Thread for mooching around on and whinging about being overdue

[FrannyandZooey]

come and join me in my pit of gloom boredom and a little bit of excitement

I am 2 days over now and no signs whatsoever

My cervix is

posterior
uneffaced
CLOSED

you had to ask, didn't you

Aggie I also had sweep with ds and imo they are not that bad
this one was a little tricky as my cervix was quite high
it just really feels like someone pushing rather firmly and uncomfortably against your cervix (a bit like slightly rough sex )
and then just a little bit of "ooh - aargh" and then it's done

she said I might have spotting or a show
NOTHING

I want mmj's midwife
where is she based

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I'm sure my cervix is at my knees by now so much pressure downstairs and in my bum, I feel like this babies head is going to fall out any minute (bet it's not though). I was 1cm with a soft cervix last week and still nothing.

Don't know whether to tempt some more sex tonight if I thought it would work then great but don't want a sleepless night and tomorrow hobbling about with horrendous BHs.

springer I am one who would rather avoid induction if possible - I think many people feel the same way
I would like to labour at home as long as I want to, and avoid major interventions
not wishing to be negative as obviously osme of us are going to be induced, but it does raise the likelihood of epidurals, forceps etc

do you reckon the fact I am being v v careful about pelvic pain, wearing a belt, keeping legs together at all times etc, is having an effect? I mean usually you would be going for long walks, bouncing on birth ball, sitting cross legged, etc

I did go to the gym just now but I only do upper body stuff, seated (all I can manage)

fwiw, I am a firm believer in the baby coming when it is ready and there is nothing that you can do to hurry it up (or not)

So I think you should just make yourself as comfortable as possible and settle in to wait.

Franny I was wondering the same thing today - I wonder if there is any correlation between spd sufferers and 'overdue-ness'? They do say you should keep upright and active to get things moving but I simply can't walk very much or I'm in pain

I don't know Aggie
I have been told it will make labour easier and quicker as your pelvis is already wide open, if that encourages you at all

however I was very active in terms of long walks when I had ds, and he was 10 days late and only came after a sweep

I don't think being careful about pelvic pain is preventing you going into labour.
I don't think you can rattle the baby out.

No, you can't.

Fabio are you SURE

that was meant to be a joke about are you sure you can't rattle it out

but seriously is it not possibly a factor? I mean, your pelvis wants to get big and wide, yes? which is why it separates
so if you are hoicking it IN all the time with belts and similar, is that not being counter productive as far as labour beginning goes?

think back to being in labour with ds, franny.

Was there any stopping it once it had started in earnest?

Could you really have decided to go another week once you got to the pushing stage?

You can't keep them in with belts. Ergo, you can't shake them out without belts (iykwim)

Franny - I was wondering the same thing too.

With last one, I was 3 days over but was very fit. I did a big hill walk the day before DS was born. We went sofa shopping that morning (lots of sitting down and standing up) and we had sex in the afternoon (ha - those were the days.)

This time, I am a fat, unfit whale who just lies on the sofa and moans a lot.

Wondered if this is why I am now at 7 days over.

I think your experience with ds is more relevant, but you could be brave and try this just to be sure.

Franny - with regards to your avoidance of induction, do you mean that induction and epidural often go hand in hand because people are advised of likelihood of increased pain? Epidural can therefore lead to forceps.

Hmm. It's all very tricky.

Definitely agree with you about wanting to be at home as long as possible.

Last time was only at home for 3 or 4 hours of contractions but when I got there was fully dilated.

Do people still have to share rooms/wards in hospitals when they are having contractions (as opposed to the pushing bit)? The thought of it gives me the willies.

oh, and I was super fat, frumpy and tres unfit when I popped dd2 out after about eight hours of labour, bang on her due date.

Super fit me, however, several years earlier, 28 hours of labouring produced dd1, 2 weeks after due date.

Fabio - I think I might give that a go. You wouldn't think that Nadia was 9 months pregnant in that clip would you? Apparently she was 8cm dilated by the end of her routine.

Ok. Fair point Squonk.

Excellent suggestion from girl at work - if b**tard in-laws ring again tonight to 'see if anything is happening' - I am going to tell them that the baby is not my husbands so I don't know why they are so interested.

[evil]

I have heard that SPD means easier labours as your pelvis is more elastic and has already moved a bit.

I have had SPD/pelvic pain in all three pregnancies getting worse each time, DD1 was 15 days early, DD2 12 days late and DD3 well 4 days over and counting.

I am also of the opinion that nothing works it's the babies hormones that trigger labour nothing we can do will make it go any faster however hard we try.

I really want another homebirth and can't have one if induced.

LOL at what to say to ILs, springer, I like that
it doesn't work wrt my mother phoning though so we need something that fits all ocasions

erm I was thinking more about the actual increase in pain rather than the expected increase in pain, as inductions go
I mean they do tend to lead to more painful and difficult labours, don't they? Sorry if this is a bit negative for a thread where we are all thinking about induction
but am I right?

oh
just rememebered something else gloomy
I saw a different midwife a couple of weeks ago and she said head was 3/5 engaged
midwife today said it is free and in front of the pelvis
I am NEVER going to go into labour, am I [deep despondency]

I think second babies feel free to float around and pop in and out. (Then again, neither of my children ever engaged at all. Not one jot.)

I think induction generally -> quicker labour -> more painful labour.

Frances, could you claim that the baby isn't yours, either? Say DP got someone else pregnant and you just nicked the embryo?