue to post. Of course you don't have to be!

Now get back here and be miserable like everyone else!

(I love your posting name, btw. I'm old enough to remember the original Jamie Summers )

My dh best friend named me, apparentley I
have bionic ears and they can't keep anything from me I hear everything even in a crowded pub!
I wish I was bionic when it came to childbirth

Hello, I'm joining your ranks at 40+2 today.

No signs, totally miserable, got a sweep tomorrow which I know will fail and I'm bricking it about induction which seems horrible.

Ahhhh ... it's good to be positive.

YOU ARE NEARLY THERE NOW

I know the minutes tick s-l-o-w-l-y and this waiting is horrid

But you are NEARLY THERE

I'm back. Despite nearly dislocating my shoulder, I cannot reach my cervix.

Ho hum. Nearly ER time.

hiya all...

hmmm

hope it ur ok franny

and the rest os us waiting, what r u doin to occupy ur mind?

Nah, I have posted before my 'offical' due date (although felt a bit guilty..!!) The thread has been a lifesaver for lots I think. Feeling a bit better now (still no real contractions), birthing ball v comfortable y'know.

I just checked my phone and the delivery suite had left a message wondering where I was Apparently dh misunderstood what the mw said and we should have gone back to have a check/get my notes . Oops. Anyway, explained my sitch to the lovely mw who said to come in the OAU and see if they can check me out/give me some pain relief. She also said they could consider inducing maybe because they really don't want me to be in discomfort, so that's an option - wouldn't now but it's nice to hear. So am off to OAU to get monitored now... Fingers crossed I have magically dilated another 4 cm overnight and will go into labour there so can have my epidural . (Unlikely, am not in active labour now...)

Have to say I HEART my hospital (Homerton), they are all soooooo lovely.